=( ok...final straw for me...

Hey.

massive weekend for me, i'll fill you in.

Went out to a club with my aqua ex girlfriend and her friend, as i said in my previous post, we are still kinda together but i seriously think i'm being played now.

Because i don't trust her and she is sly, i read her msn convo between her friend about a week ago and she wanted her to goto this club to meet this other guy called tom and she said she showed the guy a photo of her on her phone and that he was a bit of ladies man and that all the girls seem to be interested in her.

Anyway, we rocked up at this club, me, my ex and her friend. then we met up with her friend who she spoke to on msn. we went to the dancefloor and there was this guy, i'm not sure if it was tom but he was walking around alot talking to alot of girls and didn't appear to have a girlfriend.

anyway she walked over to this guy at the bar (i was kind of standing back sussing it all out) and my honest judgement was that she said to him at the bar "my ex is here, i can't hook up with you tonight." or something along those lines. Anyway after they got a drink they wondered back to the dancefloor, more ignoring and no talking or even looking at me from her, then this dude was hanging around and they just kept eyeing eachother all the time, he would stare at her then stare at me and walk around for a bit and do it again.

Like i said in the other post, i told her to just be honest with me if she wants to get with another guy and i'd never talk to her again because it would hurt me far too much and it this reason that she is afraid of losing me that she isn't being honest about this guy.

I sent her a message shortly after they got back from the bar saying "look if you want me to leave i understand, just be honest with me, don't break my heart again by lieing to me" and she came over to me and said "all i want to do is dance with michelle, don't stress, his name is john, he is my ex's old room mate and his girlfriend is here."

She was in the most ANAL mood then she randomly walked out, didn't even tell me she was leaving so i followed her, didn't say ONE word to me on the way to the taxi or on the way home.

I seriously think i'm being played and lied to. I think she will go behind my back and screw this guy and not tell me just to keep me as a friend.

I read her messages when she was asleep and there was nothing in her sent items on her phone or in her inbox about this guy.

Just seems FAR to conincedental to not

make sense. Help!

wait is this the same chick whom you spied on another msn convo she had with her and her boss and she played it off as you misunderstanding the whole conversation by crying and playing the "poor me" card?

the chick is bad news...

it is yes. she is sly. i REALLY REALLY need to cut her loose. I have lost all trust for her. Why is she keeping me around—??

because you allow it....cut off ties and walk away yourself. your life isn't dependent upon hers!

She is probably trying to get something out of you. She wants something from you. What ever that is, I don't know. Otherwise, she wouldn't be keeping you around, trust me.

You absolutely need to be firm with her. Tell her that if she doesn't know exactly what she wants, then you're out!! Tell her to not waste your time!

Tell her that it is absolutely CRUEL if she is trying to keep you from getting hurt and yet really wants to tell you bye!

She can't keep you attached like that. Honey, she's keeping you on the BACKburner.

Get away from her quick!

You need to be absolutely firm with her. And whatever she says, deal! But do not stayed attached to her. You have to TURN the tables and keep her on the backburner.

Tell me how to do it. PLEASE i need a checklist or something, i've never done it before. All my friends say i'm far far too good to her and that she treats me like sh*#t and she does and i know she does.

i wish she kissed that guy in front of me because i know for a fact that if i was betrayed i would easily walk away from her.

Do you think my intuition is right with the other night peach? Your a taurus, what do you think.

Exactly how i feel, on the back burner...

hmmm..taurus. Yes, get away! She likes you but you're too easy to her!!!
That's why you say that you're out!!
She'll be okay with it even if she tries to make look like it's your loss.
Just her out.
Tell her she's mean. Let her yap, then cut her off completely. She'll feel the burn then.

"...don't break my heart again by lieing to me"

Dude, don't ever, EVER say something like that again to a girl as long as you live.

*cut her out

from a bull's standpoint, yes, your intuition is right. we have excellent intuition. we don't have the reputation for jealous for the heck of it - we get jealous for valid reasons. we also get hurt because we're too stubborn to realize that someone or something is detrimental to our well being. your gut told you several weeks ago that she was up to no good, but you forgave her. she has continued to pull the wool over your eyes because you're infatuated with her...whatever reason that may be.

You don't need a checklist to walk away. Her kissing that guy in front of you would not have fueled any action from you. It would have only made you realize that she has been using you and/or lying to you for some reason. We as Bulls like to solid proof to confirm our suspicions, even though our intuition is almost always right.

Tauro, you don't trust her - you've mentioned that more than once on this board. Isn't that reason enough to kick her to the curb? Mess the bull, get the horns, right? If you believe that, then be living proof of it!

and when you kick her to the curb, by NO MEANS let her sweet talk her way into you forgiving her. She's kept you on the backburner far too long for you to deal with her assinine, immature, childish ways. when she decides what she wants and decides that it's time for her to be honest with herself as well as anyone she gets involved with, then that will be time she should look you up.

and if you're a true Taurus, then by the time she's realized she missed out on a good guy, you will have moved on. Don't hold a grudge, but just move on and wish her well.

because i've tried cutting contact about 3 or 4 times, she will think i will come back again and just laugh it off.

Get some balls and dump her ass!!! Aqua girls putting their loved ones through hell is one thing...this is ridiculous

your all right. i'll cut her out tonight once and for all.

I'll let you know how it goes, bound to be messy.

I really need to meet a female version of me 😢 lol

yeah. I'm Aqua. AndI know I'm not that great!! lol

Well, why don't you just get it on with another woman then?

Like they say-"nothing counters a woman like another woman."

amen to that.
that's absolutely the best way. and it'll make you feel better.

yeah she is. its ok, i'll definitely move on now. everytime i see her now i just think back to saturday night now and what she wanted to do with that guy. She keeps blaming the drugs but i know exactly why she left...because i was there.

she's a druggie? eek...definitely bad news.

what exactly do you see in this chick that's actually a positive thing?

That's a good question. I think her bad points all outweigh her good.

those darn sneaky aquas...

hey hey now. not all of them are sneaky hehe ^_^
I know some really messed up ones. But somehow, I'm not like a lot of them.
I'm scared of my own kind. They're all a bit coocoo in the head but there are some sane ones like myself. Ask anyone here in Florida. o_O

It doesn't matter why she wants to keep you around. She's bad news and you're too nice. Stop pouring your heart out to her, don't even give her an explanation as why you're cutting her off... she knows damn well why... and doesn't care.