Is this normal Aquarius behavior?

I've dated an Aquarius for the past year and we have had a mostly wonderful relationship. My Aquarius was kind, affectionate, loving, and we were compatible in almost every way. Recently there was a situation that occurred where he questioned my loyalty, overreacted and broke up with me immediately. Days after the break up he found out/realized that I had been loyal the entire time. I realize I'm being vague here but the situation is a little complicated and I don't care to get into details.

Anyway, even though he realized it basically came down to him thinking I wasn't loyal, realizing it was a total misunderstanding and that everything was actually fine, he doesn't want to talk to me or try any attempt at reconciling. In general he avoids all confrontation and prefers to only communicate via email/Facebook/text - anything but in person or on the phone it seems. I sent him a detailed email explaining my thoughts on everything, my feelings, and that I wanted to work things out. Like I said, previously we had had a truly wonderful relationship. There weren't very many issues and we were both happy and planning on building our lives together. I find his behavior entirely odd and unlike anything he's ever acted like before. I'm not sure how he can go from being so in love and happy to acting as though I'm a stranger. When I questioned his behavior he acknowledged he knew I was innocent but said that he's detached right now and needs time to be alone.

He said and I quote, "Like I said, I'm not really personable right now. I'm feeling apathetic. Just concentrated on work and working out. Hanging out or being social won't magically snap me out of it. I don't know what else to tell you - I'm just detached at the moment. I don't know how long it will last. I can't just change it. I'm fucked up. And trying to reconcile or fix anything in this state would only be a band-aid on a fracture."

I have no problem leaving him alone and giving him his space but I'm curious if this intense state of detachment is an Aquarius thing? I know Aquarians are known to be unemotional and detached in general. I guess I'm just surprised because, like I said, after being with him for a year this has never happened before. I really love him and care about him but I'm not sure if or how long I should wait for him. I'm a Pisces, very carefree and forgiving of people, so I like to just deal with things and move on. I understand though that, obviously, everyone handles things dif

*handles things differently. Any thoughts or advice?

I am not an Aquarius...I did date one for more than a year, though. Detachment when emotions are high seems like common behavior to me. Been through it with him. Once told me that he couldn't care about anyone except family. He thought I was having an affair with my best friend's husband. Nothing could convince him otherwise. He never came back from it.

Guilt perhaps? I'd chuck it in there with one of the aquarius traits that I can't relate to but witnessed before. Something about them not being able to own up to their mistakes especially when they've made a BIG one.

I've more pisces influence so I know what you mean about being more forgiving. He might be mulling over it internally who knows but generally with time all things come out eventually.

this guy just sounds really really depressed. (saturn influence is weighing heavily on him)

at least he told you how he felt. Instead of some guys who dont say a damn thing and disappear.

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Guilt perhaps? I'd chuck it in there with one of the aquarius traits that I can't relate to but witnessed before. Something about them not being able to own up to their mistakes especially when they've made a BIG one.

I've more pisces influence so I know what you mean about being more forgiving. He might be mulling over it internally who knows but generally with time all things come out eventually.

the guilt thing. That could be it too.

When saturn weighs on these individuals, they will feel as if a huge boulder is on their shoulder.
they can't detach, to be honest. They are actually wallowing in self pity. It is the detachment that he needs to have so he can live and be w/ you again and be happier. That is the IRONY. because it is not detachment that is the problem.

~ Buddha

We talked a little bit today and we have tentative plans to possibly hang out later this week, which is a complete change from him saying he wants to just be alone. Of course, as a Pisces with tons of emotions I just want to pick up where we left off and tell him how much I love him, etc buuut I know he probably won't be receptive to that so I'm just going to keep my cool and see how it all goes. Wish me luck. Any thoughts on how I should proceed? We might go to the movies but he's been having a bit of health issues so we also might just spend some time at my place watching a movie, hanging out, etc.