Just another complicated story with an aquarius...

Hello, hope you will still have the patience to read my story as I feel a bit lost and could really use some advice *thank you in advance*.

We met 5 months ago, on his boat at a small event. We started talking like we knew each other since for ever for around 4 hours. He couldn't stop starring at me but we simply talked about the World and our believes (100% match, btw). I was gonna leave the country for a couple of months the next day and the coincidence made it that he was traveling for work that same day so we met again, briefly at the airport...like good all friends. After this we started chatting every day for months... day and evenings, no matter where he travelled for work or how busy he was... he made an effort. He started telling me that he likes me and wants to know me better but I was quite reserved and kept it light.

I am currently in a complicated relationship which is dead and about to end but takes some time due to the fact we have a house together and it is quite hard after many years together...and he knew this from the beginning. In the end, he decided to visit me abroad and we had an amazing "first date week". He kept asking me about my current relationship and while I explained it I still didn't open and still dont do so much about it, as Im a scorpio and I find it hard to talk about myself in too many details. He said however that he is fine with it, as he is an open minded guy...sees the bigger picture and will have patience.

The problems started after I went on vacation with my current bf before heading home on Christmas. I was honest and told him about it... that has been long planned and payed... and its nothing I can do now.. and he again, said he is fine with it. But then he started getting a bit distant in his messages while still writing to me daily. I tried to comfort him and reassure him of my interest in him and wrote to him a lot which he seemed to enjoy. However, when I returned, he told me that he is now confused and doesn't know why?! That his passion is gone and he was very in love with me but not anymore... that this happened before to him and doesn't want to pull any plug as he has never met anyone like me and doesn't want to walk away from us. He has told everyone about me..from family..friends to people at work. I understand Im in a complicated situation for now and this scared him but he seemed so calm and balanced and now all of a sudden is an emotional roller coster.

We still talk everyday and we a

We still talk everyday and we also started our own "save the world project" that we will work together on. Just that he doesn't know about "us" and needs to take things slowly... hello?! I was doing that and he was the one who got all excited and passionately in love.. I think he also convinced himself that Im gonna need him when I will move away from my ex...as I have no place to live and so on..I really have the feeling he panicked, so I made sure I mentioned Im a strong independent woman who needs no one to rescue her. He says that he is sorry about how he feels and he cant help it... but that he knows we are an amazing match and he likes that I support his passions and he feels he could be free with me..do the things he loves etc. But that he also feels that he doesn't need a relationship to be happy 😢

Yesterday we met and I played it cool even though I was dying a bit inside as he didn't kiss me anymore..just as friends, on the cheek. I really wanted to hug him..kiss him as I haven't seen him since Christmas as he was away with his family. I asked him where we stand and again...that he doesn't know..lets see. I told him that I want to be friends, but that this is awkward and while I have no problem to let the time decide, I cant control my emotions either and I really dont trust him anymore at this moment. His face really dropped when he heard this...

And I asked him if he is gonna date again..which really surprised him (again) and immediately said no.... that he cant do that in this situation. Then he told me again, as some kind of a reassurance that he is not gonna date anyone else, how he was seeing a girl for a few months when he met me and stopped with her because of me.

I said then that because we will work together this awkward situation is confusing and suggested him it will be easier if he started dating someone..clear his mind and make it easier for me to move on..as it seems it wasn't meant to be. As come on..confused and detached..but no kiss, after all that's been between us..the connection...the awesomeness together? Im not gonna chase a person who told me his passion is gone?!

In the end Im more confused then ever and I feel like Im ridding this emotional roller coaster together with him.... some days I dont want him anymore, as Im hurt how he went in and out of love without giving us a chance...but then, some days, all I want is him... and I start reading on hundreds of on-line resources how to deal with confusing aquari

When an aqua loves you from the beginning that's a red flag. We don't just easily attach ourselves like that, especially aqua men. Sounds like you were a rebound just like he was and now he is returning to the one he left, the one he really wants. Or he already returned. He sounds guilty like he wasn't supposed to be intimate with you in any way and now he's fixing it and getting things back under control. Also aqua men are flighty and love to frolic in fields of women of all flavors. It's sort of like a sport or experiment for us. The trick is to get a woman to believe that she he so special that I have emotions for you and I'd share my deep thoughts or jokes and history with you. They drop the panties every time. Then I move onto the next conquest after the pussy gets stale. I think for an aqua to really be in love with you, he would be loving and consistent for at least a year plus. And it would take him awhile before he clings to you.

Thank you for your reply, which is a bit harsh, I must say... I was no rebound as he wasn't in a serious relationship for a long time plus I dont think he would have traveled on another continent just to drop off my panties?! Plus he spends and plans to spend a lot of time with me.. I dont think he was in love with me..just that he likes me too much and he got scared.

Posted by Scorpio32
just that he likes me too much and he got scared.

I think that line is a load of bullshit. It's one of those lies we tell other women just to make them feel better.

He's telling you he doesn't need a relationship and he doesn't want to date. Believe him.

You're in a relationship currently. It could be a self protective maneuver on his part.

I could look at going to see you in another country as going to get to experience travel to a foreign country and being able to get a bonus of some pussy and a place to stay. Also i don't need to be in a committed relationship to make you a rebound. I can be broken up with the one I want and have you as a rebound or almost to the point if commitment with someone and see you as a rebound. I don't mean to be harsh but you wanted answers. I'm just being real.