My Sissy

Yesterday, in the wake of the full moon - a day which was filled with idiots and assholes, was the death anniversary of my best friend's brother (who took his own life,) and to top the whole day off....my sister's dog was hit by a car and killed. 😢


I know, dogs get hit by cars all the time, life goes on. But I'm like devastated for my sister. My heart hurts so bad for her.

She just got this little pitbull puppy a couple months ago. She was soooooo attached to it. She took that dog EVERYWHERE with her. She knitted it little scarves and bandannas, sewed it's toys when it ripped them, etc. She was very maternal. As an Aqua I had never really seen her care so much about something/someone other than herself. (She is a kind person, just self-absorbed and preoccupied by her own thoughts like a lot of Aquas)

They say sisters can feel each other's pain, and I believe it now. I feel so sad and empty, and it wasn't even my dog. In fact, the dog really didn't like anyone but her. But the feeling won't go away, and there's nothing I can do to make it better.

Losing a pet is seriously worse than losing a family member. 😢

As Aquas, what would comfort you if you were feeling so sad and empty?
She reached out to me specifically, which she does not do, ever (she thinks I'm too dramatic and overreact to things.)
I was the only person she called. I feel like she needs me. But I don't know what to do.

Ask her what she needs from you.

*sigh* if only it were that easy. I don't think she knows what she needs either.


As the big sister, I've always been protective of her... I hate feeling helpless like I can't do anything to make it better for her.

OK, Bri. As the biggest animal lover on the planet...let me tell you what I need when I've lost pets because I've never experienced more pain than when they have died.

What I need is just someone to listen to me. Be there when I feel like talking about it. Be there even when I don't want to talk about it so I know that you're there when I do.

In my opinion, the only way to grieve in an effort to heal is to GET IT OUT. She'll need to cry...often and hard. Just let her get it out. She'll get it out of her system until she feels the need to do it again. Sooner or later (may take a very long time) the time periods between the tears will expand and she'll want to talk about the good memories.

Here...maybe this will help too.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge...
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing: they miss someone very special to them; who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. The bright eyes are intent; the eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to break away from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. YOU have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Honestly, I'm teary eyed now too. I'm sorry for your sister's loss and your feeling of helplessness.

By the way...I would never try to take her mind off of it. Reason being is that only pushes the pain down further which I think makes it harder to get to in order to release it.

Somehow I face it head on..I think about it, I saturate myself in the pain that I feel so that I CAN cry it out.

Posted by Shadows
OK, Bri. As the biggest animal lover on the planet...let me tell you what I need when I've lost pets because I've never experienced more pain than when they have died.

What I need is just someone to listen to me. Be there when I feel like talking about it. Be there even when I don't want to talk about it so I know that you're there when I do.

In my opinion, the only way to grieve in an effort to heal is to GET IT OUT. She'll need to cry...often and hard. Just let her get it out. She'll get it out of her system until she feels the need to do it again. Sooner or later (may take a very long time) the time periods between the tears will expand and she'll want to talk about the good memories.

Here...maybe this will help too.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge...
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing: they miss someone very special to them; who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. The bright eyes are intent; the eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to break away from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster. YOU have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

♥ thanks so much for that. I really appreciate it. I'm thinking I will save this and put it in a frame with a picture of her and the dog I took recently. Give it to her in a few weeks when she isn't so devastated.

Posted by pigeonpie
As for the dog's soul, it doesn't go to heaven on hell, it stays on this plain, the dog energy.
See how cats get scared and people can be like " oohhhh my cat can see ghosts !!"
Nah, it can feel the dog chi, rrarrrr. 🙂

🙂 Thanks

I know she really misses her. I feel it and it sucks 😢

"Losing a pet is seriously worse than losing a family member."


Wow!



Framing that with the pic is a good idea.

Posted by aquagirl24
"Losing a pet is seriously worse than losing a family member."




ehhhhh—?

its ok to be an animalist, but this is exaggerating...

To you maybe. That is the damn truth for me.

I guess it depends on which family member.

But yeah, it hurts really bad.

I've lost many friends, thankfully not too many family members...and still I never cried so hard in my life when I lost my pet prairie dog.

Same with my sister. I've never seen her that emotional about anything

With pets, its nothing but pure love. No.resentment, no issues, no problems. I think it makes perfect sense why it hurts so much.

Posted by pigeonpie
Even though it's probably too early to get a new dog (waiting a few months seems the most sense I've noticed with peeps wo've had a pet die), it's Aqua time, maybe get her a new doggie for your sister's birthday, bri ?

I really think she needs another dog too. I hinted, like maybe one of Layla's brothers or sisters needs a home?
She said..."I don't want another dog now...plus I doubt they'll give me another dog after I killed the first one."


😢 Poor sissy
I assured her it wasn't her fault, and no matter how careful she was it still could have happened. Dogs have minds of their own, they get off their leashes and run off sometimes. These things happen. That's just the way it is.
She did everything she could to get her out of harms way.

im sorry for your sisters loss bri...just be there for her. show her your there and your ready when she is