I admit that i got it SO wrong!!!
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Sola on Friday, May 16, 2008 and has 12 replies.
Ok, so for the last 2 months i was living in Paradise with mr.aqua. I pride myself on being a realist and i REALLY thought i was onto something good. So much so that he even travelled home with me to Glasgow recently to meet my family. Anyways, since the start of this week, things have started to go so completely wrong..this might take a while!!
He usually stays at my home 2/3 nights a week and we would normally have dinner together and maybe get a dvd etc. So he?s using my gas/electrics, eating my food, whatever..im happy to accommodate people, and he would take me places by car and buy lunch etc, a fair deal, right?
Now this week, he has suggested eating out twice..and twice has turned up with no cash. The first time no problem, but the second time fuck right off. Also when we are out, he has one of these portable pc?s that are also mobile phone?s (whatever) and he spends most of the time using it or speaking to someone else.
AND THEN this week my central boiler broke..i have had no hot water/heating since Wednesday and he hasnt even ONCE offered his shower. Im going to friends houses to eat and wash etc, and they dont mind of course but its like "why isnt your bf helping you out"?? Good fucking question!!!
He says he loves me TOO MUCH and its obviously a load of crap, ha! I cant even look at him to break it off im so angry. I dont want to be immature, i hate that crap, but i just need to express myself clearly and without the anger that i?m feeling grrr!
He usually stays at my home 2/3 nights a week and we would normally have dinner together and maybe get a dvd etc. So he?s using my gas/electrics, eating my food, whatever..im happy to accommodate people, and he would take me places by car and buy lunch etc, a fair deal, right?
Now this week, he has suggested eating out twice..and twice has turned up with no cash. The first time no problem, but the second time fuck right off. Also when we are out, he has one of these portable pc?s that are also mobile phone?s (whatever) and he spends most of the time using it or speaking to someone else.
AND THEN this week my central boiler broke..i have had no hot water/heating since Wednesday and he hasnt even ONCE offered his shower. Im going to friends houses to eat and wash etc, and they dont mind of course but its like "why isnt your bf helping you out"?? Good fucking question!!!
He says he loves me TOO MUCH and its obviously a load of crap, ha! I cant even look at him to break it off im so angry. I dont want to be immature, i hate that crap, but i just need to express myself clearly and without the anger that i?m feeling grrr!
He sounds like my ex-aqua. Dump him. Or ignore him, even better. But then again that's just me, I like watching the frantic reactions...mwahahaha!
It really sounds like it is time to say "NEXT" and walk away from this Aquarius man.
He is clearly showing you that he is not a man you can depend on in a CRISIS -- and it is fortunate you have learned it now.
Of course you can make excuse for him about how shy the Aquarius man is blah blah. This goes beyond shy. This is failing to come through for your woman in a CRISIS.
I will be thinking of you.
He is clearly showing you that he is not a man you can depend on in a CRISIS -- and it is fortunate you have learned it now.
Of course you can make excuse for him about how shy the Aquarius man is blah blah. This goes beyond shy. This is failing to come through for your woman in a CRISIS.
I will be thinking of you.
lol@sola. talk to him. dont expect him to understand you unless you make it a point to verbally present your thought process. Aquas can be stuck up in their own world and become totally selfish from time to time. its just a matter of few weeks. they will be back normal again. also u gotta remember that u r the boss in the relationship and not him. He is only your lover.
he sounds selfish. before you kick him to the curb, be sure to tell him why. he's not a reliable person to call your boyfriend..he might just see you as a convenience. i would be fumed if my fiance/boyfriend didn't offer to help me out. it's not that you may need the help, but it's the thought knowing he is there for you. him not bringing money is a crock...i don't understand why he did that not just once, but twice. what man in our generation does that, unless they are selfish?
Well up until this point I dont think Ive responded to any of your posts about this guy Sola (for good reason).
You always got to let the play play out in the theater with you.
You always got to let the play play out in the theater with you.
Chill guys, he came a-begging when i called it off ha!!! He knew he was on to a good thing. He can wait until im finished thinking about what i want to do. By the way. he has taken me to hospital, let me use his shower etc all since the original post..he?s not enjoying the "ice-maiden" thang, hehehe.
See...the credits ain't rollin' yet....
So I take it you've now seen his place - and were any of your suspicions correct??
Why then was he so evasive about you going there?? It still doesn't make sense unless you can explain it??
As for Aqua's taking advantage ? yes they are terribly opportunist in their thinking. They'll suck you dry if you allow them ? well the ones I know anyway.
I have an Aqua friend who recently just EXPECTED that I pick her up from her doorstep (about 4km's in the wrong direction) and drop her off at work every morning (granted right across from my own) and then drive past my house by 4km's every afternoon to drop her back on her doorstep ? no compromise by saying I'll meet you at your place.
I was pretty damn pissed about it actually.
As for my boyfriend ? yeah he definitely took advantage of me in the beginning. I eventually put my foot down. Told him to NEVER MISTAKE MY KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS. Dropped him in shit a couple of times so now he repays my kindness/favours with one of his own. I've set a standard that whatever I do for you, you will do back for me. Even in the simple things like I cooked last night, so you cook tonight. I ticked your back last night so please tickle mine tonight. As for money ? it's never really been an issue. We have some unspoken agreement that I pay for all the groceries we buy when together for the house and he pays when we go out. We've never spoken this out, but it's kind of agreed ? the few times I have pulled out money in a restaurant or whatever, he's said no you buy all the groceries at home. So now I don't pull anything out and it's expected that I'll buy the food for the house ? it balances itself out. We recently went away for a long weekend?.I paid for the accommodation before we left and in my mind figured well I'm not paying for anything on holiday ? and then as is the case between us in most things ? without me saying a word he paid for everything on holiday ? food, fuel, entertainment etc. So in terms of favours yes unless I call him on it he'll take complete advantage but in terms of money I've never felt done in no. And I do practically live at his place since compared to my tiny little two bedroom townhouse, he lives in a five bedroom house on a half ha of landscaped land with a pool, jacuzzi and all life's little conveniences ? he earns way more than I do.
Why then was he so evasive about you going there?? It still doesn't make sense unless you can explain it??
As for Aqua's taking advantage ? yes they are terribly opportunist in their thinking. They'll suck you dry if you allow them ? well the ones I know anyway.
I have an Aqua friend who recently just EXPECTED that I pick her up from her doorstep (about 4km's in the wrong direction) and drop her off at work every morning (granted right across from my own) and then drive past my house by 4km's every afternoon to drop her back on her doorstep ? no compromise by saying I'll meet you at your place.
I was pretty damn pissed about it actually.
As for my boyfriend ? yeah he definitely took advantage of me in the beginning. I eventually put my foot down. Told him to NEVER MISTAKE MY KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS. Dropped him in shit a couple of times so now he repays my kindness/favours with one of his own. I've set a standard that whatever I do for you, you will do back for me. Even in the simple things like I cooked last night, so you cook tonight. I ticked your back last night so please tickle mine tonight. As for money ? it's never really been an issue. We have some unspoken agreement that I pay for all the groceries we buy when together for the house and he pays when we go out. We've never spoken this out, but it's kind of agreed ? the few times I have pulled out money in a restaurant or whatever, he's said no you buy all the groceries at home. So now I don't pull anything out and it's expected that I'll buy the food for the house ? it balances itself out. We recently went away for a long weekend?.I paid for the accommodation before we left and in my mind figured well I'm not paying for anything on holiday ? and then as is the case between us in most things ? without me saying a word he paid for everything on holiday ? food, fuel, entertainment etc. So in terms of favours yes unless I call him on it he'll take complete advantage but in terms of money I've never felt done in no. And I do practically live at his place since compared to my tiny little two bedroom townhouse, he lives in a five bedroom house on a half ha of landscaped land with a pool, jacuzzi and all life's little conveniences ? he earns way more than I do.
Yeah, i went to his place and it was a shithole..not that i live in a palace or anything. He lives with a colleague and his father so of course its more convenient to be at my place..its very comfortable and we can be alone ALL of the time. So there..perfection reigns 
They sound horrible. Why do you even bother? That is a rhetorical question by the way.
YES THEY DO DON'T THEY. IT'S A FACT THOUGH...SORRY IF YOU WERE OFFENDED.
"I have an Aqua friend who recently just EXPECTED that I pick her up from her doorstep (about 4km's in the wrong direction) and drop her off at work every morning (granted right across from my own) and then drive past my house by 4km's every afternoon to drop her back on her doorstep ? no compromise by saying I'll meet you at your place."
No one just EXPECTS someone is going to be their personal chauffeur. It sounds like a either a miscommunication or you are complaining or the check is in the mail.
SNAP BACK TO REALITY. THERE ARE DEF PEOPLE WHO JUST EXPECT. I AGREED TO HELP HER OUT BUT WITH NO IDEA THAT I'D HAVE TO DRIVE IN THE WRONG DIRECTION TO PICK HER UP. AFTER FOUR DAYS I SAID SORRY I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE, SHE SAID OK COOL WELL THANKS FOR HELPING. NO OFFERING OF ANY SORT IN RETURN. SO IN MY EXPERIENCE, AN AQUA CAN AND WILL SUCK YOU DRY...IF YOU LET THEM.
YES THEY DO DON'T THEY. IT'S A FACT THOUGH...SORRY IF YOU WERE OFFENDED.
"I have an Aqua friend who recently just EXPECTED that I pick her up from her doorstep (about 4km's in the wrong direction) and drop her off at work every morning (granted right across from my own) and then drive past my house by 4km's every afternoon to drop her back on her doorstep ? no compromise by saying I'll meet you at your place."
No one just EXPECTS someone is going to be their personal chauffeur. It sounds like a either a miscommunication or you are complaining or the check is in the mail.
SNAP BACK TO REALITY. THERE ARE DEF PEOPLE WHO JUST EXPECT. I AGREED TO HELP HER OUT BUT WITH NO IDEA THAT I'D HAVE TO DRIVE IN THE WRONG DIRECTION TO PICK HER UP. AFTER FOUR DAYS I SAID SORRY I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE, SHE SAID OK COOL WELL THANKS FOR HELPING. NO OFFERING OF ANY SORT IN RETURN. SO IN MY EXPERIENCE, AN AQUA CAN AND WILL SUCK YOU DRY...IF YOU LET THEM.
His place was a butterhole?
Okay, admittedly I do not know all the lingo. What exactly is a butterhole? I take it this means your Mr. Aquarius keeps a messy or dirty home?
Okay, admittedly I do not know all the lingo. What exactly is a butterhole? I take it this means your Mr. Aquarius keeps a messy or dirty home?
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