So flaming mad right now

The Aqua did it again, ignore a text for a full week. Was a simple text asking how he was that required all of ten seconds of his time to reply.

So this morning I sent him a message asking what the craic was. His reply - that he's been busy and he's sorry.

I'm not amused so my reply is extremely curt and I say that I don't think he respects me or that he's sorry.

He then turns it back on ME saying I've thrown his apology in his face and going mental because I just called him a liar. Bear in mind I never said that, I said "I don't think" which is not the same thing.

WTF am I missing here Aqua's seriously.

He's been busy. Eh not that busy that you couldn't have taken less than a minute to text me back, I mean come on. Then when I call him on it he has the cheek to have a go at me?

He reminds me of my ex who would manipulate me every time I had an issue with him into having to defend myself and believing that it was ME who did something wrong.

I'm starting to wonder if he's not actually just a fucking arsehole to be honest.

Oh and when he says he's sorry he adds some comment about knowing he's bad for not getting back to people almost as if just because he's aware that he does it that makes it ok?

If he actually gave a shit he'd make an EFFORT to NOT be bad for it. End of.

Well we had this issue before and he knows how I feel about it and yet cannot make the effort to take a couple minutes to text me back.

Sorry but no. I also love how I get abuse for calling him on his apology (I actually wonder if he has deliberately ignored me again just to see how I'll react) despite the fact that it took him AGES to accept mine before.

Oh and he also said "I was going to text you today" eh that's pretty convenient, sure you were pal!

I don't EXPECT anything from it but I did think we were friends and I'd have thought I warranted a little more consideration from him. I'm pretty sure many other people have heard from him over this past week, and again he's also been posting completely pointless crap on facebook. So he can't have been THAT busy.

Clearly I don't and perhaps his reaction is just his final blow-off.......

Posted by AliCar15
Want to make an impression on him? React to him in a different way than he would expect. When you got the apology from him, you could have said something like, "No big deal! Happy to hear from you. 😉" Then leave the conversation at that and go on your merry way. If he gives a damn about you, he'll be left saying to himself, "Wait...she's not mad at me? What has she been up to? Maybe she doesn't really care about me? Maybe she's too busy to care? Etc, etc etc."

That's what I did the last time! In fact ALL the other times he's said sorry for taking so long to get back to me (eh in some cases not even at all) I've been like ok fair enough you've been busy. I think I've been more than patient.

I dunno maybe I'm being too harsh? I just get to a point where I think he's just at it and then I get pissed off. Because I don't understand how someone can be so busy they can't take a minute to do something they know would put someone else's mind at rest (mine).

Unless like I said, they just didn't care.

My friend actually saw him out on Saturday night, spoke to him for a couple of minutes asked how he was etc.

That would have been the perfect time for him to go "ah shit I've still not text K back" and send me a quick text.

Conclusion. Not interested.

I appreciate ANY opinion, even from those who think I'm being an ass.

I'm here because I'm TRYING to understand because it's clear that I don't. I know people lead busy lives and I don't expect anyone to be at my beck and call, least of all him.

I'm upset because we've been through this before and I thought we'd cleared the air but it does feel as though I'm being shut out at times. He has not been so busy that he's not had time for other people, it feels like it's just me and I'm trying to understand why he's so hot and cold with me.

We've been friends for a while, we hooked up a couple of times (including only a couple of weeks ago) and I really did think we were back on good terms.

When he's with me he's great, interested/engaged and affectionate. Then all of a sudden poof don't hear from him and of course my natural inclination is to assume (perhaps wrongly I don't know) that I'm still in the doghouse because of before.

Maybe it's me being too sensitive I don't know.

And I'm prepared to admit that perhaps I didn't raise my issue with him in the best way but that was how I felt at the time.

He's not my boyfriend but I DO like him as more than friends, perhaps that's the issue and why he's keeping me at arms length or only seeing me/talking to me on HIS terms. We've been intimate a couple of times now recently. Which is the reason I'm not taking this too well. I can't help but feel a little used. That however could just be my issue.

As for understanding him dear lord I am trying my best, it would be nice however if that went both ways and right now it doesn't appear as though that's the case.

Also I'm not a Scorpio, I'm a Pisces. I have Mercury/Mars in Aqua though and a Gemini moon so I have no problem with air. Two of my best female friends are Aquarius.

After his last message I felt like a fucking arsehole and he had me thinking I should be apologising to him!

I'm so confused.

Maybe I am an arsehole.

Yeah like I said I do appreciate people have lives, but it still feels as though it IS personal. He's not "too busy" he's just too busy for me.

I'm clearly not important enough.

And my Aqua ex (who I was with for 3 years) was the same he was terrible at responding to texts. The difference there though was that I at least knew where I stood in terms of our relationship. In this particular case I haven't the foggiest.

Doesn't look good though whichever way I look at it.

I just want to know where I stand is all. Either we're cool or we're not.

Well I had thought he was interested but eh reality check he's not.

I feel like such an idiot right now.

Well we were friends so it wasn't all about sex, at least that's not what I thought.

I guess I read it all wrong.

He's probably done now anyway on any level haven't heard a peep from him since. I had replied to his message saying I wasn't calling him a liar just that it didn't feel like he was that bothered. I also said that while I realised we weren't anything more that him seemingly ignoring me after our being together made me feel crap.

Given how he was the last time we had a disagreement I do not see this ending well. Probably for the best considering.

My aqua doesnt reply either its because he believes that the time we spend together should be enough to prove the relationship is sound. So Im ok with it. You just have to look at the good things he does and rely on them to show he cares. If you need constant replies etc or more proof than that and start asking him to behave in certain ways to prove he cares aqua will see that as clingy or controlling. You gotta be relaxed and give space to aqua they are air sign.
Allow him to show he cares in his own way and then enjoy that

Posted by AliCar15

Posted by MissPirate
I just want to know where I stand is all. Either we're cool or we're not.

Dumb question! Have you asked him where you guys stand- beyond whether you're cool or not?

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The last time we were together he said let's just enjoy each other (sure he said something about enjoying the "closeness" of being together) and see what happens.

Well I know now I suppose.

Still sucks though.

And I still feel like a complete fool.

This is why I love DXP.

Reality check central lol.

Posted by blueribbons
If you're not his girlfriend, or someone he's interested in purusing.. I don't see the problem with him talking to you on his terms. Many guys won't put the communication effort into a relationship they don't see going anywhere or to their benefit of some sort. Sad but true, guys are action driven not conversation driven like women.

++1

That's my girl...Voice of true reason

Yeah I'm done.

I should never have gotten into this with him full stop if I'm honest I probably knew this would happen, I just hoped for more.

Thanks guys.