Scorpio/Aquarius Can we just let it work?

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WARNING!!!!THIS IS THE DEFINITION OF LONG

okay..So this is my first time doing a post??_.Aquarius female here!!!! Let me say that I enjoy reading post/blogs/comments about almost everything not just in the Astrology sections but because the user comments are just too d*** hilarious. Let me also wish all my fellow Aquarians a wonderful birthday, and I am sure by now someone has read this far is saying get the heck on with the story already and I promise it will not be short either(I love to write). Okay to start my story off??_S.C.O.R.P.I.O. This man is driving me crazyyyyyy!!!!! (that's how all the stories start,LOL) The thing is that I am about 8 years in deep with this man,(da***mmm!!!!!) maybe 9...I lost count??_lol and it frustrates me because no one else who I have talked/given a chance to sway me has been able to last not even close to this long because deep down I don't find them worthy and a waste of time. It's funny because this is what I read about my sign and it almost sounds too cocky but it's true. I am just to cold and I will drop you??re a*** in a heartbeat, just feeling sorry for what I am about to do to you. It's strange because most women talk about their —first?? and how they always loved their —first??..well??_I left my first blowing in the wind and told winter to come scoop his a*** right up the minute I found deceit. After that I met Scorpio. I just instantly felt drawn to him the minute I accidentally laid eyes on him and when his eyes met mine. Our years together have been off course on and off hot and cold.

I have actually been able to predict some of the turmoil in our relationship(meaning something that happens between two people) and I have dreaded and feared those days the most when they have surfaced. I did not know that I was actually capable of going months, days, nights without talking to someone I love so much yet still feel the same way about that person. My Scorpio was actually the first to walk out on me but then he returned and said that he would never pull those disappearing acts again. However he has broken his promise more than once and I have become a reflection of that very action in the coldest way and have tried to break the cycle. I did not even know the man I was in love with was a Scorpio until 7 years ago when I became desperate to try to understand him.

I probably heard something about astrology on TV or from work or something??_sh*** I didn't even know my own d*****sign. And bo
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boy when I read the compatibility, what a heart breaking story, (nightmare), but me being so optimistic and all, I did not believe all that crap of course. I mean with Aquarius, anything is possible right? lol So of course I start googling, I start youtubing, I start reading, I start experimenting, I start trying to figure out how to make it work. Everything you need to know is on the internet right? And these were my questions( what is wrong with scorpio men? Why are they so mean? How do you seduce scorpios? What do they like? October scorpios? Novemeber scorpios? Are these men for real? Why are they full of sh*****? Do they cheat? Do these men sleep? Somebody help me please?) lol. Some of what I found helped but in the beginning so of it scared me cause of course not everything you read is true and I just simply think that there a lot of factors to be considered and everyone is different in their own way. I looked up the scorpio, aquarius match also. What I found? Well, everything I seem to read about this match sounds true, tones of post about people in the same situation. I don't know if he has done any of this research. Maybe he has because he seems to know me like an open book and I will never admit it either. My connection to him would be so strong that all I would need to do is think about him and he would call or text me, right away. He would say, —What are you doing— I could sense when this guy was around. The thing is that everything that I feel seems so right. it feels so good..it would be like heaven??_.gliding on top of water??_laying in the clouds nothing could bring me down??_the most highest high you could think off or feel ??_.but then when trouble hit it was like hell..Total disaster..devastating and torment. Never has anyone been able to flip my mood so quickly with one word. I remember having to leave work because the energy was just too intense for me to bear or focus on anything.
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I had to fix with him whatever was going on right then and there ASAP. I Haven't went into exact details about things that occurred because I'm sure it has already been stated and it is very distinctive from other situations and there has been a lot of hurt that we both caused and a lot of details I am leaving out that is also just too unbelievable.. I'm thinking that he is afraid of the same things I am. The feeling, feels right but there just has been so much lies, so much scenarios that I don't think he will be willing to come clean about and I know he misses me as much as I miss him. One night at his house we were asleep and I never told him this but I had two dreams. The first was crazy. It was basically like he had showed his soul to me. He had showed me all the cover ups, all the imperfections, all the hurt, all the darkness, all his struggles and I was trying to holding him up. I had found him on the floor behind the bathroom door. He was lying on a bed like the one you get a message on in the spa and fell off. He was on some type of nebulizer treatment that I figured represented the smoke that covered all his secretes and it seemed as though the treatment was not working anymore and he could no longer hide, so when I found him laying on the floor and I woke him up and tried to help him, it was as if he was saying to me, now you know it all, can you accept me? Can you accept this or that? Will you be able to handle the truth? It was one of the realest dreams I have ever had. I woke up instantly with him still asleep. The other dream I will not speak off. It was a good one though. The last time we spoke was last year shortly after his birthday. Then he pissed me off when he did not fall threw on important business we should have took care of together and then he acts like sh*** never happened. I just feel that I would like 100% back when 100% is given and I don't like half** as behavior. It seems like he is just too much on his terms type behavior. I don't ask for too much but your word is your bond and I have never let anyone let me down the amount of times he has and yet be so forgiving. I am pretty capable of doing a lot of things on my own so I feel like when I open up and give my independence away which means so much to me, I don't want to be let down because I could have just did it on my own.
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Scorpio being the sign everyone says loves control, that is all fine and dandy with me because I love a man that knows his place so I feel that when I put my independence aside and give someone else the control at least communicate with me what the heck is going on cause I just gave you all my trust. With Air being my element I still don't think I should have to bear what I have so far. I don't care if it is something as little as drawing me a picture or something as big as buying me a mansion. There have been times when he has kept his word so I have to give him that credit but I don't want our relationship to be a series of test and trying to figure out when the other person can be trusted and when they will keep their promise and show their love and now I'm going to put my guard up and next I will disappear. By all means I know that everything is not going to always go as planned, life is just not that way I just feel when something comes your way that YOU ARE in complete control of, don't half a*** on it or lie about it either. I am never ashamed to admit when I have done something wrong or acknowledge it either. I just would like for us to hold on as tight as possible and never let go. He is very good at manipulating situations into his favor also when it comes to fights, he is just so dang good at debates and I laugh sometimes thinking about his hand gestures and posture and the look on his face and in his eyes when he knows he is about to let my a*** have it for whatever I did or said to piss him off..He will sit and let me talk and while I'm talking, best believe he is listening but he is also putting together some good points to counter my statements and make me feel real dumb too lol and then when he is done proving all his points I just say —okay I am sorry you are right, do you forgive me? I'm in the mood lets have sex now, LMBO and no matter how pissed off he is at me, after a few hugs and kisses from me he knows he can't resist. It is so funny but hurts like hell.
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He is the only one that can make me feel like a little girl sitting on daddy??s big lap rolling my eyes the minute I realized he just won this d*** fight. I didn't have a chance cause when he get going he is like a rolling stone. Sometimes I have enjoyed seeing him get mad it kind of turned me on when he gets all upset. At the same time I am definitely trying to avoid the stinger (in one ear and out the other) but in a lot of fights I do get the stinger. Bottom line is after research here and there on free time I think he is scared. Maybe embarrassed about whatever he is hiding that I may not be willing to accept him. Maybe he really does not care, I don't know. I have already told him I'm not happy with the —calling to check up?? messages it just seem like a waste of time because the minute we get back close and happy he finds some reason to pull a disappearing act as if he wants me to prove that I care about him by being emotional when I have already done so in so many ways than one. This then leads to a big fight because of the lies I know he is coming up with to try pull a disappearing act and if I call him out on any lie he seems to get more pissed off. He is confused because he doesn't understand how I can love him intensely and then hate his guts with the same amount of passion. Like a thin line. To add to it when I get upset I don't call or text nothing for days and it seems like as time goes by minutes turn into hours, hours into days, days into months and I fear will turn into years and we still have not yet spoken. And here I am, knowing in my heart I still love this man and feels he maybe doesn't deserve me. Did I say bottom line already?...okay this is the official bottom line??_bottom line is he wanted to get together for my birthday and I was so stubborn to not get back to him, he still called to wish me a good one and It sounded something like this..??Hey__________ ,this is_____________ and I was just calling to wish you a happy birthday. Your getting older but you still look young..what are you about 30 now?(this is a joke we share I'm in my late 20??s and I am dreading 30 ) Anyways, I'm not trying to aggravate you I just want to wish you a happy birthday so when you get a chance give me a call,555-555-5555.okay, this is ________??..Bottom line....CONFUSED, LONELY, HURT, IN LOVE, DEVASTATED, HORNY, every word in the dictionary that is an adjective for WTF IS GOING ON IN MY LIFE??_if that makes any sense..lol.
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Fellow Aquarius here...

This is way too long even for me.

I'm certain Aqua female and Scorpio males are not a good match long term, least everything I've ever read about this match indicates it.

9 years, you'd could have had a husband, 2 kids and dog by now and all you've got is nothing, no boyfriend, no ring, no real relationship, it all appears pointless and without direction.
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My dad was a scorpio and mum is aqua so I kinda know what you are talking about. They met as teenagers, dated, got married when they finished university and got divorced when I was 4. Even though my dad got re married he kept fighting with her constantly, since he couldn't have her (she wanted the divorce) he fought with her to have some sort of relationship/connection.... Stupid. My mum after 15 years of her divorce and several failed relationships regrets her decision and even today she says she shouldn't have divorced... Too little too late. I grew up in the middle of a nasty constant fight between them. I know you guys feel a strong pull for each other but at the end of the day you just don't get along. I understand to attraction of passion but getting mad every day is not love. Be with somebody that makes you happy most of the time not somebody who makes you really happy rarely. Hope this help
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You're in love with a figment of your imagination. You're in love with who he USED to be or who you BELIEVE he could be or who you WISH he was. You're not in love with the person he currently IS. Huge difference.

You are staying out of convenience. You think the length of time you've known or been with someone justifies getting treated unlike you deserve. You don't want to start all over b/c your pride & ego doesn't want to admit that once again, you picked the wrong guy. You know deep down that you're not happy but yet you've foolishly convinced yourself that unhappiness by means of him is the best that you'll ever get

So you settle. And while you're settling, you play mind games with yourself & manipulate yourself by coming up with 1,000 excuses for why you're there. But as much as you try convincing yourself that this bullsh***t you guys put in a pot is actually real love, your psyche & heart still knows better & still feels empty no matter how hard you try to force yourself to believe that it's full

You're sitting here wasting time that you'll NEVER get back. You're sitting there waiting on the 1% chance that he may change at the expense of yourself, your hear & your time. You're sitting there knowing that things most likely won't change & that what you see is what you get, but even with that inner knowledge you still make the decision to be blind & stay anyways

This man is not right for you. He may have been in the beginning. He may be in the future. But right now he's not. Sometimes people outgrow each other. They start off as 2 toxic people who mesh so well only b/c they're both toxic & feeding off of each other's insecurities, baggage, etc.

And the minute 1 or both of you finally decides to do some reflecting (b/c you're tired of feeling the way that you do or being the way you are), of course you'll start to see your relationship & your partner in a completely different light. That's a GOOD thing. It's like exercising. You'll know you're doing it the right way when you start to feel the burn.

The most important thing that you need to remember here is that you are wasting all of this time that you will NEVER get back. You & I both know that you'll look back in 10 years & want to kick yourself this! You'll not only resent him but you'll resent yourself. And self-resentment is the worst b/c it's yet another "flaw" thrown on top of the "bad traits" list that contribute to your lack of self-esteem in the 1st place.

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"krysrenee7", you hit the nail right on the head. Thanks for your wonderful comment. Nothing like some good old reality check on this one..."You're in love with a figment of your imagination. You're in love with who he USED to be or who you BELIEVE he could be or who you WISH he was. You're not in love with the person he currently IS. Huge difference."..so true. Hurts like heck but true....
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I don't think it would be unfair to say that this relationship has an addictive quality to it.

The lows are low, but damn-- the highs are incredibly high.

Never boring; but sadly, the lack of consistency is the only constant, and it makes for an incredibly tumultuous life.

Unless you both decide to "grow up" a bit-- because I think you both create the chaos (yes, I read the whole thing *wink*)-- I don't think this relationship is going to make you happy in any real sense.

And what LittleMissPerfect said was worth reading again.

Hope it works out for you, whatever you decide. smile
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o well thanks tiki33 for making me feel like a complete idiot..will it help if I said I have a cat..not one that we mad together by the way...lol..just kidding I know what you mean..You right..no direction at all..I think its best I cut this off asap.



Good girl. I know it hurts but it's doable, believe me. I know exactly what you're going through. I knew somebody for a little over 10 years & he made me crazy as well. Up & down we went for years, but I finally decided that enough was enough. Is it easy? No, because this is someone that I know. Due to how long we've known each other, he started to feel like a part of me. Like family. But I wasn't happy. He made me unhappy. So I decided to be happy by removing the source of my unhappiness. I still miss him sometimes but I remind myself of all the hell that that relationship put me through emotionally & I don't ever wanna feel like that again.

Take it one day at a time & before you know it, he'll be nothing more than a distant memory. Start with communication. Cut all means of contact so he won't be a constant reminder of the past that you're trying to leave behind. Bury him & everything connected to him if you really wanna get your sanity/peace back.

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Unless you both decide to "grow up" a bit-- because I think you both create the chaos (yes, I read the whole thing *wink*)-- I don't think this relationship is going to make you happy in any real sense.


Your absolutely right...both parties have to grow up and stop the chaos..it is just to much...but then again a read Scorpios like drama..don't know how true that is..but I don't....Thanks for reading the whole thing I know I almost bored I just have a habit of writing long stuff...lol
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I know exactly what you're going through. I knew somebody for a little over 10 years & he made me crazy as well. Up & down we went for years, but I finally decided that enough was enough. Is it easy? No, because this is someone that I know. Due to how long we've known each other, he started to feel like a part of me. Like family. But I wasn't happy. He made me unhappy. So I decided to be happy by removing the source of my unhappiness. I still miss him sometimes but I remind myself of all the hell that that relationship put me through emotionally & I don't ever wanna feel like that again.

Take it one day at a time & before you know it, he'll be nothing more than a distant memory. Start with communication. Cut all means of contact so he won't be a constant reminder of the past that you're trying to leave behind. Bury him & everything connected to him if you really wanna get your sanity/peace back.
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Watercup I'm glad I'm not the only one who got in to deep, but was still able to come out of it..and thats what I hope to do or at least see a dramatic turn around.Just off the subject a little bit..I use to see people in TV commercials talking about depression and how depression is following them around...and I used to say "really just get over it and be happy" but the truth is you cannot really say what you would sometimes if you were in a situation until it actually happens to you...Yea you are going to say years later boy I was really dumb or I should have just moved on but sometimes it is not that easy especially when you have become attached to someone. I think its fair to say that sometimes when you really care about/love someone is not that easy to let go. I don't think that me staying so long has anything to do with self-esteem because by all mean I have a pretty high self-esteem about my self and everyone who knows me does too I think one of my problems is always wanting to fight for what I believe in or want to see happen. Watercup i think that what really bothers me is the popping up..I know all about cutting ties...in the past i used to change my phone number but I don't think that is an option right now because I have to much contacts/business to change it just because of one person...and as for popping I cannot control what other people do but I will make it clear that behavior is not welcome anymore..thanks for the encouragement..if you could get past years i'm sure that 9 years will be a piece of cake smilelol
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I could not imagine someone I love sleeping with my best friend...I understand a little about birth charts from what a few users say but I will have to really research it. I read something about both of our birthdays that really hit it on the head good and bad stuff.there is a video I saw on you-tube that really wowed me titled "curse of Scorpio & Aquarius zodiac signs in vedic" by KRSchannel...he wasn't talking about love and relationship but he really explained in a very well the charts of both signs..it was really interesting...I wonder if your friend slept with him again after he said that..that was a major stinger right there...and pretty twisted...she probably felt sink after that realizing what she did...mine is October as well and I figured the November ones are probably slightly different....It strange because I figured he keeps coming back into my life for that reason closure...your right that him and trust me when you do wrong to people your mind will eat you up...
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Posted by aquariuslove14
Unless you both decide to "grow up" a bit-- because I think you both create the chaos (yes, I read the whole thing *wink*)-- I don't think this relationship is going to make you happy in any real sense.


Your absolutely right...both parties have to grow up and stop the chaos..it is just to much...but then again a read Scorpios like drama..don't know how true that is..but I don't....Thanks for reading the whole thing I know I almost bored I just have a habit of writing long stuff...lol



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