How do I handle a Aquarius man
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by mebeme on Tuesday, May 5, 2009 and has 3 replies.
I am so tired of being his partime lover...but I love him so much! How do I get back at him?
Well one thing I can say about Aqua men is that they use people who let themselves be used, just like men of any other sign. Aquas know very quickly (almost immediately) if the person they've been spending time with & getting to know lately is someone they can take home to mama or possibly commit to. If this guy isn't commiting to you or atleast told you that he's very into you (and ONLY you) then that means 1 of 2 things:
1. He likes you enough to keep you around, but yet there is still something about you (maybe you said something or did something) that he's still not 100% sure if he can deal with. And until he's sure of his decision, he won't completely cut you off (b/c he'll hate to find out later that he lost out on a great thing) but then again he won't wife you up either (b/c of his other fear of finding out that if he had've just been a little more patient he wouldn't have gotten hurt or commited to you.) And in this case, if he's still keeping you around (assuming sex isn't the only reason) then it's b/c he's having a battle between himself & himself on what to do. And b/c you're willing to stay around, of course he's going to take advantage of the situation as long as you let him. If this is what's really going on with him, then you'll CONTINUE to be "part time" lover until he finally makes the decision.
OR
2. He's just using you for sex or for other shallow or non-loving reasons b/c he can. You know the whole deal. You keep giving him the time, energy & conversation that he might like enough to keep talking to you, but not enough though to actually take things further with you. And the more you stick around after he's clearly not given you the signal that he's ready to move to the next step with you, then he's going to assume that you also know that he's not ready or willing & see you as vulnerable and weak (an even FURTHER reason not to commit to you).
You weren't that specific in what the problems are between you 2 or what your definition of "part time" lover is. I just assumed that you were having the same problems alot of women have with Aqua men when they're caught in that middle ground
1. He likes you enough to keep you around, but yet there is still something about you (maybe you said something or did something) that he's still not 100% sure if he can deal with. And until he's sure of his decision, he won't completely cut you off (b/c he'll hate to find out later that he lost out on a great thing) but then again he won't wife you up either (b/c of his other fear of finding out that if he had've just been a little more patient he wouldn't have gotten hurt or commited to you.) And in this case, if he's still keeping you around (assuming sex isn't the only reason) then it's b/c he's having a battle between himself & himself on what to do. And b/c you're willing to stay around, of course he's going to take advantage of the situation as long as you let him. If this is what's really going on with him, then you'll CONTINUE to be "part time" lover until he finally makes the decision.
OR
2. He's just using you for sex or for other shallow or non-loving reasons b/c he can. You know the whole deal. You keep giving him the time, energy & conversation that he might like enough to keep talking to you, but not enough though to actually take things further with you. And the more you stick around after he's clearly not given you the signal that he's ready to move to the next step with you, then he's going to assume that you also know that he's not ready or willing & see you as vulnerable and weak (an even FURTHER reason not to commit to you).
You weren't that specific in what the problems are between you 2 or what your definition of "part time" lover is. I just assumed that you were having the same problems alot of women have with Aqua men when they're caught in that middle ground
go on dates.
this will kill 2 birds with one stone.
of course let him know you are going on dates.
this is how it will go down:
he will act like it doesn't bother him, but depending on how much he likes you this will either annoy him or tear him up inside.
NOW- be prepared for him to nonchalantly go on dates as well.
he will either realize he is at risk of losing you and will opt to make it official.
or you will continue on this path and figure out he doesn't want a real relationship in the mean time you could meet someone who will during your dates.
and besides if it's not official you should be doing this anyway.
this will kill 2 birds with one stone.
of course let him know you are going on dates.
this is how it will go down:
he will act like it doesn't bother him, but depending on how much he likes you this will either annoy him or tear him up inside.
NOW- be prepared for him to nonchalantly go on dates as well.
he will either realize he is at risk of losing you and will opt to make it official.
or you will continue on this path and figure out he doesn't want a real relationship in the mean time you could meet someone who will during your dates.
and besides if it's not official you should be doing this anyway.
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