Is it just this Aquarius....

Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

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May i see your circular natal chart?

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
can relate

work- keep pushing, i know it sounds stupid and somewhat obvious but dont stop. youll get your promotion, i got promoted everywhere i worked.

friendship- can relate to this especially, i think its about how aquas dont want to burden their friends with problems because of a sense of impeding on freedom, ie forcing them to comfort you, and besides, someone feeling sorry for an aqua usually ends with a scold

relationship- very rare are the ppl who have it together and you just have to take it for granted, if you buy the horse, you buy the shit it will shit too, also, solving problems together is aqua strength, because you have the vision what needs to be done for sure

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Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

its not just you hun,im the eldest so i've been trained in early years to be the big sister,parents are dependent on me to do chores so are my brothers,people at work throw workloads at me as if it were that easy then question me why i always lack sleep and when i say im up all night doing what you guys told me to do then dont believe it,well they recently did coz someone is sharing the workload with me now being technical,my gf is a pwd so i do things for her coz she cant,i always solve my problems on my own or just grit my teeth and wait for a solution coz i dont like asking for help i dont want to bother people with mine coz i know all of us has a problem but when i really do need it and ask for help people doesnt want to help me its like they feel i never need help in the past and i can solve it on my own as i always do

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Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

what's ur moon sign? Ur emotional need is vey important in finding the right partner for you...

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Posted by saweetz1988
Awww you Aqua need big soft teddy bear hug. Actually I had this topic with the Aqua today.. as my libra friend wanted me to b their for her and I told him , look I don't know if I want to get involved in intense drama like I don't understand soemtimes like I don't burden people with my problems ( except for dxpnet) lol... and he's like well , people are not like you and me some just need other people to help them out with their issues etc etc and everyone is differrnt. See with Aqua placements we have that external strong brave look I get comments all the time of how I am handling everything. Strong happy n chill being a single mummy .. I love helping out people but it does sometimes get me wonder... it's not that hard to figure it out? I'm no not Aqua but my mind set is very similar... when it come to solving isssuee and having people coming to me with stuff.... I just focus mysel on the positive people and people r even more successful than me. I wanna b better everyday and I can't reach those values by spending my time with negative people. It doesn't work that way. So shift ur focus... Aqua does have the I can handle everything look ..: socchill and carefree and when Aqua come share with me his problems or ask for a favour I know, I am in his inner circle..: everyone else just think he has it all sorted...

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May i see your circular natal chart?

I don't know how to post images but

Sun Aquarius 14°20' Ascendant Gemini 5°12'

Moon Sagittarius 0°59' II Gemini 25°29'

Mercury Aquarius 16°07' III Cancer 11°51'

Venus Aquarius 17°54' IV Cancer 29°07'

Mars Sagittarius 0°43' V Leo 22°18'

Jupiter Aquarius 25°54' VI Libra 2°15'

Saturn Sagittarius 8°08' VII Sagittarius 5°12'

Uranus Sagittarius 21°13' VIII Sagittarius 25°29'

Neptune Capricorn 4°47' IX Capricorn 11°51'

Pluto Scorpio 7°21' Midheaven Capricorn 29°07'

Lilith Taurus 27°25' XI Aquarius 22°18'

Asc node Taurus 3°34' XII Aries 2°15'

This is the info on it

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Posted by haylz124

Posted by AerialView
May i see your circular natal chart?

I don't know how to post images but

Sun Aquarius 14°20' Ascendant Gemini 5°12'

Moon Sagittarius 0°59' II Gemini 25°29'

Mercury Aquarius 16°07' III Cancer 11°51'

Venus Aquarius 17°54' IV Cancer 29°07'

Mars Sagittarius 0°43' V Leo 22°18'

Jupiter Aquarius 25°54' VI Libra 2°15'

Saturn Sagittarius 8°08' VII Sagittarius 5°12'

Uranus Sagittarius 21°13' VIII Sagittarius 25°29'

Neptune Capricorn 4°47' IX Capricorn 11°51'

Pluto Scorpio 7°21' Midheaven Capricorn 29°07'

Lilith Taurus 27°25' XI Aquarius 22°18'

Asc node Taurus 3°34' XII Aries 2°15'

This is the info on it

Can't see the aspect with this.

It's a very masculine chart with that aqua and sag in almost everything. You must have lots of energy.

The downside with having too many sag placement is it can become overabundance.

You also have a prominent 10th house. Three of your aquas in there. It's a public image, how the public sees you, your image in the public.

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Posted by haylz124

Posted by AerialView
May i see your circular natal chart?

I don't know how to post images but

Sun Aquarius 14°20' Ascendant Gemini 5°12'

Moon Sagittarius 0°59' II Gemini 25°29'

Mercury Aquarius 16°07' III Cancer 11°51'

Venus Aquarius 17°54' IV Cancer 29°07'

Mars Sagittarius 0°43' V Leo 22°18'

Jupiter Aquarius 25°54' VI Libra 2°15'

Saturn Sagittarius 8°08' VII Sagittarius 5°12'

Uranus Sagittarius 21°13' VIII Sagittarius 25°29'

Neptune Capricorn 4°47' IX Capricorn 11°51'

Pluto Scorpio 7°21' Midheaven Capricorn 29°07'

Lilith Taurus 27°25' XI Aquarius 22°18'

Asc node Taurus 3°34' XII Aries 2°15'

This is the info on it

Can't see the aspect with this.

It's a very masculine chart with that aqua and sag in almost everything. You must have lots of energy.

The downside with having too many sag placement is it can become overabundance.

You also have a prominent 10th house. Three of your aquas in there. It's a public image, how the public sees you, your image in the public.

You have just explained so much to me thankyou. The fact you've pointed out I have a masculine chart explains the battle i'v had with myself for years! Yes I like men but I find myself one of them too I'm basically a masculine gay man trapped in a womans body. And yes it's difficult! and yes lots of energy always doing everything and everywhere. People at work tell me I can do in an hour what it would take them three weeks to do! I don't know why this is because that seems an impossibility but I just do! I wrote my PhD thesis in 3 weeks and still had time to go out with my friends during that period and passed with flying colours! It's like some super human kinda stuff

Thankyou so much

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Posted by haylz124

Posted by saweetz1988
Awww you Aqua need big soft teddy bear hug. Actually I had this topic with the Aqua today.. as my libra friend wanted me to b their for her and I told him , look I don't know if I want to get involved in intense drama like I don't understand soemtimes like I don't burden people with my problems ( except for dxpnet) lol... and he's like well , people are not like you and me some just need other people to help them out with their issues etc etc and everyone is differrnt. See with Aqua placements we have that external strong brave look I get comments all the time of how I am handling everything. Strong happy n chill being a single mummy .. I love helping out people but it does sometimes get me wonder... it's not that hard to figure it out? I'm no not Aqua but my mind set is very similar... when it come to solving isssuee and having people coming to me with stuff.... I just focus mysel on the positive people and people r even more successful than me. I wanna b better everyday and I can't reach those values by spending my time with negative people. It doesn't work that way. So shift ur focus... Aqua does have the I can handle everything look ..: socchill and carefree and when Aqua come share with me his problems or ask for a favour I know, I am in his inner circle..: everyone else just think he has it all sorted...

I bloody do need a big hug lol I have a best friend and she's the only person I talk about my problems to too! However, weeks can go by where I do not see her so I tend to bottle it then we don't shut up when I see her I pour it all out and when I go home I feel so good!

I feel whenever I talk about anything my other friends aren't interested, even if they've just gone on about there recently ended relationship for hours. They can be like yeah i'v unloaded i'm done now! it's so annoying! I don't call these people my friends they are my acquaintances and I tend to find this with most people and if i'm going to spew my personal business the listener must be interested

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Posted by AerialView
May i see your circular natal chart?

I don't know how to post images but

Sun Aquarius 14°20' Ascendant Gemini 5°12'

Moon Sagittarius 0°59' II Gemini 25°29'

Mercury Aquarius 16°07' III Cancer 11°51'

Venus Aquarius 17°54' IV Cancer 29°07'

Mars Sagittarius 0°43' V Leo 22°18'

Jupiter Aquarius 25°54' VI Libra 2°15'

Saturn Sagittarius 8°08' VII Sagittarius 5°12'

Uranus Sagittarius 21°13' VIII Sagittarius 25°29'

Neptune Capricorn 4°47' IX Capricorn 11°51'

Pluto Scorpio 7°21' Midheaven Capricorn 29°07'

Lilith Taurus 27°25' XI Aquarius 22°18'

Asc node Taurus 3°34' XII Aries 2°15'

This is the info on it

Can't see the aspect with this.

It's a very masculine chart with that aqua and sag in almost everything. You must have lots of energy.

The downside with having too many sag placement is it can become overabundance.

You also have a prominent 10th house. Three of your aquas in there. It's a public image, how the public sees you, your image in the public.

You have just explained so much to me thankyou. The fact you've pointed out I have a masculine chart explains the battle i'v had with myself for years! Yes I like men but I find myself one of them too I'm basically a masculine gay man trapped in a womans body. And yes it's difficult! and yes lots of energy always doing everything and everywhere. People at work tell me I can do in an hour what it would take them three weeks to do! I don't know why this is because that seems an impossibility but I just do! I wrote my PhD thesis in 3 weeks and still had time to go out with my friends during that period and passed with flying colours! It's like some super human kinda stuff

Thankyou so much

Not just super smart, you seems to take care of yourself very well ?

You're welcome.

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Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

Posted by haylz124

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Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?

its not just you hun,im the eldest so i've been trained in early years to be the big sister,parents are dependent on me to do chores so are my brothers,people at work throw workloads at me as if it were that easy then question me why i always lack sleep and when i say im up all night doing what you guys told me to do then dont believe it,well they recently did coz someone is sharing the workload with me now being technical,my gf is a pwd so i do things for her coz she cant,i always solve my problems on my own or just grit my teeth and wait for a solution coz i dont like asking for help i dont want to bother people with mine coz i know all of us has a problem but when i really do need it and ask for help people doesnt want to help me its like they feel i never need help in the past and i can solve it on my own as i always do

I'm the youngest but I'm the only one that can look after myself and I end up looking after everyone even my own parents. I'm even like the parent of the family and discipline my parents when they do stupid stuff or behave wrong! My mum has narcissistic personality disorder so behaves like a big kid most of the time. This has also lead to my siblings being underdeveloped mentally. In narc families there is always one person that's treated differently, worse than the other siblings. That was me. I don't resent it i'm the only one having a relatively normal life but as I am the only one that developed mentally from getting away from that environment, I'm the only adult in the family!

It's tiring always caring for everyone well done you for helping your GF

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Posted by haylz124
That gets mistaken for being tough and cold but is actually extremely soft and loving? I'm tired of people thinking I can handle stuff so they throw it at me. This includes work, relationship and life scenarios.

Work- I always appear cool and calm even when it's busy and there's a big work load so this leads to me getting handed more work because "she can handle it"

Life- friends seem to think I am their therapist and even with the worst advice (dump him as soon as they start complaining about their partner) they still feel they can burden their feelings off on me. I don't speak about my problems and when asked I often down play cos the convo would go on all day if I got started

Relationships- men seem to think "oh she has it together it can all be about me for a while" Iv actually been told this by men Iv dated! Early stage relationship talks are usually about them and picking through their problems. No I don't have it together Iv just already analysed and figured my issues out!

I really have trouble finding a man that can, I don't know how to put this but I guess the word that fits best is dominate me. For once I wouldn't mind being taken care of. Iv been out with men allot older than me and younger than me, ones that own big companies and are well groomed with their own home and car yet I still end up caring for them and helping them get it together!

I don't know if it's my independence, they say no man is an island but this woman is! I have in the past tried my hand at anything offered which has led me to be able to do heavy DIY duties around the house and can even fix cars. I have money and a good job, home, car I have kids but I'm not one of those mums looking dishelved in the supermarket while her kids act up, they behave and we mesh and get on great! If I have an issue I don't pick up the phone and call friends I deal with it my own way.

In truth though I would like to be cared for for once. I would like to have a partner I can lean on for support. Does any other aqua have these types of problems? Have you over come them?