Not sure what to think Aquarian Man
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by BrownEyedTaurus on Tuesday, August 12, 2008 and has 11 replies.
Hello,
So I met Aquarian man 4 months ago. Called me his girlfriend. After a few months, he doesn't tell me he likes me but shows me, never have to buy a drink, always takes me home, dinners paid for, affectionate with me. Even got to know his best friend via phone call (is in another country) However, then he started to act distant,does work a lot. He joked around when we first met, like how he was going to ask me to marry him and have babies with me. All fun and games. Although I know that he will never get married. Well one day I sort of twigged that with his constantly working this would be a tricky. I was talking to a friend and got upset, not realising that he had seen me cry! Oh God! So embarassed, asked me what was wrong, then he called me. I got myself together and we talked. He said that in the past few weeks he'd started to fall for me and that he was scared and also because I was leaving, then I told him why I was upset, he told me that it was the same reason his previous relationships had ended, after that he wasn't ready for this. Spoke later, after I told him how I liked him a lot he told me that he thinks I'm a really good girl. When I told him how some moments with him made me feel, he did sound happy. Then he cut the conversation short.
So anyway, after that saw him the next day and just kept things neutral. Since then when I've seen him have been with male friends and noticed him wanting to touch me more and being more affectionate. Even contacting me by sms to see if i'd met any new men or wanting to see me on his way home (only after I'd been around other men otherwise he didn't do that) Well...then I didn't see him right up until I left for another country. Will be returning but not for months yet He didn't contact me, I called but no response, only a few times did he respond. After I'd left I spoke to him a few times, he said he felt bad about what happened with me, then a few weeks passed with no contact and then he called to say he misses me. Now nothing, it's been almost a month. I've tried sending a few sms's/ calling. last e mail I sent I told him I missed the little things he did for me, yes romantic things. When I have him on the phone he says he'll call back but still nothing.
He's either not ready or just doesn't like me? Someone who knows him said he may be trying to fix his previous relationship just as I was leaving the country but doesn't know for sure! What do you all think?
So I met Aquarian man 4 months ago. Called me his girlfriend. After a few months, he doesn't tell me he likes me but shows me, never have to buy a drink, always takes me home, dinners paid for, affectionate with me. Even got to know his best friend via phone call (is in another country) However, then he started to act distant,does work a lot. He joked around when we first met, like how he was going to ask me to marry him and have babies with me. All fun and games. Although I know that he will never get married. Well one day I sort of twigged that with his constantly working this would be a tricky. I was talking to a friend and got upset, not realising that he had seen me cry! Oh God! So embarassed, asked me what was wrong, then he called me. I got myself together and we talked. He said that in the past few weeks he'd started to fall for me and that he was scared and also because I was leaving, then I told him why I was upset, he told me that it was the same reason his previous relationships had ended, after that he wasn't ready for this. Spoke later, after I told him how I liked him a lot he told me that he thinks I'm a really good girl. When I told him how some moments with him made me feel, he did sound happy. Then he cut the conversation short.
So anyway, after that saw him the next day and just kept things neutral. Since then when I've seen him have been with male friends and noticed him wanting to touch me more and being more affectionate. Even contacting me by sms to see if i'd met any new men or wanting to see me on his way home (only after I'd been around other men otherwise he didn't do that) Well...then I didn't see him right up until I left for another country. Will be returning but not for months yet He didn't contact me, I called but no response, only a few times did he respond. After I'd left I spoke to him a few times, he said he felt bad about what happened with me, then a few weeks passed with no contact and then he called to say he misses me. Now nothing, it's been almost a month. I've tried sending a few sms's/ calling. last e mail I sent I told him I missed the little things he did for me, yes romantic things. When I have him on the phone he says he'll call back but still nothing.
He's either not ready or just doesn't like me? Someone who knows him said he may be trying to fix his previous relationship just as I was leaving the country but doesn't know for sure! What do you all think?
Hey,
Thanks for the reply. Hmmmm, will do, there's no point worrying about something I can't do anything about. Back there he kept talking about wanting to show me everything but it felt like he was procrastinating. I didn't ask him to show me anything. So he's not thinking about me...well fair enough, when someone's not in the same country and you didn't like the fact that they were leaving how could you be sure they're coming back. I guess if he's said he misses me that's the truth but he doesn't feel like saying any more than that. At least that's something.
At the end of the day as much as I like to know where I stand with a guy, it's important to remember that you can't make someone choose you, it's like magic, if they want to be with you they will. You can and will only be yourself. However, I'm young at 24 have lots going on so I will take your advice LeoKitten, thanks : )
He knows I like him, what he does with that is up to him. At least if I don't contact him by the time I'm there again all the drama will have subsided and I will feel more detached from the whole situation, that's most likely the best way forward. If it doesn't work it's ok, it wasn't meant to be. There will be others : )
I do worry that perhaps he may feel like I've been pestering him, oooppsss, what's done is done : )
Secretly...I do want him to get in contact though....well folks, I'll keep you posted
Thanks for the reply. Hmmmm, will do, there's no point worrying about something I can't do anything about. Back there he kept talking about wanting to show me everything but it felt like he was procrastinating. I didn't ask him to show me anything. So he's not thinking about me...well fair enough, when someone's not in the same country and you didn't like the fact that they were leaving how could you be sure they're coming back. I guess if he's said he misses me that's the truth but he doesn't feel like saying any more than that. At least that's something.
At the end of the day as much as I like to know where I stand with a guy, it's important to remember that you can't make someone choose you, it's like magic, if they want to be with you they will. You can and will only be yourself. However, I'm young at 24 have lots going on so I will take your advice LeoKitten, thanks : )
He knows I like him, what he does with that is up to him. At least if I don't contact him by the time I'm there again all the drama will have subsided and I will feel more detached from the whole situation, that's most likely the best way forward. If it doesn't work it's ok, it wasn't meant to be. There will be others : )
I do worry that perhaps he may feel like I've been pestering him, oooppsss, what's done is done : )
Secretly...I do want him to get in contact though....well folks, I'll keep you posted
I think he's just being his logical Aquarian self - you've left for another country...he could meet somebody/you could meet somebody...why put yourself through the drama of a long distance relationship???? Respect his maturity in that I suppose and see what happens when you get back.
It's hard but it's also just the way it is....oh and he will distance himself from you now. He can't have you, you're in another country so why agonise over you??? He's being the logical one and protecting himself.
It's hard but it's also just the way it is....oh and he will distance himself from you now. He can't have you, you're in another country so why agonise over you??? He's being the logical one and protecting himself.
Good Evening,
I can totally understand the logic in that, when I first met him I was getting over a guy I liked long distance and he did say well that wasn't a relationship was it because you were never together. I didn't quite see it so black and white. However, I'm totally illogical and so couldn't see that before, however obvious it may seem. Glad I came on here to get feedback on this! So I suppose he is just applying that to his situation. I'm going back in October for a long weekend to see some other friends, maybe when I go back I'll say hello and I'll be around if he wants to meet up too...or is that a bad idea I wonder, what do you think?...maybe it's better that I leave it til the new year when I do go back for a while and see what happens then.
Wish I could be more logical though and thought like that....I'm terrible at pursuing men, I found out my venus is in aries and it explained a lot! Unfortunately, most men don't like being chased...apparently swedish and norwegian men like it though...haven't tested that theory yet but most of the men I've met don't like being chased so I doubt that it's true : ) ....here's hoping though!
I can totally understand the logic in that, when I first met him I was getting over a guy I liked long distance and he did say well that wasn't a relationship was it because you were never together. I didn't quite see it so black and white. However, I'm totally illogical and so couldn't see that before, however obvious it may seem. Glad I came on here to get feedback on this! So I suppose he is just applying that to his situation. I'm going back in October for a long weekend to see some other friends, maybe when I go back I'll say hello and I'll be around if he wants to meet up too...or is that a bad idea I wonder, what do you think?...maybe it's better that I leave it til the new year when I do go back for a while and see what happens then.
Wish I could be more logical though and thought like that....I'm terrible at pursuing men, I found out my venus is in aries and it explained a lot! Unfortunately, most men don't like being chased...apparently swedish and norwegian men like it though...haven't tested that theory yet but most of the men I've met don't like being chased so I doubt that it's true : ) ....here's hoping though!
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Well, that's another thing, he didn't make any moves like that. Lot's of kissing, he really liked that but apart from that....he apologised for that. He works very long hours (trust me on this one) early on he told me that he didn't want to treat me how other guys I'd been with, i.e passionately sexual. Some male friends have told me that means he's with someone else and just using me as some sort of trophy. What do you think?
Apologies for saying 'that' so many times in one sentence 
so yes this aquarian only touched me with affection not in a sexual way, even when his hands did wander he stopped himself, which was nice, I've never been with a man who stopped himself. Even when I didn't want him too...which was an awful lot but I could wait. For someone so reserved at times his affectionate side really won me over. Like Mr Darcy from Pride and Prejudice!
so yes this aquarian only touched me with affection not in a sexual way, even when his hands did wander he stopped himself, which was nice, I've never been with a man who stopped himself. Even when I didn't want him too...which was an awful lot but I could wait. For someone so reserved at times his affectionate side really won me over. Like Mr Darcy from Pride and Prejudice!coming from another taurus here, i love aquarius men for their intellect, fun and their ability to committ Eventually. However, they are NOT good for us! opposite. we want security, we want stability, predictability, planning, safety net, lots o sex, from the same man we love and being loyal to. we want to know where we stand.
aquarius men like to sample around, even if they have a steady. maybe when they get married, they'd stop. but they are emotionally selfish and only think about themselves. if they can get sex from 20 different girls and still keep their woman, they would. so the question is, do you want to be that woman? as a taurus, i'd say no. unless u get other things out of it, like financial security or family, or if you are capable of having something on the side too.
also, some of them are very successful and generous, but others, the regular guys, would want to be with a woman who pays, also a no no from taurus woman.
i don't mind paying only if he's my man. not if he's spreading his wealth around.
all these signs are showing that he's with someone else. if u just want to have sex with him a couple of time and ok for him not to call you, then do it. otherwise, there is really no winning situaion with them for a taurus woman. other signs can handle it, not us, the only we have in common is we like to eat lots of good food and sex is good.
aquarius men like to sample around, even if they have a steady. maybe when they get married, they'd stop. but they are emotionally selfish and only think about themselves. if they can get sex from 20 different girls and still keep their woman, they would. so the question is, do you want to be that woman? as a taurus, i'd say no. unless u get other things out of it, like financial security or family, or if you are capable of having something on the side too.
also, some of them are very successful and generous, but others, the regular guys, would want to be with a woman who pays, also a no no from taurus woman.
i don't mind paying only if he's my man. not if he's spreading his wealth around.
all these signs are showing that he's with someone else. if u just want to have sex with him a couple of time and ok for him not to call you, then do it. otherwise, there is really no winning situaion with them for a taurus woman. other signs can handle it, not us, the only we have in common is we like to eat lots of good food and sex is good.
Hmmmm, I don't think I'm typically Taurus. Cancer ascendent, moon in capricorn, venus in aries, scorpio in mars. The day I was born is apparently ruled by Uranus (not sure if this is significant?) In numerology my life path number is 3, which I can see more of myself in than in the Taurus sun sign, although I can still identify with that too. However, the Aquarian man spotted I'm not the jealous type, whoo hoo!
Oh I don't know I'm young and I like what I like, which isn't what a Taurus should like but appreciate that I could get tired of this or I may not whichever way it turns out. Perhaps Taureans grow into their boots through experience.If I was the other woman I'd leave though. However, still can't believe that's true....no one knows for sure, even the girl who told me she thinks he might be working out a relationship with someone else didn't know for sure.
If I find out otherwise (i.e ask him when I'm back there and should I feel like I need to ask him that) then I will not be another woman. Will never want to be a man's other woman or one of many and won't.
Does it really indicate that he's playing around, he could well just be taking his time about it, especially since he didn't like the idea I was leaving.
Just trying to keep it balanced
Oh I don't know I'm young and I like what I like, which isn't what a Taurus should like but appreciate that I could get tired of this or I may not whichever way it turns out. Perhaps Taureans grow into their boots through experience.If I was the other woman I'd leave though. However, still can't believe that's true....no one knows for sure, even the girl who told me she thinks he might be working out a relationship with someone else didn't know for sure.
If I find out otherwise (i.e ask him when I'm back there and should I feel like I need to ask him that) then I will not be another woman. Will never want to be a man's other woman or one of many and won't.
Does it really indicate that he's playing around, he could well just be taking his time about it, especially since he didn't like the idea I was leaving.
Just trying to keep it balanced
you are very taurus, you'd never be one of the many or the other woman. nobody takes that long. he's getting his somewhere if not from you. all im saying is not to be naive, it's easy to see it when ur not in the situation yourself. but waiting for him will not pay, i promise you. and i'm not trying to make u feel bad just try to minimize ur pain later.
Maybe there is something in that.
I could well possibly be trusting too wildly. Ok so just before he started calling me his girlfriend he added me to his networking site and it said that his relationship status was complicated and he's looking for friendship. It still does.....I need to be a bit more one step, two step before the third step I think, and I'm talking emotionally committing to a man. Have a habit of ignoring things which isn't a very positive sign of security is it. I should exert a little self control and weigh up the situation rather than jumping right in. It's been fine for now because I haven't wanted anything serious but really I should be more aware that when I do meet a man I really like at least be certain what his relationship status is!
I could well possibly be trusting too wildly. Ok so just before he started calling me his girlfriend he added me to his networking site and it said that his relationship status was complicated and he's looking for friendship. It still does.....I need to be a bit more one step, two step before the third step I think, and I'm talking emotionally committing to a man. Have a habit of ignoring things which isn't a very positive sign of security is it. I should exert a little self control and weigh up the situation rather than jumping right in. It's been fine for now because I haven't wanted anything serious but really I should be more aware that when I do meet a man I really like at least be certain what his relationship status is!
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