I can't seem to figure him out

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by kchueng10 on Sunday, June 29, 2014 and has 25 replies.
Hi i've been reading up Aqua board for years in this forum I do understand aquas. Probably 70% of the time? But the other 30% ?...Im still trying to figure out, especially towards the matter of the heart. Well Aquas and I are good friends in college. I like him (in a libra way but never emo or stalkish) and lately he started showing his interest (he has a hard time showing feelings, venus in caps)
I notice it started off with body language, it changed from neutral to "im interested in you" then i got a lot of attention from him when we are in a group project (not sure whether he does this unconsciously) but when he sits next to me he would just say my name for no reason....just "sarah" while fumbling with his pen. And he would just started staring at me across the room. Overall he was still friendly to me. But he paid extra attention to me among our classmates.
Well, last night we were out on a dinner in a group of 10 ppl to celebrate our project (we got 1st place) i was siting next to him and well....he ignored me the whole night, prolly say a word or 2 to me...all the time talking to other group of friends and talking to the girl next to me.
I mean he was so different in college and so very cold to me at the restaurant (i noticed he fidgets a lot, he claims he was starving) i tried talking to him but he is quiet. We were fine that day and i was looking forward to hanging out with our classmates too and thought i could get to know him better but I end up being invisible _??__??__??_
so what's up with him?
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It is obvious libra, he likes you. When a guy is stumbling, shaking, quiet, fidgety etc. he likes you he is nervous around you. Us aquas are group people don't be surprised if we cant focus on you for the night doesn't mean he isn't interested, his feelings are developing.
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I'd say he likes you. The pen and "sarah" thing oh my geezus I did that before haha. He was probably waiting to see if you would come up to him. Sometimes, even when being extroverted, we can be shy which can make others feel ignored. He's probably staring off into the stars in his backyard right now wondering why that chick didn't talk to him. I've done it.
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Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
It is obvious libra, he likes you. When a guy is stumbling, shaking, quiet, fidgety etc. he likes you he is nervous around you. Us aquas are group people don't be surprised if we cant focus on you for the night doesn't mean he isn't interested, his feelings are developing.


But its the same group of peeps at school, what makes the restaurant any different? He was the third to arrive for dinner and i was the fourth to arrive, i casually said hi to everyone including him and he said nothing. I observed that he greeted everyone after me... Well my mood went from 100 to 30 immediately after that.
He also take the effort to serve food to some of my girlfriends that was seated on his side, and the girls that was on my side. Well i got served in the end but its like more of a leftover? Everyone got the biggest piece and i got the leftover. Okay my sensitive libra side kick in after that, i didn't consume any of the leftover that he gave me so when the waiter came to clear the plates, he cleared mine too. Then aqua asked, why didn't I ate any of the dish he gave me? I told him i wasn't hungry.
The next dish came and he did serve me first but I didn't touch any of it as well, he didn't ask though... So yeah basically it wasn't what i've expected and i guess i could have hurt him too?
There is one point where he HAD to tell my friend that was seated on my right that one of the waitress is pretty, Twice. He emphasize on the word Pretty TWICE. I didn't react or anything just staring at my cup.
Yeah this isn't a date or anything but i just never thought he would be so different?
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Posted by sassafras
I'd say he likes you. The pen and "sarah" thing oh my geezus I did that before haha. He was probably waiting to see if you would come up to him. Sometimes, even when being extroverted, we can be shy which can make others feel ignored. He's probably staring off into the stars in his backyard right now wondering why that chick didn't talk to him. I've done it.


Well i've talk to him and smile and was friendly at school, and he is the same, but he is so different at the restaurant, its like i wanted to initiate a conversation but the responds are cool n short, then i just drop it n chat with my friend on my right. There's several occasion he responded to the conversation i had with my friend to me and I didn't know he was listening. Cos he was so into "others" and yeah im the wallflower that night.
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He avoided me today at school _??? sigh, he pretended to be in a corner looking at some school memo which obviously i was there.
Well i didn't want things to be awkward between us, everything is was just great before sighhhhhh
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You will have to take the horn by the balls and tell him you like him.
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Attention tactic, seems to be working. Nothing to figure out here.
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Perhaps he was quieter in the restaurant because it was more of a social situation rather the usual atmosphere of school. His comfort zone with you is school and the restaurant is a different environment. There's more pressure in a social atmosphere. Sounds like he was giving you attention int he restaurant, though. Just trying to not make it so obvious maybe, so he consciously gave his attention to the others as well. Kind of like over compensating.
The cap venus is going to make him even more cautious and introverted because he's likely to be second guessing your feelings to him, making him more afraid to take a risk. Cap venus likes to know how you feel and want to be guaranteed that whatever move they make will be recieved positively.
Do you know what his Mars is? That would tell you more how he would flirt and go about pursuing you.
So, I agree with the above. You might have to let him know how you feel. At the minimum invite him for a study date or something causal that's not necessarily a "date" date.
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Posted by aquasnoz
Attention tactic, seems to be working. Nothing to figure out here.


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Posted by truecap
Perhaps he was quieter in the restaurant because it was more of a social situation rather the usual atmosphere of school. His comfort zone with you is school and the restaurant is a different environment. There's more pressure in a social atmosphere. Sounds like he was giving you attention int he restaurant, though. Just trying to not make it so obvious maybe, so he consciously gave his attention to the others as well. Kind of like over compensating.
The cap venus is going to make him even more cautious and introverted because he's likely to be second guessing your feelings to him, making him more afraid to take a risk. Cap venus likes to know how you feel and want to be guaranteed that whatever move they make will be recieved positively.
Do you know what his Mars is? That would tell you more how he would flirt and go about pursuing you.
So, I agree with the above. You might have to let him know how you feel. At the minimum invite him for a study date or something causal that's not necessarily a "date" date.



He has Mars in Virgo. Ok, since I didn't eat any of the food he served me, do u think he feel rejected?
I just got a msg from him asking me to meet him tomorrow to discuss on the presentation i were to do for the group. "Sigh" sounds so business-like. Its a one to one meet up though.
Im too shy to tell him how I feel, the best I could do is "show" him cos i just want to be sure he feels the same way and that im reading his body language and facial expression correctly...
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There is more socializing going on less one on one time at a restaurant, when we are trying to figure someone out or get to know them we will see how they react when we are less 1 on 1. Besides if he were to do that the friends would feel left out we are all about making sure everyone haves fun. You probably did I don't see any harm in it, he just served everyone and he served you last seeing how you were affected he served you first. He's trying to study, analyze you, and see what makes you tick, he is trying to see how you handle little to no attention and spurts of attention then coldness. If he says she is pretty he is looking for a reaction from you. No one says things like that twice unless they are trying to stir up a situation. I'll message you all you need to know for now this should do, check your inbox in about an hour.
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So are you dating him? He doesn't sound too good of a match if he is sleeping around with other women and doing all of these things (massaging shoulders, soft voice) those are red flags.
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Posted by kchueng10
Posted by truecap
Perhaps he was quieter in the restaurant because it was more of a social situation rather the usual atmosphere of school. His comfort zone with you is school and the restaurant is a different environment. There's more pressure in a social atmosphere. Sounds like he was giving you attention int he restaurant, though. Just trying to not make it so obvious maybe, so he consciously gave his attention to the others as well. Kind of like over compensating.
The cap venus is going to make him even more cautious and introverted because he's likely to be second guessing your feelings to him, making him more afraid to take a risk. Cap venus likes to know how you feel and want to be guaranteed that whatever move they make will be recieved positively.
Do you know what his Mars is? That would tell you more how he would flirt and go about pursuing you.
So, I agree with the above. You might have to let him know how you feel. At the minimum invite him for a study date or something causal that's not necessarily a "date" date.



He has Mars in Virgo. Ok, since I didn't eat any of the food he served me, do u think he feel rejected?
I just got a msg from him asking me to meet him tomorrow to discuss on the presentation i were to do for the group. "Sigh" sounds so business-like. Its a one to one meet up though.
Im too shy to tell him how I feel, the best I could do is "show" him cos i just want to be sure he feels the same way and that im reading his body language and facial expression correctly...
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He did what I suggested you do. lol!!
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Posted by truecap
Posted by kchueng10
Posted by truecap
Perhaps he was quieter in the restaurant because it was more of a social situation rather the usual atmosphere of school. His comfort zone with you is school and the restaurant is a different environment. There's more pressure in a social atmosphere. Sounds like he was giving you attention int he restaurant, though. Just trying to not make it so obvious maybe, so he consciously gave his attention to the others as well. Kind of like over compensating.
The cap venus is going to make him even more cautious and introverted because he's likely to be second guessing your feelings to him, making him more afraid to take a risk. Cap venus likes to know how you feel and want to be guaranteed that whatever move they make will be recieved positively.
Do you know what his Mars is? That would tell you more how he would flirt and go about pursuing you.
So, I agree with the above. You might have to let him know how you feel. At the minimum invite him for a study date or something causal that's not necessarily a "date" date.



He has Mars in Virgo. Ok, since I didn't eat any of the food he served me, do u think he feel rejected?
I just got a msg from him asking me to meet him tomorrow to discuss on the presentation i were to do for the group. "Sigh" sounds so business-like. Its a one to one meet up though.
Im too shy to tell him how I feel, the best I could do is "show" him cos i just want to be sure he feels the same way and that im reading his body language and facial expression correctly...


He did what I suggested you do. lol!!

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We met at the library but it was strictly business! U know the usual exchange of ideas, discussion etc. the atmosphere is a wee bit awkward on my part i didnt make any eye contact just staring at my and his laptop most of the time.
But there was one occasion where when we almost wrap up everything, i look at the chart which was in his laptop, he asked so its okay right? He was looking at me And I answered yeah its good while looking at his pc the whole time. He asked me again, it's okay, right? Still looking at me and I'm still looking at his screen and just said yes sure, it's o
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LivingOnPorpoise
I've been married to him for 14 years. Lived together 17. I've never caught him cheating. Just full on flirting. We are not a good match as I need love and affection and someone who talks.


What makes both of you get together in the first place? And drag on for 17 years?
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Oh I knew an aqua man like this but he is happily married to a scorp he must get it out his system as he says it's harmless. Glad you roped him in, maybe not but hey you managed to be married for so long you have him in your space and there is something special about you. I'm only seeing it from the outside in, you know him better than I, if you want those things you have to give them out. So they come back 10 folds. Show him the basics by leading in example so he may catch on. There's a way to say things to men how about: "I just love movies, the experience of being in a theatre is so rewarding." "Restaurants have such good vibes: the food, the people, and socializing." "You know I've never been to an art museum one of these days I would like to be accompanied there if time permits."
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Try it you'd be surprised Winking
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Posted by truecap
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Posted by truecap
Perhaps he was quieter in the restaurant because it was more of a social situation rather the usual atmosphere of school. His comfort zone with you is school and the restaurant is a different environment. There's more pressure in a social atmosphere. Sounds like he was giving you attention int he restaurant, though. Just trying to not make it so obvious maybe, so he consciously gave his attention to the others as well. Kind of like over compensating.
The cap venus is going to make him even more cautious and introverted because he's likely to be second guessing your feelings to him, making him more afraid to take a risk. Cap venus likes to know how you feel and want to be guaranteed that whatever move they make will be recieved positively.
Do you know what his Mars is? That would tell you more how he would flirt and go about pursuing you.
So, I agree with the above. You might have to let him know how you feel. At the minimum invite him for a study date or something causal that's not necessarily a "date" date.



He has Mars in Virgo. Ok, since I didn't eat any of the food he served me, do u think he feel rejected?
I just got a msg from him asking me to meet him tomorrow to discuss on the presentation i were to do for the group. "Sigh" sounds so business-like. Its a one to one meet up though.
Im too shy to tell him how I feel, the best I could do is "show" him cos i just want to be sure he feels the same way and that im reading his body language and facial expression correctly...


He did what I suggested you do. lol!!




We met at the library but it was strictly business! U know the usual exchange of ideas, discussion etc. the atmosphere is a wee bit awkward on my part i didnt make any eye contact just staring at my and his laptop most of the time.
But there was one occasion where when we almost wrap up everything, i look at the chart which was in his laptop, he asked so its okay right? He was looking at me And I answered yeah its good while looking at his pc the whole time. He asked me again, it's o
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You're going to have to step up and at least look at him. smile
How can you flirt without looking at him.
How can you read his facial expressions if you don't look into his eyes. Aquas give away a lot with their eyes. That's how you can tell if he likes you is by the look in his eyes.
Aquas also like people who are direct. I don't mean come on strong, but you'll probably have to make the first move - it gives the green light. Sometimes all they need to move forward is a green light.
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Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
There's a way to say things to men how about: "I just love movies, the experience of being in a theatre is so rewarding." "Restaurants have such good vibes: the food, the people, and socializing." "You know I've never been to an art museum one of these days I would like to be accompanied there if time permits."


Agree. It sets it up for him to easily ask you out with natural flow of the conversation.
This is one type of those green lights I was talking about.
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Posted by truecap
You're going to have to step up and at least look at him. smile
How can you flirt without looking at him.
How can you read his facial expressions if you don't look into his eyes. Aquas give away a lot with their eyes. That's how you can tell if he likes you is by the look in his eyes.
Aquas also like people who are direct. I don't mean come on strong, but you'll probably have to make the first move - it gives the green light. Sometimes all they need to move forward is a green light.



Green light, green light...ok got it! I shall try my best to have courage and step up. Oh boy _???_???_???
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@porpoise.
My aqua does the same thing. In terms of her food situation, my aqua alwasy invites me last. He asks everyone to go hang RIGHT in front of me but won't ask me if I want to go and then last possible minute he asks me. Of course by then I have plans already but it's fucking annoying. But it reminded me of her food situation. Why do they do that...or why do they make plans with everyone right in front of you and don't include you until later or say "Why didn't you go" sometimes I just wanna yell at him and say "CAUSE YOU DIDN"T INVITE ME YOU DUMB BASTARD" lol.
@Kcheung my aqua friend does the same thing. He talks to everyone around me but me and then the next day its all me. I hope someone in this thread answers that cause I wanna know.
Someone answer her cause I wanna know too.
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We need answers in this 4 yrs old post.
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