I think I may be Honest. Advice on Aquarians.

I have an aunt who believes in astrology and she was talking about how I'm "such an Aquarian" ect., we got to the topic of relationships and she said something funny that I a moment later mulled over.

"Actually, I'd say the last sign you'd want to fall in love with is an Aquarius."

Being one, I think it's sort of true.

It's not to say we don't have redeeming qualities but I think our problem, which is both a blessing and a curse is our compasity for personal apathy.

Relationships that don't work out are lessons to learn from. Learn how to and how to not be treated/ treat others. If it sucked we're more than likely intelligent enough to not return. I noticed more emotional signs, like Cancers tend to dwell in past relationships (plutonic and other wise) and stew in the instances where they've been wronged and breed a self-destructive bitterness and so on.

I not too long ago broke up with the boy I loved, a Leo (amazing example of a human being!). I didn't actually want to do it, so I began to instagate fights and nit pick and goad him into doing it. He did. I was guilt free. Ignored his phone calls and letters for the month it took for him to not bother doing either and all was well again. I didn't think it was cruel. I figured it'd have hurt more if I picked up and listened to his pleading and gave him the glimmer of hope of reuniting when I knew I really wasn't interested anymore. That just isn't fair to either party. So I severed it clean. I knew it'd hurt, but I figured the way I did it was less messier and in the long run less painless. We talk and get on well now, no hard feelings.

But even prior to this I'll be intensely interested in a person, be all day dreams and grins and once I have them figured out I lose my intensity instantly. I'm not rude or curt or even give them the cold shoulder, but it's aparent I'm sure that I lost interest.

It's NEVER like this with friends, but boyfriends and girlfriends I see as sorta throw away relationships. There is something impure about them, love tainted with desire or even half the time it's just lust.

I think we believe other people can detach themselves just as easily, I don't think it's ever our intent to really wound anyone. I really can not recall an instance in my life where I acted with malice (fist fights are not included in this.)

I know I get frustrated because I will tell someone point blank what I want, for instance, "friends with benefits." No attachment, no strings, just a frequented partner for the night. When I say that I mean it. When my partners agree to it, they don't. They get clingy, and possessive and jealous, when I said POINT BLANK what it is I wanted and if they were capable of complying.

If you know you're a clingy person, and you know you can not handle such an arrangement, please be honest and say "no" instead of schemeing to somehow trap us detached people in an actual relationship later on. Or if you thought you could handle and you're begining to feel that you can't, be honest enough to yourself (because you will be setting yourself up for dissappointment) and us (because that is feircely annoying) to tell us "I think I'm begining to have feelings for you, we should end this before it esclades."

I and Aquarians I think it general, bore very easily with none plutonic relationships. They're more like tethers than "pillars of support." We have friends for the latter.

Godspeed and Merry Christmas.

Oh yeah, that how deal with how I broke up with the Leo is a VERY complicated story and contradictory to the honesty I was pleading for in here, but it makes sense if you know the situtation.. and yeah.. I will not type all of it out.. you can feel free to ask privately.

"Actually, I'd say the last sign you'd want to fall in love with is an Aquarius."

Amen to that. She's telling the truth!!!! *cries in a dark corner*


lol yeah, so very true. ^_^;

I think your aunt is right on the money! It would be absolutely fascinating to watch two aquas pair up, but I can't imagine putting up with someone as weird and detached as myself. (Talk about a dose of your own medicine - yow!) I have a male Aqua family friend who I love talking to, but I cannot stand the way he treats his wife.

I am not a typical aqua in the realm of romantic relationships. I would tend more towards the capricorn approach to love matters. It kinda sucks in some ways in that I'd prefer if I was perhaps a bit more into myself snd my own space like they say aquas are supposed to be. I mean I am but I like to feel secure in where things lie with my guy before I feel free to be wacky! 🙂

He he sorry! Pressed Return one too many times....😛

question:

since you all agreed here that sometimes you guys could be a bit of handful in relationships...what would be the best advice you would give to a friend who is dating an aqua girl, if you would really care for him?

is patience and careful moves the way to survive that relationship?

is an open heart, patience, and low expectations?

i mean...how can someone be open to love an aquarian girl and yet have to be cautious...because i feel like mine wants me to be completely in love with her but at the same time she doesn't...

thoughts?

You need to perhaps be a bit firmer in the boundaries you think should be set. If she senses you are willing to bend and cater to her every whim then she'll really take you for a ride and probably won't respect you for it either.

Patience and sincerity are good qualities to have for me anyway and I'm an aqua lady but I also like man who is firm and I have a fair idea of what he will and will not put up with.

i agree with mellowdee...vll, you need to be more firm with your aqua this time around. i don't know you in real life, but on here you come across as a very genuine, nice guy...probably too nice!!!
when my aqua and i got back together i did NOT run back into his arms and i made it clear to him that i wanted to just "hang out" and get to know one another better for a while...i did not want to jump back into the relationship. i also made it clear to him that i am a human being, not a rubber band...and that he can not continue to come and go as he pleases and expect me to be there and bounce right back. i told him what he had done to me was not fair, and that if he decides to leave me again...i will not be there for him when he comes back b/c i cannnot put myself through that again.
so, you must not be so available, and do not cater to her so much...be intimate with her, but also independent in your ways...

lol just think of the way that you want to be treated by someone who loves you, VLL
then do it for her. ^_~


lol

taking notes...

thank you!

"For an aqua to be successful in a relationship, they need a partner who cares for them deeply enough to even try to understand the paradox of their emotional state and experience"

-WOW!!! that really is true...

tis true tis true..v.v God made me Aqua though!!!

*cries in a dark corner somwhere far away*

unusual cancer,

how would you know if an aqua is sexually-driven vs. platonically-driven? is not like the share so much of their inner desires...and they can convince people of almost anything...so how and who would know?

vll

it's simple. if she isn't talking about babies' clothes..it's platonic. if she is...well..heh heh..yeah.

well my aqua talks about babies :o but it is because she works with babies and she loves them, she wants to have babies one day...on the other hand she has been sexually active before she met me...hmmm...lol....dang it, is so hard to know with her.

she is very physical but also very much ok without that too.

any more clues?

"she is very physical but also very much ok without that too."

-that is typical of an aqua, female or male. they can take it or leave it. and they separate the physical from the emotional...

amen to that. ^__^
but I have too many morals to be sexually active. I have many values and I was brought up in the right way with much rectitude.

I would go for platonic and when in the relationship, the other wants sex..you best bet I'll go with celibacy until the plantonic requirements are met..yeah, marriage, buddy.

well my aqua talks about babies :o but it is because she works with babies and she loves them, she wants to have babies one day...on the other hand she has been sexually active before she met me...hmmm...lol....dang it, is so hard to know with her.

she is very physical but also very much ok without that too.

any more clues?

if she has wants a baby with you then she's probably ready to settle down. you better ask her about her morals.

I'm a typical Aquarius in every way BUT relationships - I am hard-to-get-rid-of, faithful and kinda jealous."


Yeah thats how i am too. i dont know why but yeah you would think id be the opposite of that with my venus and moon in sagittarius. my rising is in scorpio but risings dont have that much of an impact on you, do they??

i really truly dont believe that falling in love with an aquarius is all that horrible! lol ask my aries, he's fallen for two! (yeah, im number two....glad he tried another aqua girl, though i am definitely a lot less of emotional craziness than she is by the sounds of it) anyway, i give him his space when he needs it, im not overly clingy but i would miss him like crazy if we were to break up, i am just head over heels for him and vice versa. but what i think worked excellently was the fact we were friends in the beginning and we established that quickly so then at that point, it seemed as though we'd never be together. but things worked out and he is amazing. people say they've never seen him happier...

maybe it depends on the aqua. lol or it depends on the pairing!

usualcancer that's pretty close to where I'm at anyway:

"However, the problem is that they are completely clueless in matters of the heart and unless you are especially adept at it yourself, it would be like the blind leading the blind. "

The blind leading the blind indeed hehehe.

"For an aqua to be successful in a relationship, they need a partner who cares for them deeply enough to even try to understand the paradox of their emotional state and experience. "

Spot on. For me I'd say I need someone who beleives in me even more than I beleive in myself at times.

A selfish person will not want to fall in love with an Aqua, this is true. Selfish people can't handle Aqua. Good people can.