relationship with an aquarian dude

i already posted this somewhere else, but i thought it may be more relevant in this particular area.

i am a leo, and have been with an aquarius male for about a year now. we live together. i have read all about aquarian tendencies, and he pretty much fits the description to a t. i can say that it has helped me out alot in understanding some of his annoying behavior, and probably saved our relationship a few times.

anyways, this aquarius male was cheated on by a saggitarius female almost 2 years ago, and it really broke his heart. he was totally convinced that this chick was his lifelong companion, and she basically just packed up her stuff, moved out with another fella and didnt look back. ive always sensed that he still had feelings for her, but i didnt let it bother me too much.

recently, however, i found some emails that he had sent, telling her, overall, that he missed what they used to have and that it was hard for him. of course i was quite dismayed, and i did confront him about it, in a non tearful, calm way, and he basically told me that he loves me, no matter what, but was confused because although he doesnt want to be with his ex girlfriend, he still has some emotions for her. we had also just had a short breakup (i was the dumper) the month before, and he said that played a huge part in his confusion. the whole email thing went down about 2 weeks ago, and although my ego was severely bruised, i decided to trust him and let the issue go.

what do you guys think about this?
i feel really crappy about it, as this ex girlfriend was the epitome of what an aquarius wants; unconvential, independent, quirky, creative....i dont know, maybe im just making a mountain out of a molehill, but i would love to hear some thoughts on this from an astrological point of view...what is going through this guys head—

let me also add this....

the thing is, i have broken up with this guy several times. the breakups have never lasted long, as they've always been over, basically, him not stroking my ego. he is, after all, a very independent person and he dosen't pay me as much attention as i might like sometimes.

anyways, i would dump him, in a rage, and wait for him to come crawling back. however, i always ended up crawling back to HIM, because i like the guy, as a person, even if he dosen't kiss my ass all the time.

i read somewhere that aquarain males are very honest, and hate deception. the article said that if an aquarian guy is decieved, th

i think butter is the word for shat around here, so, BUTTER, it cut off the rest of this long ass post... okay heres the rest

i read somewhere that aquarain males are very honest, and hate deception. the article said that if an aquarian guy is decieved, the next woman he involves himself with is in for a challenge.

another article said that if an aquarian dude DOES get into a serious relationship, he expects them to stick by him unconditionally.

with that being said, i can't help but wonder if those things play a part in this situation. i am learning to deal with some of the irritating things my boyfriend does, because i realize it's in his nature to do them. im trying to reason this out the same way i guess.

You are right. It is his nature, and being a fixed sign he won't change a thing no matter how many times you dump him. So if you're not prepared to be in that relationship on all HIS terms then there is no point in getting back with him. It's cruel i know but that's how it is. Chances are, the Sag ex dumped him because he couldn't provide the security and warmth that a woman (regardless of their sign) needs. If you are willing to put up with all his bull butter then by all means..

I see astrology can be a hindrance to to the evolution of a relationship...

"anyways, i would dump him, in a rage, and wait for him to come crawling back. however, i always ended up crawling back to HIM, because i like the guy, as a person, even if he dosen't kiss my ass all the time."

this is a red flag for me. my brother is an aqua and he is very sensitive, very intelligent and does and sometimes says lots of odds things to try to get a rise out of people. however if he wants a woman he might not initially go after if she leaves him, but he will at least call her if only just to talk. he will also call other people to get their opinion. i think you should let him have some time to himself so that he can sort things through. it may be just bad timing, and it might do you some good too.

aguaaqi is right the e-mails might not matter but i wouldn't discount them either unless you know the total details of what went down between them (not just his side of the story). aqua males have a tendacy to fudge the facts and put people in differnt worlds so that no one has their full story. just be careful and more importantly listen to your gut. i've seen this with my brother, my ex who is aqua rising (which i didn't know at the time) and my friend's brother-in-law. they can be crafty and incredibly sincere. i've seen these guys cause total devestation and then make it seem like they were the victim. so again, listen to that gut.

good luck 🙂

She's a leo people, its their god given right for people to kiss their ass.



lol @ OFA's aries...that sooo true about them.

that sounded kinda unhealthy...the whole 'mafia love' bit.

"anyways, i would dump him, in a rage, and wait for him to come crawling back. however, i always ended up crawling back to HIM"

-LOL...yeah, an aquarius guy doesn't just come crawling back. he will sometimes linger back into your life, but that usually doesn't happen until after some time has gone by and he has done some thinking.
i think you have done some emotional damage to him by continuously dumping him and going back...and it probably has a lot to do with why he is not stable with you in return. i really think that you are partly to blame.

"if an aquarian dude DOES get into a serious relationship, he expects them to stick by him unconditionally."

YES!!! i believe this is very true with aqua men. it's almost like you have to prove your love for them, in order for them to believe it. AND, it takes a really strong woman to do that!

"personally, if i had been cheated on by someone i was in a serious relationship with, well it would be a challenge for the next guy! i would be putting him through all kinds of tests and stuff just to make sure he wouldnt do the same thing. i know it sounds stupid, but its true"

hmmm, yeah...this is what my aqua bf did with me. his ex-girlfriend had cheated on him, and then him and i started dating 9 months after they broke up...and i really don't think he was ready for a relationship. and for a long time during our relationship, he would put me through little tests...and i really think it was because of what his ex did to him, and unfortunately...i had to pay for it! and it is like i said before...i had to prove myself to him constantly.

i agree with you moonchild, i am to blame for alot of our problems. my aquarius is 5 years older than me, and i think he's better adjusted to dealing with relationships. this is my first serious relationship, and my first time co-habitating with a partner. sometimes i am too quick on the trigger when i feel like i'm not being loved as much as i'd like to be. personally, with this guy, i think that if he didnt love me he would have to me to go f myself a long time ago. i can be pretty needy...im learning how to get over my ego, though, and its helpful to me in all aspects of my life, as well as my relationship. everyone tells me that i should break up with this guy, but i'd just rather not. he is worth the challenge to me, i really love and respect him, for what he is, even though it chaps my ass alot of the time. i guess deep down, i like someone who dosent take any "butter" from me. i can dish out alot of it.

mcamera...not to get you down or anything, but it seems that maybe you need to do some soul searching before you continue on in this relationship. it seems that you are looking for things from him that you first need to find within yourself. don't look to him for your personal happiness. you will never find it there.

"i can be pretty needy"

-yeah, you definitely need to let go of this. NO man wants to be with a needy woman.

one good thing about this guy is that i CAN search for my personal happiness, on my own terms, and still be in a relationship with him. he expects nothing out of me, really. my boyfriend has always had an unbelieveable amount of patience with me, and i guess i feel like he deserves the same in return. alot of my relationship problems are based on me coming to terms with my own personal demons. i know it sounds like im just trying to reason things out to suit my own purpose, but he and i actually do play quite nicely off one another the majority of the time. thanks for the replies =]

mean kitty. rawr!

::slaps claws/paws::

UC...i am going to correct your statement by saying that you must be all of the above to be with a "immature aqua dude". i think once they grow up and become matured, they are very different. it's a matter of whether they are ready or not, and whether they are committed or not, b/c once they are "committed"...it's a whole different story. the girl no longer needs to be any of the above, but it is a plus!

yeah, i was just trying to point out that there is a big difference between a matured aqua male and one that it not quite there yet. and to me, it seems that a lot of the aqua men that are talked about on here are ones that may not yet be ready to make a commitment. but, i also believe that a lot of women don't have the traits that UC was describing before...those are all traits of a very STRONG female. and, yes they are all very positive traits to have...but a lot of women don't naturally have that.

i really do think with aqua men, that a woman has to prove herself. there are a lot of little tests that she will be put through...and she has to be a strong person to deal with a lot of it. but, it's funny b/c it seems that all the tests are done b/c of insecurity on their part...yet, they are attracted to very strong women.

"it's worth it to me to have my own freedom and a guy who isn't going to ask 20 questions everytime I leave the house"

-yeah, i completely agree with that!!! i could never be with a guy who asks me all sorts of questions, or is possesive, jealous, etc.
that is one amazing quality that aqua men have...that they respect your space, your life, you!!!

"And to be in a relationship with an aqua dude who is not 100% ready to be in that relationship is asking for trouble"

-EXACTLY!!! and i think that is the case with a LOT of the aqua guys talked about on here.

You're all defending the aqual males for sticking to their "fixed" nature, as this was written in the stars for them so why are you bashing the leo girl for doing the same?