How can I define the relationship with an Aquarius

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by mgmtlove on Tuesday, March 26, 2013 and has 15 replies.
To start off, I'm a Leo woman( July 28) and I've been talking to an Aquarius man(Feb 14) for almost two months. We met online and have been talking almost everyday, up to 5 times a day whether it's texting, skype, or on the phone. The problem is we live in different states,and he wants me to come see him for a few days next month. I'm worried, because the conversations have gotten sexual at times and I don't really know what I am to him(friend, girlfriend,etc). He asks me when I will come visit and I always say "I don't know" I don't just wanna be some girl that he has sex with...anyways, how do I get him to define what we are, or how you I bring it up? Being a Leo, I just wanna flat out ask him what's up, but I don't think that will do any good.
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You never know what he'll say until you ask! And, why not go and see how things work out? Maybe you'll be able to more easily understand where you stand with him when you can feel out the vibes you get from him. Just, don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do. I just went on a first date with a feb 13th aqua. He held off on sex of his own will, though has been talking sex a lot, now. He is a guy/human. But, the fact that he didn't go through with anything said a lot to me.

Some conversations are easier had in person, anyway. : )
If you don't let him know where your boundaries are, he won't be able to tell if he's crossing them or not, so it really is a conversation you should have soon.
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Posted by Lenore0908
Well, just don't have sex with him yet. You are not obligated to have sex with him, and if he expects you to, he's acting like a desperate loser.
And don't ask him "where is this going?" or "what are we doing?" That will make YOU look desperate for a boyfriend. Let him bring that up when he is ready.
Is there any way that he can come see you instead? Make him come see you, and tell him to get a hotel if he can't stay with you. Don't fly out to see him yet.


+1 Totally agree! Let him come see you...
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Posted by Lenore0908
Well, just don't have sex with him yet. You are not obligated to have sex with him, and if he expects you to, he's acting like a desperate loser.
And don't ask him "where is this going?" or "what are we doing?" That will make YOU look desperate for a boyfriend. Let him bring that up when he is ready.
Is there any way that he can come see you instead? Make him come see you, and tell him to get a hotel if he can't stay with you. Don't fly out to see him yet.



No, there isn't a way for him to see me. He's staying with his mom and he has two dogs he has to take care of. He said that he doesn't have a friend to care for them, and his mother is very weird about how the puppy needs to be in and out at certain times...
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Posted by mgmtlove
Posted by Lenore0908
Well, just don't have sex with him yet. You are not obligated to have sex with him, and if he expects you to, he's acting like a desperate loser.
And don't ask him "where is this going?" or "what are we doing?" That will make YOU look desperate for a boyfriend. Let him bring that up when he is ready.
Is there any way that he can come see you instead? Make him come see you, and tell him to get a hotel if he can't stay with you. Don't fly out to see him yet.



No, there isn't a way for him to see me. He's staying with his mom and he has two dogs he has to take care of. He said that he doesn't have a friend to care for them, and his mother is very weird about how the puppy needs to be in and out at certain times...
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A man, aqua or not, WILL find a way if he really wants to. Plain and simple!
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Well I'm a Feb 14 aqua too and I love MGMT a lot. I think your good just on that smile
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If you visit, stay in a hotel and do not sleep with him.
Keep your outings casual and concentrate on getting to know him as a person with his clothes on. Also, trust your gut if he seems like a pervy weirdo...run! smile
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Posted by mgmtlove
Posted by Lenore0908
Well, just don't have sex with him yet. You are not obligated to have sex with him, and if he expects you to, he's acting like a desperate loser.
And don't ask him "where is this going?" or "what are we doing?" That will make YOU look desperate for a boyfriend. Let him bring that up when he is ready.
Is there any way that he can come see you instead? Make him come see you, and tell him to get a hotel if he can't stay with you. Don't fly out to see him yet.



No, there isn't a way for him to see me. He's staying with his mom and he has two dogs he has to take care of. He said that he doesn't have a friend to care for them, and his mother is very weird about how the puppy needs to be in and out at certain times...
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That sounds like a cop out!!!!
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Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
If you visit, stay in a hotel and do not sleep with him.
Keep your outings casual and concentrate on getting to know him as a person with his clothes on. Also, trust your gut if he seems like a pervy weirdo...run! smile


I was going to say this!!!! Tongue
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I agree with the others. Don't go. Make him come to you. The man should always put out most of the effort in the beginning. If you go see him, you're setting the precedence that you will put out most of the work and he won't ever come to his full potential in the relationship. If he wants to see you, he will find a way. If a man is into a girl, he will make it happen.

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+1 misslissa.
If I wanted to see someone I'd do it myself and not ask someone to and if I can't I simply don't raise that question. But personally I hate implanting ideas into people's minds because it's almost a form of manipulation.
"Being a Leo, I just wanna flat out ask him what's up?" I say go ahead and do it.
To be fair to the guy I'm not sure how old he is but even I'll admit to having sex on the mind when I'm single but then I'll go as far as to say I really do love sex and there's nothing wrong with that. If you do meet him in person just practice a bit of caution, meet at public places and vibe him out and never be too careful.
Stop thinking so far ahead when in reality nothing's begun.
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Posted by Gandalf
It would be nice if leo women can use their brains from time to time. I woud not travel to where he lives and i don;t care what reasons he gives. In your situation i would meet at midpoint somewhere to hang out for a few hours. I would then proceed to use analyze and see if this is worthy of pursuing or if i should reject it.
The excuse he gave sounds so retarded and i would question his motives quite honestly. It would be really nice if leo woman actually think once in a while.....


Geez...what made you think I don't use my mind? You don't know me and there's no need to get rude. I simply asked for other people's opinions.
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Thanks for everyone's answers(the respectful ones)! I'm not going,lol.
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Posted by truecap
Posted by mgmtlove
Posted by Lenore0908
Well, just don't have sex with him yet. You are not obligated to have sex with him, and if he expects you to, he's acting like a desperate loser.
And don't ask him "where is this going?" or "what are we doing?" That will make YOU look desperate for a boyfriend. Let him bring that up when he is ready.
Is there any way that he can come see you instead? Make him come see you, and tell him to get a hotel if he can't stay with you. Don't fly out to see him yet.



No, there isn't a way for him to see me. He's staying with his mom and he has two dogs he has to take care of. He said that he doesn't have a friend to care for them, and his mother is very weird about how the puppy needs to be in and out at certain times...


That sounds like a cop out!!!!
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a lame cop out. a guy living with his mother and you want to go see him?
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Posted by EvilTurtle
Posted by truecap
Posted by mgmtlove
Posted by Lenore0908
Well, just don't have sex with him yet. You are not obligated to have sex with him, and if he expects you to, he's acting like a desperate loser.
And don't ask him "where is this going?" or "what are we doing?" That will make YOU look desperate for a boyfriend. Let him bring that up when he is ready.
Is there any way that he can come see you instead? Make him come see you, and tell him to get a hotel if he can't stay with you. Don't fly out to see him yet.



No, there isn't a way for him to see me. He's staying with his mom and he has two dogs he has to take care of. He said that he doesn't have a friend to care for them, and his mother is very weird about how the puppy needs to be in and out at certain times...


That sounds like a cop out!!!!

a lame cop out. a guy living with his mother and you want to go see him?
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Hmm..you've got a point there!
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