Leo woman needs advice on Aquarius man
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by LeoGirl55555 on Tuesday, October 17, 2017 and has 10 replies.
Hello everyone.
I am a Leo Woman and i am currently talking to an Aquarius Man (who is 19 yrs my senior) for about 6 weeks now.
We met online and we have not met face to face.
For the first three weeks we spoke a lot on social media about various topics. From what he does to a living to pretty deep emotional topics. Within the first two weeks of us chatting he disclosed that he really likes me and wants to take things further and that we are a perfect match. He asked a lot about my life and really showed interest. He would also mention that he wishes to take me to certain places.
However, as the weeks went along intense chatting cooled down a lot but he has told me a few times that he loves me (he says this about 3times a week) and has not lost interest and still wishes to take things further. I asked him what are the chances of him taking things further and he said 80% and the 20% is if I don’t want to take things further.
What bothers me about this man is that:
Firstly, the intense chatting that has cooled down a lot. Now he will message me first in the morning before work and then after work. I will maybe get a random message from him during the day but nothing major. Then on weekends we will chat more but not like we use to. Yes this can be attributed to the fact that he is a very busy man and I do believe that he is busy but some weekends I get the impression that he doesn’t want to really talk to me. He will hardly show interest in my day or my doings or even ask any further questions in order to get to know me better. This he did in the beginning. However when I am busy and he doesn’t get a reply from me he gets irritated and thinks that I am playing the ignoring game. This isn’t true as I am actually just busy.
Another thing is that him and I have an INTENSE sexual attraction. Lately, that is almost the only time I get a proper reaction out of him. I have however explained to him that because I have very strong emotional feelings for him I wont sleep with him unless there is a solid relationship.
Secondly, he NEVER answers my calls or calls back. I have asked him nicely to please call me or if it is late at night and I haven’t heard from him I call him. But then every time he comes with an excuse why he can’t answer and then makes a promise to call me back- which he never fulfils. Another thing is that we live in the same town and we have made countless plans just to meet for coffee but every time on the last minute he will cancel or come with an excuse why he can’t make it. I have asked him before if he is nervous to meet me and he said yes very. When I asked him why his answer was that he is scared that he will disappoint me in general. He also told me that he is scared to meet me because he is scared he loses his heart and mind and then gets hurt. I’ve decided to no longer push for a coffee date because I don’t want to sound naggy or pushy and believe that he will arrange it when he is comfortable. But at the same time I don’t want it to seem like I’m losing interest in him.
So is he slowly but surely losing interest in me or is he just taking space to figure things out and what should I do because I really have no idea.
I am a Leo Woman and i am currently talking to an Aquarius Man (who is 19 yrs my senior) for about 6 weeks now.
We met online and we have not met face to face.
For the first three weeks we spoke a lot on social media about various topics. From what he does to a living to pretty deep emotional topics. Within the first two weeks of us chatting he disclosed that he really likes me and wants to take things further and that we are a perfect match. He asked a lot about my life and really showed interest. He would also mention that he wishes to take me to certain places.
However, as the weeks went along intense chatting cooled down a lot but he has told me a few times that he loves me (he says this about 3times a week) and has not lost interest and still wishes to take things further. I asked him what are the chances of him taking things further and he said 80% and the 20% is if I don’t want to take things further.
What bothers me about this man is that:
Firstly, the intense chatting that has cooled down a lot. Now he will message me first in the morning before work and then after work. I will maybe get a random message from him during the day but nothing major. Then on weekends we will chat more but not like we use to. Yes this can be attributed to the fact that he is a very busy man and I do believe that he is busy but some weekends I get the impression that he doesn’t want to really talk to me. He will hardly show interest in my day or my doings or even ask any further questions in order to get to know me better. This he did in the beginning. However when I am busy and he doesn’t get a reply from me he gets irritated and thinks that I am playing the ignoring game. This isn’t true as I am actually just busy.
Another thing is that him and I have an INTENSE sexual attraction. Lately, that is almost the only time I get a proper reaction out of him. I have however explained to him that because I have very strong emotional feelings for him I wont sleep with him unless there is a solid relationship.
Secondly, he NEVER answers my calls or calls back. I have asked him nicely to please call me or if it is late at night and I haven’t heard from him I call him. But then every time he comes with an excuse why he can’t answer and then makes a promise to call me back- which he never fulfils. Another thing is that we live in the same town and we have made countless plans just to meet for coffee but every time on the last minute he will cancel or come with an excuse why he can’t make it. I have asked him before if he is nervous to meet me and he said yes very. When I asked him why his answer was that he is scared that he will disappoint me in general. He also told me that he is scared to meet me because he is scared he loses his heart and mind and then gets hurt. I’ve decided to no longer push for a coffee date because I don’t want to sound naggy or pushy and believe that he will arrange it when he is comfortable. But at the same time I don’t want it to seem like I’m losing interest in him.
So is he slowly but surely losing interest in me or is he just taking space to figure things out and what should I do because I really have no idea.
lol comeback here again AFTER you meet him.
Posted by LeoGirl55555
Hello everyone.
I am a Leo Woman and i am currently talking to an Aquarius Man (who is 19 yrs my senior) for about 6 weeks now.
We met online and we have not met face to face.
For the first three weeks we spoke a lot on social media about various topics. From what he does to a living to pretty deep emotional topics. Within the first two weeks of us chatting he disclosed that he really likes me and wants to take things further and that we are a perfect match. He asked a lot about my life and really showed interest. He would also mention that he wishes to take me to certain places.
However, as the weeks went along intense chatting cooled down a lot but he has told me a few times that he loves me (he says this about 3times a week) and has not lost interest and still wishes to take things further. I asked him what are the chances of him taking things further and he said 80% and the 20% is if I don’t want to take things further.
What bothers me about this man is that:
Firstly, the intense chatting that has cooled down a lot. Now he will message me first in the morning before work and then after work. I will maybe get a random message from him during the day but nothing major. Then on weekends we will chat more but not like we use to. Yes this can be attributed to the fact that he is a very busy man and I do believe that he is busy but some weekends I get the impression that he doesn’t want to really talk to me. He will hardly show interest in my day or my doings or even ask any further questions in order to get to know me better. This he did in the beginning. However when I am busy and he doesn’t get a reply from me he gets irritated and thinks that I am playing the ignoring game. This isn’t true as I am actually just busy.
Another thing is that him and I have an INTENSE sexual attraction. Lately, that is almost the only time I get a proper reaction out of him. I have however explained to him that because I have very strong emotional feelings for him I wont sleep with him unless there is a solid relationship.
Secondly, he NEVER answers my calls or calls back. I have asked him nicely to please call me or if it is late at night and I haven’t heard from him I call him. But then every time he comes with an excuse why he can’t answer and then makes a promise to call me back- which he never fulfils. Another thing is that we live in the same town and we have made countless plans just to meet for coffee but every time on the last minute he will cancel or come with an excuse why he can’t make it. I have asked him before if he is nervous to meet me and he said yes very. When I asked him why his answer was that he is scared that he will disappoint me in general. He also told me that he is scared to meet me because he is scared he loses his heart and mind and then gets hurt. I’ve decided to no longer push for a coffee date because I don’t want to sound naggy or pushy and believe that he will arrange it when he is comfortable. But at the same time I don’t want it to seem like I’m losing interest in him.
So is he slowly but surely losing interest in me or is he just taking space to figure things out and what should I do because I really have no idea.
🤔 We like mental stimulation. Don't feed to deep into it. We are shy to stay behind social media and when curious we make mountains move for what we really want.
Does he normally people online or this is him trying something new?
Aquas are low key horny dogs including the women... so at end of day we don't prolong sexual attraction. What holding up y'all meeting in person and experiencing the next level?
And he fell back in communication.... unless he handling business center focused we don't normally do that to a person we want to be with unless you have some traits that he find would not be helpful to what he is doing. We have no problem finding time to talk on hours about what's goes on in our heads when we really love you. We actually like to dump it on people but only if they understand. Have he done this?
19 years difference is a lot, regardless of your age. Don't let anyone tell you it's not.
At his age, either he's single for a reason (and your description of the way he is acting is why)
Or
He's got plenty of others taking up his time and he's playing around to see how low you'll go before finally giving up.
At his age, either he's single for a reason (and your description of the way he is acting is why)
Or
He's got plenty of others taking up his time and he's playing around to see how low you'll go before finally giving up.
Posted by aquarius_manPosted by sultrykitty
19 years difference is a lot, regardless of your age. Don't let anyone tell you it's not.
no, it's not.click to expand
Yeah it is. Even if she's 50.
Posted by oxSunQueenxo10 years, maybe 15 tops. Generational issues start to crop up at a certain point and relating becomes difficult. Sure there are exceptions but everyone thinks they're it.Posted by sultrykittyOkay, so, if you had to put a cap on age difference when it comes to relationships, what would it be?Posted by aquarius_manPosted by sultrykitty
19 years difference is a lot, regardless of your age. Don't let anyone tell you it's not.
no, it's not.
Yeah it is. Even if she's 50.click to expand
Posted by aquarius_manPosted by sultrykittyPosted by aquarius_manPosted by sultrykitty
19 years difference is a lot, regardless of your age. Don't let anyone tell you it's not.
no, it's not.
Yeah it is. Even if she's 50.
no, it is not. some people can be younger/ older than their age. age difference shouldn't be an impediment if the two are intelligent and have things to talk about. biology isn't everything.click to expand
Making life choices based on the exceptions to the rule sets one up for disappointment. Ordinarily I might actually agree with you, but tue fact that the OP started her post with the age difference means she thinks it's important.
If someone is just looking for a nice mutual relationship without goals for a future, then age may not play as big a role. But when you're thinking about long term possibilities, there's a reality that really should be considered.
Posted by aquarius_manSee, now your bias is showing.Posted by sultrykitty But when you're thinking about long term possibilities, there's a reality that really should be considered.the age difference between my mom and my dad is 8 years and between my grandparents 10+. i agree they're a different generation and they were doing things differently, but a successful relationship shouldn't start with concerns about the age difference. statistics suggest if the difference between the two is bigger than 6 years, you have a problem, anyway. but to me personally age doesn't matter as long as the woman isn't older than me
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You're fine with it because the idea of a sweet young thing on your arm sounds nice! Someone who'll change your diapers when you're old and infirm...don't you know that's what children are for??
I'm just playing.
Posted by aquarius_manHealthy ego on this one!Posted by sultrykittyi dont need a trophy wife. im the trophy.
You're fine with it because the idea of a sweet young thing on your arm sounds nice! Someone who'll change your diapers when you're old and infirm...don't you know that's what children are for??
I'm just playing.click to expand
Posted by bittercupcake100% disagree. for me heart comes first.Posted by oxSunQueenxoAquarius have a habit of falling in love with their mind first over their heart - this is where the disagreement with Leos come into play. Because you can't understand that Aquarius are mental beings when you can only relate to matters of the heart.Posted by nightowlI don't think it's the fast-moving intensity that's the problem; it's more that the Aqua dude told her that he loves her when they've been talking for six weeks... And have never even gotten together in person to experience each other's vibes.
This much intensity for someone you met online for a short while can scare anyone away becareful of guys who say they love you just like thatclick to expand
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