How would an Aqua guy react?

How would an Aqua guy react to a strong, bold straight forward woman, sociable with a nutty sense of humour?

Good Question. I wanna know this too! 😄

Well he is going through the quiet non communicato like he did last time but throwing me a random off beat message back so ive messaged him and said right im facing it head on, putting myself out of this ignored misery and shifting the quo so clear your pants from behind your cushions..

Im not changing to fit in, Im happy staying friends, he doesnt need to act like this, its not like we are anything more than friends, ive made that clear as not to scare him coz i actually dont mind either way, 🙂

GG55,

If you are just friends, why the question? Aqua men are attracted to women who know what they want. They won't be turned off by it. If memory serves me correctly, he stated that you two could be the perfect couple (or something along those lines). Him expressing that to you meant that he can see himself with you on that level. If you felt the same way and felt the same way, you should have told him that. Instead, you communicated to him that you two were just friends, so that is exactly how he is treating you, as a friend. He is not "ignoring" you, he is off doing other things and going on about life. Should you be suprised he is not responding and coming around the way he used to?

Posted by Archimedes
GG55,

If you are just friends, why the question? Aqua men are attracted to women who know what they want. They won't be turned off by it. If memory serves me correctly, he stated that you two could be the perfect couple (or something along those lines). Him expressing that to you meant that he can see himself with you on that level. If you felt the same way and felt the same way, you should have told him that. Instead, you communicated to him that you two were just friends, so that is exactly how he is treating you, as a friend. He is not "ignoring" you, he is off doing other things and going on about life. Should you be suprised he is not responding and coming around the way he used to?

Yes I get what you are saying, what I mean by making it clear was that i said to him, come on stop ignoring me now we are friends and its always nice, we dont ever go longer than 4 days without communicating, lets get back to normal nothing should be different (we were all kissy and affectionate) He knows that I think we click, he knows that I think that too, theres no way he cant think im not into him, im just not heavy and mushy about it, we havent had a SERIOUS chat but we joke around it, but we joke around it alot.. Last year he did the 180 turn on me and then popped up later, he asked me if i had moved on with anyone and i said yes, i said i didnt think he liked me so i just moved on and he responded by telling he did and we stayed in touch since via phone, texts mails, lots of banter and teasing each other.. it seems he is acting the same since meeting up again, so im thinking right if i just take the bull by the horns and see what he is on with, He KNOWS i like him but I value the friendship more and want him to feel comfortable around me, ie: if he is distancing because he is worried about me getting too close and its not something he wants then Im fine, I like him for him, he can be exactly how he wants to be with me, he wont hurt my feelings, just be yourself again, thats what im trying to say 🙂

I think what i meant by my question was more kinda "How would he feel, react if i just said right im coming over because we are changing the status quo of this ignoring thing going on" thats what ive done, i dont know if this is a bit forward and too dominant, I dont want the limbo, i dont want to wait patiently accepting crumbs then him popping up, I dont want to make the mistake of moving on if he is truely thinking that, Im happy to be straight up regardless of the outcome then we both know where we stand, life moves on and we are both happy with no confusion or hard feelings.. im so approachable, he doesnt need to be worried about what he may have on his mind, im cool either way.

Honestly I don't know about all Aquas. Just talking for myself here.

If by strong you mean confident and independent, then I would say I'm drawn to that kind of women. Those qualities are extremely important in any relationship, imho.

Straightforwardness makes everything easier because that way I don't need to read between lines. I tend to take everything at face value because I suck at (and don't care to) digging deeper. Sense of humor is also a good thing because it gets rid of the awkwardness. I'm shy when getting to know people at first so the first thing I do is to make a joke to break the ice. Also I appreciate it when a girl is bold because it get things started. I don't like taking the initiative and I only do it when I notice the girl is too shy to take the first step.

Basically, I think that all of those qualities are awesome. However, confidence and independence will be intimidating to men who don't have enough confidence. I can relate to that because I'm still building my self-confidence. And I decided I would not officially go out with anyone until I'm totally self assured and independent. That's why I stay away from women unless they just want to have fun as friends. If I think things may get "deeper" than that, I will distance myself.

So I think you are right, guccigemini55. You shouldn't change yourself for him, just be yourself. If you want to be his friend, then he will see that and he will be your friend as well. You don't have to be patient and wait for him, though. Keep on with your life and when he re-appears just be casual and have a good chat. Just remember you don't have to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Being an Aqua (generalizing here) he will understand if you don't wanna put up with his issues.

Hope that helps 🙂

Thankyou 🙂...

See I dont mind if he is shy or if he is suffering a little with his confidence, I did say a while back i thought he was shy, he responded like i was a nerd and had got him all wrong lol! Im understanding and a good person for motivating someone to see the good in themselves, believe me im not perfect by far and not afraid to admit it either, Im happy to work on myself, see Im not used to taking the initiative to that extent where Im saying right im coming over! youre not ignoring me! we arent ruining this my not communicating! EEK! im thinking it may be a bit intimidating where it might look bunny boilerish or something O_o I dont want to look like that! but I feel I want to sort it because we get on really nice.. I guess if he doesnt like that approach then i will know and its all over and done with we dont fit and neither one of us have compromised our selves.

He has picked the message up and knows I will go, i dont know if he will text me last minute, but he hasnt responded..

See i dont respond when i dont like someone but usually i let them know theyve annoyed me or where they stand before ignoring them, but because of last time and him saying " no i do like you, i really fancy you" thats thrown me out of sorts and am trying to take it as that and hes just doing whatever he does, especially when the evening went so well and he said the things he said but also i dont want to blow it up in my head (Im mad about him 🙂 lol ) .. he might be just a player but ive not had much experience with players, so i dont know!

.. He isnt shy when we are together, he is really affectionate and we click like weve known each other for a life time, but in between he is either like this or goofy, he will randomly call me and leav e a one word voice mail like call me a "chicken!" because i didnt answer the call, so then i will call him and we will have a battle of wits, but if i call him randomly he wont answer and i will leave a message saying "omg you get on my nerves, just answer!" then I will leave it then he will pop up and say my fb photo is cute or say i didnt know you had a twin sister shes hot lol.. he acts so jerky! but then he loves the retort.

Gucci, oh my god he sounds adorable. Lol @ chicken. Thats the things with aquas, once they go under your skin (no matter how shitty they are as romantic partners), THEY GOT U- they are hard to forget. Chances are u even start to love them quicker compared to any other man u ever met- thats uranus. Even if u dont want them as boyfriends anymore, but ull still wanna keep them as friends or something- cant totally throw an aqua away, impossible. Aqua magic, lol

Lol adorable? ahuh yep! but he is a pain in the ass!!!! the last message was just a random "hello biff 🙂 x" then I responded and nothing, before that it was "keith!" Im like what the!? Lol i dont know who is more the pain in the ass, me or him, him ignoring me or me ignoring him ignoring me lol, i told him Im now ignoring his ass ignoring me and now its a battle of will between us, bet the jerk is just laughing his head off, Im aqua moon so im kinda not phased about it in a way, amused in a messed up kinda way O_o I cant make assumptions about what its about, Knowing my luck hes mentally unhealthy, a narcassist and getting off on frustrating me for an ego polish.. DAYEMN that aqua, He better believe im over their tomorrow, I AINT being ignored if he thinks Im a girl who will sit at home all insecure about it and worrying well he`s wrong lol, like I said on the table even if you reject me.. I CAN DO THIS!! lol lol.. Besides Im aqua moon, I can be friends with people after having a lil involvement, I love people 🙂

Haha that was almost a mini rant wasnt it 😄 ... grr stupid stupid aqua, shhhh! crush on yoooo! 😉

Lol im so not taking him seriously now, i think ive messed up in any case by being too persistent, in a light hearted jokey way, im still being ignored, im leaving it now.. i said i was going over to chill him out why he might be ignoring me, he knew i was travelling over, it was a long way, but he didnt show or answer his phone so i just made some new friends had a drink in the bar and returned home.. if he had liked me even as a friend he would have answered his phone and met me.. the way it goes, i guess he just got a bit carried away and loved up in the moment and didnt really mean anything, ya gotta let it go 🙂

Posted by Metoo
Ah man! Sorry. What a dick move. Who does that?...Oh wait, were on the aqua boards...yep, carry on now...
LOL. Seriously this is not ok. If you let that go you look like a doormat so tell him how that made you feel, and tell him you need to move on, period. If u walk away saying nothing, thats also a dick move.
I wouldnt rant and rave and throw stones, keep it classy but let him go wasting someone else time, you tried, now my dear, you've got a wonderful adventure to go live. So go live it.

He is...
I did...
just like that...
left it cool like pffft whats the deal we are friends, why you changed??.. dick back into his corner and let him know i had an ace night and got drove home in a porche! so it wasnt bad! 😉 (didnt hurt!! ner!)
and reminded him i moved on last time (as in you know i can and will 🙂 )

theres got to be issues not because he should like me, each to their own! but because he should be able to just say either way.. sighhhh, next!!

Do you think I did something to mess up after everything he said, I carried on as we normally do apart from the right im coming over to sort this ignoring me thing out (ive never done anything like that in my life! i dont know what i was thinking O_o).. or do you think he`s a player?.. UHHH! Why am I so interested in this one when theres some lovely guys pursuing me!!! but he is the one who I get POWWW with, although Im not contacting him now and just getting on with it quite fine.

They dont react their almost completely mute detached and distant.