Need help and adivce/input, Aquarius Man

Hello everyone, I have a small dilemma and would love to hear advice, input, or opinion.... Thank you so much.

I am : Scorpio with Sagittarius Rising born on 10/28/1989
He is : Aquarius born on 2/17/1989
Me and him are both Life Path number 2

The first time I laid eyes on this Aquarius man, I knew he'd be mine one way or another.... It was definitely lust at first sight, and total attraction. We first met in our Philosophy class in college. We had been sitting next to each other for the whole semester, but never spoke. It wasn't until one day I unknowingly (wink,wink) walked past him. Sure enough he came up to me and introduced himself, and we started talking. It was like fireworks. The teacher let us out early that day so for an hour we walked around the campus and got to know one another.

I could tell he liked me too and felt the same way I did. When we first met he also told me that he had been wanting to talk to me for the entire semester.

Fast forward a few weeks, and nice conversations of getting to know you -- and we kiss on our last day of class. It was so romantic, it was exactly like a movie. We also exchanged numbers.


It's been about 2 months now since class ended.


I forgot to mention that I just moved to this new city and live with my boyfriend, and this Aquarius guy I like also told me he "kind of" has a girlfriend. But our attraction and chemistry to one another is so strong and feels beautiful, there is no way me and him can ignore it - even if it means being labeled as a "cheater".



The only communication I have now with my Aquarius lover is through text messaging. He tells me the sweet things every girl wants to hear, and we have really fun interesting conversations. Me and him have common likes and common beliefs. We even want to raise our kids the same way. He texted me good morning, good night, he called me beautiful, and he'd always be the one to initiate the texting. We even ended up staying up until 3:40AM. It was just very sweet.

He even told me I remind him of Belle from Beauty and the Beast, then I responded that he reminds me of Beast.... I told one of my friends and she said that me and him sounded like All love, and no lust.... Lovely dovey, with no sexual feelings, but a natural soft childlike love.


The last text we had was a little weird in which I need help clarifying on.


I basically told him that I would not sleep with him at his mother's house (because he lives with his family rig

This is what I want to know from all you astrology people out there! What do you guys think, how would you interpret this? I have some knowledge of astrology, but still don't know much.

I have studied a little bit about Aquarius men and a lot of them said that Aquarius men tend to disappear and then reappear ? And that Aquarius men ignore the women they like? Is this true? I have no idea whether he is ignoring me because the conversation about sex/his girlfriend/my boyfriend/ made him uncomfortable? What do you guys think?


I am Scorpio, but have Sagittarius rising. I have dated 2 Gemini's, 2 Aries, 1 Leo, and 2 Sagittarius men.... I know people who are Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces, (which are supposed to be the best sign for water Scorpio) but I don't think I could date them......

Even though I know Scorpio female and Aquarius male are not compatible, is there still a sign of hope? What I have going on here feels like it could be something special, I think he knows/feels it, and so do I. He is very very sweet to me, very kind, and when we would talk he would be smiling the whole time. It felt like the attraction of 2 kids who were in love. He even said he thinks we would make sweet love, which is what I feel too.



Although I am Scorpio, I can be detached, aloof, mysterious, and always on the go.... Sometimes I feel like I must be a Gemini or something? And I get bored very very easily, and I can be impulsive........ Which is like this Aquarius man I like too.

It's strange because I know Scorpio usually isn't like this, and I wonder could my Aquarius guy have a Water Rising sign? He is on the Pisces cusp, which might make him more sensitive to me, so our signs could match well.


Can you guys give me some insight? Is this something worth pursuing? Does my Aqua male just need his time apart ? What should I do ? Should I give this Aqua man his space? Should I text him to show him I care ? Do you guys think this Aquarius guy likes me?

I can be aloof, detached, and live my life, which is supposedly what Aquarius men like --- OR I can text him now and ask why he has been ignoring me?

Where has your live-in boyfriend been during all this? He didn't notice you texting til 3 a.m.? Where you doing it behind his back?

I'd let the aqua go and concentrate on your committed relationship.

I don't mean that to sound judgemental, but I meant for my advice is to either work on the relationship you're in OR end it before you start working on another one.

@truecap,

Thank you for your input. It's ok, I know you don't mean to sound judgemental. It is a unique situation, my boyfriend knows I don't want to be with him forever, me and him have talked about breaking up. We live together, yes, but are more like room-mates. I pay rent, and I have my own room downstairs. Most of the time we don't even sleep in the same room, and we barely have sex anymore. I completely understand where you are coming from, and I understand how bad this might look to people from the outside. BUT, I can't move out right now because I am saving up money.

@truecap - Well that night when I was texting till 3am he was in Michigan, spending his birthday with his family and his friends (not me). So me and him both understand that this is not long term. We love each other, we just aren't in love.

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@truecap,

Thank you for your input. It's ok, I know you don't mean to sound judgemental. It is a unique situation, my boyfriend knows I don't want to be with him forever, me and him have talked about breaking up. We live together, yes, but are more like room-mates. I pay rent, and I have my own room downstairs. Most of the time we don't even sleep in the same room, and we barely have sex anymore. I completely understand where you are coming from, and I understand how bad this might look to people from the outside. BUT, I can't move out right now because I am saving up money.

sigh...

some of the topics on the aqua board is just...sigh *shakes head* (insert lol anyway)

some are giddy giddy happy happy fakey fakey, some are just dumb, some are just well, kind of real, which are nice, and some are, like this one.....

is this for real? Good thing I had some garlic and artichokes for dinner.

So what happened to your parents? Can't you move in with them and tell them, "hey i've met a new man and everyone will believe and think that the man i've been with for awhile is still with me, even though we're in separate bedrooms, and yes, daddy, mummy, i've broken up with him. My hormones got the best of me with this aqua man."

Well if you have a bad relationship with your parents, what about friends and looking up roommates or something.

@lisabethur8 - Sorry if my post was dumb, I agree it is a funny/dumb/fakey/happy post... I agree this is a weird situation lol. But yes this was for real.

I don't have friends in this new town because I just moved here and I am saving up money. The guy I live with now wouldn't kick me out or anything like that. Both my parents are alive and well, if that is what you are asking. I do not want to live with them though, I haven't lived with my parents since I was 17.

I am not sure if you are being sarcastic, but yeah hormones plays a part.

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@lisabethur8 - Sorry if my post was dumb, I agree it is a funny/dumb/fakey/happy post... I agree this is a weird situation lol. But yes this was for real.

I don't have friends in this new town because I just moved here and I am saving up money. The guy I live with now wouldn't kick me out or anything like that. Both my parents are alive and well, if that is what you are asking. I do not want to live with them though, I haven't lived with my parents since I was 17.

I am not sure if you are being sarcastic, but yeah hormones plays a part.

yes i was being sarcastic. Sorry. It's hard to tell online at times. I'm like this all the time with my husband, and he with me, so.....

and no, i wasn't referring to your post as dumb or fakey fakey happy happy. I was just being sarcastic.

i'm just saying that you can move in with your parents since you broke up with your ex?

I'm not a fan of making friends with ex's myself, so it's up to you. Your message came off as if your ex and you were actually together while you are going after the aqua guy. Also, this aqua guy? Don't you think he should ditch his gf first? I mean, if i were single, and a guy says "I'm with someone right now but we're not doing good together, but i wanna be with you."

It does raise red flags you know. Jus' saying. Not trying to be judge and jury either. It's your life.

I agree with the whole closing one door before opening up another but perhaps just a different way of avoiding conflict.

When I make a genuine connection with someone it's forever locked in time, we are a fixed sign after all, so good impressions are usually there to stay. He might be serious about his girlfriend though I'm not sure he might really just be playing the field at the moment and not getting too serious with anyone in particular. So who knows, he might be sweet talking every girl he's made a connection with.

What I can say is that he's probably given you quite a few clues as to what he wants and you've just been sitting in the sidelines waiting for him to make that move. What I can say from my experience is we don't all operate like that. If you're not going to take the initiative then why should we? In our minds obviously the connection isn't that strong so there's no point in pursuing it.

Surely you can blame it on the wishy-washy nature and perhaps he is being a bit ambiguous about it all. So I'll give out the same old advice that I always give out. What do you want? Are you the type to take charge and going after what you want? If yes then you know what to do. If not then feel free to end up like the majority of the women who post about their aloof aqua guys and never knowing where they stand.

@lisabethur8 - Oh totally, I understand. I would be weary too online (in general). But I like sarcasm though lol.

What is happening right now, that once I do seperate ways completely (completely move all my things out, get an apartment, make the transition back to the city) I'll have money saved up. I could live with my mom if I wanted to. The reason why I don't want to live with my mom is because she lives in the suburbs, and I like to be in the city (I live in Hollywood, California). It's not a question really of where or who I would live with, I know how to take care of myself. I was just wondering what to do in this specific situation.

I wouldn't give a guy the time or day if I didn't really like him or felt something beautiful happening, you know? Although, I understand, this situation would raise eyebrows.

I think me and this Aqua guy are taking it slow and letting it grow organically/naturally, even though we are with people and have our own lives. If he told me he wants to focus on his GF I would be completely OK with that. And if he said he wants to be only friends I'd be OK with that as well.


It's a weird situation and it's hard to explain every detail, I just wanted astrological advice. I don't want a serious relationship with this Aqua guy nor do I want to marry him. I'm OK with giving him space and us being friends, I was just confused if he was "Aqua-disappearing" on me, or ignoring me, (which is something I read Aqua men do because they don't want to get too attached?).


Sorry if this message is all over the place.. I should of articulated things more, but I appreciate your point of view and any advice.

@chaoticallyorganised - You're totally right. Someone else suggested to close one door before opening another, and it makes sense. That's the advice I needed to hear, not only in respect to myself, but in respecting other people as well. I think I knew the right thing to do but needed to hear it again.

You're right that he could just be playing the field, and who knows if he is sweet talking every girl too? I feel though the attraction is genuine, and the compliments are genuine too, but like you said, who knows, I could be wrong. I haven't been waiting on the sidelines for him to make a move, me and him both know we like each other. I actually made the first move on him (without him realizing it) when I walked past him for the first time and stood next to him.

What do I want? I guess from this thread I wanted to know what I should have done. Like an Aquarius, I can be detached and aloof too, so I have no problem with us just being friends. I think I'll text him to see what is up, and ask if he went back to his GF or if he just wants to be friends. Thank you for your advice and input, I really appreciate it.

I can't honestly answer for him but I can answer as an Aqua. Maybe if you post his full chart we'd have a better insight into him.

I don't get why people contact me years later telling me the could haves and should haves. Sure, at the time the connection is strong and I enjoyed every lingering moment. I'm a chaser and I go for what I want but there's a very limited window of opportunity, if you come on too strong I'm gone, if you don't react I'm gone there's no in between.

It won't stop me from reacting to you the same way because I feel you've earnt my respect but I will be very clear as to where we stand. Other times if it was never resolved then it'll just stay a memory until there's a chance to reignite it again. I'm not too sure which category you fall into.

From the sounds of it you know what you're doing. All I can say is keep following whatever it is you do. When a choice is made it's always the right choice even if the end result is considered bad. Best of luck.

@Nicrobliz - I am majoring in religious studies right now 😉

So please don't school me on spirituality or karma. I won't go into a debate, but everyone's ideas on karma is different. Everyone has different ideas on morals too, and what is perceived to be "good" or "bad". Society also tells us what is wrong and good, which can be completely OK in different cultures. What about you? Are your hands clean? What about if you step on a bug? That is karma. What about if you yell at someone, or give someone a nasty look, or tell a white lie? Is that karma? Is it karma if I cheat but no one knows? Is it cheating if my boyfriend goes out and gets Asian happy ending massages? Is it wrong if me and him are broken up? Is it wrong if I feel in my gut this desire?

How a person defines karma is very different, while most people think "cheating" is wrong - it's also influenced by society, where in the middle east and parts of Africa it is OK and dandy to have multiple partners.

Humans are not monogamous creatures, despite what society and religions want us to believe.

Please don't school me, I'm an adult and obviously know what my views on karma, spirituality, God, and the universe is.

yeah but those societies are very PATRIARCHIAL. They love it when they have harems of beautiful women... all for the choosing.

Let me tell you, men secretly think about it. LOL

But we're in an equal/egalitarian society and some of us women will cut up a bitch if he even thinks about stepping out with another woman. There's gonna be hell to pay.