I don't know what to think of my aqua anymore

For more info: read my.previous thread about the aqua.

We're in a relationship for about a year and a half. Living together for 9 months I think? So it all moved pretty fast. We even got a dog together, who just turned 1.

I've been very happy in this relationship for the most part, last months have been with highs and lows. If you read my previous thread you'll notice how I "complain" about how fast he was moving in the beginning, being very affectionate, saying I love you when I was just getting to know him etc...
Well I miss those days, what he did too much in the beginning, he doesn't enough now..

Maybe I sound like a whiny and needy attention whore, but it makes me feel so sad when he's acting distant. The last few weeks have been extremely difficult. He's even said he had doubts about us because we fought a lot lately but he didn't want to give up, just see and let time tell. But ever since there's this distance, and I don't know how to fix it ž

Problem is when I want to talk about this or other problems/feelings, he shuts down. He's extremely closed about his feelings. Or when we "argue" which I wouldn't even call arguing, just discussing things. What couples do, not everything can be about rainbows and unicorns! He'll just roll his eyes, ignore me (which I hate, and he knows this!)

Meh maybe I just needed to vent. I don't know. Maybe I'm too demanding. And I wish I could act normal when he's so distant, but I can't, I start acting distant myself, which he senses, so he gets even more distant.... It's a goddamn circle!

I just hope my gutt feeling wasn't right when we started dating. I remember saying. A guy who jumps into a relationship like that, saying I love you that fast. Sounds like a fickle one to me, one who'll run when the novelty wears off.

I'm glad that bitch of a venus retrograde is finally (almost?) over £

Sorry for the typos and bad English but I'm on my phone and can't type properly..

I really want to make this work,.and I hope we can get past this ž

His most serious relationship was with a sag, he was with her for 6.years I think. Married 1 year.. She cheated on him, twice. First time he forgave her, second time she got pregnant. Of course he thought it was his at first. They told everyone, and then later she told him it wasn't his baby. He then kicked her out.

Relationships after that all short, I'm the longest I think and the only one he's lived with since the sag.

Just some background info.

Just curious, how often do you go out of the way and bring a smile to his face? When was the last time you really surprised him with something kinky or made him feel desired? At least to you?
Rolling eyes...I'm guilty of this too. But just a thought...are you repeating the same things/complaints?
I know you will get many varied opinions on the jumping right in. There's a similar that on that. But I'd do that. I'd prefer to see it all in its raw form. The sooner the better. No need to wait until the fronts fall off and then find things you can't stand. Then you wasted much time needlessly. In my opinion.
Maybe instead of thinking on the dreamy days of square one...why not try to liven things up to where square one seems like child's play?

So you told him to put the brakes on, and now you're upset that he put the brakes on? Go figure....

Your gut feeling is right. You were probably a rebound (sad to say). I'd start looking for a way out.

A rebound after 4 years? Hmhm sure. He dated a woman right after his ex, lasted about a year, sounds more like a rebound than I am. And a few shorter relationships after that.

It happens

Or it could be that he really loves her and is hurt by her telling him he's been moving too fast the whole time.

This scenario is so frustrating

What's his venus again?

I can only go from my experience. My first love was a Sag, we also dated for 6 years. It's been about a decade after the whole ordeal and there's a part of me that hasn't fully heal yet. Given my own experiences growing up it's made me construct a very tough, tall and almost impenetrable wall. At times I wish I could just break it all down but it''s like this facade that I've built for myself to keep myself sane, as thick as it is it feels like it would crumble like a a veneer.

I don't know if it's my moon/venus/mars conjunct in pisces (not that I should blame my placements) but I feel like the more negativity I try to express the more it rubs off, the more I try to avoid that the more it manifests and it has pushed many of the ones closest to me away. When I feel someone getting really close to me I freak out and I don't know why knowing that something built up for 6 years can all disappear within a moments notice.

Again, I don't know if your aqua's exactly like me, some people on this forum will tell you to ditch him, I'm just going to say follow whatever your heart desires, even if it turns out to be the worse choice. As much as my placements make me fear rejection, there's also the part that fears not knowing what could be and trying my best even at the cost of losing everything.