Not sure about Aqua woman

Long story short.

I met this Aqua woman 2 months ago, she approached me. In the beginning she was all about flirt and games. Since I'm a Cap, I don't usually fall into this trap when my gut is giving me a cold shower of red flags. Later she told me that she runs out at full speed when a guy is trying to force her to date so I guess that I was clever to shut down her games. We started to talk after this, almost everyday because it's simply impossible to get an answer from her in a decent time, so one message gets a reply after a few hours, or the next day. She told me that she likes the way I think. Yes, we had a few moments when she actually replied in a short time but usually it's a 10-20 min thing and then we're back to the same old dance. I said ok, this is her, I'm not going to cut her off but I will give what I get.

We went out, not on a date, something casual and man, she is crazy! Awesome and crazy! She is a completly different person. We had a lot of fun, taking creative pictures, sharing ideas about the creative process of taking those pictures, she was something else, we were talking a lot of nonsense and she was confortable with that, with me. She grabbed my hand a few times for a few seconds while we were crossing the street. As a Cap, her nature slapped me wide awake. We had a little chat about relationships and she said some amazing things and she got me wanting to know more about her.

After this ''date''? Same old dance as I said. This is annoying af, I mean I don't have a problem giving her the space she needs but I would like to know that I don't look stupid while waiting a few hours for a reply. Yes, I saw that she is not checking her phone too often but I assume that she is not that crazy with everyone, I felt that and she kinda said that too.

After that day I wanted to tell her that she is amazing, that she said a few amazing things that I never heard before from a woman at her age, and I wanted to do it friendly and not scare her off but honestly? I don't know if it's okay. I am a deep thinker, I don't say things in a conventional way because for me it's boring.

Right now I try to be as detached as possible, without any expectation because getting too much into this will eventually make me tell her that I feel like crap waiting for an answer and making myself look stupid while this might be her normal behavior. That will screw everything and here's the catch, I usually speak my mind but she is something else and somehow I don't want to lose her, because it was a click at it's finest and I want to treat that with all of my respect. It might be a big thing to tell you that I have never experienced this connection. She came out strong without doing anything, shaking my world of ice.

What should I do? I haven't seen her around other people and that makes my job even harder, I don't know if she is interested in anything or she is just...an aqua, a social butterfly.

It is a good idea to tell her about how I feel about our meeting?

Yes, I realized that she is not the texting type when I saw her face 2 face.

Today I was pleasantly surprised, she texted more, not by much, but enough to make a difference. So I can say that I'm done thinking that she is is not interested just because of poor texting contact. I don't rely on texting anyway.

Even if I am a Cap and people say that we are controling, my last relationship was all about controling and I was the one being controlled, had enough. I would never do that to someone I love.

Yes, I like her too, as I said, she is different, her mind, our connection, that moved me.

I have no problem giving her the space she need, I told her that I value my ''me time'' too. She seemed happy about that.

I forgot something, and it's more like a guideline because I'm not quite sure about you aqua ladies. I'm learning.

Seeing her twice a week at this stage could be too much until we get some clarity about where is this going? Seems ok for me.

Or I sould wait and stay in the once per week range?

@Wildd_Flo I've got nothing but time. Yes we move slow because we don't like to throw ourselves into the water without knowing how deep it is.

@ClassyAquarius She is all about jokes, fun and good vibes, and this is a treasure for us Caps. I don't have a problem if she is busy, at the end of the day where is the magic if she is always available? Especially in the early stages where I think it's okay to miss someone, that's how you create something strong.

@GemiAwesomeAss I've got that vibe in the beginning when we first met, now that feeling is gone. I know how to read people and I know when someone is confortable with me or it's trying to play me, which is quite hard as I stated above when we first met. And I saw her eyes, there might be something but she isn't playing.

Posted by Ethes

We started to talk after this, almost everyday because it's simply impossible to get an answer from her in a decent time, so one message gets a reply after a few hours, or the next day.

This is annoying af, I mean I don't have a problem giving her the space she needs but I would like to know that I don't look stupid while waiting a few hours for a reply.

What should I do?

*Giggles*

That's my default way of responding when I'm interested and comfortable. It is a very easy pattern to follow, especially in a LDR, since it eliminates the ups and downs created by intense exchanges until 2 am, followed by days of withdrawal. It's my way of being reliable and future-orientated.

I usually read my boyfriend's email in the middle of doing something else, and also reply to him...but only in my mind. Throughout the day, I'm looking forward to putting my thoughts into writing and getting a response from him later, and it brings a smile to my face.

Of course i do enjoy the odd exception too...

@GemiAwesomeAss I get it, you may be mad because of your ex Cap but just because you had one, this doesn't mean that we are all the same. And no, you can't play your cards as you like, whenever you like. I've been with a Gemini like you and just for the record, your attitude is nothing like her's. And she never said that she can play me.

The difference between me and you is that my gut feeling never betrayed me and yet, I don't act like I can read every single human out there, or every single Gemini just because I had one. So calm down.

No, we were strangers, she is quite an independent woman.

If someone used you for your wealth, this doesn't mean that everyone wants that. Just my 2 cents.

Posted by Ethes

Long story short.

I met this Aqua woman 2 months ago, she approached me. In the beginning she was all about flirt and games. Since I'm a Cap, I don't usually fall into this trap when my gut is giving me a cold shower of red flags. Later she told me that she runs out at full speed when a guy is trying to force her to date so I guess that I was clever to shut down her games. We started to talk after this, almost everyday because it's simply impossible to get an answer from her in a decent time, so one message gets a reply after a few hours, or the next day. She told me that she likes the way I think. Yes, we had a few moments when she actually replied in a short time but usually it's a 10-20 min thing and then we're back to the same old dance. I said ok, this is her, I'm not going to cut her off but I will give what I get.

We went out, not on a date, something casual and man, she is crazy! Awesome and crazy! She is a completly different person. We had a lot of fun, taking creative pictures, sharing ideas about the creative process of taking those pictures, she was something else, we were talking a lot of nonsense and she was confortable with that, with me. She grabbed my hand a few times for a few seconds while we were crossing the street. As a Cap, her nature slapped me wide awake. We had a little chat about relationships and she said some amazing things and she got me wanting to know more about her.

After this ''date''? Same old dance as I said. This is annoying af, I mean I don't have a problem giving her the space she needs but I would like to know that I don't look stupid while waiting a few hours for a reply. Yes, I saw that she is not checking her phone too often but I assume that she is not that crazy with everyone, I felt that and she kinda said that too.

After that day I wanted to tell her that she is amazing, that she said a few amazing things that I never heard before from a woman at her age, and I wanted to do it friendly and not scare her off but honestly? I don't know if it's okay. I am a deep thinker, I don't say things in a conventional way because for me it's boring.

Right now I try to be as detached as possible, without any expectation because getting too much into this will eventually make me tell her that I feel like crap waiting for an answer and making myself look stupid while this might be her normal behavior. That will screw everything and here's the catch, I usually speak my mind but she is something else and somehow I don't want to lose her, because it was a click at it's finest and I want to treat that with all of my respect. It might be a big thing to tell you that I have never experienced this connection. She came out strong without doing anything, shaking my world of ice.

What should I do? I haven't seen her around other people and that makes my job even harder, I don't know if she is interested in anything or she is just...an aqua, a social butterfly.

It is a good idea to tell her about how I feel about our meeting?

Oh my friend.

Well isn’t this a breathe of fresh air... the shoe is on the other foot for a change 😂

Listen, as a man that has been in Long Term Relationships with Aquarius women pull back. Remember yourself and focus on your business/career. If you really want to gain some control over this whatever you have going on ignore her this week and reach out to her next week. You're falling into a tender trap and once inside there, you're gone bruh... Aquarius women want what they want. Do anything you want to except give her your private thoughts. You're dealing with a tigress pretending to be an alley cat. And I'm a fellow earth sign like you. You've been warned.

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Listen, as a man that has been in Long Term Relationships with Aquarius women pull back. Remember yourself and focus on your business/career. If you really want to gain some control over this whatever you have going on ignore her this week and reach out to her next week. You're falling into a tender trap and once inside there, you're gone bruh... Aquarius women want what they want. Do anything you want to except give her your private thoughts. You're dealing with a tigress pretending to be an alley cat. And I'm a fellow earth sign like you. You've been warned.

It’s funny you say that when if it were the woman coming here with this exact problem, they are told he has other things going on and you should have patience and do you until he messages you. Double standards?

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Listen, as a man that has been in Long Term Relationships with Aquarius women pull back. Remember yourself and focus on your business/career. If you really want to gain some control over this whatever you have going on ignore her this week and reach out to her next week. You're falling into a tender trap and once inside there, you're gone bruh... Aquarius women want what they want. Do anything you want to except give her your private thoughts. You're dealing with a tigress pretending to be an alley cat. And I'm a fellow earth sign like you. You've been warned.

It’s funny you say that when if it were the woman coming here with this exact problem, they are told he has other things going on and you should have patience and do you until he messages you. Double standards?

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