Seriously

I'm all for trying, working on it and all that butter.

However, really, when it becomes apparent that my good nature is being abused, I will bail and with finality, but still wish you happiness (its a talent carved from years of experience, unfortunately). Call it weak, criticize it all you like. Being alone is better then being alone with someone that won't even meet you half way or worse yet feels entitled to your good nature and mistakes the aqua trait of kindness for weakness (big mistake).

Gosh, I hate cutting people out, permanently, but I have to believe it make room for better things, and it usually does.

We are not without emotion, deep emotion, we just move on when we understand a lost cause, and don't want to inflict futher harm by being present. To you or to ourselves.

Simple really.

+1

Sometimes people in your life aren't meant to stay w/ you for the long-term, but only for certain stages to help you grow & then it's time for them to leave. And perhaps this is that person's time to go. Do what you gotta do 😉

Those of us who are not Aquas, but who understand how deep your feelings run... Why does it have to be permanent? I have people who have wronged me or did some crazy stuff to me and 5 or ten years later i can have a conversation with them because its a different time. I can become close to them again if there is no weird feelings. Most of the time we are friends and they can call me freely. But with you guys its like you want to people to mourn their loss. You wont have anything to do with them. WHY cant you just accept that they are flawed? That they did not do it to hurt you they did it because they did not know better. You Aquas make great impacts in people lives sometimes those people value you and want you to back in their lives in whatever small capacity and you wont allow it.

Ive never taken advantage of someones weakness and no one can take advantage of mine. I would know before we became friends that they were that kind of person already and would not become friends with them to begin with. I never have to toss people out because i dont let them in to begin with. I see how i can take advantage of people, for instance one day i asked a friend who was older than me to get me some alcohol. She took it personally, that i was using her. I was, but it was not something that meant i thought she was disposable. She stopped talking to me after that. I had always been there for her.

I have an aqua friend of 13 years who dissed me. I told her she dissed me and i needed to find new friends. She did nothing to defend our friendship, she merely said, ok. I contacted her after a year and asked if we could get together. She did not respond. I was okay after a year and willing to see how things were going. See if we could talk. Ive seen her do it to others. She will say she has no need for that person in her life. Funny thing is there are people who have really wronged her and used her and she has not cut them off. I wont contact her again and i want to stop caring but it just irks me to see this. you guys think "live by my rules or pay the price!" "But if if i find you exceptional and you dont really care about me, then you are exempt from my cruelty?? " Ive been distant with Aqua men and they love it. Ive been a bitch and mean and they like it.

Aquas are stubborn. we all make mistakes but when Aquas do it, they are still right. I LOVE Aquas. with all my might but for all your amazing rationale and your brilliant acuity you are hurting yourselves by cutting off people. Because you are hurting them. And i can understand someone who keeps nagging you to come around. You need time to get passed the hurt, but why keep them sealed out after so much time has passed? Who deserves that? Do you really become that disinterested in the person? Do they really not register on any scale? Do you think that by talking to them again they may get the wrong idea again? Maybe it is a maturity thing. I dont know but i trust people to understand what im trying to convey. There are people i have given numerous chances to . We have strong bonds and they never cross anymore lines. This is love, this is goodwill and growth.

Sorry if i sound all indignant. Im just throwing ideas out there. Hoping for some enlightenment. When i argue with an aqua i always come out enlightened and sometimes i go back and say. Wait a minute, thats not right. I want to agree with you. I want you on my side but i want you to see my side and i cant compromise because i wind up lashing out and really losing you. ( "

Posted by aqualover07
Aquas are stubborn. we all make mistakes but when Aquas do it, they are still right. I LOVE Aquas. with all my might but for all your amazing rationale and your brilliant acuity you are hurting yourselves by cutting off people. Because you are hurting them. And i can understand someone who keeps nagging you to come around. You need time to get passed the hurt, but why keep them sealed out after so much time has passed? Who deserves that? Do you really become that disinterested in the person? Do they really not register on any scale? Do you think that by talking to them again they may get the wrong idea again? Maybe it is a maturity thing. I dont know but i trust people to understand what im trying to convey. There are people i have given numerous chances to . We have strong bonds and they never cross anymore lines. This is love, this is goodwill and growth.

Sorry if i sound all indignant. Im just throwing ideas out there. Hoping for some enlightenment. When i argue with an aqua i always come out enlightened and sometimes i go back and say. Wait a minute, thats not right. I want to agree with you. I want you on my side but i want you to see my side and i cant compromise because i wind up lashing out and really losing you. ( "

Umm so I guess us Aquas don't have feelings that are worth mentioning?

I'm sorry we have been inconsiderate of your FEELINGS... after all we are just emotionally numb aliens right ^.^?

People not just Aquas cut other people off and it's usually for good reasons.

If you can't even pester an Aqua to respond to you I'm pretty sure there is a damn good reason why that is.

Oh so you respond to pestering? maybe its because i have developed a sense of respect for myself, maybe even pride which im not proud of (: I dont like to pester.

For the most part of my life i have pestered and have been pretty successful. I have revived relationships that needed to die only to keep them like clones of what they once were. I have had to persuade people to stay friends with me long enough to work through things and we remain friends.

I used to fight for things that meant something to me now im practicing letting them die and its not working for me but im still doing it. Just to see what happens. I do with simple things that irk me. A woman calls me a hoe for having friendly relations with her boyfriend. etc. Its unfair and she deserves a piece of my mind but i let it go. Or did I? If Aquas let things die that mean something to them i just wonder if that is healthy. Or just stubborn. My fixed sign grandmom used to hold grudges, not speaking to me, weird, i know, but it scarred me. It took too much energy to maintain such a state of being upset. I get mad at someone i let them know and let it go. I dont let them go unless they just hate me. Cutting someone off is not an act of indifference. Indifference is truly letting go.

+10000000

Yes, we cut lost causes. Yes, people change. But what does another person's change have anything to do with the aqua? All the aqua knows is that when they knew you, you were nothing but a lousy piece of shit. It has nothing to do with forgiveness or there lackof. We are a future oriented sign that likes to move ahead or go forward in life full steam ahead. We don't have time to reminisce about someone from the past, especially someone who hurt us, which in turn wasted our time and energy.

If you changed for the better then good for you. Why are you contacting the aqua who you hurt? Do you want a cookie or some sort of acknowledgement for your change?

I don't know. When I cut someone off I'm actually letting go due to indifference. Not a grudge. And I don't talk to them because by that time they don't cross my mind.

You mistake letting go as not giving it our all and trying to salavage it. There's a reason we draw a line. After exhausting all efforts then it's time to call it quits because I'd imagine it would feel a lot like the energy drain you described about your grandma.

My old best friend just contacted me after 2-3 yrs recently wanting to be friends again. I'm like:

1) Our friendship was yrs ago and it was natural how we became friends;
2) You can't come back 2-3 yrs later and pick up friendship where it left off; that is the most awkward thing ever.

Nobody is dying for friends that they should go contacting everyone from their past to be friends again.

Aqua09 stop reading my mind 😛

I was secretly thinking "Well because it's less hassle, if you cut someone else why the hell would you care about what that person thinks and why the hell would they care".

Cutting off is simple. Whether it creates hatred or spite. It's done because we want to sever a tie and never look back. I don't understand why this is so hard to understand.

Posted by aquasnoz
Aqua09 stop reading my mind 😛

I was secretly thinking "Well because it's less hassle, if you cut someone else why the hell would you care about what that person thinks and why the hell would they care".

Cutting off is simple. Whether it creates hatred or spite. It's done because we want to sever a tie and never look back. I don't understand why this is so hard to understand.

Remember, all aquas are the same 😉 lol. Wasn't there a topic like that recently?

Exactly!! Cutting people is so much easier than keeping a lost cause around. Aquas don't care and these other people seem to care as if the change was done to appease the aqua.

The change you bring in yourself should be for you,not so you can contact people from your past and use it as a bargaining chip for them to include you in your life again.

Posted by aqualover07
Those of us who are not Aquas, but who understand how deep your feelings run... Why does it have to be permanent? I have people who have wronged me or did some crazy stuff to me and 5 or ten years later i can have a conversation with them because its a different time. I can become close to them again if there is no weird feelings. Most of the time we are friends and they can call me freely. with you guys its like you want to people to mourn their loss. You wont have anything to do with them. WHY cant you just accept that they are flawed? That they did not do it to hurt you they did it because they did not know better. You Aquas make great impacts in people lives sometimes those people value you and want you to back in their lives in whatever small capacity and you wont allow it.

Ive never taken advantage of someones weakness and no one can take advantage of mine. I would know before we became friends that they were that kind of person already and would not become friends with them to begin with. I never have to toss people out because i dont let them in to begin with. I see how i can take advantage of people, for instance one day i asked a friend who was older than me to get me some alcohol. She took it personally, that i was using her. I was, but it was not something that meant i thought she was disposable. She stopped talking to me after that. I had always been there for her.

I have an aqua friend of 13 years who dissed me. I told her she dissed me and i needed to find new friends. She did nothing to defend our friendship, she merely said, ok. I contacted her after a year and asked if we could get together. She did not respond. I was okay after a year and willing to see how things were going. See if we could talk. Ive seen her do it to others. She will say she has no need for that person in her life. Funny thing is there are people who have really wronged her and used her and she has not cut them off. I wont contact her again and i want to stop caring but it just irks me to see this. you guys think "live by my rules or pay the price!" "But if if i find you exceptional and you dont really care about me, then you are exempt from my cruelty?? " Ive been distant with Aqua men and they love it. Ive been a bitch and mean and they like it.

Hi, aqualover07 🙂 After reading your point of view, I c

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Hi, aqualover07 🙂 After reading your point of view, I can see what it looks like from the receiving end. So I'll just respond to what stuck out to me in your post. Hopefully it'll help you better understand aquas (if they're like me):


1) We CAN accept someone who is flawed. I'm flawed. You're flawed. It really depends on the situation that'll make us want to cut you out. And the not meaning to hurt us -- that's situational also. Maybe you didn't mean to hurt an aqua, but that doesn't someone else hasn't done it purposely. Sometimes it can be intentional. Or maybe we just can't tolerate being around a "flaw" that we feel is so negative & unbearable to be around. Why would I want to be around someone who talks shit about people behind their backs? Or someone who's a constant woe-is-me, debbie downer? I'm a positive person & like to always keep it moving. So I'm cool off people like that. Again, depends on the situation...

2) I find it hard to believe that you'll already fully know what kind of a person someone is prior to making the decision to befriend them. You may know their history & how act by current observations, but you truly won't know a person's ways until you've already logged a sufficient amount of time together & seen how they act in certain situations (& by that spending time together, aren't they already considered a friend?). Sometimes it can take years to really learn how a friend is that you find undesirable. For example, I had a friend of 10+ years who I don't consider a best friend anymore. The majority half was easy because we were teens & her "flaws" were easily dismissed as we were just kids at the time only wanting to have fun without responsibilities. But as we got older into adulthood (I'm late 20s now), those flaws became really hard to be around. There's a quote that goes something like, "Don't keep friends because of a common past, but because of a common future". And this is what can seem like the cold & unemotional part, but I don't care how many years we've known each other, if your 6 or 60 -- I don't discriminate & treat everyone equally. Why should I remain friends w/ someone just because we were childhood friends? That time together was fun, but as an adult now, I don't have time for certain behavior so sue me if I want to live a positive & progressive life.

3) For your aqua friend of 13 years, if it were me, I wouldn't respond to you either. Why would I want to talk to someone who told me before that she "needed to find new friends"? You didn't talk to her for a year & thought you could easily just get together again? I'm sorry, but I laughed when you said you were "willing to see how things were going" -- as if you're the victimized friend in the situation by WILLING to do something. Maybe your friend would've tried but just didn't feel the need to argue w/ you after that bold statement. Maybe he/she didn't know how to respond it to that, was hurt & just accepted it.

So these are just my opinions. We have different outlooks on life & just understand that our attempt to no longer associate w/ someone is part of our progressive, moving forward attitude. It's an aqua flaw to respond in paragraphs & over-explain, it's hard to condense lol. But if you read it all, hope that helped!

Thanks for the comments. I think for the most part there is a mutual understanding and thats cool.

As to AquaLover:

For me at least as far as it having to be permanent, well, for me to get to that point then our prior relationship is pretty much dead. If it was a hurt thing, a deal breaker then initially sure space to heal, and grieve but then I will reach a state of acceptance and ultimately indifference. If you wrong an Aqua and they go silent, gosh let them go.

If someone who wronged me (lying, cheating, betrayl) wants to reconnect after x number of years, I'm usually friendly but let it be known that I have no need or desire to reconnect. Or you get the super aloof version. You no longer occupy any of my mental real estate.

Speaking for myself I very much value my friends, flaws and all. I love flawed people, I have many of my own and it keeps the world interesting. Yes someone can take advantage of anyone, through lying and manipulation. When someone reveals themselves to me, I simply choose to believe it and handle that truth in the best way possible.

Say I had a friend that betrayed me, or a lover that cheated on me. Why in the world would I choose to keep that influence in my life? To what purpose? To let them know, heck its all good, please allow me to give you an additional opportunity to hurt me. Ah....no. At best I guess I can be a consequence, and maybe they will make a change and then great. As 09 said, cool you want a cookie (I love that by the way). Have to say though, I've heard alot about 'I've changed', but never really seen it, and I'm older. I think people become more who they are, good or bad, usually a combination of both.


anyway thanks again.

Aqua style my 13 year old friend was disrespectful to me and i tried to talk to her about it but she did not think she did anything wrong. Truth is she did and just did not want to admit it. She never apologized. I was willing to contact her because i valued her friendship and hoped that maybe she was in a different place. I KNOW she cared about me. I care about her. But she cant admit her own faults. Aquas dont like to do that and will lose friends because it may be easier than eating humble pie.

Ive had many people throughout my life contacting me from my past. Sometimes it was awkward but i talked to them anyway. When we realized it was awkward we stopped contacting each other. Easy. I did not simply go, get away you freak. They did not strike me as people who needed friends and they did not try to act like they did when we were friends. And if they were looking for a friend because they lost all their friends than i would listed to them. I have an old friend who was a total loser. I worry about him. We dont hang out but if he texts me i text him back and say some nice things and thats it. He doesnt feel ignored and he respects me enough to do it very seldom.

Moving forward is awesome. If you dont like associating yourself with who YOU were BEFORE I CAN understand you wanting to cut off ties. I have never come back to someone because I changed and I want them to acknowledge that. How cheesy. I have hurt people and have not tried to make good. Ultimately i did not completely respect them and had no business being around them. I dont feel i was a good person back then,
But i have learned to value all people for whatever they do.
i consistently tried to be a good friend to my aquas bending for them because I really dig you peeps.But im not going to put up with your crap just to keep you in good graces on top of all I already do. That is when i have to ask. What is up your arses? I don't know about any of you here because no one provides examples. .

Aquas are super smart, super cool and that is why people STILL want to be your friends after two years or whatever. Excuse us for knowing a good thing when we see it but I will call you on your BS. Most of the time you are right and make me feel silly and i agree and i laugh at how silly i am. but when i know im right its time to compromise and you guys dont do that very well. You just assume ditch me.

I am quoting this from one of my favorite articles on Aquas.
" Aquarian??s perspective is free of hate, a hurtful emotion, but their style of love is rootless and intellectual."

Posted by aqua style 15
3) For your aqua friend of 13 years, if it were me, I wouldn't respond to you either. Why would I want to talk to someone who told me before that she "needed to find new friends"? You didn't talk to her for a year & thought you could easily just get together again? I'm sorry, but I laughed when you said you were "willing to see how things were going" -- as if you're the victimized friend in the situation by WILLING to do something. Maybe your friend would've tried but just didn't feel the need to argue w/ you after that bold statement. Maybe he/she didn't know how to respond it to that, was hurt & just accepted it.

So these are just my opinions. We have different outlooks on life & just understand that our attempt to no longer associate w/ someone is part of our progressive, moving forward attitude.

You explained this really well, aqua style ! I want to elaborate on this a bit. I had a friend do something very similar. One of my good guy friends, who I had been friends for 7+ yrs made a really cheap and miserly comment to me, and I called him out right away. I told him what he said was tacky and miserly. He took it to heart, and he was so hurt by my comment that he told me that he didn't want to be my friend because I called him a miser. Lol. Sensitive much? My reaction was literally this: "ok but just make sure that's what you want because I'm not going to chase you and don't think you can come back to be friends again after you've cooled off because that's a huge statement". He was like, "yea I don't chase friends either. Good bye". That was it. The reason I didn't beg him to stay is because a) I'm not a beggar; b) I'm not desperate for friends. I make friends very easily; and c) if you can dispose a 7+ yr friendship over something so petty, you were never a worthy friend to begin with. Psh.

Guess what happened? Two yrs later this friend MSGed me wanting to be friends again and my response was a simple, good ol' cold "don't ever msg me again. We're not friends anymore and we never will be." LOL. I hope you don't need to know why I made that comment. It has something to do with dignity, which I have in abundance unlike many people today who don't think before they act and then have to shallow their own words/actions shamelessly.

*swallow

drama aqualover. And you are still missing the point. The fact you refuse our explanation whether valid or not to you to me personally as an aqua is unwanted drama.

If you won't accept an explanation now (much like a friendship) I'm not going to bother later when you come around. That's not because of a grudge because you seem to think that :\ It's really mostly "I cannot be fucked".

Aqualover07, I hope you didn't take offense to anything I said. It wasn't a personal attack, I just wanted to explain a fellow aqua's side that maybe you weren't able to understand why we do that. I really think it's nice that you like to remain friends w/ yours regardless of what they've done to you or how you feel about them. It's a sounds like a heartless thing we do, and it does make me feel a little bad about the people who tried to reconnect w/ me too. And you're right, we are stubborn. We're fixed so it's hard to be mutable & change how we feel after we've made a decision. I read somewhere about aquas how they'll analyze/dissect a person & after figuring them out, they'll spit them out & leave them in the dust. For me, sadly, there is some truth to that but it's only because my brain thrives on constant mental, intellectual stimulation that it needs to be seeked elsewhere of not fulfilled lol. I guess that's just one of our flaws. I love your love for aquas even though you don't understand us. I hope you have more positive experiences w/ our people 🙂

Aquastorm thanks for speaking from the heart. I can understand something like cheating and lieing. Beyond that i only know what i have experienced. Things that are deceitful are not acceptable. But this is not the kind of thing ive been cut off for. I am not apologetic for my behavior i may be apologetic for its effect. If i have to apologize for something i feel then there is something really wrong with me. I dont want your cookies but thanks anyway. I just want compassion. I have never been indifferent to anyone i have ever cared about past, present or future. I wish i could.

aquarius09, that's funny how you let him know you're not going to chase him -- And well, well, well he came back lol. I'm the exact same way! Say what you meant & mean what you say, right? I'm comfortable being by myself, so any sense of pettiness I can't entertain for long. What was your friend's sign?

Aqualover07, I forgot to ask your sign!

A woman calls me a hoe for having friendly relations with her boyfriend. etc. Its unfair and she deserves a piece of my mind but i let it go. Or did I?

Well this nugget may be why. Just saying.

I don't hold grudges, ain't nobody got time for that. I simply let go. Fully. When I understand the way it is. Some folks get all pissed about that. Hindsight is 20/20, present sight is reality and foresight is a wonderful thing. I try to use all lines of sight to understand and make my own decisions.

I do find it kind of odd when months, years, decades down the road someone wants to revisit a graveyard. Dude I told you before, during and if I cared a little after. What exactly are you after? A punching bag, lol, not gonna happen. Yet some will attempt to turn your healed state and perceived rejection into a flaw. Treetrunk that I say.

Whatever, be well, keep calm and carry on.

Aquanoz. That speaks volumes.
09 Thank you SO much for your explanation! That guy was a dumb ass. Poor fellow. It will be hard to live that down. Ive been a dumb ass like that before. And yes it was DRAMA! I am dramatic. I dont like drama per se it is stressful and i avoid it. I understand what is being said. Examples make things clearer.

Aqua15. How do you know when you have figured someone out? What gives that person away?

I have plenty of positive experiences with Aquas. I am drawn to Aquas like a magnet. They are by far my favorite kind of people. that is why i dont want to lose not one of you. ( : I WANT to understand. I want you to understand me.

It just no one has ever cut me off before. No one ive wanted to speak to anyway. And with breakups they have all called back and tried to be friends. I expect this aqua man i got all jealous on will cut me off if i ever try to contact him and im trying to brace myself i suppose.

My girlfriend. I just dont know and i wont worry about it. One good thing about her. She is very respectful of a higher power. She doesnt believe she DOES anything.

I feel like I've fully figured someone out when I see how they react to different situations: dealing w/ adversity, hardships in their life especially, & how they treat other people. And because those experiences don't come all at once but through time, that's why it can take years together for me to decide I'm cool off them. Or maybe years to decide how much I want to be around them depending what it is they do I don't particularly like. I'm open & like getting to know all people though. There was this girl in high school w/ a bad rep (lol she happened to be an aqua too) but I befriended her to see for myself. Turned out what everyone about her was true haha but at least I saw it for myself first without judging. Hey! You didn't tell me your sign yet lol

Oh & that sucks your ex aqua friend felt she didn't do anything. Maybe she felt she didn't do anything wrong based on her own beliefs. As I get older, although I do believe my outlook is always right (it's that know-it-all aqua trait lol), I am learning that sometimes it's okay to conform a little for the sake of getting along

Posted by AquaStorm

A woman calls me a hoe for having friendly relations with her boyfriend. etc. Its unfair and she deserves a piece of my mind but i let it go. Or did I?

Well this nugget may be why. Just saying.

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I totally forgot to mention him and i were friends a year before he even met her. She was so jealous of me. And mind you my friend was an Aqua. But since she had his baby against his will she as an Aries dominated this Aquas/pisces's cusps world, so that may explain his coming around to her brute force entry into his life. Yes, i wanted to give this woman a piece of my mind. But i let her call me a wwwhoooorrrreee is how she put it. This guy was really into me and would always tell her how hot I was.

She wanted me to fight. Turns out she intercepted my emails to my friend. He never got my emails. I had so many reasons to tell her what a low life she was and so many ways to say it. But i did not. I said nothing. This is very unlike me. I let it go and it will never sit well with me. That woman will always disturb the fabric of my being.

Posted by AquaStorm
I don't hold grudges, ain't nobody got time for that. I simply let go. Fully. When I understand the way it is. Some folks get all pissed about that. Hindsight is 20/20, present sight is reality and foresight is a wonderful thing. I try to use all lines of sight to understand and make my own decisions.

I do find it kind of odd when months, years, decades down the road someone wants to revisit a graveyard. Dude I told you before, during and if I cared a little after. What exactly are you after? A punching bag, lol, not gonna happen. Yet some will attempt to turn your healed state and perceived rejection into a flaw. Treetrunk that I say.

Whatever, be well, keep calm and carry on.

Im just glad i have not fucked up this bad with any aqua, or anyone that mattered really. There is no flaw in it if its a plausible explanation. Aquas do make things clear and are fair. I think its just this one fellow, this one incident in my other post, that has got me turned inside out and has got me probing. Peace has been restored for good with my Aquas. Thank you, thank you Storm, 15, 9 and Anoz.

by the way Aqua style 15 im a Pisces. my venus is a fire sign. Im very passionate and so is this Aqua guy.
A hot, passionate Aqua guy.
Does it get better than that? (looking down shaking head).

I totally forgot to mention him and i were friends a year before he even met her. She was so jealous of me. And mind you my friend was an Aqua. But since she had his baby against his will she as an Aries dominated this Aquas/pisces's cusps world, so that may explain his coming around to her brute force entry into his life. Yes, i wanted to give this woman a piece of my mind. But i let her call me a wwwhoooorrrreee is how she put it. This guy was really into me and would always tell her how hot I was.

She wanted me to fight. Turns out she intercepted my emails to my friend. He never got my emails. I had so many reasons to tell her what a low life she was and so many ways to say it. But i did not. I said nothing. This is very unlike me. I let it go and it will never sit well with me. That woman will always disturb the fabric of my being.

Hey, I'm trying to understand.

You knew an Aqua guy for a year, then he met an Aries and she got pregnant. Then she discovered he was communicating with you and got angry and called you some names. Then he stopped talking to you.

Is that the gist of what happened?

She found out we were still communicating, she intercepted his Facebook and sent me a nasty letter which i forwarded to him by text. Then i write him an email and she intercepts that too!. He never gets my email. She writes back from his email address and says more horrible things to me through his email. I never respond to her and was upset at him for letting her take over his whole life. I told him to stop talking about me to her so she stops contacting me.

So I lost my Aqua friend to a crazy woman who took over his life. I did not know it was possible to do that to an Aqua so I figured he would just hate her and leave her but he did not, the pull of the child was strong enough to bend his will. a year later he proposed to her. I found out because she sent a link to someone i knew who doesnt really know her, with this Aquas last name attached to hers and a link to her facebook page. Im not sure they are married yet as of this day.

Posted by aqualover07
She found out we were still communicating, she intercepted his Facebook and sent me a nasty letter which i forwarded to him by text. Then i write him an email and she intercepts that too!. He never gets my email. She writes back from his email address and says more horrible things to me through his email. I never respond to her and was upset at him for letting her take over his whole life. I told him to stop talking about me to her so she stops contacting me.

So I lost my Aqua friend to a crazy woman who took over his life. I did not know it was possible to do that to an Aqua so I figured he would just hate her and leave her but he did not, the pull of the child was strong enough to bend his will. a year later he proposed to her. I found out because she sent a link to someone i knew who doesnt really know her, with this Aquas last name attached to hers and a link to her facebook page. Im not sure they are married yet as of this day.

Well, this is probably for the best...for you. Seriously.

The pull of a child is often and imho should be strong enough to put aside any selfishness, and often strong enough to put up with controlling behavior, at least for a while i.e. years.

Think about it like this, if you were starting a family with a guy and some (in your opinion) random girl was communicating with the man you wanted a life with...of course that would upset you.

I don't agree nor approve of her lashing out at you. That is immature and hostile. Whatever. She probably views you as a threat, or maybe he did. Be grateful for a friendship that was brief and do no harm by wanting more.

Here is the thing. Would you really want some guy willing to abandon a woman with a baby to spend time and talk to you? Think about that, objectively. I know you probably think she is awful, but what if you were in her shoes.

His options:

A. Abandon the mother and either lose a chance to be part of his child's life, or have another man raise the child, drama with visitation and child support, and a host of other issues.

B. Cheat.
----a. I don't really think Aquas are cut out for this, but I am speaking of personal experience.
----b. Even if one is, there is risk of detection and then we a back to A, but compiled with a ton of butter.

C. Try to make it work with Aries and bond

...got cut off.

Anyway, AquaLover.

I think your friend is trying to do the right thing. To be part of his childs life.

When you think about his limited options due to his circumstances, he is actually doing the best thing for you by letting you go. He is simply not available to have a relationship with you without hurting the one he is in.

Wish him well in your heart then let go and live your life. Who knows you two may reconnect down the road. It doesn't sound you did anything to warrent the Aqua blow off forever, but understand where he is at. He simply can't, may never, and you don't deserve to hope. He is doing you a favor although it doesn't feel like it. Accept it and let go too. I think there is something better out there for you.

My .02 I wish you well.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Umm so I guess us Aquas don't have feelings that are worth mentioning?

I'm sorry we have been inconsiderate of your FEELINGS... after all we are just emotionally numb aliens right ^.^?

People not just Aquas cut other people off and it's usually for good reasons.

If you can't even pester an Aqua to respond to you I'm pretty sure there is a damn good reason why that is.

Easy on the feelings there in the first two paragraphs NYAA, Aquas have little to begin with..might want to save some for later.

+1000 to your last two paragraphs

Aquastorm.
I have to clarify something. This story about this man and his child, that is not the guy im fussing about. I have another post on here that is on page two about the guy in question. No i never had feelings for this guy with child. I mean i loved him and wanted to remain friends but i had no issues letting him go. We were FWB for a while is all. We were once good friends until this woman decided to take over his life. Im at peace with all my ex friends and lovers except for what im going through now. I dont know what to do.

I would love your input on my only other post if you could read it.

Posted by AquaStorm
I'm all for trying, working on it and all that butter.

However, really, when it becomes apparent that my good nature is being abused, I will bail and with finality, but still wish you happiness (its a talent carved from years of experience, unfortunately). Call it weak, criticize it all you like. Being alone is better then being alone with someone that won't even meet you half way or worse yet feels entitled to your good nature and mistakes the aqua trait of kindness for weakness (big mistake).

Gosh, I hate cutting people out, permanently, but I have to believe it make room for better things, and it usually does.

We are not without emotion, deep emotion, we just move on when we understand a lost cause, and don't want to inflict futher harm by being present. To you or to ourselves.

Simple really.

I can relate to this so much! All the words i would say to someone except i would have more curse words. I know, I have gutter mouth...🙂