I made a huge mistake.

Posted by PillowFortBuilder
Thanks for the message. I'm sure she's accepting but a tad if not a lot freaked out. Reading the messages I realized responses all stemmed from "I'm not ready for a relationship". No where does she state that she doesn't see me that way. I guess this is an instance where chemistry is there but timing sucks.

I guess the hardest part about this for me and maybe her is that we won't have anyone to vent go about this. So here am am on dxpnet lol.

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Posted by PillowFortBuilder
Thanks for the message. I'm sure she's accepting but a tad if not a lot freaked out. Reading the messages I realized responses all stemmed from "I'm not ready for a relationship". No where does she state that she doesn't see me that way. I guess this is an instance where chemistry is there but timing sucks.

I guess the hardest part about this for me and maybe her is that we won't have anyone to vent go about this. So here am am on dxpnet lol.

So you guys really are best friends who tell each other everything

Makes sense that one would fall in love only time will tell if the other one with deep fears about emotional affairs of the heart will fall

As a very intelligent lady told me @aquamermaid

"Relationships can never be rushed"

Vent here just don't go blabbing off to her it will make it worse

It would probably help if you told the world the rest of her chart
Moon sign etc

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Posted by PillowFortBuilder
So here is what I wrote for her but haven't sent it.

I understand and I can't force anything on you. I've been up since 7 thinking about this and I have to admit this and remind myself but I'm gonna give up. Not on you as a person but us. I've acted like am idiot and I can't do that anymore. I'm realizing that it's bothering you.

So I'm gonna stop feeling this way. I'm going to let go and move on. I'm going to respect your wishes cause I'm reminding myself this isn't about just me but about me as a person and you as person.

I know you might think this is too quick but to me it's cause I am able to see something more important between us and it's our friendship. I hope you understand what it means to me.

So if you are able to not push me away I'll promise not to pull you in closer. Let's just go back to where we were before and just be happy with where things were at.

Can we just take a couple days break to clear our heads and the go back to running, joking, shooting, eating, and this?
Insert funny image we both always laugh at.

Posted by Tinxy
If you send that you might as well bend over and kiss your own arse

Seriously just wait give her space to think

Posted by Tinxy
Silence is golden right now
Please

Posted by nasha82
listern to what an AQUA girl is telling you if she dont feel the same then we dont feel the same and NEVER will fullstop, most people do the opposite of we say which is a big NO No No, we are so misunderstood and think that we can be pushed and forced into liking someone if we like someone then we like them but if we dont dont like someone then im sorry but we never change our minds, there will be a BIG reason behind it, being pushy is like being desperate a HUGE turn off, so listern to what she says and DONT do the opposite unless you want to push her onto someone else, body language is a big factor that counts as communication, i will give you an example as to what happens to me, people try and get in my personal space and because i dont move away or tell them to back away they think i like them which is not the case im too polite to tell people to get the fuck away from me and this is something i need to learn to do BIG TIME, so i quote listern to what she says if she dont feel the same then accept it and leave her the fuck alone simple

Posted by AquaNextDoor
Oh please dont send her that txt. Its genuine though but never say "I'll stop feeling that way' if you have feelings for her. Her cap venus needs consistency (I have a cap v myself + cap moon). You have to prove that ur feelings arent flaky especially if she comes out if a longterm relationship. She needs it either white or black. With venus in cap never ever say A one day and B the next - that way she'll never trust ur stability of ur emotions and thats what we need. Consistency.

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Posted by nasha82
listern to what an AQUA girl is telling you if she dont feel the same then we dont feel the same and NEVER will fullstop, most people do the opposite of we say which is a big NO No No, we are so misunderstood and think that we can be pushed and forced into liking someone if we like someone then we like them but if we dont dont like someone then im sorry but we never change our minds, there will be a BIG reason behind it, being pushy is like being desperate a HUGE turn off, so listern to what she says and DONT do the opposite unless you want to push her onto someone else, body language is a big factor that counts as communication, i will give you an example as to what happens to me, people try and get in my personal space and because i dont move away or tell them to back away they think i like them which is not the case im too polite to tell people to get the fuck away from me and this is something i need to learn to do BIG TIME, so i quote listern to what she says if she dont feel the same then accept it and leave her the fuck alone simple

To your point, she's never said she didn't like me. Her only response is I'm not ready for a relationship. She's told a mutual friend that once she's ready she could see us together but she needs to deal with her own stuff.
This is her own words.

I'm not looking for anything now and I do not know how I will feel months from now. Who would know how they would feel months from now. I feel like I need to stay away from you for a while because it's not easy for you to remain friends with me. You want more right now. I don't. No one can say how they will feel weeks or months from now.

Is this her being nice or honest?

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Posted by Tinxy
Silence is golden right now
Please

This.


I know you're aching to do some damage control, but muster that

courage, quit allowing your Moon to further terrorize your Sun, and

just let it be for a moment.

For your sake, as well... there are some things I just KNOW I have

to sleep on before I can view them rationally.

And she has a lovely Taurus moon, so just hang tight -- it's going

to work out the way it should.

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Posted by nasha82
listern to what an AQUA girl is telling you if she dont feel the same then we dont feel the same and NEVER will fullstop, most people do the opposite of we say which is a big NO No No, we are so misunderstood and think that we can be pushed and forced into liking someone if we like someone then we like them but if we dont dont like someone then im sorry but we never change our minds, there will be a BIG reason behind it, being pushy is like being desperate a HUGE turn off, so listern to what she says and DONT do the opposite unless you want to push her onto someone else, body language is a big factor that counts as communication, i will give you an example as to what happens to me, people try and get in my personal space and because i dont move away or tell them to back away they think i like them which is not the case im too polite to tell people to get the fuck away from me and this is something i need to learn to do BIG TIME, so i quote listern to what she says if she dont feel the same then accept it and leave her the fuck alone simple

To your point, she's never said she didn't like me. Her only response is I'm not ready for a relationship. She's told a mutual friend that once she's ready she could see us together but she needs to deal with her own stuff.
This is her own words.

I'm not looking for anything now and I do not know how I will feel months from now. Who would know how they would feel months from now. I feel like I need to stay away from you for a while because it's not easy for you to remain friends with me. You want more right now. I don't. No one can say how they will feel weeks or months from now.

Is this her being nice or honest?

Look I'm trying to help you

Don't worry

But if you say you will stop feeling this way she's gonna see the shit hit the fan

Bc it's bullshit and you know it how the hell can ya switch shit off like that , see will see you as a lying bullshitter

An ya don't want that do you ?

Keep your mouth shut and your fingers only typing in dxp till this madness feeling passes

Don't send nothing right now.... Ok

Calm the fk down I know it's hard mate I'm mental too



You'll be ok and she will let you know when she's ready to talk ok

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Posted by nasha82
listern to what an AQUA girl is telling you if she dont feel the same then we dont feel the same and NEVER will fullstop, most people do the opposite of we say which is a big NO No No, we are so misunderstood and think that we can be pushed and forced into liking someone if we like someone then we like them but if we dont dont like someone then im sorry but we never change our minds, there will be a BIG reason behind it, being pushy is like being desperate a HUGE turn off, so listern to what she says and DONT do the opposite unless you want to push her onto someone else, body language is a big factor that counts as communication, i will give you an example as to what happens to me, people try and get in my personal space and because i dont move away or tell them to back away they think i like them which is not the case im too polite to tell people to get the fuck away from me and this is something i need to learn to do BIG TIME, so i quote listern to what she says if she dont feel the same then accept it and leave her the fuck alone simple

To your point, she's never said she didn't like me. Her only response is I'm not ready for a relationship. She's told a mutual friend that once she's ready she could see us together but she needs to deal with her own stuff.
This is her own words.

I'm not looking for anything now and I do not know how I will feel months from now. Who would know how they would feel months from now. I feel like I need to stay away from you for a while because it's not easy for you to remain friends with me. You want more right now. I don't. No one can say how they will feel weeks or months from now.

Is this her being nice or honest?

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Posted by PillowFortBuilder
The most confusing part for me is that she is the type of person to say something once and never mention it again. She admitted she had feelings for me a few months ago but we stopped talking about it. So it's been on my mind for a while and I'm just hating this stupid waiting stage. Either move forward or just tell me it'll never happen. But I realize that it isn't about only me so I'm stuck.

Posted by PillowFortBuilder
She's gone cray cray a few times on me lol. We text everyday day and she initiates half the time. I didn't respond to her in a couple hours and she freaked out on me asking why I was being weird. Also after we talked about our feelings we had plans to go out and I asked to reschedule that specific activity and she told me we should stop hanging out and stop this back and forth. I explained that I was just wanting to do something different. But don't get me started on my cray cray moments.

Posted by PillowFortBuilder
@Tinxy too late I sent it to her.... Jk. Thanks for the advice though. IVery never used silence before so this will be a learning experience forme.

Posted by sultrykitty
I know this is generally advise on how to work with water signs, but you need to learn how to go with the flow here.

It has been the hardest yet most beneficial thing I've had to learn with my Aqua. Don't try to steer the relationship where you want it to go. If you do, it will backfire. If you have a good enough connection, you'll be able to bring it back around but then the same issue of wanting to "drive" the relationship will keep coming back to haunt you.

I don't know if you remember, but I am Leo sun/Cap moon and my man is Aqua sun/Taurus moon. This dynamic that you are seeing was very much like what I experienced.

Just work on letting the need to "lock it down" go. She cares for you as much as she feels comfortable with right now. Enjoy that, because it means that she is willing to consider more....sometime later. That could mean years. Aqua time is very different from Leo time, and learning to be patient beyond what you think is your limit is going to make or break this for you.

TLDR; Go with the flow and be patient. You won't regret it.

Posted by Koniucha
Just wanted to say this is so sweet!

I hope it works out for you, OP

Posted by PillowFortBuilder
She just texted me saying she's willing to be friends if it isn't too hard for me. I'm gonna ask for a little space to clear my head and to back to where we were.

Posted by PillowFortBuilder
Thanks. I do assume I'm special to her in some way cause she's the same to me, even from a platonic standpoint.


Honestly it's been a while since we haven't talked all day. So I'm just using this time to recollect myself and deal with the hangover. i guess the ball is in my court so I'm gonna take a couple days to with the free time I have now.

Posted by truecap
I've learned tolerance and still learning how to be less judgmental from my aqua.

Posted by truecap
I wish you hadn't sent her that message. It kind of seals the fate.

I was going to suggest that you wait. It's good you got your feelings out there, nothing wrong with that, but not to say anything else. She needed time to process. Even if she continued on with you like before and never said anything else about it, she'd still be processing it in her mind. That's where patience come in with an aqua. You have to be patient and not push them for answers. They have to come around in their own time. Then, miraculously, it seems to become their idea to move things forward.

About a year ago, I asked my guy to start thinking about plans for our future as a couple. That's all I said. Then I never mentioned it again. The last couple of months he's asking me which house I'd prefer to live in and we had an honest conversation about that. I didn't bring it up anymore and now, he's making comments like "if we get married" and is talking about how we can remodel my house to make room for all his stuff and both our boys. See, patience. Big time patience...but now he's the one that's bringing up the topic.

Posted by truecap
Oh, good! I thought you said you did. My bad.

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Posted by PillowFortBuilder
@AquaNextDoor
So something I said last night to her might have rubbed her the wrong way. Long story short a girl expressed interest in me and I kinda flirted but walked away. She asked why I basically said, I suck at gambling except when I bet on you (reference to a joke we made in a casino). So I'm holding out betting on you and not trying to date anyone else now.

Would that appeal to the cap venus or freak out the aqa sun?

I'm Cap sun with Aqua Venus and I'd view that as trying too hard. Are you trying to make me jealous? I'd wonder what emotion you were trying to elicit.

AND hit the nail on the head with the consistency thing, btw. Not to mention her Scorp Mars. Ride or die doesn't mix well with wishy washy.

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Posted by PillowFortBuilder
I'm a cap moon as well.... It's hard to say nice stuff to strangers for me so I appreciate it.

I was referring to your Cap moon only

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