I don't get this. Is he not responding to emotional conversations or not talking to you at all?
Sorry for the confusion. He won't respond to conversations that are emotional sounding. He will reply about other things, but keep saying he's tired and busy as an excuse to not deal with the other things that need to resolve (for things to return to a more harmonious/balanced state). :/ with anyone else they seem compassionate/concerned/receptive if they know your upset and usually understand those kind of things are time sensitive. lol Know Aquarius work differently in this regard and prefer the enough space and time so maybe the other person will get over it/forget mentality.
Speaking from my perspective, are you doing the emo stuff everyday. The fact that he is talking to you means he is not angry with you. Probably wants to avoid emo stuff to feel better (could ne because of some event that he may be thinking about.
I do that too when someone close expects me to be more emo than I am. But, that's how we are. Can't change it easily.
Is this a sudden change in his behavior or something that he has always been?
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Oct 02, 2008Comments: 252 · Posts: 2563 · Topics: 68
Ask yourself: Is it fair to me to have to chase after a man that leaves me high and dry when i honestly express how i feel?
He doesnt sound like much of a catch. He sounds like an avoidant asshole that does things to you that make tou emotion, then leaves like a coward when he's held responsible for what he's doing.
That's really not fair. You deserve to be able to express how you feel without feeling like you have to walk on pins and needles to do so. The key word in your post is HURT. He hurt you and expects you to just move on cuz he has without you getting the chance to express how you
What a douche bag.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
I think the cancellation is pretty telling. Why do you want to be with someone who consistently cancels on you?
He doesn't want to talk about feelings and emotions, yet you insist on it, so he's probably avoiding you.
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Oct 08, 2009Comments: 1 · Posts: 6313 · Topics: 313
is this some kind of a joke?....How long are you going to wait around for him to clean up his act for you?....At what point do you decide enough is enough?....If someone cancels on me their mother had better be dead, I hope for their sake that she is because I don't leave the house to tho fucked around unless there's a human sacrifice involved.
Personally as an aquarian I fucking hate having to be sat down to have the "talk" it fucking infuriates me because I know wherever I go its inevitable that someone will eventually sit me down to have a talk about their feelings.....The thing is I relate everything to me I don't know why its just a facet of who I am, so if you come to me with a feeling you have that needs to be resolved my automatic response is "oh fuck what did I do now?" instead of "this crazy bitch is fucked I'm just gonna nodd and say yes to everything she says so I can get laid tonight"
You need to somehow show him that its in his best interest to practice conflict resolution because we can't realise our potential if we run away shit scared from a little or a lot of emotion.
talks are draining and being drained makes us vulnerable and vulnerability is something we avoid at all costs because we like sitting up where the air is crisp. not drowning in our own self pity
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Feb 06, 2014Comments: 4 · Posts: 1030 · Topics: 51
Doesn't matter what his "history" is. It's just enabling this. If he's serious about his feelings, he'd take it seriously even in baby steps. Even if it means just sitting there while you vent, but he isn't trying to "physically" be in the same room with you.
THis isn't a relationship. It's just convenience for him. You cant spend your life with someone who doesn't wanna hear about how you feel.
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Feb 06, 2014Comments: 4 · Posts: 1030 · Topics: 51
YOu can't quote multiple quotes unless you type the coding in yourself.
Aquas avoid emotional drama most of the time, even the most mature and adult aqua will do it. But like I said, he isn't even trying to hear you or comfort you in any sense of hte word.
You will just end up going through a relationship where you can't voice how you feel.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
It's all about presentation with an aqua. Like Huldra said, have to present it where it's in his best interest. Just make it all about you and not point out what he's done wrong. Maybe say, 'I like our relationship and want it to move forward, but to do that, I need to be able to express my thoughts.' Then present it in a direct, rational, nonemotional and nonaccusing way'. Just do it through a text if you have to.
Best case scenario, he responds in a positive way.
Worse case scenario, he doesn't respond, but at least you've had a chance to get your say in.
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Jan 29, 2011Comments: 660 · Posts: 12420 · Topics: 3
He's just a talker and nothing more. evaluate a man's caliber from his actions and not from his words. Period!!