OH NOT AGAIN! Still responses please!!!
Im a pisces woman who is fallen for an aqua man(?) Yeah I know, shoot me already. I can't help it. He has these AMAZING eyes. ...sigh...
We have known each other, well we just started REALLY getting to know each other since April, thru emails and went to a couple of outings to group get togethers. We have a lot of the same friends, one in particular who's known him (aqua man) since high school and I've known him since the 90's.
When we are around each other, there's this strong, spiritual connection that everybody sees when where together. We originally met thru a networking site. Where both in the arts. This was almost 3 years ago. Are communication has always been thru email and we just started talking a little bit on the phone, JUST a little..lol
I have met his father at his house, we had phone sex once, we support each others art events, he comes to mine I go to his. We had REALLY hot 4play no sex (yet) as Im in no rush since we are both freshly single. I had him over for dinner, we sat watched a movie and just chilled. Our courting has been very slow and natural, no pressure, exciting. I use my Pisces charm, which seems to work a little, well then again, this is an aqua sign and there is no telling what there thinking.
My intuition or instincts are pretty strong if not spot on, so I no the attraction is there. Oh and by the way, he initiated the kiss and our exciting, almost homerun evening.
We gotten closer to each other since his stepmother past away in July a week after I met her at his house.
Bottom line,.... we started dating and are like magnets when where around each other, where both awkward and shy. He's a mans man with a bit of NERD in him, respectful and mature. Me, well, Im a sensual pisces what else is there to know : )
Problem is, we had a wonderful evening out over his friends house for dinner almost 2 weeks ago, he came into my home for a couple of hours. He went on to talking about his ex and I listened intently with my feet tucked under his thigh on my couch. He's a very gentle, workaholic, spiritual man. I have decided to give him space as I am the one that does a lot of the initiating with the communication. We already talked about our attraction to each other and both agree to take things slow. I have a gut feeling he likes me more than he expected and I think it scared him off. I want to contact him badly but, I don't want him to know how much I like him. Aqua men opinions please or anybody...thanks
This is his Natal chart can anybody read this
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Aquarius 13.04
Moon Scorpio 21.15
Mercury Aquarius 24.05
Venus Pisces 3.32
Mars Libra 27.12
Jupiter Cancer 27.42 R
Saturn Pisces 26.42
Uranus Virgo 23.54 R
Neptune Scorpio 24.13
Pluto Virgo 20.14 R
Lilith Aries 4.11
Asc node Taurus 11.34
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Pisces 2.06
Moon Scorpio 22.37
Me
Mercury Aquarius 6.20
Venus Aquarius 2.21
Mars Gemini 20.08
Jupiter Aries 22.46
Saturn Cancer 27.07 R
Uranus Scorpio 7.05 R
Neptune Sagittarius 13.49
Pluto Libra 11.20 R
Lilith Aries 12.29
Asc node Scorpio 15.49
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Nov 14, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 819 · Topics: 41
Hi Willow,
I'm a Scorp with Gem rising, and I recently dated an Aqua man. You made me crack up with your description of your Aqua "He's a man's man with a bit of nerd about him" because this was my Aqua to the T! We met at a club and he was dancing BY HIMSELF before he noticed me, and I never saw a dorkier dancer in my life! On the other hand, once we started dancing, he was very sensitive, and he put his hand right on the part of my leg which bulges out before it meets the pelvis (if you know what I mean) and I FLIPPED because it just seemed very imaginative to me.
You are right about the eyes -- his eyes were blue and almost glowing they were so vibrant. He never missed a thing about me. He was always very friendly, and, other women here will tell you, liked to play jokes on me, pretending that he didn't like me, didn't want to dance with me. He was boyish, yet wise, very open to life to the point I think he had been hurt. He was shy, but forceful; friendly, but had to be in charge.
I could go on and on. He called me by a nickname that was not my real name (he is foreign, from Eastern Europe) that cracked me up.
My advice: just be yourself, a strong Pisces. You will never tame this man. Be a real woman -- they love that -- pretty, sweet, and sexy.
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Nov 14, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 819 · Topics: 41
I see his moon is in a water sign -- that's good, because he will like water sign women. My aqua's moon is in cancer, and he was sensitive like a cancer with me.
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Nov 14, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 819 · Topics: 41
Oh, and you're right -- don't scare him off. Let him do the calling. You be the femme fatale. Disappear for a while. He will demand and demand you to be on his schedule (Aqua's are fixed signs and stubborn as shit) but don't give in. He'll like you if you surprise him.
Hey EG and B2, thanks for the feedback!
I have been on the fence on what to with this man but, I have been following my intuition on how I want to pursue this "situation" and he has been responsive. He's a "deadline man" as he calls himself. So I know that when he pulls away from work to hang out with me, it is a cautious decision on his part because he wants to.
I do notice during the times we've been out, I see him looking at me pretending he's not. He's very attentive and pays attention to detail although, there were a couple of Homer Simpson moves on his part.
I'll tell you this quick story....
It was the 4th of July and he invited me to his house where it was just going to be him and his family. I, of course, initiated us seeing the fireworks together before he invited me to his house, which by the way, took a LOT of guts. I put on this long form fitting halter summer dress on looking very sexy in a simple way. OF COURSE, no compliments. You would think I came over there with long johns on and a ripped wife beater..
Anyway, he was on grill duty and asked me to eat, I said no I'll wait when your done cooking the chicken, since I didn't eat pork and I didn't want any burgers.
meanwhile are mutual friend kept trying to get me to eat, I said "no Im waiting for the chicken". After about 2 hours of him grilling, he finally finished cooking the chicken which he knew I was waiting for because that's what he wanted to eat as well.
He takes the chicken, puts it in a dish and goes inside the house with it. Now here's when he gets "Bart Simpson" on me..
Im sitting outside on the deck by myself thinking "what a gentleman, he's gonna set everything up and bring me a plate with some chicken".....(what was I thinking).
About 20-25 minutes later, he comes back on the deck, empty handed, sat his nerdy self down and says "boy, Im full".....
you know he eat the chicken inside and did not offer me not even that crippled looking part of the wing...wtf...
He was actually oblivious to what he did or did not do. I said not one word about the chicken except "oh, you just eat" he says "ya" I said "was it good" he says "oh ya".
...sigh..
what to do.
I agree with what you said B2 about no doing the "here I am" "gone again" thing. I honestly think he is seeing how I'll react to him not always being available. He's a comic book illustrator, a very successful one. He stated that the very thing women are attracted to him for
is the very thing they leave him for, his schedule. I don't mind this because its around the arts which Im apart of too.
I really do like this one... I do believe I should contact him. That's what my intuition says. I think if hes thinking Im doing the disappearing act like he is, he'll know that somethings changed which in turn will make him change. I don't want that...
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May 21, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
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The more I like someone, the dorkier and more revealing I get...that is intimacy for Aquas, I think. We open up by showing someone our faults."
I concur. You need to be able to handle the good and the bad. Many will ut there best foot forward and it all goes downhill from there after they've won you over. Aquas, being the weirdos that we are are the opposite, once you've got us (meaning you can take the heat) It only gets better.
Everything that an aqua does is done for a reason, regardless if it just looks fucking nuts outside looking in, everything we do is a well thought out move...mainly looking towards the future/beneficial in the long run.
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Mar 18, 2006Comments: 2 · Posts: 23862 · Topics: 499
Im a pisces woman who is fallen for an aqua man(?)
Uh oh ... at first glance.
Let me continue reading ...
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May 21, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 21685 · Topics: 138
Its about taking "Me" as I am...not the illusion you have built up about me...not something or someone you can think I can be, not my potential, BUT ME...the me I present you (That line is especially for pisces who love to create their own realities ). Im not saying being a total ass is how we do it (an ass is an ass regardless of sign or efforts) but some of the crap we may put you through. Yeah, the "dorkier" thing has been witnessed, lol.
He has this boyish quality bout him and then WHAM, he's serious and manly.
Sometimes I feel like he's that kid in middle school who picks on a girl, all the while crushing on her.
He has opened up while in conversation about different things and boy he can TALK...
GOOOD LORD,...he done talked my ears into nubbs,..too much verbal vibrations going thru my ears.lol
No really, I am soooo attracted to the aquaman, I think pisces compliments them!
SF Sis, he doesn't pick on me, he's a gentleman. His boyish qualities remind me of a boy who doesn't know how to express himself is all.
....ya know what, Im gonna call him. This is ridiculous.... what's the big deal, he's just a man.....right?...lol
HERE GOES NOTHING.....
STARFISH!!! OH THANK GOD
I chickened out
The both of you are right, I have never been that girl to chase a man. Not because I think Im all that but because, I was raised by my grandparents, very old fashion and sheltered.
I've grown since then and realize that, if you want something, you got to go and get it. BUT, at the same time, when it comes to a man, there's a fine line a woman must be careful not to cross if she wants to be taken seriously.
I did call him Saturday that just past and he didn't answer? still think I should call? : (
....now that doesn't mean anything, it's possible he may not have received the call (weak signal) ...or.... he may be very busy??
..or the awful truth? I dunno ....sigh
I would think he'd want me to call based on his demeanor towards me when where around each other.
Star, what ever happen to your aq?
UnC you too, are you with an aq now?
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Mar 20, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 2764 · Topics: 36
"There will be some conflict there within him, his feelings are deep and he may feel suffocated by his own desire to give in to love and vs his independent nature. You may get some push/pull reactions that are caused by his own internal conflict"
AMEN!!! the aqua i am with also has his moon in scorpio and this describes him...definitely the push/pull reaction!!! it's like he has all of these deep feelings of love, sadness, hurt, anger, etc. all bottled up inside but his "aquaness" is telling him that he cannot let it out!!!
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May 12, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 682 · Topics: 23
This is quite funny....I mean how can a nerd possibly be sexy??? My Aqua is the coolest NERD I know! His nerdiness makes him just absolutely gorgeous! I imagine in school (oh and I've seen the family portrait in his family home - complete geek!)he was a nerd, but the girls loved him anyway....
Another thing....sometimes he can be soooo gay! He's as straight as they come and definately a man's man but every so often I see something that's just so feminine! For example...he loves cooking and he'll stand over the stove with one hand delicately on the hip, or when we're deciding on new carpets or where to place an ornament or choose wall paint I notice the hands go all over the place. Last night we walked around the garden deciding what should be done (we're in early spring)and we noticed a couple of buds on what he calls the "chaff-chaff rose bush"...well if he didn't bend over and delicately hold it in his hands tilted in my direction to show me it's beauty! And then gets up, dusts the mud off his hands on his tatty jeans and says God I mustn't start planting flowers in the garden because that's just gay! But again as he says it the hand goes...
I've told him this and I've also told him I love it! In fact every so often I'll tease him about it in front of our close friends and then reiterate that I love it and find it sexy...he likes that I like it...this whole man's man with a feminine side!
OK!!! so I called and left a message, will see what happens.
"You may get some push/pull reactions that are caused by his own internal conflict"
This is so true. I couldn't put my finger on it but, thats exactly what he was doing. It was like he'd get stiff as a board when I would try and give him a tighter hug.
I keep back tracking, playing out the scenes of our dates and discussions to see if maybe I might have said or shown something he didn't like. Well come to think of it, the last thing we talked about was me telling him a story about how I stole a puppy out of a county police station which was an animal pound.
....uh oh... from what I gathered with his alignments, he respects the law.
WELL, guess I killed his image of me...lol
whatever, I couldn't leave that crying dog there. They were going to put her to sleep because of her breed.
...sigh
LOL Leoaqua!!!
how long did it take for you guys to finally get it together?
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May 12, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 682 · Topics: 23
Hey Willow...we've been at this a year and a bit now....was slow for the first six months but not anymore Bijou thanks for that!
I have been reading this interesting site for a couple of weeks and find it very humorous. I'm a stubborn character. Ya don't have to worry about me changing for anybody. I am a very independent person, I take no disrespect from anybody and take care of my business.
I just suck at the courting thing, noo, I take that back, I loose all my cool points when I like somebody... I don't know what happens to them, they just FLING right out the window..lol
I just wanted to hear (or read) other peoples experiences on similar situation for comforts sake...
dxp is quite addictive, the stories are very funny!
No matter what, Im always true to myself, I follow NO ONE.
"aquas are not "huggy" people"
he was huggin me first and kept pulling me closer to him. soo, I hugged back and got the board...lo
That's one thing I won't initiate, is the affection, unless he's making obvious signs for me too.
....During are date on the 4th when we were on our way to the fire works. We were walking there because he lives right down the street from where they were having it. It was packed, the streets were blocked off, I mean you could barely get thru the crowd it was so packed. So where walking and he was LITERELLY walking on my hip and I started to kinda steer towards the street struggling to walk in a straight line. Apparently, this was his way of signaling for me to hold his hand..lol
Me being a Pisces, did not catch this at first. I thought he was getting out of the way of people passing by him or something but, when I looked, there was nobody near him.
WHY couldn't he just GRAB MY HAND...lol
Im glad to hear that LeoA.
Hey Unc,
Our relationship is happening very naturally, Im being very natural towards him, nothings forced at all. In this situation, I have been doing things a little bit different because I need to come out of my comfort(shell)zone. I have the tendency to hide my feelings towards someone to a degree, I need to go out more and a whole list of other things I need to do differently...
Im very shy when it comes to matters of the heart. This time around, I decided to do what comes natural out of me and if it doesn't work then it doesn't work.
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May 11, 2006Comments: 3 · Posts: 2807 · Topics: 185
Can i just add though that my aqua is very tactile, even i public, so they?re not all the same.
HEY GIRLS!
thank god i found this website, maybe a little 2 late..
u all seem 2 b really interested in finding out wot is going on inside the heads of ur aquarius men and y they disappear??? well im here 2 figure it out with u!
I have been seeing an aquarian for 1 month now. 1st 2 weeks were amaaazing, made me feel so good about myself, spent loads of time 2gther, and just got on really well! he was very 2 the point, didnt play games, which i loved about him, i always knew wer i stood with him and wer getting very smitten rather quickly, and we bth told each other that we nva feel like this about ppl so quickly!
i mean my last relationship was 3 yrs ago, and i havent had a boyfriend due 2 the profession im in, im always sooo busy and focused on becoming a sucessful performer, that iv jst not had the time. but now i do as iv graduated and hv jobs lined up iv calmed down, and do feel like i really want sum1.
Sooo as ive come 2 research, (mayb a little 2 late) aquarian men like their space and freedom....
Week 3 he starts going hot and cold with me, so i hate guys who BS and not know what they want so i ended it! i gave him an ultimatum! either u like me or u dont!!! SIMPLE!? i dont want 2 get hurt either as ive nt had any1 4 3 yrs, i want this 1 2 b gud!!! so y waste my time.
Hes just come out of a 2yr relationship, bt that ended 2 months ago! BUT he came a crawling back and admitted he got scared, and got carried away with me, and needed the space 2 figure out if he genuinly liked me, 2 figure out if he was developing false feelings 4 me. Bcos of our work situation, im a performer and hes in2 the stage managment side. we met on a job, and the job is now over, we saw each other everyday 4 6 whole weeks! so he jst wanted 2 know that wen the job was over hed want 2 make an effort 2 c me, not bcos he had 2 but bcos he wanted 2, and its happened in the past 2 him. Hes had flings which hv bn fantastic he said on short contracts but once the contract ended hes realised that he didnt like the girl as much as he thought in the 1st place and didnt want the same thing 2 happen with me, bcs he says he cares about me alot and is happy he can be so comfortable and himself around me.
OK BOMBSHELL!!!!
He then told me his behaviour has bn all over the place bcos hes been on medication 4 depression 4 the past 6months and was told he was gettin better, but his emotions wud b all over the place and he wud find everyday tasks difficult, bt he didnt want it
2 seem like an excuse. he was sorry 4 not telling me and said he still wants 2 c me.
I'm in shock so i try call him but he dusnt pick up. he txts saying hell call me later hes trying 2 pull himself 2gther and stop crying. ok he has just shared a HUGE personal thing with me, that im sure he wudnt make up and it explains his wild recent behaviour cos the meds screw u around! and he must like me 2 tell me sumthing so major.
i didnt call or txt him 4 2 whole days BEFORE i read about all this "aquarian men need their space" which is really gud 4 me! i txt on the 3rd day, no reply, i txt again 7 hrs l8r, no reply, i txt again, no reply, i called him 3 times, no reply, left a voicemail, no reply, i call him the next day on a witheld no. and he picks up the fone, but dunsnt answer 2 me!!! so i hung up, which i shudnt hv dun, i shudve spoke 2 him there and then. so txt him tellin him it was me who called him on the private no, wot is goin on? y did u nt want 2 answer wen it was me calling? so i told him i wasnt goin 2 bother him anymore cos i think thats wot he wants!!! iv hd no reply after all this and that has been 4 days now, dus he officially h8 me??? or im guessing he dusnt want 2 talk 2 me yet bcos if he dus he knows he goin 2 hv 2 explain at least y hes depressed??? and mayb hes nt ready 2? bt he dusnt hv 2 tell me everythin! he tends 2 handle things in the wrong way! so wot dus his dissapearing act all mean??? and if id known about the space i wudve waited 4 him 2 call me after hed told me about his depression! i fuked that part up by calling. im a bit fed up tho and worried, i just care 2 much, i think he shud hv the decency 2 call me, but now i hv 2 do all the hanging around!!! aahhhh! will he call????....
any advice wud b very appreciated, hes changed, and i think its obv down 2 the meds and stuff goin on at home with his family that hes dropped hints about but nva really wanted 2 talk about it.
sorry this is a book im writing here, but thought i mite aswell introduce myself properly!!!
x
Scottish Libra Sis, I think you need to let him be for awhile no matter what sign he is..
I say this simply because, I also work in a homeless shelter and ALL walks of life stroll thru there. A lot of the guest suffer from all kinds of disorders, bipolar disorder, just coming out of jail, their on methadone while pregnant, ex cons, hooked on prescription drugs, all kinds of emotional imbalances. People who were in abusive relationships our hiding at the shelter.
We had a woman who just got transfered out to another shelter, her ex stabbed her 30 times. she obviously survived but, she suffered a great deal. She also did 2 years in prison, one of those years were spent in the hole. I mean you never know where anybody is coming from or their background.
But the MAIN thing people suffered from was depression....
The side effects to some of those anti-depressant drugs are hallucinations, violent behavior, irritability and paranoia. BE VERY CAREFUL being that you do not know him all to well. If he says he's depressed and going thru things AND not calling you because of it....LET HIM BE!
Now everybody is different. Your aquaman may be going thru a faze.
Just be careful is all...
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Jul 30, 2008Comments: 0 · Posts: 6247 · Topics: 51
Wow - this is all like a movie
All jokes aside for 2 or so seconds - just wondering...
Aquas like to show affection on their own terms. They will initiate it if they desire to.
where's zee compromise - you know relationship 2 way street and all that jazz?
But receiving affection without asking for it, or indicating that they welcome it, is a different story.
I'm more comfortable giving hugs, than getting suprise attacks in the form of a hug.
Is this a sign thing? I've seen people, not Aqua, go pale when you try to touch them not to even talk about hug.
LOL Bijou with "surprise attacts".
My aquaman, while where in conversation, will always kinda start tapping my knee or touch my arm in a NERDY kind of fashion(?).... Now what does that mean?lol
Willow of the Wisp!
Thanks 4 replying 2 my saga story girl! yeh OMG! u shocked me when you told me about the girl whose ex stabbed her?! that is f'cked up! it HAS made me think and i know anything cud b going on in my guys life but id like 2 think i know him better than that. i mean i did work with him 8 times a week for 6 weeks.
i know the depression must have spawned from problems within his family as he slightly opened up 2 me in the beg wen i told him he was a beautiful person and he said 'eh no i wudnt say that, ive dun bad things 2 ppl, iv hurt them' ok thinking about it, that cud mean anything..! but he is a proper good, clean guy, i widnt even describe him as a thug, or having a drug problem, he dresses well, looks after his apperance.
However, he mentioned he didnt get on with his parents and any descion hes made about his life theyve always thought it was a bad 1. but wudnt go in2 it, this was in like week 2. so i didnt push him, thought hed open up l8r, mayb hes startin 2 now by tellin me about the depression.
so u say still leave him until he contacts me? or do i still show him im there by sending a txt bt with no pressure 4 him 2 have 2 reply? e.g. 'thinking about u, hope ur ok?' hes not said goobye, the last msg from did mention that he still wants 2 c me, bt he said that im right i dont deserve this.
how is ur man?
Hey SF!
Im glad you understand my pain : (
When Im around my aqua, he is affectionate. Our times spent together aren't always touchy feelly. We build, and that to me is more important.
"I can initiate but I like balance give and take both ways" AMEN!
I think I mentioned this earlier in the post or something like it....
I think Im becoming a distraction to him.... He's a workaholic, exhausted in the relationship department (as he says) and "He doesn't think he's looking for a relationship right now BUT, here he is with me". He told me this when we had our talk about where we stood in our lives at the moment. We also agreed to let the cards fall as they may.
I guess for an aquaman, thats easier said then done.
Here is a famous saying for the wise...
"MYSERY LOOOOVES COMPANY"
When did you last contact him Scottish? there is no need to put yourself in harms way if this man has sudden burst of emotional instability that are RELATED to whatever is causing his depression.
"ive dun bad things 2 ppl, iv hurt them" AND "bt he said that im right i dont deserve this".
PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT THIS MAN IS SAYING!!!
ESPECIALLY if he's on anti-depressants! the side effects for some people are NO JOKE. Especially if he's done things (hurt people) that caused his depression.
But being the caring woman that we are and you know the situation better than I...
Let him no that...
"you wish the best for him and hope that he works out whatever it is he's going thru and when you (him) gets better, call me".
THAT'S ALL YOU NEED TO SAY
REMEMBER....
"MYSERY LOOOVES COMPANY"
WILLOW OF THE WISP!
how long have u been with ur aqua guy 4 now? and r u bf and gf or jst dating? and y is it ur becoming a distraction? r u particularly needy or clingy? im guessing ur not, bcos as u said u like balance and u like having a push and pull from both sides... i hate when guys r drama queens, they seem 2 4get that we r JUST as busy as they r and we STILL make time 4 them! they jst cant seem 2 multi task, and if he really cared he wud do just that and not get scared or back off yet AGAIN!
i just sent my guy a msg saying 'Miss you' just 2 show him that i understand what hes goin thru and im here 4 him. he dusnt hv 2 reply 2 that until hes ready 2 talk. good or bad move?
WILLOW OF THE WISP!
haha, i didnt c u had replied 2 my msg there, so i acted on my own accord! damn, i wish id written sumthin along the lines of what u said, i duno.
but yeh "misery loves company" is very spot on! and all of a sudden im not worrying about him as much as i was last week bcos i know his emotions r all over the place and he will come back when hes ready. im being patient. im jst getting on with my life at the mo and not thinking about him as much. i sent that txt 20 mins ago, no reply, but i wasnt expecting 1 either.
the last time i contacted him was 5 days ago, which is a bloody long time 4 me! and he hasnt spoken 2 me 4 8days! the longest time EVER, after telling me bout the depression. we spoke everyday b4 this bcs we saw each other everyday 4 the past 6 weeks working on the show. so something is up, he dusnt want 2 talk 2 me cs he thinks the next time we speak il give him an earful which will NOT happen, i jst want 2 act normal so he dusnt disappear in2 himself again.
Scottish, only you know the situation. As I was told to do by a couple of folks on here, be yourself and do what moves YOU!
My only BUT in your story is, your description of this mans issues. Thats my concern.
I've known my aquaman going on 3 years. We just started dating in April, we have some of the same friends.
"r u particularly needy or clingy?" I used to be with an aquaman I was with for 5 years in my early 20's. He was my first emotional committed relationship. I didn't go on dates, I would hide in work, working 1 full time job and having 3 part time gigs as well. I was real young acting like an old lady in a shoe..lol
Boy did he PUT ME THRU IT...
I had no clue as to what I was getting myself into. We knew each other 4years, on again off again, prior to us getting together for the future 5. He was sweet as pie IN THE BEGGING.
I officially call it "THE SITUATION" as it was a one way street relationship. He represented the horrible things you here about the aquarian men. Boy when they say "emotionally unavailable", THEY WERE REFERRING TO HIM. I think anybody who went thru what I went thru in that situation would appear needy or clingy especially, if your getting no emotional support. He was paranoid, always accused me of being with other men, not trusting, would have a temper, other woman, you name it. I can't believe I allowed myself to go thru all that.
BUT, that was the most unforgettable experience IN MY LIFE....
I did a whoole lot of traveling, it had it's fun moments. When things were good, they were good, when they were bad,.....
I would not change a thing if I had to go thru it all again. I learned I had a lot of different emotions that were unfamiliar to me. It was a challenge for sure. (emotionally)
The one Im dating now, He's a NERD...LOL
But as the story goes...
"Im a pisces woman who's fallen for an Aqua man"
...sigh...
This is true Cancer but, I don't man hop.
There's nothing worse then mindless date's. As I said in an earlier post, this site is quite amusing, that's all. The topic is as stated "pisces woman fallen for aqua man". Now I have other "pressing" things in my life as well but, for now, this is more interesting.
Cancer
yeh i agree with Willow, i dont bed hop either, never have and never will! just doesnt float my boat! lol! but as Starfish says i will keep my options open and if someone else comes along who i think is right for me then i will give it a try! But in the meantime im not going to go looking for it.
it feels as if my aquaman is getting on with his life without me and not thinking about me anymore. i have been VERY patient, this is the first time hes not spoken to me ever 4 such a long period! its bn 12 days now!!!
i sent him a msg after my 5day silence with him sayin "Miss you" which i knew he wudnt relpy 2 but its been 2 days and he still hasnt replied 2 me saying somthing. im starting to go off him now, cs i feel like i could find some1 better and maybe im wasting me time. but bcos i no he will come back as hes not said bye and the last thing he said was he still wants 2 c me. i want him 2 reply now so i can finally make up my mind whether he is worth hanging around 4! but i need an answer or him 2 contact me! so i cn assess the situation!
Hey UCan, I hung out with a friend of mine last nite. He cooked dinner and we talked. I've known him for years..
I must say, it was nice getting out the house.
"I had no idea what was up with him"
Did you know in the beginning, you wanted to be with him? and during that time of unknowing, how did you deal?
hey Mr AG, why you hide your message?
that ain't right... not with this topic.lol "I will admit I went through quite a bit of emotional/psychological struggle during the "unknowing" phase".
Wow Cancer, I think Im in that phase now. I hate the unknowing, especially when things are good between you and the other person and your like wtf :/... We haven't slept with each other but we kissed, hugged, touched and rubbed. No sex type stuff but, really VERY sensual and passionate. I can feel and see this mans attraction toward me but, the lack of communication is driven me NUTS. How does someone (aquas) have so much self restraint when their feeling someone? Im at a loss.
He does the "Im busy" bit as well and Im sure he is. When where together, the connection is soo obvious. I like the fact that when we finally managed to hang out, we talk about anything, it's not just about romance.
My friend that I hung out with the other nite, tells me to forget about him. He tells me "if a man like's a woman, he's not gonna let her think he doesn't like her". With this connection we have, I don't see this so black and white. I feel like, MAYBE, he's taken a step back and for that, Im given him his space. I dunno...
"The first year I knew my aqua, he was a perfect gentleman, but year two...that was rough...talk about hot and cold"
Where you all officially committed yet or at the dating faze?
Im sorry to bug you about this and I probily have the answers to my on questions but, your replies help "I was tired of living on the fence so I decided I would rather scare him away than have to endure the "unknowing"."
hmm.... good point. This makes great sense to me. I can see though, I will eventually be the one to bring up such a topic. I have room to wait a little bit more...
UnC,
his art show is coming up this Saturday, I just got the email blast invite, still haven't spoken to him, my friends tell me don't go to make him wander where I am, I feel I should go, we been supporting each others events anyway. I don't want to be petty BUT, I don't want him to think Im sitting around waiting for him either.
I don't want to start doing this back and forth game.
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I think this has become a therapy session...lol
"This is not the appropriate situation to play games. There are other ways to be elusive."
I AGREE WHOLE HEARTEDLY. This is why (on a website)I've gone to such extremes, to complete strangers. Sometimes your friends don't give the best advice. Their too emotionally attached to you and want to protect you. My heart is what I will follow in this situation and it's telling me to do what I been doing...
will see...