LDR

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Geminiinphilly on Sunday, January 29, 2017 and has 43 replies.
How long do you think that an Aquarius man can deal with a long distance relationship before moving on?
I moved to Houston, Texas and he lives in Philadelphia. We've always been within a mile of each other. We were super close. And we actually lived together for about 6 months before I moved here. We've been together for almost 2years. I moved here last month.
Yes, we have discussed him moving here, but I'm staying with my sister and her kids right now until I get a job and find my own place to stay. I feel like I'm on a time clock to hurry up, before I lose him. But, I guess if he moves on, I can't really blame him. I would be hurt and resentful for awhile though.
I moved away to find a better situation than the one that I was living in. I had to move back in with me my mom back in Philly, and me and her weren't getting along. I've already found a job here but it's not paying that much. Plus, I am a single mother.
We talk everyday, and we both have our good days and bad days. Today was a bad day for me, and I felt really negative. Like we might as well give up and stop holding on to each other. All I want is to be with him and this distance is killing me. I've never been apart from him this long since we met. His birthday is coming up on the 12th, maybe I'll try to visit him then.
His financial situation is screwed up right now. He is staying with his dad. We both made some bad choices with money and had to move. Him with his folks, and me with mine. That's why we're apart. Then, I decided to move here to make a change for the better in my life, and set-up the foundation for him to move down here in by the summer. He's found a job up there, and I found one here. Our plan is slowly coming together, but the way my patience is set-up...lol I want him now! I know how aquas and their attention spans are. And, my anxiety is outta control. Some days are better than others though
Posted by Capri-sun
Aqua is also a fixed sign...just saying

The summer is what 3-5 months away. He should start apply for jobs where you are. That is no type of time for you to be worried about or stressing yourself out over
That's what he says!! lol That I have is heart and I should just stick to the plan and stop worrying so much. That it will all work out. What does the fixed sign thing mean? Is that good or bad for this situation?
Ohhh! That's a really good thing. I'm just really nervous by nature. Yeah, I'm definitely very adaptable. I just have to trust that he's going to follow thru on all our plans. Thank you so much for your insight. I feel like a million times better. I'm sure he would thank you as well for calming my nerves. lol
Omg that's far. You just put my lil situation into perspective a lot. What you're doing takes a lot of patience and understanding. You guys rock!! I wish you all the best. ☺
Posted by littlenanobyte
I don't understand Aqua as a "fixed air sign", it makes no sense to me. It seems like an oxymoron

Aqua is the most common sun sign presence throughout my whole life, the one I am the most familiar with than any other. The ones I know, and there are many, are nothing like the astrological description: Sciency, progressive, humanitarian, curious, eccentric, unpredictable, etc. Not a single one.

I was going to make a thread about it myself lol.

TBH Gemini and Aqua are a wonderful pairing, regardless of what dxp says here on the Internet world. Irl, it is different dynamic than what you hear on this board.

It sounds to me like he cares about you, and you just need to be patient (I am also not patient). You are both in tight situations with limited options, so you have no choice but to focus on yourselves individually at this time. Work on making money and getting on your feet above all else, and then things will fall into place.




Love, love love this advice!! That's our major issue right now. Money!! My logical mind knows this, but my heart is heavy. I have to keep in mind that he loves me, and is sticking with me through all of this.

Posted by littlenanobyte
I understand what you are going through 100% though. I am in a LDR with a European right now. We are engaged, and we see each other a couple months out of the year. The plane tix are around $ 1500 a pop. I work part time and am in college. It blows, but we manage.

I recommend tons of FaceTime/Skype every night. Texting and phone calls. Pix messaging what you are up to. Keeping things interesting - playing games, watching movies together. It can work if you both really want it to.

Hang in there!
How do you watch movies together? You both press play at the same time and then discuss by text the progress of the movie?
It depends on the connection we have, in the beginning of relationships I am pretty insecure, I need to know I'm not wasting my time with you, I also need to learn how to love someone from a distance and be comfortable with it first.

My Aunty in law is Aquarians and is married to my mothers brother who is a Sagittarius, he works on oil rigs for 6 months at a time and she stays at home and keeps house till he comes back, they are rich as fuck and he spoils her, this is my ideal relationship
Posted by Geminiinphilly
I moved away to find a better situation than the one that I was living in. I had to move back in with me my mom back in Philly, and me and her weren't getting along. I've already found a job here but it's not paying that much. Plus, I am a single mother.
You should focus on your situation and making it better than this dude. If he moves on so what, is he helping you live a better life than you are now?

What about your child? I would have tunnel vision at this time to improve my circumstances. Not love.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
It depends on the connection we have, in the beginning of relationships I am pretty insecure, I need to know I'm not wasting my time with you, I also need to learn how to love someone from a distance and be comfortable with it first.

My Aunty in law is Aquarians and is married to my mothers brother who is a Sagittarius, he works on oil rigs for 6 months at a time and she stays at home and keeps house till he comes back, they are rich as fuck and he spoils her, this is my ideal relationship
Yeah this sounds like they have an awesome arrangement. Oan, I have to check out if they're hiring at the oil rigs for my own man. That seriously sounds cool as hell, and I am in Texas right now lol
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Posted by Geminiinphilly
How long do you think that an Aquarius man can deal with a long distance relationship before moving on?
Eternity...... He probably loves the space..
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LOL Yeah I'm quite sure that he is not completely hating it.
I posted here a few months ago about my LDR. Well, it's over now. I guess that I just don't have what it takes to keep an aqua man interested from afar. He claimed to love me but barely talked to me, and showed little interest in keeping our relationship alive. I'll always love him, but I cursed him out and am implementing then no contact rule now.
Sorry to hear that. Long distance relationships are hard enough. It takes two people who are willing to communicate to make them work.
Thanks!! I agree. Plus, I started to get the feeling that he was spending his time with other women, when he wasn't talking to me. Part of me wants him to beg and/or try to win me back. But, that's probably not going to happen knowing him. Time to get over him.
"He claimed to love me but barely talked to me"

When you say barely talked to you, was it a thing where he never called or didn't like calling?

"Showed little interest in keeping our relationship alive"

This is sad to the read since I'm a similar situation, gave my heart to a cancer female for about 3 years LDR and kinda had to walk away because I'm mentally tired of trying..plus she keeps way too many guy friends around for me to trust her.

"I'll always love him, but I cursed him out and am implementing then no contact rule now"

Fighting fire with fire here lol, if he's truly finished..you may (very low chance) never hear from him again. Our aloofness makes us not care if someone is ignoring us.
Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
I agree with this to an extent.. We make efforts depending on how long the relationship is/was.

My brother and a friend of mine who are also Aquarians stop making efforts once we feel like we've tried and it lead to nowhere.

Posted by AquariusJan25
"He claimed to love me but barely talked to me"

When you say barely talked to you, was it a thing where he never called or didn't like calling?

He called mostly everyday. If there was a day when things were busy for both of us, we would still text everyday. I've never gone without talking to him unless we were arguing and he or I tried to ignore the other.

"I'll always love him, but I cursed him out and am implementing then no contact rule now"

Fighting fire with fire here lol, if he's truly finished..you may (very low chance) never hear from him again. Our aloofness makes us not care if someone is ignoring us.

LOL This may be true. Considering that I have tried to ignore him before and failed miserably.


Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

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Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
I agree with this to an extent.. We make efforts depending on how long the relationship is/was.

My brother and a friend of mine who are also Aquarians stop making efforts once we feel like we've tried and it lead to nowhere.

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Well, we were together for almost 2yrs off and on. We've been in different cities for about 3 months now.
Posted by Geminiinphilly
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Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
I agree with this to an extent.. We make efforts depending on how long the relationship is/was.

My brother and a friend of mine who are also Aquarians stop making efforts once we feel like we've tried and it lead to nowhere.

Well, we were together for almost 2yrs off and on. We've been in different cities for about 3 months now.
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Ooooooh the off and on thing...yikes !

I want to say he's done and then I want to say nah he's not. It's a time thing, just gotta wait it out. Sad




Ooooooh the off and on thing...yikes !

I want to say he's done and then I want to say nah he's not. It's a time thing, just gotta wait it out. Sad

Yeah the on and off things sucks majorly. I just want to be done with it now. Like, I can't really deny the feelings that I obviously still have for him but I want to move on now. It's so hard for me to just be silent though. Talking is kinda my thing. But, since I cussed him out via text on Saturday morning. He's said nothing lol So, I'm just gonna have to keep it moving.

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Ooooooh the off and on thing...yikes !

I want to say he's done and then I want to say nah he's not. It's a time thing, just gotta wait it out. Sad

Yeah the on and off things sucks majorly. I just want to be done with it now. Like, I can't really deny the feelings that I obviously still have for him but I want to move on now. It's so hard for me to just be silent though. Talking is kinda my thing. But, since I cussed him out via text on Saturday morning. He's said nothing lol So, I'm just gonna have to keep it moving.

Shit I missed that, you cussed him too lol Sad

Yea he's going to be staying away for a lil bit. Did you try calling?

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Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
I agree with this to an extent.. We make efforts depending on how long the relationship is/was.

My brother and a friend of mine who are also Aquarians stop making efforts once we feel like we've tried and it lead to nowhere.

Or if the relationship has been tainted
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There we go. Thats the word I was looking for.

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Ooooooh the off and on thing...yikes !

I want to say he's done and then I want to say nah he's not. It's a time thing, just gotta wait it out. Sad

Yeah the on and off things sucks majorly. I just want to be done with it now. Like, I can't really deny the feelings that I obviously still have for him but I want to move on now. It's so hard for me to just be silent though. Talking is kinda my thing. But, since I cussed him out via text on Saturday morning. He's said nothing lol So, I'm just gonna have to keep it moving.

Shit I missed that, you cussed him too lol Sad

Yea he's going to be staying away for a lil bit. Did you try calling?

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Calling?? Yeah right!! I'm so not calling that brat lol
Posted by ra3ch80
@Geminiinphilly

Do you know for sure that he spends time with other women? or did you just get a feeling?
Well, I could just tell from looking at his fb profile that he was talking to and spending time with other women. Add that to the fact that he only called me while he was at work, and all the signs pointed to him hanging out with and most likely sleeping with other women.
Posted by cvurko
Keep the good memories and try moving on with optimism. One door closes, others open ^^ Feel the pain, learn from it and get back on track to experience da gud stuff
Yes!! Well said! I'm working my way back to thr good stuff now. One day at a time.
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If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
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That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
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If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
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no more, you know what the deal is and he's just being an azz and stringing you along - drop him like a hot potato and just keep moving

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Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
no more, you know what the deal is and he's just being an azz and stringing you along - drop him like a hot potato and just keep moving

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That's how it feels. My instincts keep telling me that he's full of it.

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Posted by aquarius_beauty
If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
no more, you know what the deal is and he's just being an azz and stringing you along - drop him like a hot potato and just keep moving

That's how it feels. My instincts keep telling me that he's full of it.

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Well it surely sounds like it - sounds like an old Aqua I used to date for a very SHORT period of time ... then after I thought it was over he calls me out of the blue and wanted to come over and I was like what ? no ! ... ewwww by that time I was over it and it just was really weird ... he was wwwwwayyyyy too flakey for me !



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If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
no more, you know what the deal is and he's just being an azz and stringing you along - drop him like a hot potato and just keep moving

That's how it feels. My instincts keep telling me that he's full of it.

Well it surely sounds like it - sounds like an old Aqua I used to date for a very SHORT period of time ... then after I thought it was over he calls me out of the blue and wanted to come over and I was like what ? no ! ... ewwww by that time I was over it and it just was really weird ... he was wwwwwayyyyy too flakey for me !



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Yes that definitely sounds like something that he would do. I'm growing tired of the ups and downs. It's getting old.


I know that Aqua males like to test their subjects. I've seen my Aqua male friend do this, he gets a kick out of it. He likes to get a rise out of his girl, he has fun with it. *shrugs* oh well.


Yeah part of me feels like he does it to test me. He knows that he can get under my skin like no other. I'm so sick of the games. It seems I'll never win!! lol
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Posted by Geminiinphilly

Yeah part of me feels like he does it to test me. He knows that he can get under my skin like no other. I'm so sick of the games. It seems I'll never win!! lol
Yeah, I can't do mental games continuously. I have Gemini moon and that sht gets old pretty quick. At first it's cute and endearing but then I crave stability and consistency. If not then I move on or at least try to. have you tried confronting him about it? Aquas do this so they can test your emotional boundaries and self-respect. If you put him in his place he might end up respecting you and stop doing it.
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Yes. You hit the nail on the head for me. We've played all the mental games that I'm willing to play. I'm ready for the real deal. I have confronted him multiple times about it. He knows how I feel. Now, I feel like I just have to back off and ignore him and go on with my life as if he doesn't exist. I feel like that's what he will respect.

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If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
no more, you know what the deal is and he's just being an azz and stringing you along - drop him like a hot potato and just keep moving

That's how it feels. My instincts keep telling me that he's full of it.

Well it surely sounds like it - sounds like an old Aqua I used to date for a very SHORT period of time ... then after I thought it was over he calls me out of the blue and wanted to come over and I was like what ? no ! ... ewwww by that time I was over it and it just was really weird ... he was wwwwwayyyyy too flakey for me !



Yes that definitely sounds like something that he would do. I'm growing tired of the ups and downs. It's getting old.
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it does get old - and stale - cough cough - I just didn't buy his blah blah blah anymore ... I need someone who knows what they want and does something about it

LDR rarely work. And the ones that do the people involve are usually engaged/married/or super committed and have a plan live in the same place at some point. So its not you, its the beast that is LDR.
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Posted by Geminiinphilly
Thanks!! I agree. Plus, I started to get the feeling that he was spending his time with other women, when he wasn't talking to me. Part of me wants him to beg and/or try to win me back. But, that's probably not going to happen knowing him. Time to get over him.
Omg don't beg or try to win him back. That's exactly what aquas want. Don't let them win.

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Yeah I have done that in the past. I'm trying so hard not to give in to him this time. I don't want to keep giving the impression that I'm a weak ass.

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If an Aquarius makes no effort into a relationship then they're not that into you or as invested.

If I love a person I will try to find a solution to making it work.
Well, not no effort. But, in my opinion, he was all talk and not enough action for me to really believe that he wanted to really be with me. Granted, we were only apart from each other for 3 months. I wanted to see more effort put into us tho. I just didn't want to waste anymore time. I wanted to make plans to be together in the same city and he just didn't seem to take it as seriously as I wanted.

You want to move things at your pace but Aquarius aren't about being cornered. The more you push the more he'll pull away.
That shit really grinds my gears. He tests my patience and it's annoying. After all that I said to him, he waits 2 full days then texts back "I love you". How annoying ?
no more, you know what the deal is and he's just being an azz and stringing you along - drop him like a hot potato and just keep moving

That's how it feels. My instincts keep telling me that he's full of it.

Well it surely sounds like it - sounds like an old Aqua I used to date for a very SHORT period of time ... then after I thought it was over he calls me out of the blue and wanted to come over and I was like what ? no ! ... ewwww by that time I was over it and it just was really weird ... he was wwwwwayyyyy too flakey for me !



Yes that definitely sounds like something that he would do. I'm growing tired of the ups and downs. It's getting old.
it does get old - and stale - cough cough - I just didn't buy his blah blah blah anymore ... I need someone who knows what they want and does something about it

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Exactly!! One minute he's hot, the next cold. It's so lame.

Posted by aquarius_beauty
Posted by Geminiinphilly

Yes. You hit the nail on the head for me. We've played all the mental games that I'm willing to play. I'm ready for the real deal. I have confronted him multiple times about it. He knows how I feel. Now, I feel like I just have to back off and ignore him and go on with my life as if he doesn't exist. I feel like that's what he will respect.

Trust me, if he knows that he can't live without you in his life he will come back around. Yes, walking away will gain new perspective for both of you and will have him respect you more. Stand your ground and let him know you ain't putting up with that bullbutter any longer.
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I really thought that moving over a thousand miles away from him would be a great way to move on and get him to make more of an effort. It's been months and I don't see any improvements. It's so frustrating to not get what I want lol But, he's been texting me today. So, Idk what that means for us. Not contacting him is hard but I'm really gonna try.
Posted by Nepturanus
LDR is hard. with Aqua is impossible.
Why?