Is this for real? or excuses?

Aqua man and I have been friends for almost 2 years. The attraction and feelings have always been there from the start, but we both wanted to start out as friends first and see how things go. Things have been good between us, we are quite compatible for each other. Last week the conversation somehow turned into about our "relationship", he said that he does want to have a relationship but sometimes he's afraid to get into one. Reasons are 1) his job and 2) his parents, those are his priorities right now. With his job he is very busy and the hours are crazy (he works at the hospital), his reason is that he's afraid he won't be able to be there for me when I needed him and that could create conflicts and fights, etc... With his parents, their health has been declining rapidly within this year and he wants to focus on taking care of them as well. I completely understand his dilemma but I'd be lying if I wasn't hurt by him not including me as one of his priorities. I know Aquas are honest folks, but OUCH! 🙂

So after our convo last Friday I've decided to give him some space for him to focus on these priorities of his. I'm not mad at him, just a little miffed and wondering if this is his way of blowing me off without having the nerve to tell me directly. I know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me on purpose, but then again...he's one with many quirks and there's nothing conventional about him so I really am not sure.

Please help me decipher his Aqua thinking. Does his reasoning make sense to you? or should I take it as a polite rejection and back off? I'd rather know now so I won't invest further into the relationship, thus the emotional baggage/pain isn't as great.

*suspicious* pepe le pew pew? Lol *shakes head*

I'm gonna go cook and clean up. -_-

Posted by lisabethur8
*suspicious* pepe le pew pew? Lol *shakes head*

I'm gonna go cook and clean up. -_-

I don't exactly understand what you meant here, lisabethur8. What do you mean?

Stay friends with him but, move on from the dream of being in a relationship with him. Seriously. Do not cling to hope or over-analyze.

Well it really depends doesn't it?

Maybe he does really care about you but given all that he has to face is less inclined to go into a relationship knowing he can't focus on you and give you the love you deserve. And you can be right perhaps he loves you only as a friend and is merely saying this so he didn't hurt your feelings.

There's really not much you can decipher from his word but it's clear as day he's not ready right now. But you know what I do? I find out from them personally and give them my input because it's rather unfair for them to say something about it without asking my stance.

Letting them know perfectly well the attraction was there and if they choose this then they'll be little contact so we can avoid whatever romantic attraction we had.

So it's your call, don't decipher it just tell it to him straight. You guys have been friends for so long so why not just address it bluntly?

*they'll = there will

It makes sense to me. He doesn't want a relationship. Period. He's told you in a nice, you're-my-friend way. Appreciate the friendship. Cherish it!!! But start thinking about other people - for now anyway.

Truthfully, even in a long term relationship, you will never feel like a priority with an aqua. It takes a lot of understanding and patience to be with one and you have to be able to read between the lines and notice their actions, because they are not good about telling you how they feel. But you will just know how they feel without them ever having to say so. They will be honest, brutally so, and you have to take them at their word. So, he is being honest with you. Much better than stringing you along. Gotta give him credit for that!

I didn't mean that to say you will never be a priority to an aqua, I just meant you will never feel like you are.