I got MAJOR Aqua insight yesterday and...it wasn't pretty

I spoke with my Aqua "friend" yesterday for about an hour, and it was the longest we had spoken in probably a month in a half. Yet I got more insight (and confirmation) into Aqua behavior in that one hour than I have in the four years I've known him. EVERYTHING I've read about Aquas was put on full/open display during that conversation, and...well, it wasn't pretty, in the sense that it completely shut off any romantic feelings I had for this man and put us back in the friend zone. PLEASE tell me if any of this sounds familiar/typical:

He completely made up an outright lie about a conversation we never had to justify him "going dark" on me a couple of weeks later...for a month.
I told him some important/great news about something I achieved, and he proceeded to give me lengthy unsolicited (and unwanted) advice about how I should go about my business with the project to succeed with it. It sounded like he just wanted to make himself sound wise.
He interrupted me constantly.
He bragged about how he could make people believe he knew a TON about certain subjects when, in fact, he's not really an expert on anything. I think he actually gets off on fooling other people into believing he knows WAY more than he does by BSing his way through life. And he seems proud of this. VERY arrogant-sounding.
He actually said something almost verbatim off an Aqua man description on the web when he said "emotions don't make sense."
When we talked about getting together again a couple of months ago, he was initially all for it. First he said he'd come to me. He also said he was open to me coming to him. Then he said it would be bad because his place is too inaccessible for me (I'm in a power wheelchair, and that's true, but I was okay with staying in a hotel). Yesterday he finally said that he had been sleeping alone for so long (and liked it, 45 and never married) and liked his stuff "just so," which translated to ultimately he didn't want ANY woman in his space.
He said in the initial stages of being with a woman, he wants no orders or "instructions." But when he does get to that point (which I imagine means when he's ready to commit), he wants ALL the instructions.
I asked him how he tangibly shows people he cares about them, and he spoke for 10 minutes without ever answering the question.
MASSIVE trust issues. We've been good friends for four years, and yesterday he told me I was one of his closest friends. I asked him this morning for his address (he recently moved) so I could mail him a Christmas card. Instead of his home address, he gave me his business PO box, lol.

I'm sure I can remember more, but does this all sound familiar to you all, lol? 🙂 Of all those things, as a Libra the one that put the final nail in the coffin was the part about liking how he made people believe he knows more than he really does. I'm a subject matter expert for a living so it's my job to know more than most people about a few things, but I don't get off on it. Ugh.

Posted by Spooky926
He interrupted me constantly.
He bragged about how he could make people believe he knew a TON about certain subjects when, in fact, he's not really an expert on anything. I think he actually gets off on fooling other people into believing he knows WAY more than he does by BSing his way through life. And he seems proud of this. VERY arrogant-sounding.


..... Of all those things, as a Libra the one that put the final nail in the coffin was the part about liking how he made people believe he knows more than he really does. I'm a subject matter expert for a living so it's my job to know more than most people about a few things, but I don't get off on it. Ugh.

Worked with one as you describe, Didn't appreciate me calling him out directly on it.
Was all "you have to be logical and unemotional" until my call out, and the hissy fit was fun to watch.
Tried to pull some crap behind the scenes until the facts pretty much nailed him.

The only thing my Aqua DOESN'T do from the conversation you had with your friend is the "know-it-all" attitude. Mine will interrupt, talk over me, or continue with HIS train of thought even if my input is on a completely different track. But he won't aoeak authoritatively on something unless he's pretty confident in what he's saying (cap merc). I'm the one who can BS my way out of a paper bag, lol.

Everything else though? You bet. We keep separate bedrooms and a lot of things we do we keep separate.

Will NOT take suggestions, unless he's tried every other way and failed. Even then he'll use the suggestion and think it was his idea all along.

Pretty much the best relationship this guy can have is if his "partner" just leaves him alone and loves him for who he is. It takes a whole hell of a lot of patience and independence to feel comfortable with that.

Lol what's up with all these Aqua men threads. They been getting it off lately huh, hubba hubba

Posted by SassyKiwi
Lol what's up with all these Aqua men threads. They been getting it off lately huh, hubba hubba

Yeah, Aquas (men) can be tough to figure out. I think they like it like that. 😄

Seems like a rash of ladies getting confused lately.

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Posted by SassyKiwi
Lol what's up with all these Aqua men threads. They been getting it off lately huh, hubba hubba

Yeah, Aquas (men) can be tough to figure out. I think they like it like that. 😄

Seems like a rash of ladies getting confused lately.

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They're the new scorpios lol.

It's just an observation, but I've noticed Aquarius women don't really go for Aquarius men. Guess they don't like a taste of their own medicine 😆

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by sultrykitty

Posted by SassyKiwi
Lol what's up with all these Aqua men threads. They been getting it off lately huh, hubba hubba

Yeah, Aquas (men) can be tough to figure out. I think they like it like that. 😄

Seems like a rash of ladies getting confused lately.

They're the new scorpios lol.

It's just an observation, but I've noticed Aquarius women don't really go for Aquarius men. Guess they don't like a taste of their own medicine 😆

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I think Aqua women are easier to understand, from another woman's POV. I think they're feminine, mysterious, and just evasive enough that it drives guys crazy.

Those same qualities aren't as attractive (long term) on a man. And you don't see it until you've already invested feelings into him. The aloofnes makes it seem like there's something deep that you'll find if you dig deep enough. What you usually find (of you're able to dig) is a fairly naive little kid in a grown man's body. But a really smart one too who won't put up with what a lot of women do in relationships.. Most women aren't that keen to deal with that.

I find that often, I'm the one playing the "masculine" role and he's the moody, PMS' y one.

But his true qualities are so loveable it's hard not to want to just forgive it all and let him take you on his adventures with him.

I think he's aware that air signs absorb information like a sponge, from my immediate experience a lot of air signs to actually verbally vomit what they read or hear or see which in turn makes them seem like they know more about the subject. So hey maybe he's self aware... you should put him down.

There's lots of side to us, I'd stay clear of this one given your recounts of what's happened so far, save yourself the hassle.

Also, trust issues can spawn in any sign.

If I were to view this logically as an aquarius I would say that's probably a calculated thing to say to keep you at ease. I can also relate to the saying that emotions don't make sense because... really... when does it ever make sense to anyone?

I may verbally admit to emotions not making sense but I'm still a very emotional person and guided by it.

Just fyi I guess if you want some clarification. Definitely sounds like massive trust issues or he's gone so long without affection that he's forgotten how to give it *shrugs*. I almost feel sorry for him but unfortunately he put himself in that position.