Scorpio single mom here again.
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by ScorpsxAce08 on Wednesday, August 15, 2018 and has 15 replies.
Hi guys. my last post was about my break up with an aquarius guy and our situation. Now months passed.. Feeling a lot better.
I no longer cry or anything. Kept my mouth shout instead of raging like i use to. And i've cleared my head in terms of our child.
I have my ex visit him whenever he wants and we both agreed its not a good time yet to see each other even though he comes visit his kid almost everyday.
But recently, whenever i try talking to my ex about situations about my child (ONLY) i swear it. He always. and i mean Always brings up the topic of our relationship. (not in a good way) He would say how much he doesnt want to see me even though i never mention anything like that, he would say he doesnt trust me even though i said no word of anything else except our child. He just seems so angry towards me everytime i talk to him. Yet my helper told me whenever he would come visit he would cook my dinner so when i get home from work i have food and such.
I am 100% sure this time that ive done NOTHING at all after begging him to come back on our first month of breakup. after the first month. I stopped. Like moved on with my life even if it still hurts. I did nothing to contact or see or anything at all. Now, it just weird me out how my ex is sooo damn angry at me when after all this months of keeping quiet and distance and all that i said no word about us and never even opened up anything about it.
The only topic i would talk to him about is about our child. (i swear it).
I no longer cry or anything. Kept my mouth shout instead of raging like i use to. And i've cleared my head in terms of our child.
I have my ex visit him whenever he wants and we both agreed its not a good time yet to see each other even though he comes visit his kid almost everyday.
But recently, whenever i try talking to my ex about situations about my child (ONLY) i swear it. He always. and i mean Always brings up the topic of our relationship. (not in a good way) He would say how much he doesnt want to see me even though i never mention anything like that, he would say he doesnt trust me even though i said no word of anything else except our child. He just seems so angry towards me everytime i talk to him. Yet my helper told me whenever he would come visit he would cook my dinner so when i get home from work i have food and such.
I am 100% sure this time that ive done NOTHING at all after begging him to come back on our first month of breakup. after the first month. I stopped. Like moved on with my life even if it still hurts. I did nothing to contact or see or anything at all. Now, it just weird me out how my ex is sooo damn angry at me when after all this months of keeping quiet and distance and all that i said no word about us and never even opened up anything about it.
The only topic i would talk to him about is about our child. (i swear it).
You mentioned" Aquas dont like sharing time" so what am i suppose to do? be gone so he can have my kid and he can stop hating me for no apparent reason?
We havent seen each other for 7 months now. We only talk through txt. So our child doesnt know what is happening betweek us aside from his dad is not living with us. my child is only 3 yrs old.
And im not focusing on "didnt do anything wrong" im just saying. I have done nothing. Good or bad or anything. I just pretty much poured my mind and energy to myself and my kid ever since he left us.
So what im trying to ask is. Why the heck is he so angry? He wanted me to leave him alone i did. he wanted to see his kid whenever he wants i did that too. Yet he is still angry every time i try to reach out to him about the well beings of our child (i.e for next month i need him to take care of our child as our helper is leaving for a month. and i dont have a family where i am at so .. really need his help next month and since he doesnt have work he has the time. )
We havent seen each other for 7 months now. We only talk through txt. So our child doesnt know what is happening betweek us aside from his dad is not living with us. my child is only 3 yrs old.
And im not focusing on "didnt do anything wrong" im just saying. I have done nothing. Good or bad or anything. I just pretty much poured my mind and energy to myself and my kid ever since he left us.
So what im trying to ask is. Why the heck is he so angry? He wanted me to leave him alone i did. he wanted to see his kid whenever he wants i did that too. Yet he is still angry every time i try to reach out to him about the well beings of our child (i.e for next month i need him to take care of our child as our helper is leaving for a month. and i dont have a family where i am at so .. really need his help next month and since he doesnt have work he has the time. )
Why doesn’t he have work? Is he a bum?
Posted by WaterbearerwearerWhat exactly do you mean here? Either she did something to f’up or she didn’t. And if something was lacking in the relationship, or “wasn’t right”, how does that justify anger or aggression on his part? From what we’ve been told, those emotions seem misplaced like a mf.
Scorpio tend to fixate on what they didn’t do wrong and forget about what wasn’t right with the relo.
@Koni It’s like some Aquarian men hate to be wrong. From my experience, they can hurt someone, and then resent the person that they hurt, for simply BEING hurt. It makes no sense. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
⏫⏫THIS⏫⏫ And everyone here is given advice on how to change for and accommodate their whims and oddities. But it’s a one way street, because they are impeccable as is. /s
But she hasn’t tried to discuss their relationship. Right? She’s telling us about his confusing anger towards her. I’m not getting where she has bombarded him with her righteousness in the relationship. Did I miss something?
And btw, I’ve done off and on with an Aquarius for 13 years so I really get your frustration buddy. 😉
And btw, I’ve done off and on with an Aquarius for 13 years so I really get your frustration buddy. 😉
Posted by WaterbearerwearerYou addressed nothing in my post tho. Isn’t aquarius supposed to be logical? Address those points and maybe we can come to an understanding then.Posted by SkorpiosityPa my bf is a Scorp Sun Cancer moon.Posted by WaterbearerwearerWhat exactly do you mean here? Either she did something to f’up or she didn’t. And if something was lacking in the relationship, or “wasn’t right”, how does that justify anger or aggression on his part? From what we’ve been told, those emotions seem misplaced like a mf.
Scorpio tend to fixate on what they didn’t do wrong and forget about what wasn’t right with the relo.
He would broach me the same way.click to expand
All I wanted was for you to actually explain your viewpoint. Instead it seems you assumed I viewed the situation the same as you did. However, you do have a point and are right. For all we know, she could have cheated on the guy and that’s why he’s still pissed. I assumed that he’d just up and left her when she said she had begged him to come back. I was wrong to assume that tho.
I did not cheat. We have been together since high school. On and off never cheated though. I admit i have my bad sides too. I think everybody does. He cheated on me multiple times after i gave birth and constantly not coming home 3-4 days a week and everybody was on his side as they keep insisting that he aint doing anything wrong anyway. "he is just out with friends" .
After the cheating happens, our relationship became even more difficult. I had a postpartum depression and during that time he was taking drugs and cheating.
I was emotional and paranoid after that. My attitude towards him became more sour as well. He would be good and then snap to disappearing for a few days going back to his parents house.
When we broke up last Feb i begged for him for a month and then decided it is time to let go.
After that i had no contact with him and blocked him to everything. He would txt me once a month to ask "hows the kid" but tell people i wouldnt let him see the kid when he never reaches out to ask to see our kid. Only asks how is he doing. That is all.
So i stopped and let him do whatever he wants. Agree on anything for our kid and compromise for the sake of our kid. Yet whenever i talk to him even through txt he would suddenly open up how he doesnt want to see me/he doesnt trust me and stuff like that. And i would go back and forth explaining to him that this isnt just about me and him anymore and i never ever ever 100% opened up anything about us anymore aside from our kids well-being.
Thats all. And he is just angry. Like bitter and angry when he is the one who left. I just gave him what he wants and slowly moving on to better things. Like i even told him we dont even need to be friends if he doesnt want to. But we do have a child together and we need to be on the same terms for the kid. Thats all.
After the cheating happens, our relationship became even more difficult. I had a postpartum depression and during that time he was taking drugs and cheating.
I was emotional and paranoid after that. My attitude towards him became more sour as well. He would be good and then snap to disappearing for a few days going back to his parents house.
When we broke up last Feb i begged for him for a month and then decided it is time to let go.
After that i had no contact with him and blocked him to everything. He would txt me once a month to ask "hows the kid" but tell people i wouldnt let him see the kid when he never reaches out to ask to see our kid. Only asks how is he doing. That is all.
So i stopped and let him do whatever he wants. Agree on anything for our kid and compromise for the sake of our kid. Yet whenever i talk to him even through txt he would suddenly open up how he doesnt want to see me/he doesnt trust me and stuff like that. And i would go back and forth explaining to him that this isnt just about me and him anymore and i never ever ever 100% opened up anything about us anymore aside from our kids well-being.
Thats all. And he is just angry. Like bitter and angry when he is the one who left. I just gave him what he wants and slowly moving on to better things. Like i even told him we dont even need to be friends if he doesnt want to. But we do have a child together and we need to be on the same terms for the kid. Thats all.
I honestly have nothing to talk to him about except our childs well being. I still have love for him after all we have been together since high school making it 10 yrs or so. Everyone is saying im the only one who understands him and i believe thats true. But after our last break up..
I just got tried and even if it hurts i chose to let go and move on instead of going through the same cycle every single week for the rest of my life.
He wanted out and i gave it to him. I never bugged or begged or chased and even avoided places and people he would be at or with after we broke up.
I stopped everything and even tried to hide just so he wouldnt think im still chasing after him or anything like that. I focused on my work and my kid and somehow got through with it. Havent fully moved on yes... but it doesnt hurt as much as it did before though. Thats why i started being ok with him like compromising for our child because i know for a fact that i can handle it now without being emotional or hurt or anything. ANd yet he is the one acting up.
I just got tried and even if it hurts i chose to let go and move on instead of going through the same cycle every single week for the rest of my life.
He wanted out and i gave it to him. I never bugged or begged or chased and even avoided places and people he would be at or with after we broke up.
I stopped everything and even tried to hide just so he wouldnt think im still chasing after him or anything like that. I focused on my work and my kid and somehow got through with it. Havent fully moved on yes... but it doesnt hurt as much as it did before though. Thats why i started being ok with him like compromising for our child because i know for a fact that i can handle it now without being emotional or hurt or anything. ANd yet he is the one acting up.
He doesnt have work cause apparently he just didnt bother looking for one anymore ever since we broke up. He was just living his life and all. But now that i made compromises and accepted the fact that he doesnt want any thing to do with me anymore he "suddenly" have sooo many interviews and offers or something? and then tells me to stop working so i can focus on taking care of our child. I dont ask him for support anymore since it was stressful when i did that before. I just need his help for next month and then me reaching out to him about it he is just really angry. like when i told him about him taking care of the child his response was"i dont want to see you" i dont trust you" and ofcourse me i feel weird cuz no one mentions about seeing each other or anything. just that i need his help for it. he knows i have a helper too. i mean he comes by my house almost everyday. so his response was very annoying. lol
Posted by exsqueezemePoor horny you...I am sorryPosted by GemitatiOh just fuck off you cocksucking whore.
Why doesn’t he have work? Is he a bum?click to expand
Posted by ScorpsxAce08Those disappearing acts (emotional abandonment) can hurt a persons soul. I know how you felt. Then, when you don’t welcome them back from abusing you with open arms, the relationship auto destructs from there.
I did not cheat. We have been together since high school. On and off never cheated though. I admit i have my bad sides too. I think everybody does. He cheated on me multiple times after i gave birth and constantly not coming home 3-4 days a week and everybody was on his side as they keep insisting that he aint doing anything wrong anyway. "he is just out with friends" .
After the cheating happens, our relationship became even more difficult. I had a postpartum depression and during that time he was taking drugs and cheating.
I was emotional and paranoid after that. My attitude towards him became more sour as well. He would be good and then snap to disappearing for a few days going back to his parents house.
When we broke up last Feb i begged for him for a month and then decided it is time to let go.
After that i had no contact with him and blocked him to everything. He would txt me once a month to ask "hows the kid" but tell people i wouldnt let him see the kid when he never reaches out to ask to see our kid. Only asks how is he doing. That is all.
So i stopped and let him do whatever he wants. Agree on anything for our kid and compromise for the sake of our kid. Yet whenever i talk to him even through txt he would suddenly open up how he doesnt want to see me/he doesnt trust me and stuff like that. And i would go back and forth explaining to him that this isnt just about me and him anymore and i never ever ever 100% opened up anything about us anymore aside from our kids well-being.
Thats all. And he is just angry. Like bitter and angry when he is the one who left. I just gave him what he wants and slowly moving on to better things. Like i even told him we dont even need to be friends if he doesnt want to. But we do have a child together and we need to be on the same terms for the kid. Thats all.
Hey, let his @ss stay mad. Turn your emotions off when communicating with him about your child. Strictly business. Save your love for the kid, who deserves it.
Posted by Aquarelle
You say that when you try to discuss things about your child, he starts to say he doesnt trust you and other things. It makes sense to me because when you talk about responsibilities towards your child or the way to raise it, for example, you need to come to an agreement together on how to do it. So it makes sense to me that he would assess your ability to do what you agree upon regarding your child. He could also feel bitter about the break up and may be slower in processing his feelings than you. That would explain why he started talking about not wanting you back recently.
That is why i am trying to talk to him. so we can settle things for the kid. Yet my point is everyttime i talk to him his answers are nothing about the topic. It is more on me and him.
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