How long do you stay mad after a fight?
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by ladylibra21 on Saturday, August 12, 2017 and has 23 replies.
Does it take you days to get over?
What kind of fight?
Posted by m200991HahaPosted by ladylibra21
Does it take you days to get over?Posted by AerialViewAnd what kind of mad?
What kind of fight?click to expand
Look up mars placement for that info 
I get over things really quick
Posted by AerialViewSo this is the fifth time we were having a conversation and specifically talking about something and he made it seem like he was responding to someone else's text message but I wasn't accusing him of cheating I just said did you mean to send that to someone else? So he starts going off saying "I'm getting tired of you assuming that I'm talking to someone else you are too suspicious for me I understand why you would be because of your past but I'm not a cheater nor have I ever been and I would tell you if I did."
What kind of fight?
I feel like there are major parts about him that I still don't know and that is a little strange to me since I met his son earlier this week which I see as a big step but I have to wonder if he really thinks that is a big step because he doesn't know tons about relationships. He is agood father so I feel like from that perspective he would be careful with that. I told him I feel like I am more open about my life with him then he is with me. He has met or at least heard about most of my friends and my parents I have never met any of his. He told me he didn't have any friends at first and then a couple of how was your days later oh I hung out with my friend and we did this.
So I told him that I don't think you are a cheater but you're very secretive person not just about friends but it does make me a bit easy since were talking about this. When we first got together he claims not to have friends because he isolated him self the past 2 years, was isolated in his last relationship, and throughout his childhood because of his religion his parents wouldn't let him be friends with people who weren't in that religion.
I have no desire to isolate him I want him to make friends with people because he has a bit of social anxiety, but I find it odd that we have been seeing each other for four months and I haven't met anyone is his life except his son but he has these random friends laying around that he never really goes into detail about. Now he is saying he might have been secretive on accident. This was after he said I had no solid proof that he was secretive so I gave it to him because he said he wanted examples.
The last conversation we were talking about what we were going to do the work on that but he still seemed annoyed. The last thing he said was him saying his son fell asleep for a nap so we weren't going to be able to go to pizza that night because were supposed to go get pizza and I said I understand and haven't heard from him since. It has only been a day but I'm not sure if I should reach out or not.
I don't, the follow up to the fight is resolution. Life is too short.
Anyone can tell about mars in cancer and how much time do they need to get over? Anyone with this mars placement?
Posted by ladylibra21a typical aquarius male i think. they have the ability to make their partners QUESTION a lot of things.Posted by AerialViewSo this is the fifth time we were having a conversation and specifically talking about something and he made it seem like he was responding to someone else's text message but I wasn't accusing him of cheating I just said did you mean to send that to someone else? So he starts going off saying "I'm getting tired of you assuming that I'm talking to someone else you are too suspicious for me I understand why you would be because of your past but I'm not a cheater nor have I ever been and I would tell you if I did."
What kind of fight?
I feel like there are major parts about him that I still don't know and that is a little strange to me since I met his son earlier this week which I see as a big step but I have to wonder if he really thinks that is a big step because he doesn't know tons about relationships. He is agood father so I feel like from that perspective he would be careful with that. I told him I feel like I am more open about my life with him then he is with me. He has met or at least heard about most of my friends and my parents I have never met any of his. He told me he didn't have any friends at first and then a couple of how was your days later oh I hung out with my friend and we did this.
So I told him that I don't think you are a cheater but you're very secretive person not just about friends but it does make me a bit easy since were talking about this. When we first got together he claims not to have friends because he isolated him self the past 2 years, was isolated in his last relationship, and throughout his childhood because of his religion his parents wouldn't let him be friends with people who weren't in that religion.
I have no desire to isolate him I want him to make friends with people because he has a bit of social anxiety, but I find it odd that we have been seeing each other for four months and I haven't met anyone is his life except his son but he has these random friends laying around that he never really goes into detail about. Now he is saying he might have been secretive on accident. This was after he said I had no solid proof that he was secretive so I gave it to him because he said he wanted examples.
The last conversation we were talking about what we were going to do the work on that but he still seemed annoyed. The last thing he said was him saying his son fell asleep for a nap so we weren't going to be able to go to pizza that night because were supposed to go get pizza and I said I understand and haven't heard from him since. It has only been a day but I'm not sure if I should reach out or not.click to expand
you can be the most confident person the room but for whatever reason, their friendliness to everybody make you question their loyalty...
i would say trust your gut instinct. they never lied.
in terms of fighting. its kind of a my way or no way attitude esp in the beginning with them. so i would say just reach out like nothing happened and you can discuss it more in person if you want to...
ps: whats the mars placement got to do with this?
Posted by AneemA08I think you may have me confused for another poster? I don't have any major issues relationship wise...thankfully lol! Sorry to hear of your situation though...it will passPosted by LibraLovesHimI suggest you not to mind him. I think he was just giving signals that he isn't going to talk with you for a while. Don't wait up, though. Simply move on with your life is the best solution I can find for you. It is always the best solution, however hard that may be since you're in love with him..
I don't, the follow up to the fight is resolution. Life is too short.
I'm going through similar thing myself.click to expand
Posted by AneemA08Oh, I dont know when I posted that i'm having communication issues with him, or that he isnt' talking to me for any length of time etc etc my Aries is the one who wants to talk things out way before I do generally. He can't stand drawn out conflict or periods of silence (even though I may just be sleeping) ...I guess I don't recall the post you are referring to but do feel free to remind me!Posted by LibraLovesHimNope, I actually read your thread. I can separate stuff. If you don't wanna wait him out, then do as you please. I'm just trying to give my opinion, obviously.Posted by AneemA08I think you may have me confused for another poster? I don't have any major issues relationship wise...thankfully lol! Sorry to hear of your situation though...it will passPosted by LibraLovesHimI suggest you not to mind him. I think he was just giving signals that he isn't going to talk with you for a while. Don't wait up, though. Simply move on with your life is the best solution I can find for you. It is always the best solution, however hard that may be since you're in love with him..
I don't, the follow up to the fight is resolution. Life is too short.
I'm going through similar thing myself.click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988Spot on! ?Posted by ladylibra21a typical aquarius male i think. they have the ability to make their partners QUESTION a lot of things.Posted by AerialViewSo this is the fifth time we were having a conversation and specifically talking about something and he made it seem like he was responding to someone else's text message but I wasn't accusing him of cheating I just said did you mean to send that to someone else? So he starts going off saying "I'm getting tired of you assuming that I'm talking to someone else you are too suspicious for me I understand why you would be because of your past but I'm not a cheater nor have I ever been and I would tell you if I did."
What kind of fight?
I feel like there are major parts about him that I still don't know and that is a little strange to me since I met his son earlier this week which I see as a big step but I have to wonder if he really thinks that is a big step because he doesn't know tons about relationships. He is agood father so I feel like from that perspective he would be careful with that. I told him I feel like I am more open about my life with him then he is with me. He has met or at least heard about most of my friends and my parents I have never met any of his. He told me he didn't have any friends at first and then a couple of how was your days later oh I hung out with my friend and we did this.
So I told him that I don't think you are a cheater but you're very secretive person not just about friends but it does make me a bit easy since were talking about this. When we first got together he claims not to have friends because he isolated him self the past 2 years, was isolated in his last relationship, and throughout his childhood because of his religion his parents wouldn't let him be friends with people who weren't in that religion.
I have no desire to isolate him I want him to make friends with people because he has a bit of social anxiety, but I find it odd that we have been seeing each other for four months and I haven't met anyone is his life except his son but he has these random friends laying around that he never really goes into detail about. Now he is saying he might have been secretive on accident. This was after he said I had no solid proof that he was secretive so I gave it to him because he said he wanted examples.
The last conversation we were talking about what we were going to do the work on that but he still seemed annoyed. The last thing he said was him saying his son fell asleep for a nap so we weren't going to be able to go to pizza that night because were supposed to go get pizza and I said I understand and haven't heard from him since. It has only been a day but I'm not sure if I should reach out or not.
you can be the most confident person the room but for whatever reason, their friendliness to everybody make you question their loyalty...
i would say trust your gut instinct. they never lied.
in terms of fighting. its kind of a my way or no way attitude esp in the beginning with them. so i would say just reach out like nothing happened and you can discuss it more in person if you want to...click to expand
Update: OK so I called him yesterday and we talked for like two hours on the phone. He said he was giving me space cause he thought I was really mad, but I wasn't really mad mad. I was annoyed that he accused me of accusing him of cheating and I explained that I went ahead and brought up the secretiveness because I have been talking about it with some of my friends earlier in the week and when he said that it set me off. He said that he wasnt angry at all he was a little annoyed but looking back at his text messages they seem more angry than he was. We agreed not to have major relationship conversations over text anymore.
His big thing was that he is frustrated because he feels like he's explained his personality and million times and he feels like his personality is a handicap and that nobody accepts it. I said I don't think it's a handicap at all and it's not very smart to just say that your personality is a handicap because it's not nor was it ever meant to be a handicap. I asked him if there are certain things that he just wanted to do but felt like he couldn't because it was out of his comfort zone and he said yes. So I said OK then that just means you just have to work on it.
I told him that it is early in our relationship I'm sure there are plenty of things that he's going to want me to work on and he should feel free to come to me and say hey can you work on this it bugs the butter out of me.
And he kept saying well if you feel like you can't handle my personality maybe I'm not for you so I got annoyed with him and said why do you keep saying that? And he said because I feel like I have explained it and I said that's a butterty thing to say and if you don't want to be with me you need to let me know. He said that's not what I said. So I said well you keep bringing that up so you need to decide if you want to be with me stop trying to decide if you're good for me only I can decide if you are good for me. You need to decide if I am good for you. I said if I don't like your personality or you I wouldn't be with you.
It was good to talk he was able to point out some things that I do that he would like me to work as well and then we just did our normal jumping from subject to subject but it feels like we're getting somewhere now. I see now that he was mostly offended because he thought that I wasn't accepting his personality and I get that he is always had an issue with how introverted he is and doesn't always know what people want to know about him and that's where I just need to ask more questions. But he also has new perspective on his actions as well.
His big thing was that he is frustrated because he feels like he's explained his personality and million times and he feels like his personality is a handicap and that nobody accepts it. I said I don't think it's a handicap at all and it's not very smart to just say that your personality is a handicap because it's not nor was it ever meant to be a handicap. I asked him if there are certain things that he just wanted to do but felt like he couldn't because it was out of his comfort zone and he said yes. So I said OK then that just means you just have to work on it.
I told him that it is early in our relationship I'm sure there are plenty of things that he's going to want me to work on and he should feel free to come to me and say hey can you work on this it bugs the butter out of me.
And he kept saying well if you feel like you can't handle my personality maybe I'm not for you so I got annoyed with him and said why do you keep saying that? And he said because I feel like I have explained it and I said that's a butterty thing to say and if you don't want to be with me you need to let me know. He said that's not what I said. So I said well you keep bringing that up so you need to decide if you want to be with me stop trying to decide if you're good for me only I can decide if you are good for me. You need to decide if I am good for you. I said if I don't like your personality or you I wouldn't be with you.
It was good to talk he was able to point out some things that I do that he would like me to work as well and then we just did our normal jumping from subject to subject but it feels like we're getting somewhere now. I see now that he was mostly offended because he thought that I wasn't accepting his personality and I get that he is always had an issue with how introverted he is and doesn't always know what people want to know about him and that's where I just need to ask more questions. But he also has new perspective on his actions as well.
just accept him for who he is..
Aqua needs full acceptance...
thats why he said, ..
they know they are different they just want their partner to accept them exactly as they are...
as most likely, they won't change for no one..
unless you tell them how much you are working on ur self, then they may consider working on their own stuff too ...but if you say, ok this is what bothers me, you need to work on this for us to work..most likely he will do a 360 lol ...
based on my experience
Aqua needs full acceptance...
thats why he said, ..
they know they are different they just want their partner to accept them exactly as they are...
as most likely, they won't change for no one..
unless you tell them how much you are working on ur self, then they may consider working on their own stuff too ...but if you say, ok this is what bothers me, you need to work on this for us to work..most likely he will do a 360 lol ...
based on my experience
Posted by pisceanlovesI have mars in cancer. Depends.. if it hurt my feelings deep and made me mad then I need a while. Somewhere between hours to days lol
Anyone can tell about mars in cancer and how much time do they need to get over? Anyone with this mars placement?
If it was something not so bad then just make me laugh and I'll be ok
Posted by lesenfantterriblesYeah that placement really sucks. Im extremally disappointedPosted by pisceanloves
Anyone can tell about mars in cancer and how much time do they need to get over? Anyone with this mars placement?
cancer???? do they ever ever ever truly get over anything???click to expand
Posted by natsI don't know how to define. I exploded at some point and called his behavior BS, I've been keeping everything for too long and couldn't take it no more, then I gave him 2 option, either he stops doing whatever he does or we end up on good terms, he said ''you probably right we should end up then''. That was it. His Libra self ain't worth I swear. The thing is we were so into each other, it was completely unexpected him saying that, like not even trying to work on things, when he promised he would fight for us no matter what. I don't know that's it I guess, my pride as a woman is destroyed.Posted by pisceanlovesI have mars in cancer. Depends.. if it hurt my feelings deep and made me mad then I need a while. Somewhere between hours to days lol
Anyone can tell about mars in cancer and how much time do they need to get over? Anyone with this mars placement?
If it was something not so bad then just make me laugh and I'll be okclick to expand
Posted by AquaNextDoorI think the Mars placement would indicate, how you react (how quicky), your Mercury how you communicate your anger, and your Moon how long it takes you get over it...
Look up mars placement for that info
I just say this from my personal experience: I am an Aqua, but
Mars in Aries - I am really mad about 40 minuts (like seeing red!)
Mercury in Capricorn - I communicate it by giving reasons
Moon in Cancer - then I harbor these feelings, if you hurt me and I am frozen (anything between 1 week or 6 months, when I am not communicating, because I am frozen) or even if I am communicating, its my Aqua poker face and its like nothing happened, but I am distancing myself
I can be frozen for like 8 years also...
but only if you cannot see sense
Posted by Pandora101Yes it has to be in combination with your moon.Posted by AquaNextDoorI think the Mars placement would indicate, how you react (how quicky), your Mercury how you communicate your anger, and your Moon how long it takes you get over it...
Look up mars placement for that info
I just say this from my personal experience: I am an Aqua, but
Mars in Aries - I am really mad about 40 minuts (like seeing red!)
Mercury in Capricorn - I communicate it by giving reasons
Moon in Cancer - then I harbor these feelings, if you hurt me and I am frozen (anything between 1 week or 6 months, when I am not communicating, because I am frozen) or even if I am communicating, its my Aqua poker face and its like nothing happened, but I am distancing myself
I can be frozen for like 8 years also...
but only if you cannot see senseclick to expand
Aries mars and cancer moon... well seems like utruly can hold grudges + u are mad mad for a period of time haha
My mum has a leo mars.. enough said.
I have a sag mars which makes me explode like a vulcano.. for like 5 minutes haha
a sag mars can't be fury longer then a few moments. But My cap moon and cap merc won't forget why some fucker made me explode!
So speaking of showing aggression and true madness whilst fighting. Look up mars.
After and before that its your moon that takes charge
After and before that its your moon that takes charge
Posted by AquaNextDooragree
So speaking of showing aggression and true madness whilst fighting. Look up mars.
After and before that its your moon that takes charge
5 minutes. I cant stay mad. Ever.
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