Pissed

So, the Aries and I are in a Fantasy Football league. Amongst our small group of 5 friends, including myself, he and I will photoshop funny pics with our faces in it. Well, I did one of him sitting on Santa's lap, I sent it to everyone. He was fine, I mean, he does it to us all the time and we all just laugh and think it's the funniest thing. Well, we are on Fantasy Football, and I used the pic of him sitting on santa's lap for my image.
He got mad and told me to look at his pic, it is a pic of my topless that I sent to him back in the day. He told me that if I'm going to play games, he isn't going to stoop to my level, I'm playing with fire and I need to learn and he will always one up me. WTF? We're talking about a silly pic of him sitting on Santa's lap, and he posted a pic of my boobs for our group of guy friends to see and my dad (he's in the league also). I'm pissed, that pic of my boobs is on a different level here. I told him that if he wanted to post any other funny pic of me to have at it, but this one is private. Lastly, I told him that if he is trying to teach me a lesson, he does that all the time with photos, how can he teach a lesson if he doesn't follow it himself.

I just checked now, he still has the pic up, I'm so pissed I feel like crying, but I don't want to give him a crazy reaction, because I know that is what he wants.

It sounds like a typical Aries thing to do. Thing is I bet he will feel really bad about it afterwards...

Don't f*ck with an Aries, very bad temper and they won't let up until they are sufficiently sure the target has been spanked into submission.

For future reference never send compromising photos electronically of yourself unless you're okay with other people possibly seeing your provocative moments.

Although it was a joke you took it too far. The joke should have stopped after you sent the picture to everyone, got a good laugh out of it and let it go.

Yet you used the picture AGAIN for fantasy football. Who does that? How humiliating for him especially when so many people will laugh at him. The laugh was taken way too far when you continued on with it via fantasy football.

You get what you give, you gave humiliation and you got it back.

Tiki: I didn't explain myself clearly since I was so upset. This particular picture of him that I made, I only sent to him and our other really close friend. I didn't send it to everyone. In regards to using it for Fantasy Football, I put it up during a time when I knew only he would see it, because he was changing the rule and game settings, and once I knew he saw it, I switched it out with a diff. pic, my intention was to never leave it up there, but rather to be playful. No one else saw it.

Not to mention, the other 3 that our in our league, he sends photo shopped pics of them and myself all the time to people to see (with the exception of my dad). So, I hardly think what I did was even remotely as bad as what he does, but we all find humor in it and don't get all crazy about it. And like I said, only he saw it, and prior to that only one other person saw it and we thought it was funny. It's not even a bad pic, it's literally a child sitting on santa's lap with his face photoshopped in... I find that to be hardly humiliating, and I know he doesn't find it humiliating either... he just has a double standard and I think he is way overreacting. Teach me a lesson? How can he do that if he doesn't follow it himself?

The boobs are taking it to another level and is extremely disrespectful. Granted, my face isn't on there, but I know that they are mine. I just checked this morning, and he took it off last night, but I must say, I view him in a different light to have even taken it that far.

Soultalk: He isn't my SO. We've been really good friends for 4 years. And yes, the one other person that saw that pic aside from him and myself know that the pic of him is photoshopped.

LMAO!@You shoot with a sling shot, they bring out their a-k. LOL

Yes! An Aries will get 300 in a matter of seconds.

Thanks for Clarifying Rae. Yes it's disrespectful but did you clarify to him that the picture was hidden from everyone but him.

So now that you know he's a egotistical jackass will you still be friends with him? He crossed the line by embarrassing you that way but I don't expect an Aries not to, it's the nature of the beast.

Men are men. It's that old saying I've heard from older women. Don't hit a man because he'll hit you back like a man and that can be said about joking, playing with a man. Don't play with a man or he'll treat you like a man and play harder.

Aries are warriors. I truly don't play around with an Aries ego because they can flip too quick.

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that is so disrespectful.

He sounds like an immature man who doesn't know how to treat a woman. he took it to another level that is inappropriate. It's not as if you posted his dick for all to see, (he might like that though depending on his kink and character) but i dont see you doing that either. You have to feel "Do unto others, as they do unto you" feeling. Even if you did something silly like that and he didnt like it, does he have to "teach you a lesson" by making you the butt of his jokes? He needs some growing up to do, cause he doesn't know how to treat a woman or HANDLE one it seems.

he said he isn't going to stoop to your level and he still did it. Talk about control. He has NONE.

But firstly why did you do what you did? Do you know his character long enough (4 years or more) that he doesn't like that?

You must have wanted to PUSH his buttons a little. If you know how he acts up, very reactive and pissed/revengeful, then why do that?

Yes, I've known him for almost 5 years, but boy oh boy, I had NO idea he would go to such an extreme over a silly pic. He could have posted a million of me, as long as my boobs weren't exposed, and I told him that. It was just my boobs were exposed in this one, and I told him it was just crossing the line. I know now. I won't tell him that I learned my lesson, but for future, it really isn't worth the tantrum he had. Thinking about it, I feel that he has been on edge and extremely uptight for the past few months. We went to the race track this past Sunday, and he went off on a friend for being a little tipsy.

FEB16: Haha! No kidding... hahahah, a-k!

Tiki: Yes, he knew that he was the only one who saw it. I'm playful and know better then to send to everyone. I just had no idea that he would get so upset over that. Especially because it was just he and I. It wasn't like I posted it and told everyone to sign into their Fantasy Football accounts, which if that were the case, I would totally understand. I know now, no more banter of the sort with this Aries.

I just sent him a quick text and thanked him for taking the pic down, and left it at that. He totally stooped even lower then my level. I'm pretty sure no one saw that pic, but to even risk that... just rude. I look at him in a different light now, thats for sure. What a vagina.

Hi lisabethur: In all honesty, I have known him for a long time, and we do have fun with one another and joke around with pics and whatever else. That is why I only sent the pic to him and our other really good friend, I know better then to send it to anyone else. In addition to that, another reason why I only put it up on the football site for a short period of time, with the intention of taking it down as soon as he saw it. It was suppose to be fun and innocent banter if you will. He has never acted up this poorly for something so little, so in all honesty, I was a bit surprised and I guess you never stop learning about a person. However, like I mentioned in my previous post, looking at the big pic, I feel like he has been tense or stressed lately, getting pissed, irritated or sensitive about things more so then usual. So there is probably something else going on here that goes beyond the petty pic that I posted. Either way, there will be no more of it from me, I'd rather not risk it.

sounds sexually repressed.

Yeah... I bet he is. He keeps a lot of things inside, and I'm sure he has a lot going on. Still doesn't make what he did right, and I'm still don't feel bad for what I did, since my intentions weren't bad or malicious. He just has to get over it, and I'm just going to distance myself to let him deal with him.

So Rae since he has pictures of your breast is this someone you are physically intimate with?

What kind of friends have nude pictures of one another? Is this a FWB situation?

Lastly no excuse making. Stress or no stress that was an assclown move on his part and if he can do that off of a little joke then who knows what else he'd do in future situations.

Time to re-evaluate the friendship. When people show you who they really are, believe them.

I find it strange that someone would get butthurt over a harmless pic.

"He told me that if I'm going to play games, he isn't going to stoop to my level, I'm playing with fire and I need to learn and he will always one up me."

Looks like he has serious ego issues.

Tiki: yes, we use to be FWB's, but it was too emotionally confusing for me and made me an emotional retard, so the benefits are no longer. I use to think I wanted more with him, but I now realize that I don't. Having sex and him being the only guy I spend time with played a Jedi mind trick on me. Being out on the date the other day made me realize that I'm just lonely, I don't have those in love feelings for him. Yes, with spending SO much time together for studying, even after all this time I am seeing his true colors, or perhaps I was just blind to it before since I thought I was in love with him.

BlueSandCacoon: totally, I thought that was an odd thing for him to say to a girl especially, maybe if it were one of his guy buddies.

Star lover: I know right?! I'm just tolerant, forgiving and very patient with people. However, when I'm done I'm done and don't look back. It hasn't gotten to that point obviously, but his actions and the way he treats me versus our other friends, I'm beginning to realize that perhaps I give him too much credit in regards to being the best friend that I have.

Surely he must have his good qualities, but that doesn't mean you have to take that shit from him, or anyone for that matter.

"Surely he must have his good qualities, but that doesn't mean you have to take that shit from him, or anyone for that matter."

Amen!!

Thanks Rae for your honesty and clarity. Loneliness can get a person in trouble by tolerating way too much BS.

I hope you think twice about keeping this egotistical fool as a friend. He sounds like he's troubled and will at some point cause you some serious trouble.

He just seems like the kind of guy that will plaster a person pictures all over town on cars, buildings, grocery story board, your school, job. Hopefully he does not have any face shots of you. Be very careful.

Best friends never stoop that low and if a BF did stoop that low then he or she is not a friend at all...

Thank you all for your responses. Yes, sometimes I need to check myself also with how much I tolerate, otherwise I'll be a door mat that peeps will disrespect.

He does have a lot of good qualities as well, I don't want to come on here and paint this horrid picture of him. Just certain things he does are a bit much.

I don't have many friends, good ones are hard to find these days. So I give my all to the selected few that I have and to my family.

Your a bit misguided about calling him a friend.

Friends do not do this kind of shit okay. I'm not sure what is motivating you to keep him around outside of feeling lonely but you gotta check in with yourself about your boundaries. He has crossed all kinds of boundaries and that's not a good on any level.

If you still want to date this guy or just overall associate love onto him you're giving him a pass because of it and that's more along the lines of feeling desperate to keep him despite his poor ass attitude.

Friends just don't behave this way so I'm sure there is a good reason he's still a friend.

If I where you and I'm not but If I was I'd dump his ass real fast. No way he could get away with that and still be my friend. If this was the first time he attempted to embarrass me it would be his last.

Think about this consciously before going back into it as if nothing happened..

Thank you Tiki, your words, thought and guidance are always so much appreciated and bring up good points. I'm giving him his space and keeping busy, hardly texting and no calls. I feel that there is no need on my end to communicate to him my reasoning for this, he's a smart guy, he'll figure it out. I really just need to move on, and by move on, I mean completely. Since my earlier postings when I was confused about my feelings for him, I have since put some distance with us, but I'm beginning to realize, as a result of his recent behavior with me, that distance obviously isn't enough. I just need to let go.

You are right, by me even being his friend still and tolerating such behavior, shows desperation on my part.

Thank you!!! I can just sit and chat with you all day lovely lady :-)

Thank you Feby16! I suppose I never really looked at it that way. I just viewed it as being tolerant and forgiving. However, at what cost? I guess I get a bit confused with being tolerant and sticking up for myself in regards to me not wanting to come across as drama or a bitch to people.

Awe! Thank you Feby16! Yes, I NEED NEED NEED to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Yes, I'm the best at talking myself out of feelings, I shall make an effort to follow my intuition. My, had I done that from the very beginning, things would be so different, I'm sure :-)

Happy Fab Friday to you missy!!

You're beautiful and you deserve better than that.

If a man witness you rolling over belly up out of fear of losing him/his friendship he will use that to his advantage to take advantage.

If you stick around for his poor behavior then he truly has no reason to respect you going forward. By you accepting it he's learning the WRONG story about you which is your afraid to have your own back.

I agree with you completely. Take some time off from this guy so you can feel grounded emotionally and make the best decision for yourself going forward.

What he did was inexcusable behavior. Inexcusable....

Be in love with your inner Bitch. Our inner Bitch is not a bad thing. Your inner Bitch is there to love and protect you to ensure you're not allowing yourself to be taken for granted nor taken advantage of. Use your inner Bitch consciously but as often as necessary.

If I were you (I'm not you but if I were) he'd get a chilly shoulder until he at the least apologized and/or admitted he took it too far. If not then he can kick rocks.

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Thanks Tiki!!!!!!!!! Yes, I'm looking forward to some me time! Cold shoulder he shall get, and I definitely need to channel the inner bitch. She use to always be around when I was younger, she went in hibernation during my last 6 year relationship, and she's yet to come out :-)

Have a wonderful Friday and weekend! I will check back with you guys to keep you posted :-)

It's Aries Moon, the inner bitch Tiki's talking about should be out at these moon nights. Lol

Go go mars! moon!

Yeah, I also told him the other day that I wanted to clarify that I just want to be friends with him and nothing else, since I had told him otherwise in the beginning of this year. I don't want him to still think that is the case.

You don't deserve being treated like that. Perhaps you should be with a guy you could play jokes with, without fear of retribution. I mean, this is just a silly little joke and a harmless at that. You need a guy who's open for these little things. 🙂

Really? Really?? Why are you surprised? Again??

You should seriously consider cutting ties with this dude. You've got him in the friends category like you needed to do, but look at the crap he's pulling now. STILL more of the same.

I think his reaction was amplified given you aren't giving him the lady bits anymore. Now he's just being a spiteful child.

You might want to consider a time out if you can help it.

AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES. We've been over this. No matter what stupid shit this asshole keeps doing to you, sex or no sex, you're there making excuses for him. I'm sorry, no dick is that good where you have to tolerate someone's bullshit.

Despite good qualities his bad ones are outweighing them for sure.

And Tiki is right- friends don't do this to eachother. You're someone he used for his own selfish purposes and he continues to treat you as such. It sounds like you think more highly of him than he of you. All you've done so far is slide those rose colored glasses down your nose, not completely take them off.

Yeah, it's time for me to let the cherished memories be just that, and to stop using them to keep me around. Open my eyes to the present, let go, stop worrying about what other people think and stop trying to make everyone happy. I need to learn how to be by myself and happy that way :-) in a sense of not being lonely or needing anyone.

Aries men or Aries dominated men aren't pricks. All kinds of men can be PRICKS.

They're everywhere. Anywhere, under your bed, on top of your roof. You betcha they're there.

Yeah, I'd have to say, being a prick isn't sign specific. I was with a Cancer for 6 years, and he was a PRICK. I have dated an Aries years ago, and he was awesome, unfortunately, I was the prick that time around 😢

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Posted by lisabethur8
Aries men or Aries dominated men aren't pricks. All kinds of men can be PRICKS.

They're everywhere. Anywhere, under your bed, on top of your roof. You betcha they're there.

Still continue drinking some coffee and make sure it's *extra* strong...

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Oh really?

Telling me what to do huh?

How 'bout you go fly a kite? ^_~

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Posted by lisabethur8
Aries men or Aries dominated men aren't pricks. All kinds of men can be PRICKS.

They're everywhere. Anywhere, under your bed, on top of your roof. You betcha they're there.

Still continue drinking some coffee and make sure it's *extra* strong...

Oh really?

Telling me what to do huh?

How 'bout you go fly a kite? ^_~

You've obviously got some personal issues, which has nothing to do with me (and nor do I care about them).

Carry on being abusive but you're the one who looks like a deranged fool...

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Right. You're the guy who keeps complaining about your Aqua ex. Hey, here's a tip: don't ever date one ever again! Because you obviously believe so much in astrology that it completely distorts your view on compatibility on ALL levels.
Find yourself a girlfriend, and HOPEFULLY she doesn't exhibit terrible traits that you nitpick over so that when you come back here in 5 years, you're talking bad about that astrology trait and projecting yourself.

You guys!! Can't we just all get along!! It takes less energy to just let go and be happy, then it does to hold on and bicker. Remember, we all want the same things in life and we are all made up of the same stuff! :-)

Happy Thursday!!

I have a pretty good memory.
All i remember is that you mention it a couple of acidic times and that's it.

Not hard to remember such hatred.

I could say the same for you. Don't read either. And the smilies? Ditch them. It looks fakey.

Posted by RaeofSun
You guys!! Can't we just all get along!! It takes less energy to just let go and be happy, then it does to hold on and bicker. Remember, we all want the same things in life and we are all made up of the same stuff! :-)

Happy Thursday!!

I have a hard time feeling like running through a rose garden and prancing like a hippy girl.

I hear you! I have those moments too, for some reason, it's always easier being the cheer leader then practicing it myself :-)

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Sorry but I don't see where she attacked you. I see that she chimed in and added that any man can be a prick. Unless there's something I'm missing here.

You've got only half of the picture. She was on a rampage earlier today:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/any-experiences-with-scorpio-makes-4251631/?p=2<BR>
Both hostile posts were made within a couple of minutes of each other. Both posts were also targeted at me, for reasons that I can only conclude stem from her own insecurities/issues.

I hope that clarifies things for you and everyone else.

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And? I am insecure in many ways, but with my marriage, no way! But hella YEAH i'm insecure and need protection and all that. I'm not one of those women who are all "I am woman hear me roar!"

Just showing you earlier today how foolish it is that you come in here being negative about your experiences. When you know damn well any pairing can have that kind of experience and that they don't work out because they have their disharmony. For all we know you're making it all up. A couple will make it work because it's harmonious and they respect eachother. You, on the other hand? Are you in a committed relationship? If not, don't talk then.

Soooo..you're projecting your experience with your aqua ex's experience? Is that what it's all about?

Wow you sure talk alot.

Acting ALL tough and stuff.

Like I said, until the day you are in a committed relationship, then we'll see.

Ok, do so.

It's not going to effect my personal life. Go on with your bad self.

Already, you're biased and prejudiced. And you make stupid proclamations on "OH you're an Aqua...so..."

Maybe I should mirror you and say, "Oh you have an Aquarius Venus, so therefore you can't commit unless she/he is FAR FAR away."

And if i'm so darn ugly inside, then why do you bother and get so heated up?

Yeah, I thought so. It turns you on.

Well, I'm married so, forget it mister. Go find your own wife to marry!

True.

About the boards would be barren if no one speaks out whatever they want....

Well, keep on talking....

'cause the viewers are knocking their eyes out.

bada=bing, bada bing bang bang I shot you down.

Nicrobliz: that could very well be true, but this time around the tables were turned, and I was at a point in my life where I didn't care about anyone but myself. Sometimes I wish I were like that now :-)

oh my god.

Nicro has a way of twisting words and he's GOOD. Yeah he's good at it. But I can see right through him.

You can't honestly believe ALL Aries men are like this.

Yes, it's true there are pricks in every sign, even Aries, but you can't believe the stuff he says because of his own strong opinions.

Posted by feby16aqua
I have seen this with the men. Romantic relationships with them have been trying for me.
I can dig Aries women all day.

I'm sorry you and Rae had gone through bad relationships with Aries men.

But i'm telling you, there are GOOD men out there under this sign too. Not trying to advocate aries men, but there are good men under every month.

I've seen it with my own eyes! Even if i hadnt seen it with my own eyes, don't be persuaded by his strong words.

For example, my husband's uncle is an Aries man married to a Virgo woman. and they have one of the happiest marriages. Sure from outsiders it's not "ideal" but my god, he is a GOOD man and loves her and is very caring and protective. He's a great provider, and she's always supportive and loving.

I'm sure there's plenty of examples. The ones that you ladies come in here yelling out is because they just aren't for you. These ones are not "fit" for you.

It's hard to believe people would dismiss someone just because they were born during a certain time in the year.

For the record... though I value and appreciate everyone's input, always, I will never dismiss anyone because of their sign :-)

I believe in treating people the way I would like to be treated, if I truly felt that way, I could only imagine how many people out there would want to dismiss me because of my sign, and that would make me feel shitty.

Posted by RaeofSun
For the record... though I value and appreciate everyone's input, always, I will never dismiss anyone because of their sign :-)

I believe in treating people the way I would like to be treated, if I truly felt that way, I could only imagine how many people out there would want to dismiss me because of my sign, and that would make me feel shitty.

I guess in a way it's good. It keeps the undesirables out.

Also, if they believe we're the undesirables, that's okay too.

Posted by RaeofSun
For the record... though I value and appreciate everyone's input, always, I will never dismiss anyone because of their sign :-)

I believe in treating people the way I would like to be treated, if I truly felt that way, I could only imagine how many people out there would want to dismiss me because of my sign, and that would make me feel shitty.

You are very kind. And thank you very much for posting this. I get turned off whenever I learn that a woman is a water sign. I will friend-zone them whenever I find this out. Dunno why...

Firebunny: You are more than welcome! In regards to water signs... you just never know!!! Life can be pleasantly surprising at times :-)

i think i get his meaning.

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Posted by RaeofSun
For the record... though I value and appreciate everyone's input, always, I will never dismiss anyone because of their sign :-)

I believe in treating people the way I would like to be treated, if I truly felt that way, I could only imagine how many people out there would want to dismiss me because of my sign, and that would make me feel shitty.

You are very kind. And thank you very much for posting this. I get turned off whenever I learn that a woman is a water sign. I will friend-zone them whenever I find this out. Dunno why...

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well i hope you're friendzoning her (whoever it is) because she just isn't vibing/energy wise, making you feel good kind of feeling....instead of her sign placement. Right?