How can an Aquarius just verbally destroy someone they say they love.
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For a year I have considered my Aqua to be my Best Friend and my soul mate. We spend every weekend together. I cook for his highness every weekend and I don't mean chicken nuggets and frozen pizza. I throw down in the kitchen and I always send him home with a care package of left overs. Just like a college kid he brings me his laundry (without asking because I offered once) periodically which I wash and fold without complaint or a side glance. I take care of butter for him and treetrunk him like a porn star. I'm the one that pretty much plans all our fun dates and trips. He tells me ALL the time that no one in his life has ever treated him better than I have and that I'm the best friend he probably ever had. His life has improved by leaps and bounds since we met.
Last weekend my 18 year old daughter who is home from college made plans to go to a music festival in Boston mind you we live in Conn. Originally she had made her own transportation arrangements but those plans fell through the day before. She begged me to take her to the venue. Realizing that she would be out over a hundred dollars and we had no plans to do anything I reluctantly agreed. Luckily i have a sister who lives in Boston so I figured we could hang with her for the day. Go to Faneuil Hall and Quincy market have dinner and drinks at Cheers. He just wasn't having it. He said he didn't want to go into Boston and that Sunday was his day to be with me. I suggested two other options we could drive a little further and go to Hampton Beach in NH and pig out on seafood and do some shopping. That was also a no. Next I offered to even drive to Boston in the early morning and he could chill and i would be back by 11am or so. Also a big fat no. He made it very clear that he was very unhappy with me when he left that morning. I'm the kind of person who tries to accommodate everyone and this time I couldn't get him on board with any of it
Later that afternoon he started drunk texting me that I dumped him for my kid. Telling me that Sunday is our day and that I have my priorities screwed up and that I let my kid walk over me. I chose to ignore these texts and go about my visit to Boston, This angered him even more and he started drinking. By time the evening rolled around he had started to spew hateful comments about my physical appearance. First it was about my weight telling be that I am morbidly obese (which by medical guidelines I am not) then how my hair is thin and I need Rogaine. Then the common swear words that you call a woman who has wounded your ego. The icing on the top was the judgments on my character every secret I ever told him and deepest thought I had ever expressed was used against me in the most vile and monstrous way imaginable. That evening he took me to the lowest I had ever felt about myself.
The next day that feeling turned into blinding rage I blocked him on everything but not before I told him if he ever darkens my door I will not hesitate to call the police, He has sent me probably 30 plus emails about how sorry he is and how much pain he is in. My only response is "when can I drop off your belonging". This was not the first time that he has gotten mad and gone on the attack and I forgave him after I cooled off but this was the worst of them all.
What makes this so hard is that 95% of our relationship is terrific and probably the happiest I have ever been.
Last weekend my 18 year old daughter who is home from college made plans to go to a music festival in Boston mind you we live in Conn. Originally she had made her own transportation arrangements but those plans fell through the day before. She begged me to take her to the venue. Realizing that she would be out over a hundred dollars and we had no plans to do anything I reluctantly agreed. Luckily i have a sister who lives in Boston so I figured we could hang with her for the day. Go to Faneuil Hall and Quincy market have dinner and drinks at Cheers. He just wasn't having it. He said he didn't want to go into Boston and that Sunday was his day to be with me. I suggested two other options we could drive a little further and go to Hampton Beach in NH and pig out on seafood and do some shopping. That was also a no. Next I offered to even drive to Boston in the early morning and he could chill and i would be back by 11am or so. Also a big fat no. He made it very clear that he was very unhappy with me when he left that morning. I'm the kind of person who tries to accommodate everyone and this time I couldn't get him on board with any of it
Later that afternoon he started drunk texting me that I dumped him for my kid. Telling me that Sunday is our day and that I have my priorities screwed up and that I let my kid walk over me. I chose to ignore these texts and go about my visit to Boston, This angered him even more and he started drinking. By time the evening rolled around he had started to spew hateful comments about my physical appearance. First it was about my weight telling be that I am morbidly obese (which by medical guidelines I am not) then how my hair is thin and I need Rogaine. Then the common swear words that you call a woman who has wounded your ego. The icing on the top was the judgments on my character every secret I ever told him and deepest thought I had ever expressed was used against me in the most vile and monstrous way imaginable. That evening he took me to the lowest I had ever felt about myself.
The next day that feeling turned into blinding rage I blocked him on everything but not before I told him if he ever darkens my door I will not hesitate to call the police, He has sent me probably 30 plus emails about how sorry he is and how much pain he is in. My only response is "when can I drop off your belonging". This was not the first time that he has gotten mad and gone on the attack and I forgave him after I cooled off but this was the worst of them all.
What makes this so hard is that 95% of our relationship is terrific and probably the happiest I have ever been.
I believe he held serious grudges from past conflicts or actions with you. Maybe a betrayal he decided to go past it and continue with you and established a "recharging" routine by meeting you every Sunday. This sudden change of plans made him feel disappointed, because he was not expecting it and they hate when plans are changed against their will. Anyway, it doesn't seem like a committed relationship because he kept it with you somewhere between friendship and weekend love with no initiatives from his part. When Aquarians really love you, they make it absolutely obvious and you cannot get away from them 
Posted by -Flo-Up until this, I was sure he loved me. He would also do things for me all the time. Considerate just because gifts that showed that he knows me like makeup from Ulta, or something simple as a box of Starbucks K-cups. He also did things for me like mow my huge yard, breakfast in bed, hold doors open for me and not once did he ever let me pump my own gas
You laid out the golden road for a man who doesn't deserve it, you're doing too much. Like compy said, when an Aquarius truly loves you, we go out of our way to be there and do things for you. We provide our adoration in actions.
I will also sadly admit, aquas are vicious when we're pissed. We either give the cold shoulder, cut you off or lash out and cut you with words. You're better off with option one.
Yeah... my ex had Aqua Moon and we hold grudges and then say hurtful things... never moved past that cycle and he would drink and smoke pot everyday. Best this guy is out of your life as it seems he took you for granted and his negative energy can effect your life :/
Posted by Ladi1975Did he say he loved you? How often would you see him and would you go to his place too?Posted by -Flo-Up until this, I was sure he loved me. He would also do things for me all the time. Considerate just because gifts that showed that he knows me like makeup from Ulta, or something simple as a box of Starbucks K-cups. He also did things for me like mow my huge yard, breakfast in bed, hold doors open for me and not once did he ever let me pump my own gas
You laid out the golden road for a man who doesn't deserve it, you're doing too much. Like compy said, when an Aquarius truly loves you, we go out of our way to be there and do things for you. We provide our adoration in actions.
I will also sadly admit, aquas are vicious when we're pissed. We either give the cold shoulder, cut you off or lash out and cut you with words. You're better off with option one.click to expand
You treated him like a child. Cooking and cleaning and planning all the dates?! Wtf.
He was using you. And when you didn't comply with his wishes his true character was revealed. Never do that much for a man who does shit for you. Even then you have to hold a lil bit back, it's in a mans nature to be opportunist.
The aquas in general I know of are all opportunist and use people as stepping stones. They are so charming.
He was using you. And when you didn't comply with his wishes his true character was revealed. Never do that much for a man who does shit for you. Even then you have to hold a lil bit back, it's in a mans nature to be opportunist.
The aquas in general I know of are all opportunist and use people as stepping stones. They are so charming.
And wth is a best friend you're fucking like a porn star? Sounds like nothing but game.
I'm sorry you went through this tho and I hate to sound harsh but this man never deserved your generosity.
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by Ladi1975Did he say he loved you? How often would you see him and would you go to his place too?Posted by -Flo-Up until this, I was sure he loved me. He would also do things for me all the time. Considerate just because gifts that showed that he knows me like makeup from Ulta, or something simple as a box of Starbucks K-cups. He also did things for me like mow my huge yard, breakfast in bed, hold doors open for me and not once did he ever let me pump my own gas
You laid out the golden road for a man who doesn't deserve it, you're doing too much. Like compy said, when an Aquarius truly loves you, we go out of our way to be there and do things for you. We provide our adoration in actions.
I will also sadly admit, aquas are vicious when we're pissed. We either give the cold shoulder, cut you off or lash out and cut you with words. You're better off with option one.click to expand
He told me he loved me all the time. Because of work and where we both lived he would stay with me from Friday after work through Sunday night and we had a standing Tuesday date night. Yes I've been to his many times he has a roommate so being at my house is easier.
Posted by bkbella86he would say he was lucky because we weren't just bf and gf but best friends and we had straight up porn sex.
And wth is a best friend you're fucking like a porn star? Sounds like nothing but game.
calm down everyone. no one is perfect.
95% is close enough. stay positive
95% is close enough. stay positive
Posted by bkbella86That is exactly what my gf's say but it hurts just so damn much. You think you found your person and they are just a verbal abuser.
I'm sorry you went through this tho and I hate to sound harsh but this man never deserved your generosity.
Posted by AerialViewBut verbal abuse isn't something I'm willing to look past. No one should.
calm down everyone. no one is perfect.
95% is close enough. stay positive
Posted by Ladi1975yes of course no one deserves itPosted by AerialViewBut verbal abuse isn't something I'm willing to look past. No one should.
calm down everyone. no one is perfect.
95% is close enough. stay positiveclick to expand
Posted by Ladi1975There's more to worry about than his verbal abuse. I mean look at what prompted it. You doing something kind for your daughter. He should have been happy to assist. He's a prick. You're too good for him.Posted by bkbella86That is exactly what my gf's say but it hurts just so damn much. You think you found your person and they are just a verbal abuser.
I'm sorry you went through this tho and I hate to sound harsh but this man never deserved your generosity.click to expand
I don't have kids but you handled it correctly. They come first, the nerve of him to think he should!
Posted by bkbella86Thank you
I don't have kids but you handled it correctly. They come first, the nerve of him to think he should!
I would never forgive this dude.
You sound like a wonderful person and amazing mom.
I love Leos because they are the most family-oriented out of all of the signs.
I'm lucky I have at least one Leo parent.
You made the right choice.
You deserve better.
You sound like a wonderful person and amazing mom.
I love Leos because they are the most family-oriented out of all of the signs.
I'm lucky I have at least one Leo parent.
You made the right choice.
You deserve better.
Posted by Ladi1975I went through the same epiphany with my ex, thought we would be together forever but then I met my now bf and he is soo much better then my ex. So what I'm saying is, hold on sistah there is a better guy out there for you who won't hurt you.Posted by bkbella86That is exactly what my gf's say but it hurts just so damn much. You think you found your person and they are just a verbal abuser.
I'm sorry you went through this tho and I hate to sound harsh but this man never deserved your generosity.click to expand
He's a piece of ? btw.
Posted by bkbella86He sounds like an immature prize prick
I don't have kids but you handled it correctly. They come first, the nerve of him to think he should!
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Ladies, this is a great example of what being a mommy to your man does. Doormat mommy status does not get you a worthy guy. You get an immature pile of shit who throws temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
Bonus points for when he expects you to drop your kids over his existence.
As the OP mentioned, she's seen his shit attitude before, but chose to forgive because doormat.
Ladies, don't be a doormat. There's doing nice things and then allowing one to walk all over you. Boundaries are important. The OP never set boundaries and she let dude walk all over her.
OP, so sorry it had to come to this, but maybe you finally got the eye opener you needed all this time. Any man that asks you to prioritize himself over your kid is a pile of shit and a huge, huge red flag.
Also, lol @ you going on about "porn sex." Why are you degrading yourself to the point where you sexually objectified your sex AND that it's a legit reason your relationship was oh so perfect? Honey, work on that self esteem. Please.
Bonus points for when he expects you to drop your kids over his existence.
As the OP mentioned, she's seen his shit attitude before, but chose to forgive because doormat.
Ladies, don't be a doormat. There's doing nice things and then allowing one to walk all over you. Boundaries are important. The OP never set boundaries and she let dude walk all over her.
OP, so sorry it had to come to this, but maybe you finally got the eye opener you needed all this time. Any man that asks you to prioritize himself over your kid is a pile of shit and a huge, huge red flag.
Also, lol @ you going on about "porn sex." Why are you degrading yourself to the point where you sexually objectified your sex AND that it's a legit reason your relationship was oh so perfect? Honey, work on that self esteem. Please.
Posted by Librasetting?
I'm totally single btw lol
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Ladies, this is a great example of what being a mommy to your man does. Doormat mommy status does not get you a worthy guy. You get an immature pile of shit who throws temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
Bonus points for when he expects you to drop your kids over his existence.
As the OP mentioned, she's seen his shit attitude before, but chose to forgive because doormat.
Ladies, don't be a doormat. There's doing nice things and then allowing one to walk all over you. Boundaries are important. The OP never set boundaries and she let dude walk all over her.
OP, so sorry it had to come to this, but maybe you finally got the eye opener you needed all this time. Any man that asks you to prioritize himself over your kid is a pile of shit and a huge, huge red flag.
Also, lol @ you going on about "porn sex." Why are you degrading yourself to the point where you sexually objectified your sex AND that it's a legit reason your relationship was oh so perfect? Honey, work on that self esteem. Please.
I would not say I was being a doormat. I am a mature forgiving person who doesn't not hold a grudge and can move on. I love to do for the people I love it makes me happy. I never said he never did stuff for me on the contrary he would do things for me to help me out all the time that I never had to ask for. As for the "porn sex"
most of that are was on me. I'm comfortable in my own skin and like to push boundaries with MY sex. He was the first partner that I've ever had that did not make me feel ashamed of my needs.
No way in HELL this basterd loves you.
I've never spewed hateful degrading words attacking sombodies flaws because im being petty upset over their kid. Its your kid, your kid comes 1st. Excuse my french F**K him. He is controlling and manipulating you.
I always say if you want to know what you should do in your own situation, ' imagine if it was a dear close love one telling you a simular story of abuse. Would you dare tell them to stay in a emotionally abusive realationship or would you help them pack their sh*.
Exactly.
I'll help you figure it all out, to him:
.....your a push over, sombody he can look over, a foot soldier.
He does not respect you or feels your valuable enough to change.
I've never spewed hateful degrading words attacking sombodies flaws because im being petty upset over their kid. Its your kid, your kid comes 1st. Excuse my french F**K him. He is controlling and manipulating you.
I always say if you want to know what you should do in your own situation, ' imagine if it was a dear close love one telling you a simular story of abuse. Would you dare tell them to stay in a emotionally abusive realationship or would you help them pack their sh*.
Exactly.
I'll help you figure it all out, to him:
.....your a push over, sombody he can look over, a foot soldier.
He does not respect you or feels your valuable enough to change.
Porn star???
Boyfriend/ guy friend / shouldn't be getting husband privileges.
Samples only love.
Boyfriend/ guy friend / shouldn't be getting husband privileges.
Samples only love.
Fuck all this zodiac sh* when it comes to real abuse.
He is a alcoholic
He is emotionally abusive
He is trying to divide you from what makes you happy.
He is preying on you like a predator.
He is weak.
He needs help from a professional, " not you.
He is a alcoholic
He is emotionally abusive
He is trying to divide you from what makes you happy.
He is preying on you like a predator.
He is weak.
He needs help from a professional, " not you.
Posted by FirefighterI agree and that is why I am done. Even though I miss him and I valued him. He did not value me or our future.
Fuck all this zodiac sh* when it comes to real abuse.
He is a alcoholic
He is emotionally abusive
He is trying to divide you from what makes you happy.
He is preying on you like a predator.
He is weak.
He needs help from a professional, " not you.
Its sad i know.
People go.
but' how
they left,
always stays?
People go.
but' how
they left,
always stays?
Posted by rockyroadicecreamYou have to take Rocky with a grain of salt.
OP, so sorry ...
Anyway... I think it is good that this happened now and not in the future after
allowing him to move in or worse-- marrying him.
I can identify with some of the above, unfortunately.
But I can't explain people like that without using terms like 'mentally unstable'
to describe them.
The best part of this story is that this guy really thought he was going to break
you-- but he didn't... and now he's probably (quite literally) crying in his beer.
He never saw that coming.
I think maybe he didn't truly love you. I am an aquarius and if we truly love you, we will do anything to keep you at our side and to keep you comfy and happy. Unfortunately if they don't like you, they will just take advantage of how truly special you are. IDK if that is specific to aquas in general, or just human nature to be mean and cruel, but I think you should try not to do so much if he even comes back.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by rockyroadicecreamYou have to take Rocky with a grain of salt.
OP, so sorry ...
Anyway... I think it is good that this happened now and not in the future after
allowing him to move in or worse-- marrying him.
I can identify with some of the above, unfortunately.
But I can't explain people like that without using terms like 'mentally unstable'
to describe them.
The best part of this story is that this guy really thought he was going to break
you-- but he didn't... and now he's probably (quite literally) crying in his beer.
He never saw that coming.
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Sometimes but she's on point with this one.
Posted by DiamondAceHiw is making her choose between her child and him love? Him verbally abusing her, berating her, cursing her love? Are you serious??
I think he "loves" you based on how he remembers all the little things. However, it's not enough. He is throwing a childish tantrum to eventually control you and that's not cool. What's worst is he is making you choose between him and your daughter. That's a huge red flag. I know I can be stubborn where I'd say no to all the given options because my significant other is using it as a way for me to forget something wrong he did instead of confronting the issue or apologizing but I've never made him choose his family members or friends over me.
Posted by berrywiddle
I think maybe he didn't truly love you. I am an aquarius and if we truly love you, we will do anything to keep you at our side and to keep you comfy and happy. Unfortunately if they don't like you, they will just take advantage of how truly special you are. IDK if that is specific to aquas in general, or just human nature to be mean and cruel, but I think you should try not to do so much if he even comes back.
This was today's email.
Over this last year we made so much progress. You have treated me better than anyone has, We had problems & ALWAYS Conquered every challenge. You make me want to be better at life. When you cut our weekend short to spend day in Boston infuriated me, so much so i got completely smashed i was crying & got cut off. That didn't stop me. You hurt me so i intended on making you feel as bad as i did. I had no RESPECT when i went on my rant. The next morning i forgot alot of my words. No excuses i made my bed. I have a feeling of being scared. I been crying, I'm ashamed because we came so very far & I'm a better personthan that. The silent treatment is getting me. I can't say shitt because all i had to do was relax & deal with Sober & calm. Your a Great person Awesome Friggin G.F & BEST FRIEND i probably ever had. Believe me I'm paying the price. I'm breaking down at work. I Love you Very much & my Life has changed because of your Love. Don't lose my # if you ever have a change of heart or need me I'll BE THERE. Please forgive me.Love you Leo Girl
Posted by DiamondAceAs woman and mothers we have enough love to go around for everyone. You may have to piece meal the attention and quality time but we are always thinking about the ones we love.Posted by MoonbutterMy ex sag was so very charming verbally and physically but he did not like me spending time with my mom, sisters, and even our own flesh and blood children. To me, it hurts more that he couldn't love anyone else except for me. Some people may think that's cute and all that he wants only me in this world but I think it's topnotch selfish.Posted by Ladi1975I went through the same epiphany with my ex, thought we would be together forever but then I met my now bf and he is soo much better then my ex. So what I'm saying is, hold on sistah there is a better guy out there for you who won't hurt you.Posted by bkbella86That is exactly what my gf's say but it hurts just so damn much. You think you found your person and they are just a verbal abuser.
I'm sorry you went through this tho and I hate to sound harsh but this man never deserved your generosity.click to expand
You should have held on to him tight. I bet deep down it was all worth it. There's nothing in this world like an Aquarius. So deep so passionate so caring
Posted by DiamondAceThat's what abusers do. They isolate you from your loved ones and your life before them.Posted by MoonbutterMy ex sag was so very charming verbally and physically but he did not like me spending time with my mom, sisters, and even our own flesh and blood children. To me, it hurts more that he couldn't love anyone else except for me. Some people may think that's cute and all that he wants only me in this world but I think it's topnotch selfish.Posted by Ladi1975I went through the same epiphany with my ex, thought we would be together forever but then I met my now bf and he is soo much better then my ex. So what I'm saying is, hold on sistah there is a better guy out there for you who won't hurt you.Posted by bkbella86That is exactly what my gf's say but it hurts just so damn much. You think you found your person and they are just a verbal abuser.
I'm sorry you went through this tho and I hate to sound harsh but this man never deserved your generosity.click to expand
Posted by Ladi1975Posted by berrywiddle
I think maybe he didn't truly love you. I am an aquarius and if we truly love you, we will do anything to keep you at our side and to keep you comfy and happy. Unfortunately if they don't like you, they will just take advantage of how truly special you are. IDK if that is specific to aquas in general, or just human nature to be mean and cruel, but I think you should try not to do so much if he even comes back.
This was today's email.
Over this last year we made so much progress. You have treated me better than anyone has, We had problems & ALWAYS Conquered every challenge. You make me want to be better at life. When you cut our weekend short to spend day in Boston infuriated me, so much so i got completely smashed i was crying & got cut off. That didn't stop me. You hurt me so i intended on making you feel as bad as i did. I had no RESPECT when i went on my rant. The next morning i forgot alot of my words. No excuses i made my bed. I have a feeling of being scared. I been crying, I'm ashamed because we came so very far & I'm a better personthan that. The silent treatment is getting me. I can't say shitt because all i had to do was relax & deal with Sober & calm. Your a Great person Awesome Friggin G.F & BEST FRIEND i probably ever had. Believe me I'm paying the price. I'm breaking down at work. I Love you Very much & my Life has changed because of your Love. Don't lose my # if you ever have a change of heart or need me I'll BE THERE. Please forgive me.Love you Leo Girlclick to expand
I still think you should distance yourself. If he truly means what he says, he will keep chasing you. He will come back, not just send an email. My ex apologized to me for how shitty he treated me, but in the end the apology was for himself, because he felt so guilty for how he treated me. And then he moved on with some coworker. Not saying it is the same situation, but let's just see how this plays out. But don't wait on him. It's too soon for you to forgive him because he will go back to the same behavior. And he won't change.
Posted by LazyKLmaooo
You should have held on to him tight. I bet deep down it was all worth it. There's nothing in this world like an Aquarius. So deep so passionate so caring
Stop giving horrible advice. This is a serious thread.
Posted by bkbella86She is.
Sometimes but she's on point with this one.
But bitter, condescending mockery isn't going to do much good.
Several others said the same thing, including yourself-- and never
even came close to that exaggerated, self-gratifying crap she's so
fond of.
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by bkbella86She is.
Sometimes but she's on point with this one.
But bitter, condescending mockery isn't going to do much good.
Several others said the same thing, including yourself-- and never
even came close to that exaggerated, self-gratifying crap she's so
fond of.
Agreed.click to expand
Posted by Ladi1975You did too much. What did he ever do for you?
I cook for his highness every weekend and I don't mean chicken nuggets and frozen pizza. I throw down in the kitchen and I always send him home with a care package of left overs. Just like a college kid he brings me his laundry (without asking because I offered once) periodically which I wash and fold without complaint or a side glance. I take care of butter for him and treetrunk him like a porn star. I'm the one that pretty much plans all our fun dates and trips.
Posted by LadyNeptuneHe did do a lot for me just the day before all this happened he mowed my whole lawn ( I have a very large yard) with a push mower because my tractor mower died. On Mother's Day he made me breakfast in bed took my daughter and I too see Snatched with Amy Schumer and Goldie then took us to dinner and surprised me with two Buxom lip glosses ( my fav) that he picked out at Ulta and gave them my phone number so I would get the points. This past winter Everytime it snowed more than just a couple inches he would've come up to clear and salt my driveway. Make sure my trash cans were at the curb every Sunday night befor he left. He would buy little stuff during the week and bring it Friday night like my gummy multivitamin if he saw me getting low or the hair mouse I use for curly hair ( right brand and everything)Posted by Ladi1975You did too much. What did he ever do for you?
I cook for his highness every weekend and I don't mean chicken nuggets and frozen pizza. I throw down in the kitchen and I always send him home with a care package of left overs. Just like a college kid he brings me his laundry (without asking because I offered once) periodically which I wash and fold without complaint or a side glance. I take care of butter for him and treetrunk him like a porn star. I'm the one that pretty much plans all our fun dates and trips.click to expand
Most of all he would listen to me and give me good advice and let me vent when I needed too.
Posted by Ladi1975He was listening for ammunition to use against you if he ever felt butt hurt. Dude is a pussy.Posted by LadyNeptuneHe did do a lot for me just the day before all this happened he mowed my whole lawn ( I have a very large yard) with a push mower because my tractor mower died. On Mother's Day he made me breakfast in bed took my daughter and I too see Snatched with Amy Schumer and Goldie then took us to dinner and surprised me with two Buxom lip glosses ( my fav) that he picked out at Ulta and gave them my phone number so I would get the points. This past winter Everytime it snowed more than just a couple inches he would've come up to clear and salt my driveway. Make sure my trash cans were at the curb every Sunday night befor he left. He would buy little stuff during the week and bring it Friday night like my gummy multivitamin if he saw me getting low or the hair mouse I use for curly hair ( right brand and everything)Posted by Ladi1975You did too much. What did he ever do for you?
I cook for his highness every weekend and I don't mean chicken nuggets and frozen pizza. I throw down in the kitchen and I always send him home with a care package of left overs. Just like a college kid he brings me his laundry (without asking because I offered once) periodically which I wash and fold without complaint or a side glance. I take care of butter for him and treetrunk him like a porn star. I'm the one that pretty much plans all our fun dates and trips.
Most of all he would listen to me and give me good advice and let me vent when I needed too.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneSure did use it all against me that night.Posted by Ladi1975He was listening for ammunition to use against you if he ever felt butt hurt. Dude is a pussy.Posted by LadyNeptuneHe did do a lot for me just the day before all this happened he mowed my whole lawn ( I have a very large yard) with a push mower because my tractor mower died. On Mother's Day he made me breakfast in bed took my daughter and I too see Snatched with Amy Schumer and Goldie then took us to dinner and surprised me with two Buxom lip glosses ( my fav) that he picked out at Ulta and gave them my phone number so I would get the points. This past winter Everytime it snowed more than just a couple inches he would've come up to clear and salt my driveway. Make sure my trash cans were at the curb every Sunday night befor he left. He would buy little stuff during the week and bring it Friday night like my gummy multivitamin if he saw me getting low or the hair mouse I use for curly hair ( right brand and everything)Posted by Ladi1975You did too much. What did he ever do for you?
I cook for his highness every weekend and I don't mean chicken nuggets and frozen pizza. I throw down in the kitchen and I always send him home with a care package of left overs. Just like a college kid he brings me his laundry (without asking because I offered once) periodically which I wash and fold without complaint or a side glance. I take care of butter for him and treetrunk him like a porn star. I'm the one that pretty much plans all our fun dates and trips.
Most of all he would listen to me and give me good advice and let me vent when I needed too.click to expand
If you both feel the way you say you do, maintain distance for a while, months. If I were you, I would be honest with him, but not emotional. Lay out what you love, lay out what you will not tolerate, and cut yourself loose. If he takes what you say to heart, and if he means what he's telling you, he will respect your need for space. He will think about what you said needs to change and if it's worth it to him, he'll change.
You will know if he has, not because he is saying all the right things but because you'll just KNOW. We Leos and Aquas have a special connection and we can read each other's motivations as if it were in plain sight.
If he doesn't change, you'll already be on your way to something better.
You will know if he has, not because he is saying all the right things but because you'll just KNOW. We Leos and Aquas have a special connection and we can read each other's motivations as if it were in plain sight.
If he doesn't change, you'll already be on your way to something better.
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Posted by LazyK
You should have held on to him tight. I bet deep down it was all worth it. There's nothing in this world like an Aquarius. So deep so passionate so caring
Shut the hell up.
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Posted by MontgomeryThat's because this woman is old enough to have an 18 year old daughter, yet going about her relationship like a naive 20 year old. Did dude's laundry once, and he saw it as a free pass to have his laundry done like some college drop out living at home. lolwut territory there.Posted by bkbella86She is.
Sometimes but she's on point with this one.
But bitter, condescending mockery isn't going to do much good.
Several others said the same thing, including yourself-- and never
even came close to that exaggerated, self-gratifying crap she's so
fond of.click to expand
But hey, keep up with your ac/dc attitude toward me. Either you like me or don't. You flip flop a lot, so I take what you say with a grain of salt most of the time as well.
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Posted by bittercupcakeThis. This is why I get so freaking irritated by posts like these. We are in fucking 2017 and women choose to act like doormats about this stuff. "Oh but I want to show him I care!"
...sorry to say but women have got to be more selfish... men want it all...and if they can get it all...they will... eventually if you do too much... a man who once treated you well...will take you for granted because you no longer offer that challenge you once provided....
Yes, but the second he obviously started running with that, she just kept on letting him take and take and it turned into this monstrosity. You give an inch, they take a mile. This shit has been ingrained in a lot of guys' heads because of society and how it tends to pander to the male entitlement.
It's a major fine line so many women have yet to distinguish. You let his mom mommy the fuck out of him. You're a girlfriend/wife. Not secondary mommy. You make sure what he's doing isn't going to turn into some dogshit. You can still do for others while looking out for self in the process. Women seem to struggle with this concept in most societies.
Posted by Firefighter
Its sad i know.
People go.
but' how
they left,
always stays?
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