Lost with aqua/pisces cusp
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Moss on Tuesday, January 17, 2017 and has 7 replies.
Confused and lost cancer here. So, I've been in a relationship with aqua/pisces cusp for a year. Shitstorm happened on Christmas day. I gave him a gift that wasn't expensive but thoughtful. He was very excited about it and reacted the same way I imagined he'd react. He told me he didn't have anything for me a few days before, but I already had his wrapped so I just brushed that bad feeling off. Afterwards he 'switched' his mood and wanted to go hang out in a bar with friends instead of what we planned. I was upset but I didn't make a scene or anything and just joined. All the following evening he was cold and it just felt like I didn't exist for him. I believe the trigger for this behaviour might have been the gift situation...
On a second day of christmas my true love gave to me~~~dumped me over the phone saying he didn't know how he felt about me. He acknowledged that he mistreated me on Christmas day and it shouldn't be that way. He kept the convo as short as possible as did I when he called to check up on me the next day. I was calm and just said I was happy that he was open to himself and to me.
So, I was coping quite well, almost three weeks went by with no contact from either side. Then he called saying he wanted to return my things, which obviously was an excuse to contact me. I agreed to meet but when the day came I felt I couldn't yet see him, cause I was still hurting and didn't want to feel worse. He kept calling me trying to convince me to meet and talk but I kept refusing and said I'll call when I'm ready.
All in all, similar situations occurred many times in our relationship, with him disappearing for 1-2 weeks. Hot and cold, hot and cold, IT DRIVES ME NUTS. After he's back he usually behaves as nothing really has happened and everything's normal. Through these times I learned to accept it and just play along as confrontation doesn't work with him. He's quite lost in his life and has lots of issues to deal with, so I've tried to be as understanding as possible. I know he cares about me but it seems he just doesn't know what he wants and what's important to him.
This time was just too much for me and the rational part of me wants out of this, just to keep my dignity and sanity... I'm moving on mentally but It's so much harder when (I'm quite sure) wants to reconcile. I believe I'll wait a few more weeks to heal a bit more and the see what happens from there.
So, the question is, do you think it's worth investing more time and effort into this or is it pointless?
Placements:
Me: cancer sun, leo moon, venus in virgo
Him: pisces 0° sun, leo moon, venus in aqua
On a second day of christmas my true love gave to me~~~dumped me over the phone saying he didn't know how he felt about me. He acknowledged that he mistreated me on Christmas day and it shouldn't be that way. He kept the convo as short as possible as did I when he called to check up on me the next day. I was calm and just said I was happy that he was open to himself and to me.
So, I was coping quite well, almost three weeks went by with no contact from either side. Then he called saying he wanted to return my things, which obviously was an excuse to contact me. I agreed to meet but when the day came I felt I couldn't yet see him, cause I was still hurting and didn't want to feel worse. He kept calling me trying to convince me to meet and talk but I kept refusing and said I'll call when I'm ready.
All in all, similar situations occurred many times in our relationship, with him disappearing for 1-2 weeks. Hot and cold, hot and cold, IT DRIVES ME NUTS. After he's back he usually behaves as nothing really has happened and everything's normal. Through these times I learned to accept it and just play along as confrontation doesn't work with him. He's quite lost in his life and has lots of issues to deal with, so I've tried to be as understanding as possible. I know he cares about me but it seems he just doesn't know what he wants and what's important to him.
This time was just too much for me and the rational part of me wants out of this, just to keep my dignity and sanity... I'm moving on mentally but It's so much harder when (I'm quite sure) wants to reconcile. I believe I'll wait a few more weeks to heal a bit more and the see what happens from there.
So, the question is, do you think it's worth investing more time and effort into this or is it pointless?
Placements:
Me: cancer sun, leo moon, venus in virgo
Him: pisces 0° sun, leo moon, venus in aqua
Why is this on the Aqua board?
We claim no responsibility for this broken individual.
We claim no responsibility for this broken individual.
the broken and the needy and the ambitious and successful, the middle in betweeners, all welcome here. lol
give me your sick, poor,
whatever that lady liberty says....lmao
the u.s. is Aquairus moon.
@aqua09 you're not living up to your aqua moon.
the cancer parts got kicked in, and said, NOOOOOO MORE people!!!
and the aquarius part is ...what?? they are needy and helpless and need help!! you can't just turn them away!!
NOOOO!!! they will suck out our resources
edit
actually I don't know the rest of the U.S. charts.....
give me your sick, poor,
whatever that lady liberty says....lmao
the u.s. is Aquairus moon.
@aqua09 you're not living up to your aqua moon.
the cancer parts got kicked in, and said, NOOOOOO MORE people!!!
and the aquarius part is ...what?? they are needy and helpless and need help!! you can't just turn them away!!
NOOOO!!! they will suck out our resources
edit
actually I don't know the rest of the U.S. charts.....
http://www.astrology.co.uk/news/USA.htm
OP, reading your big text which I had to focus...concentrate.
it just sounds like he is not ready for a deep relationship.
he is overwhelmed and burdened, and it sounds like, honestly he wants a "lighter" relationship in which he doesn't have to feel overwhelmed with stuff. or other people's problems.
it really gives him anxiety.
this happens with individuals who have their own shit to deal with and can't handle other people's, so I don't think it is any fault of yours. He is just not ready.
OP, reading your big text which I had to focus...concentrate.
it just sounds like he is not ready for a deep relationship.
he is overwhelmed and burdened, and it sounds like, honestly he wants a "lighter" relationship in which he doesn't have to feel overwhelmed with stuff. or other people's problems.
it really gives him anxiety.
this happens with individuals who have their own shit to deal with and can't handle other people's, so I don't think it is any fault of yours. He is just not ready.
Don't bother with him I had the same thing with my aqua. On and off for 6 months always coming back days or weeks later apologising because he was just vile to me. The things he would say when things didn't go his way would cut like a knife he just didn't care that he was hurting me. Then he would be back like nothing had happened. It finally ended Christmas and I'm now fully blocked on anything that's possible to contact him on. I know eventually he'll calm down and be back again but this time there's no chance as I've had enough. I'm a libra and we're supposed to be compatible.
Hey I wanted to post about what happened to me and an aqua because your situation was similar to mine. So I've been dating an aqua guy for 3 months going on 4..anyway everything seemed perfect between us chemistry was there and we moved pretty fast. We do have sex but always with a condom. I had an argunanet with him a few weeks back about how I hadn't heard from him in a week. Before all of this he told me that if I was wondering if I was the only girl he talks to I am. So I was like cool this is even better because he knows that I wanted a relationship and when we first started talking he told me he wanted something long term. So after that week of not hearing from him I texted him and blah blah I told him that it wasn't cool and I asked him if we were done. He kinda brushed the whole thing off and was saying I just wanted to argue and he's just bad at texting ppl back. Sooo I told him I was gonna back off cause I was too involved at the moment. I backed off for 2 weeks then reached out to him telling him to stop having fun without me on Snapchat. So he says "come and have drinks with us then" and tells me to come
Spend the night. I couldn't that night but I needed up coming over a few days later. That night was everything cause I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks so I missed him and we were all over each other and laughing and joking and playing..like no time was missed. That night we ended up having unprotected sex for the first time which was special to me. A few days later I see a girls page that was tagging him in all of her pics..calling him bae etc etc I was soooo hurt. I texted him and called him like 8 times and sent him screenshots of what I saw. I was furious I asked why he lied to me and why did he tell me I'm the only girl. He never answered me just got upset and said hurtful things which I said hurtful things too. We NEVER spoke to each other like this before. So he ended up blocking me from everything possible and he is still talking to that girl.. she claims they are in a relationship now. I needed up popping up at his house too cause he blocked me from everything and that was the only way I could talk to him but that ended up horrible cause his mom was there and he wouldn't talk to me. But he never blocks me before. I'm wondering will he unblock me or is he done for good. I know he was only mad bc he got caught and no we aren't in a relationship but we act like it. We call each other baby/ babe and hold hands in public etc. i know I sound stupid for wanting him back but it's bc I know we had something special and I feel like he only with this chick cause he so mad at me right now.
Spend the night. I couldn't that night but I needed up coming over a few days later. That night was everything cause I haven't talked to him in 2 weeks so I missed him and we were all over each other and laughing and joking and playing..like no time was missed. That night we ended up having unprotected sex for the first time which was special to me. A few days later I see a girls page that was tagging him in all of her pics..calling him bae etc etc I was soooo hurt. I texted him and called him like 8 times and sent him screenshots of what I saw. I was furious I asked why he lied to me and why did he tell me I'm the only girl. He never answered me just got upset and said hurtful things which I said hurtful things too. We NEVER spoke to each other like this before. So he ended up blocking me from everything possible and he is still talking to that girl.. she claims they are in a relationship now. I needed up popping up at his house too cause he blocked me from everything and that was the only way I could talk to him but that ended up horrible cause his mom was there and he wouldn't talk to me. But he never blocks me before. I'm wondering will he unblock me or is he done for good. I know he was only mad bc he got caught and no we aren't in a relationship but we act like it. We call each other baby/ babe and hold hands in public etc. i know I sound stupid for wanting him back but it's bc I know we had something special and I feel like he only with this chick cause he so mad at me right now.
Posted by lisabethur8Aqua moon is a humanitarian, not an enabler for poor behavior. ?
the broken and the needy and the ambitious and successful, the middle in betweeners, all welcome here. lol
give me your sick, poor,
whatever that lady liberty says....lmao
the u.s. is Aquairus moon.
@aqua09 you're not living up to your aqua moon.
the cancer parts got kicked in, and said, NOOOOOO MORE people!!!
and the aquarius part is ...what?? they are needy and helpless and need help!! you can't just turn them away!!
NOOOO!!! they will suck out our resources
edit
actually I don't know the rest of the U.S. charts.....
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