I'm an Aqua but I'm not so detached or aloof?

I see it or hear it everywhere that Aquas are often detached and aloof but I feel like I am not? The only times I would be like that if it was someone I didn't like. Other than I am a very caring and loving person. I really love to help people out and I tend to put people before me. I can also become attached easily to someone I really like. I do value my freedom and don't like to held down but right now I'm in a long distance with a Virgo and I feel like I am really attached to him. I used to not be able to express my feelings but some reason I was able to with the Virgo man and I was very comfortable with him about it.

Sun Aqua
Moon Leo
Mercury Aqua
Venus Cap
Mars Taurus

Posted by TasteOfChaoss
Long distant relationship?

Yup sounds like you're a typical aqua.

😉

So Aquas are typically like that when they're in a long distance relationship? I don't want to become too attached though 😢 It makes me think about him too much. However, it is VERY EASY for me to get over someone if we were to break up.

Posted by BalmyTigress
Yeah, you sound like a typical Aqua :-) Of course you think to yourself that you're not detached or aloof, because you're not the one who notices the detachment. It's the other people. Also, you're saying that you're very attached to someone who isn't actually physically there (and is a Virgo). How about we put you in a closed space with a Cancer (or Scorpio or Pisces) for a weekend and we see how you really feel after that? We might find you in a fetal position somewhere in the furthest corner of the place, going "Make it go away, make it go away..." 😉

Of course we're loving and caring and attached and all that, but in comparison to most other signs, the way we express it and the way we need a bit of time for other activities as well, it does come across as being detached and aloof.

You're right! I probably won't be able to stand a Cancer or Pisces since I've dated them in the past. Don't remember if I ever went out with a Scorpio but I have a feeling they may be too much for me. I wonder how things will be like if I actually lived close to the Virgo.. but he's been distant from me these past few days and i'm like... OH WELL! it bothered for me a bit at first but now it's day 2 going onto day 3 and I'm already becoming detached. I seem to get over people VERY easily.

I see...
So my aqua really thinks we are super attached to each other. He even have the idea that we are yin and yang. But I feel he is detached and observed he really is. I didn't call him out on that, that's how he is. He always comes back anyway.

I think you are his female counterpart with your placements only he has Mars in Aqua.
Obviously I'm a female Virgo pffffttttt!
*rolls eyes* 😉

Posted by virgosagscorpio
I see...
So my aqua really thinks we are super attached to each other. He even have the idea that we are yin and yang. But I feel he is detached and observed he really is. I didn't call him out on that, that's how he is. He always comes back anyway.

I think you are his female counterpart with your placements only he has Mars in Aqua.
Obviously I'm a female Virgo pffffttttt!
*rolls eyes* 😉

I honestly think that Virgo female and Aqua male work out better than Aqua female and Virgo male. Virgo males are just so.... ugh, a pain in the butt. I know i'm not the only saying it. All Virgo guys say that as long as the woman can accept who they are then will open up to them. Well I did that with my guy but for some reason he can't accept who I am. Why should I let him have everything his way? That just tells me how selfish Virgo guys are. They don't seem like perfectionists to me. In fact, they look for the perfectionist in others.

But anywhoo, we Aquas can seem detached emotionally but we show our love through our actions 🙂

No, not at all... I know one that does not work (maybe some or few). I think the start is always been rocky and a lot of "trials and tribulation" as one sweet aqua guy here said. The only thing that keeps us together (my aqua) is the friendship we have for years even before we became lovers.
He would always remind me whenever I get crazy that we are a team not just lovers and friends. So we move as a team. And oh my geezzzz! That Leo moon of him... (thought he was a Sag mooner like me) it drives me nuts!
How do you feel your Leo moon btw?
He is the sweetest man on earth for me (am fooling myself), seriously he is but I just hope he sees himself that way too.
Oh I drive him nuts too, just to be fair here... 🙂

Posted by virgosagscorpio
No, not at all... I know one that does not work (maybe some or few). I think the start is always been rocky and a lot of "trials and tribulation" as one sweet aqua guy here said. The only thing that keeps us together (my aqua) is the friendship we have for years even before we became lovers.
He would always remind me whenever I get crazy that we are a team not just lovers and friends. So we move as a team. And oh my geezzzz! That Leo moon of him... (thought he was a Sag mooner like me) it drives me nuts!
How do you feel your Leo moon btw?
He is the sweetest man on earth for me (am fooling myself), seriously he is but I just hope he sees himself that way too.
Oh I drive him nuts too, just to be fair here... 🙂

I'm glad your Aqua can put up with you! We Aquas are fixed signs. Through thick and thin we will always try to stay by your side 🙂 unless.. you somehow manage to break the trust then we start to have second thoughts. When I have these second thoughts I ponder for a long time but during that time I am hoping that my Virgo will eventually become better and prove his worthiness to me. So it's like giving him a second chance, but I don't tell that to him directly. I observe. (But Virgo guys are just so into themselves.. that they don't know when there's an opportunity presented in front of them. It's like they need a wake up call and then they'll finally come to a realization) Being a fixed sign, I always stay with my partner for as long as possible. So I'm usually the one that gets dumped because I am too nice to do the break up.. You're very lucky to have such a wonderful Aqua guy 🙂 I definitely like how he reminds you that you guys are a team and not just lovers and friends. I think I should tell that to my hopeless Virgo guy lol.

On the other hand, I think my Leo moon is what makes me become so attached to my partner because I like him to give me attention. Leo moon people have an inner desire to be noticed and admired. I'm reading my natal chart and it says that moon in Leo people are not necessarily outgoing. True. When they do feel comfortable, they do like being the center of attention. Hmmm... yes at times, but not as much as I get older. Leo moon are emotionally expressive so they are given to big display emotional drama. I could be like that sometime. The emotion builds up inside and then it would explode when I can't

handle it anymore. Oh, and not to mention Leo moons make good parents 😉

Since you're a Virgo, any ideas why a Virgo man would become distant? If he's distant does that mean it's over? He hasn't talked to me since Monday. The only thing he said was that he has no phone and no word after that. The long distance makes it even harder to communicate.

He's
Sun Virgo
Moon Cancer
Mercury Virgo
Venus Libra
Mars Sag

I dated an Aqua years ago. It wasn't so much that he was aloof but he had so many groups of buddies he hung out with that I never got to see him when I wanted. He was a man's man like most Aqua guys are and very popular. I think I might have scared him off because as I dropped him off around 3 AM once, we both saw a ghost walking out of an emergency room at the end of his street. We knew what it was so I slammed on my gas to get a closer look and he was completely mortified and scared! Hahaha The see-thru man just disappeared. So yeah, he was more of a buddy... or a chicken.

Haha Shit, I have ghosts at my place too, but at least they're family members.

Posted by putiputi
handle it anymore. Oh, and not to mention Leo moons make good parents 😉

Since you're a Virgo, any ideas why a Virgo man would become distant? If he's distant does that mean it's over? He hasn't talked to me since Monday. The only thing he said was that he has no phone and no word after that. The long distance makes it even harder to communicate.

A Virgo that is distancing himself is a thinking/worrying Virgo. It could be something in the relationship that makes him/her worry or there is something going on inside him (may not be directly related to you as an SO) maybe his job or family. We don't share a lot and we tend to keep things inside of us. I won't buy that he doesn't have phone cos it's not the only means of communication, personally I would move heaven and earth for the one I love.
He is thinking things over most probably. Did you have any arguments before he distance himself? Maybe he is having financial issue right now or job issues, that thing matter to us.

And we don't actually prove our worth to anyone. We test others to see if they are worthy of our time and everything (selfish isn't it?) and when we think they are that is the start of a different ride in the relationship. Virgo will only step up if we are threatened. Just be more patient and trust him. He won't date you if they didn't see you as potential long term partner.

Posted by totem
I dated an Aqua years ago. It wasn't so much that he was aloof but he had so many groups of buddies he hung out with that I never got to see him when I wanted. He was a man's man like most Aqua guys are and very popular. I think I might have scared him off because as I dropped him off around 3 AM once, we both saw a ghost walking out of an emergency room at the end of his street. We knew what it was so I slammed on my gas to get a closer look and he was completely mortified and scared! Hahaha The see-thru man just disappeared. So yeah, he was more of a buddy... or a chicken.

So he never talked to you again after that?? I have to agree on having many group of friends because I'm the same. But as I get older I realize it's too hard to have to keep up with all those friends and that sometime having too many friends is not necessarily a good thing. Now I just stay close to the people that I can trust and rely on.

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Posted by putiputi
handle it anymore. Oh, and not to mention Leo moons make good parents 😉

Since you're a Virgo, any ideas why a Virgo man would become distant? If he's distant does that mean it's over? He hasn't talked to me since Monday. The only thing he said was that he has no phone and no word after that. The long distance makes it even harder to communicate.

A Virgo that is distancing himself is a thinking/worrying Virgo. It could be something in the relationship that makes him/her worry or there is something going on inside him (may not be directly related to you as an SO) maybe his job or family. We don't share a lot and we tend to keep things inside of us. I won't buy that he doesn't have phone cos it's not the only means of communication, personally I would move heaven and earth for the one I love.
He is thinking things over most probably. Did you have any arguments before he distance himself? Maybe he is having financial issue right now or job issues, that thing matter to us.

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So pretty much what happened was that he went to the EDC rave in Vegas this past weekend and after he came back he told me that his has no phone. After that he never responded back to me again. He is usually not like his. Perhaps he had too much fun at the rave with all the booze and girls that he can't seem to come back to reality. We were suppose to talk about buying plane tickets when he comes back because I will be visiting him next month. I'm also worried about prices going up, but he doesn't seem to have that sense of urgency. I've been constantly reminding him about it but he always says that we'll figure it out next week and that he needs more time to think about it or that he's not sure. He's been doing that for three weeks already and I have been very patient. Unfortunately, I'm osing my patience with him. I am tired of asking and I think he is probably tired of me bringing up it all the time. I just want to save money for the both of us since he had mentioned that he is low on money. He's been unemployed for the past six month and is getting his last paycheck in July. But he does want to see me and has promised that we would see other. So I did my best to find a place for us to stay for free so that we don't have to spend too much money. I told him that

we don't have to spend money when we're together. As long as we can spend quality time together then that's all it matters.. Maybe I was being too pushy about the plane ticket? Because he usually takes a lot of time to think and preferred to buy the plane ticket last minute which doesn't make any sense. I found a super good deal but unfortunately I had to pass on it because apparently he misplaced his phone in his luggage prior to Vegas.. so I couldn't get a hold of him and the sale was only going on for two days. I'm wondering if it's possible that he changed after going to the rave? I really have been a loving and caring person to him. Oh, and I noticed with him that he is very flirty when he's under the influence.. but very quiet and conservative when he's sober. Typical Virgo guy?

Posted by aquabeauty
@virgosagscorpio

Hello, but what do you mean about "Virgo will only step up if we are threatened"? I'm new to the board and I date and Virgo guy as well. I am the normal aqua female; I would do a Houdini act on him if he was not already doing one on me. But he has a lot of family issue going on and has shut me out. I'm really trying to be understanding, but the Aquarius that I am, want to let go and never look back. But this relationship or whatever you want to call it is a test of time.

Competition, may it be rival or someone better than them or a work that is taking uour attention away from them. Virgos are full of insecurities. That shit makes a Virgo bullshit! Lol! Am not saying go get a rival for your Virgo but anything that threatens them or challenges them sometimes add spice to the usually laid back life style of a typical Virgo.

Hi OP, I'm really sorry it took me sometime to go back on this thread.

Ok I think your Virgo is most probably worried about his financial status. He wants to see you but due to his lack of molah at this time he was trying to avoid that topic with you and since you've been constantly reminding him of that, it keeps him under pressure as well. You are pressuring him without you realizing it. Well you just want to spend time with him right?
He just can tell you that his lack of money right now makes him feel worthless and it tied him down to not making future plans with you. So what's his doing is trying to avoid you so he will be free from any pressure and expenses since he is on limited resources at this time.
When it comes to that "under influence thing", Virgo can be a bunch of flirt if they choose to. Don't be fooled by the shy and cold exterior you see when they are not drunk. If you're not comfortable with that, call it out. I think it's not proper to be like that if you are in a relationship.

I cannot give you guys the perfect advise cos am a failure also when it comes to relationship and I think the biggest mistake I made in the past is I treat them like a constellation instead of treating them as human.


Bottomline: treat your man as a person not a constellation. Be real and remain that way.

Posted by virgosagscorpio
Hi OP, I'm really sorry it took me sometime to go back on this thread.

Ok I think your Virgo is most probably worried about his financial status. He wants to see you but due to his lack of molah at this time he was trying to avoid that topic with you and since you've been constantly reminding him of that, it keeps him under pressure as well. You are pressuring him without you realizing it. Well you just want to spend time with him right?
He just can tell you that his lack of money right now makes him feel worthless and it tied him down to not making future plans with you. So what's his doing is trying to avoid you so he will be free from any pressure and expenses since he is on limited resources at this time.
When it comes to that "under influence thing", Virgo can be a bunch of flirt if they choose to. Don't be fooled by the shy and cold exterior you see when they are not drunk. If you're not comfortable with that, call it out. I think it's not proper to be like that if you are in a relationship.

I cannot give you guys the perfect advise cos am a failure also when it comes to relationship and I think the biggest mistake I made in the past is I treat them like a constellation instead of treating them as human.


Bottomline: treat your man as a person not a constellation. Be real and remain that way.

It's okay 🙂 Thanks for taking the time to write back.

So I made myself forget about him and I was actually feeling pretty content on the third day. I didn't want to check my Facebook anymore after but for some reason I had a feeling that he messaged me. So on Friday I opened my Facebook only because I had to check something and apparently he sent me a message on Thursday night that saying that his laptop was jacked up and that he switched to another computer. He had also mentioned that he will be getting a new phone soon. I didn't feel like messaging him back so I messaged him back on Saturday and said, "no problem. I understand. Hope you've been we'll." And that was it. For some reason I am his doubting his words and it all sounds like excuses to me. I'm not sure if I can believe that his janky laptop was the reason why that he couldn't message me back? I did see him im clicking 'like' on pictures. Honestly, all these doubts is making me withdraw from him 😢

I've thought about it and I think I've treated him pretty well. I have been respectful and faithful to him. I just don't think he understands my good intentions at times? I definitely will not be fooled by his calm and quiet appearance anymore. I saw one of his friend's comment on Facebook that he was taking pictures of other women and sending them through snapchat to his friend. I was like wow.. at first but now I just don't give a eff about it anymore. I had previously told him that I was uncomfortable when I saw him with his arms around another girl at a party. We were on Skype when I told him about it and he became absolutely silent. It was a bit awkward. He said he didn't remember doing that but two days later he admit that I was right about everything. He started being pessimistic about the whole long distance thing but I reassured him that everything will be alright and after that he was okay again.

Posted by aquabeauty
Putiputi... I understand how you feel about wanting to withdraw I do too. But a part of me want to stay and another part of me want to leave and don't look back. 😢

Me too! That's exactly how I feel right now. I know that once I make my mind.. I will never look back again. Although I have a tendency to stay friends with my ex's.. lol. Just keep your head up and stay strong! 🙂

@Putiputi
Yes, continue with your life, that is the best thing you can do. Sometimes we need diversion to get out from exhausting situation. Let him do whatever he is doing right now. All the excuses that he has ( from lost phone to laptop that sucks!) are so immature in my point of view.
I have to say, I know this might not make you feel good.
When the Virgo chooses you to be their special someone, they are as clear as crystal with their words and action. They will treat you right to a fault, they will never confuse you with their words and action, it goes hand in hand for a Virgo. They will always be on your side whenever you need them and sometimes you don't have to say a word cos they will probably knows what you need and want.
But with the distance that you have with your Virgo, it does make a great difference on how he was acting towards you. Virgo lives in the here and now.

Posted by putiputi
I've thought about it and I think I've treated him pretty well. I have been respectful and faithful to him. I just don't think he understands my good intentions at times? I definitely will not be fooled by his calm and quiet appearance anymore. I saw one of his friend's comment on Facebook that he was taking pictures of other women and sending them through snapchat to his friend. I was like wow.. at first but now I just don't give a eff about it anymore. I had previously told him that I was uncomfortable when I saw him with his arms around another girl at a party. We were on Skype when I told him about it and he became absolutely silent. It was a bit awkward. He said he didn't remember doing that but two days later he admit that I was right about everything. He started being pessimistic about the whole long distance thing but I reassured him that everything will be alright and after that he was okay again.

He is emotionally manipulating you (fuck that!), in his little world he knows that you will submit to his little acts on Skype. I could be wrong but that's how I see it, you've been telling him all along the things that doesn't make you feel good and he keeps on doing it. I notice little things and if that was brought up to my attention I will surely address that, but he was doing it intentionally I think. He is testing you I think (that's shit!)
It's either he is testing you to see how faithful and dedicated you are to stay in the relationship OR he is testing you and he is waiting for you to break up with him so he wont be the one to blame (manipulation).

(I could be wrong...)

Posted by virgosagscorpio

Posted by putiputi
I've thought about it and I think I've treated him pretty well. I have been respectful and faithful to him. I just don't think he understands my good intentions at times? I definitely will not be fooled by his calm and quiet appearance anymore. I saw one of his friend's comment on Facebook that he was taking pictures of other women and sending them through snapchat to his friend. I was like wow.. at first but now I just don't give a eff about it anymore. I had previously told him that I was uncomfortable when I saw him with his arms around another girl at a party. We were on Skype when I told him about it and he became absolutely silent. It was a bit awkward. He said he didn't remember doing that but two days later he admit that I was right about everything. He started being pessimistic about the whole long distance thing but I reassured him that everything will be alright and after that he was okay again.

He is emotionally manipulating you (fuck that!), in his little world he knows that you will submit to his little acts on Skype. I could be wrong but that's how I see it, you've been telling him all along the things that doesn't make you feel good and he keeps on doing it. I notice little things and if that was brought up to my attention I will surely address that, but he was doing it intentionally I think. He is testing you I think (that's shit!)
It's either he is testing you to see how faithful and dedicated you are to stay in the relationship OR he is testing you and he is waiting for you to break up with him so he wont be the one to blame (manipulation).

(I could be wrong...)

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You're right about being crystal clear with words and actions! He told me he's in love with me and that he thinks about me everyday... it's hard for him to not be able to see me n' yadida. That was when I had reassure him all that blahblah etc. I always try to be optimistic about things especially in a long distance you just have to be. He claims to be a realist himself but honestly I just think he was being a pessimistic.. he can only think about what can go wrong. It's so annoying. I feel like I have to be the one to constantly reassure about things. It's like as if I'm babysitting him. Getting tired of that. He spends way too much thinking about thi

nking about things! I'm an Aries ascendant so I get things done quickly. I don't want to waste my time pondering about stuff because sometime over thinking causes too many problems. I like the Nike motto.. Just Do It! lol 🙂

Oh man.. he's testing me? I don't like being tested.. and I think most Aquas don't like that. It makes me feel inferior because I have to do things a certain way in order for him to accept me and be happy. It's either you're in or you're out! Manipulation is no bueno.

Okay... So more update. He sent me a text this morning saying that he got a temporary phone. We've been texting back and forth for a bit but I haven't had the courage to ask about the plane ticket. The date of the flight is exactly two weeks from today and time is running out. I've been thinking about this too much that I just don't care about it anymore. He never even asked me how have I been or any of that. I said something sweet to him but he never responded back. I'm getting tired of this and I want to Skype with him but at the same time I don't. I've been slowly losing my feelings for him and I just don't feel the exact same for him anymore. In fact I'm becoming more and more resentful. I'm thinking about just ignoring him and not confront him. I'm sure he can figure it out himself. Am I acting too cold? :/

On the other hand, I might give this Sag guy a chance. He's been going after me for years. I didn't intentionally play it hard to get but I guess it works on most or all guys!

Posted by putiputi
I see it or hear it everywhere that Aquas are often detached and aloof but I feel like I am not? The only times I would be like that if it was someone I didn't like. Other than I am a very caring and loving person. I really love to help people out and I tend to put people before me. I can also become attached easily to someone I really like. I do value my freedom and don't like to held down but right now I'm in a long distance with a Virgo and I feel like I am really attached to him. I used to not be able to express my feelings but some reason I was able to with the Virgo man and I was very comfortable with him about it.

Sun Aqua
Moon Leo
Mercury Aqua
Venus Cap
Mars Taurus

What is your definition of detached and aloof?

Posted by feby16aqua
Good question because i'm sure whatever the "assigned" definition is...an aquas is different lol.

I really don't think I am either... but I am wondering if I am perceived that way?

OK, how would YOU describe it?

lol, me too...


it doesn't apply I am sure, or we are in denial 😛

Feby did you start that AB challenge?

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
Feby did you start that AB challenge?

AB who? lol. Hey, how did you end up doing with it? You must have finished a day or two ago yes?

Did you take a before and after? Maybe I'll do some abs today...did you see a difference?

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LOL, I have 2 days left.

There is a difference, I am impressed.

Now maintaining it... what do you suggest? Doing them every other day?

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
lol, me too...


it doesn't apply I am sure, or we are in denial 😛

For me it's like I know...but it's like meh it is what it is kinda thing lol. I'm good carry on. 😉

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I notice it more with people I don't care for or don't know very well, I will be very detached to everything they say and do. Not so with my loved ones though.

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LOL, I have 2 days left.

There is a difference, I am impressed.

Now maintaining it... what do you suggest? Doing them every other day?

Are your abs still getting sore?

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Totally...

I think I am doing them right.

Sit-ups : I bend my knees with feet under the couch, I roll up and roll all the way down.

Crunches I hate : I try to lift my shoulders off the floor, knees bent.

Leg raises I like : I raise my legs straight up and down without touching the floor.

Plank : I try to make my body as straight as possible.

Any tips?

There were no suggestions for afterwards...

Hands are behind my head most of the time.


Crunches... my feet are on the ground.

OK, I have been meaning to ask, how do you bold stuff?

hahhahaha

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Someone elses turnb to babysit lllll

Who are you and what have you done with eee?

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Hmmm, It's been a day?

It depends, some days are faster than others...

Posted by aquabeauty
@putiputi
I see that Aquarius kick in fast.lol. We aquas are a like in many ways. Now you know if you ignore him that is going to send red flags. But it might not if he's not that interested in you.

Why are you becoming resentful? 😢 If he is not giving you what you want, do what we do best friend zone him. And keep it moving. But I know how you feel; Virgos have magic power on an Aquarius. Lol

I can't friend zone a guy especially if it was someone that i've dated for a while :/ it usually takes me a while for me to be friends with the man again. Usually when I'm over someone i just don't give a f*ck about them anymore haha. I only keep good and reliable friends that are close to me. No one else matters to me as f*cked up as it may sound. I have no time to be dealing with people who aren't appreciative. Sadly, people nowdays are too cynical.

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@ putiputi..
lol...I understand, with me if you started in the friend zone you will always remain there. But you are right, once I'm over that person or have made my mind up to let go. IT??S OVER... And I don't look back. If I see you, I'll look at you like a stranger and will not say anything to you. I'm kind of cold like that. (But I think that is because I don't care about you anymore).

Yup. I agree on keeping someone in the friend zone. If I see someone as a friend then they will always remain as a friend. You're also right about looking at the person as a stranger. That's exactly what I do. We are so much alike!