men and the rubberband theory....

ok.. any of you guys know if aquas are more pronen to the move forward pull back thing that my friend talks about.. Where a guy will start to get close then go back into a man cave or something like that... for example.. they give you a xmas gift.. seem really happy then get sortof not totally silent -

If you have had this happen- I could use some advice on what to do... and why they have to retreat.. doesnt seem women do this at all...

Men need their space -- especially Aquas. Actually, I need my space, too...I don't always want to talk to people.

Give him time to process everything and reboot. I beleive your a libra, correct?? Libras understand the need to regain there energy [usually with loads of sleep 😛]...its the same as the aqua alone time.

I dont think so.

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pardon me for not understanding any of it.**crosseyed expression**

I understand...OH MY GOD DO I UNDERSTAND!!!!

"If you have had this happen- I could use some advice on what to do... and why they have to retreat.. doesnt seem women do this at all..."


What I have learned in life regarding relationships and life itself in order for one to be happy is - understanding and accepting that we cannot understand the choices a person makes for himself along with being able to be in the present moment with "what is" and letting it be.

Your friend did what he did because he just did...it is him. Once we begin to accept people for who they are life seems to become much easier.

*love - what is.

After 9 months of being in love with a great man an aquarious man I have learned a lot. Yes they do retreat from time to time. To just gather their thought. It is frustrating sometimes and my man hasnt done it oftn but when he does and returns he acts like nothing is wrong and that it is a simple thing that is needed to just get things straight in his life. He isnt looking sround or doing anything on the sly ...just caving. Iam now dealing with him having a major accident on 12/17 and it landed him in the hospital for 2 weeks. Now I hope he doesnt retreat all together. Just let your guy do it but explain that he needs to tell you when he is going to retreat so you wont FREAK out. They usually dont and just rtreat whenever they need space. I havnt quite figured it all out but you will see a pattern and although it wont make you feel any more comfortable you will at least understand that it isnt you that is pushing him away. Keep communication up and always be honest about how it makes you feel when he disappears. I know exactly how you feel. I feel for you. But rememeber to not be selfish but alao he has to remeber that too. I think they forget that by disappearing and not sayng when and why is very selfish on their part. Love is giving all the time and many times when it isnt easy.

What the hell is the rubber band theory—

Apparently men have a "cycle" of intimacy where they are very close to and passionate with their significant other, followed by a period in which they distance themselves from their partner. If the man's girlfriend is hurt by his behavior and starts chasing after him, it causes him to distance himself even more from her.

Thank you!

You're welcome 🙂

You are so right they will run from you if you chase them.

Have to say my Aqua never does this this, only when we fight and he he goes awol for a few days. Always comes back like the proverbial rubber band though lol.

yes I am a libra.. He is back... just as the comment said earlier like nothing is wrong.. and no time has elapsed. I do accept him just was wondering more about understanding how men get close and process things- Not complaining or freaking out about it just wanting to get an insight into how the intimacy thing works for men. I know everyone isnt the same just because of their sex... but the general process... and the rubberband theory is a male state... women have lots of other issues but this one seems as though its a guy thing....