How much do you actually care?
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by jen1213 on Saturday, February 28, 2009 and has 8 replies.
Aquas, do u guys normally really care about seeing ur bf/gf? Because I havent seen my Aqua for 2 weeks since Im away in college. I came back this weekend for my birthday and my Aqua says he's too sick to go out. We've been plannig to see each other the whole time and he's always saying how much it's killing him to see me and can't wait until I come back. Now that I've come back he's got a cold and has a huge headache and says he cant go out. Wtf is up with that?? I mean I know it sounds mean cause he says he's sick but COME ON! I know that if I was dying from a fever and havent seen him for that long I would still go out. Obviously he doesnt seem to care as much. Or is that how all of u Aquas would be? Think logically that since ur sick, u wouldnt go out. Or would u still go out if u havent seen ur gf for 2 weeks?? I dont know what to do cause I dont think I can wait to see him for another 3 weeks. It's going to kill me. 
If he really doesnt end up going out with me Im going to be p***ed... as mean as that sounds. I just hope he's not going to be mad that Im mad, cause then we're gonna have a huge problem haha.
If he really doesnt end up going out with me Im going to be p***ed... as mean as that sounds. I just hope he's not going to be mad that Im mad, cause then we're gonna have a huge problem haha.
Ugh, Selfish.
Why dont you just go to him and go out later that night with your friends.
Why dont you just go to him and go out later that night with your friends.
I mean, hey if the guy is sick, then he's sick. And if I were you, I wouldn't see his sickness as something to be worried about compared to the other things that men do that can piss you off. If an Aqua doesn't feel good (health wise), they might stay in or if they are still trying to impress someone, they'll go out but usually & ONLY so they won't have to hear the other person's mouth.
If you had've asked him to hang out with you in a more private & more personal environment, the chances of him meeting up with you would've been alot higher. If you hadda asked him to personally hang out with you (just the 2 of you) at your house, his house or somewhere where he doesn't have to pretend to feel good or be perky, he probably would've been all for it. I don't think him chosing to stay in for the night was anything personal against you. And yes, even though Aquas get very attached ONCE they're attached, it's not like we just HAVE to see our partner every single day. We can love & miss you the same when we're not even around you, as long as we know that soon we'll see you again. But if I were you, I wouldn't necessarily show your Aqua how pissed you are b/c he will immediately be turned off by your insensitivity. He will assume that you are being petty, b/c after all, as an Aqua he might really love you but that doesn't mean that his world revolves around you. It's no different than someone who's got a great paying & worth-it job, but yet still has to take those "sick days" off every once in a while. That doesn't mean you don't want the job or that you're bulling your boss. Maybe he really WAS sick & felt that he'd be more productive showing up on a day when he's feeling his best, rather than just being 1/2 of what you're used to & expect from him. I think you're being a little selfish with this whole thing. If this guy kept using the "I'm sick" card then that'd be a whole 'nother story, but if this is the first time this has happened, then just chill out & don't make something out of nothing.
If he's really into you & actually loves you, then he would do anything to please you, but at the same time Aqua men will always make sure their mental & physical health comes before anything else & to an extent, that's not necessarily a bad thing. Just let the man breath. Like I said, if he continues to use the "sick" card every time you guys are supposed to hang out, THEN be pissed.
If you had've asked him to hang out with you in a more private & more personal environment, the chances of him meeting up with you would've been alot higher. If you hadda asked him to personally hang out with you (just the 2 of you) at your house, his house or somewhere where he doesn't have to pretend to feel good or be perky, he probably would've been all for it. I don't think him chosing to stay in for the night was anything personal against you. And yes, even though Aquas get very attached ONCE they're attached, it's not like we just HAVE to see our partner every single day. We can love & miss you the same when we're not even around you, as long as we know that soon we'll see you again. But if I were you, I wouldn't necessarily show your Aqua how pissed you are b/c he will immediately be turned off by your insensitivity. He will assume that you are being petty, b/c after all, as an Aqua he might really love you but that doesn't mean that his world revolves around you. It's no different than someone who's got a great paying & worth-it job, but yet still has to take those "sick days" off every once in a while. That doesn't mean you don't want the job or that you're bulling your boss. Maybe he really WAS sick & felt that he'd be more productive showing up on a day when he's feeling his best, rather than just being 1/2 of what you're used to & expect from him. I think you're being a little selfish with this whole thing. If this guy kept using the "I'm sick" card then that'd be a whole 'nother story, but if this is the first time this has happened, then just chill out & don't make something out of nothing.
If he's really into you & actually loves you, then he would do anything to please you, but at the same time Aqua men will always make sure their mental & physical health comes before anything else & to an extent, that's not necessarily a bad thing. Just let the man breath. Like I said, if he continues to use the "sick" card every time you guys are supposed to hang out, THEN be pissed.
I'm pretty sure that there have been times in your life when someone really need you, really wanted to see you or really wanted you to "show up" but other circumstances prevented you from meeting those expectations. And I'm sure when those things happened, you didn't feel any guilt b/c hey, if the circumstances were more important or more big then those who really love & understand you wouldn't be mad at you for taking care of your own business right? Put yourself in his shoes.
Aquas love to see their partners b/c constant communication, that good ole' connection & reassurance that the relationship is worth having is very important to us. But at the same time, if you start acting as if the world is over just b/c his own circumstances prevent him from seeing you then he's not going to see it the way you see it & his view of you might change, even if just a little bit. One of the biggest turn offs for Aqua men are women that appear to be too clingy or too insensitive or too skeptical. Aqua men themselves always want to be around their partners, but try their hardest not to come off as clingy. If an Aqua can't see his partner, he'll suck it up, swallow his pride & selfishness & move on, especially if he knows that he has plenty of time (the rest of his life) to make it up to you or vice versa. If you're going to be this pissed off about this, then the least you can do is NOT show this side of you to him. I understand how you feel though; you miss him & really wanted to see him but at the same time, understand that if you plan on being with this guy for a long time that there will be plenty more times when he can't always "make the date" or fit your schedule. And if this guy starts to see that you put your own insecurities or own vulnerabilities over his important & realistic circumstances you guys will end up breaking up or falling out over the little stuff. If you're going to be pissed, be pissed b/c he cheated, or b/c he KEEPS having excuses for not being able to see you. Fight over the BIG things, the things that mean life or death; not something this petty
Aquas love to see their partners b/c constant communication, that good ole' connection & reassurance that the relationship is worth having is very important to us. But at the same time, if you start acting as if the world is over just b/c his own circumstances prevent him from seeing you then he's not going to see it the way you see it & his view of you might change, even if just a little bit. One of the biggest turn offs for Aqua men are women that appear to be too clingy or too insensitive or too skeptical. Aqua men themselves always want to be around their partners, but try their hardest not to come off as clingy. If an Aqua can't see his partner, he'll suck it up, swallow his pride & selfishness & move on, especially if he knows that he has plenty of time (the rest of his life) to make it up to you or vice versa. If you're going to be this pissed off about this, then the least you can do is NOT show this side of you to him. I understand how you feel though; you miss him & really wanted to see him but at the same time, understand that if you plan on being with this guy for a long time that there will be plenty more times when he can't always "make the date" or fit your schedule. And if this guy starts to see that you put your own insecurities or own vulnerabilities over his important & realistic circumstances you guys will end up breaking up or falling out over the little stuff. If you're going to be pissed, be pissed b/c he cheated, or b/c he KEEPS having excuses for not being able to see you. Fight over the BIG things, the things that mean life or death; not something this petty
If you really want to see him that badly and you know he is not feeling well, and he is your B/F why not make him some home made chicken noodle soup? Bring over some movies and see if he is feeling up for it. You're showing him that not only are you NOT upset about not being able to spend the time YOU want to spend with him, the way YOU want to, but that you actually CARE about him being sick and you want him to feel better. I'm sure he will appeciate the thought. If he still wants to be left alone, then respect his request.
My venus is in here and I have such a problem with this. I probably like MY SPACE too much, I can go for like a month without seeing the person I'm interested in. As long as I'm talking to them everyday it's like the same to me. Idk.
"Ugh, Selfish.
Why dont you just go to him and go out later that night with your friends."
sounds good to me.
Why dont you just go to him and go out later that night with your friends."
sounds good to me.
Whatever the case may be, if you really want to see him, go to his house & care for him. Bring him some soup. Show him understanding, not attitude & pettiness b/c him being an Aqua, that's what's going to matter to him more in the long run alot more than what places the 2 of you went together.
And true true, it seems that alot of men act so helpless when they're sick & want the world to understand, yet when women are pregnant (9 months of sickness and discomfort) everyone expects for us to even dare to take a rest from our responsibilities. BUT key word is responsibility: he's not obligated to jump when you say jump & he's not obligated to never be able to change his mind, especially when he has a good reason for it. If you're sick,you're sick. What's the point of spending all day analyzing & trying to draw up this big concept of whether or not he might really be sick. We all know what it feels like to be sick & feel helpless & just want to lie around all day & rest or pout, so what's the big deal? Just let him rest. If he REALLY felt bad (but still content in his decision) for not being able to see you that night, he WILL make it up to you WHEN he sees you again. And if he's not planning on making it up to you then it appears that you've got alot more to worry about rather than just him ditching you for one night
And true true, it seems that alot of men act so helpless when they're sick & want the world to understand, yet when women are pregnant (9 months of sickness and discomfort) everyone expects for us to even dare to take a rest from our responsibilities. BUT key word is responsibility: he's not obligated to jump when you say jump & he's not obligated to never be able to change his mind, especially when he has a good reason for it. If you're sick,you're sick. What's the point of spending all day analyzing & trying to draw up this big concept of whether or not he might really be sick. We all know what it feels like to be sick & feel helpless & just want to lie around all day & rest or pout, so what's the big deal? Just let him rest. If he REALLY felt bad (but still content in his decision) for not being able to see you that night, he WILL make it up to you WHEN he sees you again. And if he's not planning on making it up to you then it appears that you've got alot more to worry about rather than just him ditching you for one night
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