we freak out emotional scenes[crying, yelling, throwing words around...etc]...imo, this is what scared him, not your feelings...
my advice? i think you should let him cool for several days and then message him [not in person. that would make him feel cornered] that you have realised that was overemotional of you, but you are human and it was too much for you to handle at that moment, that you understand his hesitation now, and that you'll give him the time and space he needs as you need some too to regain yor composure.
at least this is how i'd like to be handled in such a situation. i don't guarantee a coming back, but it would be the only language i'd understand and respect.
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Oct 08, 2009Comments: 1 · Posts: 6313 · Topics: 313
sounds a lot like my ex who is a cancer??_.
my ex was my first boyfriend ever and even though we are not together its like he is my boyfriend still because we still have sex whenever we see each other and act like best of friends??_??_.its only when he starts to beg for me to approve the label of our relationship as together its when things start going downhill. You cancerians need to understand peoples space and understand that time with the person you care about is more important that them grooming your insecurities by being all lovey dovey all the time??_??_especially us aquarians with scopio moons don't ever expect us to be lovey dovey with you ever again after a breakup??_.well we can be lovey dovey in the sense of sex but not emotional investment.
he does like you and sees you as family and an important person in his life, but the second you stars getting demanding its gonna be difficult for him to reciprocate because we remember everything.
you should just be humble and happy to have him in your life
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 143 · Topics: 22
I was really happy to have him back in my life, finally after 4 years... I have always hoped he would come back because I really think he is the one for me
And when we first saw eachother I was really relaxed and chilled. But after sex... and then after drinking, I got scared that this didn't mean anything to him, and I didn't want to lose him. So I freaked. Which has completely scared him off
Now I have gone back to losing him... I dont want to lose him... I've apologised for my freakout, I've told him I will give him space... but I'm scared he will never come back... The high I experienced when I first saw him when he was being so affectionate and telling me such wonderful things about us, was just incredible.. and for it to end like this.. I don't know how to cope. I feel like I have lost the love of my life. I feel like there will never be another chance...
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 143 · Topics: 22
I just can't over what happened, how things could go from soo amazing to soo bad in 24 hours.... I don't even understand how it happened, I was drunk and just behaved in a way that I didn't recognise... I don't even know who I was that night, but it seems that my old feelings just made me react in that way. I don't want him to think thats who I am now, some crazy person who cannot control her emotions at all. Sounds so pathetic. He can't be attracted to that
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Jun 25, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 324 · Topics: 14
Thanks, I know I scared him.. but I'm afraid that I have scared him off forever... Is this possible?
It's hard to say, it depends on how he feels about you. After he's cooled down, talk to him and explain why you had an emotional outburst. As an aqua I know we can be more understanding on how people react to certain situations. However, we may or may not care, depending on how we feel about that person.
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Mar 20, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 143 · Topics: 22
Miscommunication, I don't think is the problem... He freaked out by me being emotional and expressing my feelings... Maybe he thought he could kiss me and have sex with me without there being repurcussions or growing feelings, and then maybe he realised he did have feelings but that he couldn't be with me.. .and when I revealed my feelings it scared him?
I don't know.... but I don't know how he could go from being so amazing to so cold in less than 24 hours, because all I did was reveal my feelings for him.
I apologised for being emotional, yet he didn't emotional for being so cold and horrible. I've heard nothing and I don't think I will. He said he's really messed up at the moment and he can't be in a relationship, plus the fact I live so far he says its impossible and doens't even want to think about it.
But if you have feelings, if you have a connection, if you have chemistry, if you have attraction.... how can you walk away and be so cold to that person?