So I upset my Aqua friend.....

So my Aqua friend isn't speaking to me. We've dated btw but nothing serious just a couple of dates few drinks that's been it.

Long story short I sent him a text on Saturday night when I was drunk and raging at the world - the loss of my friend who??s anniversary is coming up next month, the loss of someone I thought was a friend who turned out to be a manipulating lying cow and my scumbag of an ex who is still trying to cause trouble for me — take your pick.

Anyway had been texting the Aqua quite the thing for most of the day and all was fine until later. Cue complete rage out of nowhere and he ended up on the receiving end. Why? Because he didn't reply to one of my texts??_??_??_.yeah I know. WTF eh?

I woke up the next day and knew straight away I??d been out of order however; as I am known to do after sending questionable texts while under the influence, saw that I??d deleted the convo before I went to bed. So I don't know exactly what I said. I do know it was bad though.

I text an apology — no response. I sent another message on facebook (privately) again apologising and that I didn't know what exactly I??d said but would have just been bullshit ramblings and to not take any stock in any of it.

He replied today saying not to worry about it but it's texts like that that make him never want a girlfriend, that he hoped I didn't mind but he??d rather not hear from me for a bit, that he's unfriended me from facebook for the time being and that there's not much point being friends right now as he's still not happy about what I said.

I feel awful.

I know there's not much I can do except for give him space and hope he calms down I'm just wondering if he will. I'm thinking the fact he said —for the time being?? and —right now?? is a good sign and that I just need to leave him be for a bit.

What a mess, and all for nothing. I really need to learn how to control my temper.

😢

Oo-er. I have a mutable moon but still hold grudges like there's no tomorrow.

Still - you'll be fine, everything will be okay, one step at a time, generic motivational phrase here.

He has either an Aqua or Cap moon, not too sure as don't know his time of birth.

Venus & Mercury Aqua too.

I have a Gem moon and Mercury/Mars in Aqua which is why I think we click. He's really laid-back, chilled to the max kinda guy. So the fact he's pissed about this tells me whatever I said it hit a nerve.

Oops indeed.

Just had a thought, he has Mars in Cancer.

Shit, he's never gonna forget about this.

What's your sun sign?

Move on is my advise because you are in for a world of pain otherwise.

And mean what you say: I sense some romantic/sexual tension on both your parts even though you say you're "friends".

Re-reading your original post it sounds like he was cushioning a bigger blow than "there's no point being friends right now". So I'm thinking even when you two make up properly he'll still hold you at arm's length and toy with your emotions if you try to visit that realm again.

I'm male and these are some of the ways guys get back at girls for being flaky/self-centered/bitches besides cheating on them.

It isn't just an aquarius thing, anymore.

Omg OUCH! 😢

I'm a Pisces. I'm usually REALLY mellow and laid back and I hate confrontation or drama.

This was definitely not typical of me at all and to be fair he knows that - we've known each other for years.

It was shitty yes but there's not a whole lot I can do about it other than say sorry and give him his space, which is exactly what I'll do.

I may have lost a friendship for life but well that's his choice, I really would hate for him to see me as a drama queen though, but again not much I can do.

Funny thing is my two female Aqua best friends said they'd have just brushed it off because they know I'm not like that. I just need to work out how to deal with all this anger I have right now instead of taking it out on decent people.

Well the ball is in his court. Hopefully he gets back in touch once he's calmed down. If not, hey ho lesson learned.

Love to know what it was I actually said but no way am I asking.

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Think theres certain people you can be like that with and others you cant. Id say aqua is one of the signs to not talk to when your in that sort of mood. Another idea is to drink to celebrate. If you get drunk when things are going well rather than when theyregoing badly, bad feelings wont come out when drunk.

Id give him the space and just wait. if you hear nothing keep sending birthday n christmas cards. Main thing is he'll want to know it wont happen again so if you show self control and restraint that is sending the right signals. In my experience when aqau men become distant it can drive women a bit loopy. But its for 2 reasons..1st they want to think.......alone. Not figure it out together but figure it out alone. Then when they are sorted they will come back. if they dont come back its cos they decided that if they continue with you it will not be productive or pleasant. In which case you can from a distance show you have changed.

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Posted by michellemabelle
Think theres certain people you can be like that with and others you cant. Id say aqua is one of the signs to not talk to when your in that sort of mood. Another idea is to drink to celebrate. If you get drunk when things are going well rather than when theyregoing badly, bad feelings wont come out when drunk.

Id give him the space and just wait. if you hear nothing keep sending birthday n christmas cards. Main thing is he'll want to know it wont happen again so if you show self control and restraint that is sending the right signals. In my experience when aqau men become distant it can drive women a bit loopy. But its for 2 reasons..1st they want to think.......alone. Not figure it out together but figure it out alone. Then when they are sorted they will come back. if they dont come back its cos they decided that if they continue with you it will not be productive or pleasant. In which case you can from a distance show you have changed.

Yeah you're spot on about the drinking while in a bad mood, not the greatest idea on my part! Lesson well learned there.

Yep and that is why I'm just going to leave him be. I think he'll be ok once he's calmed down. Reckon I'll have heard from him by next week. And if he doesn't.........well that'll be that then! Although in the larger scheme of things it's not completely horrific what I did so I'd be surprised if that was really the end of our friendship for him. I mean it's not like a drowned his puppy eh.

Aqua friend got in touch.

Said "don't beat yourself up about it, we'll be cool, don't worry xxxx" so I'm guessing that means I've just to sit back and wait until he decides when we're "cool."

That was on Sunday, nowt since.

Grrr.

Posted by MissPirate
Aqua friend got in touch.

Said "don't beat yourself up about it, we'll be cool, don't worry xxxx" so I'm guessing that means I've just to sit back and wait until he decides when we're "cool."

That was on Sunday, nowt since.

Grrr.

All you can do is leave him to work through it. You can't slap a time limit on it, that would be absurdly selfish of you.

He'll call, he's just doing it in his own time. Aquas hate to feel pushed.

Well it was never a REAL friendship if the both of you can't ever communicate or forgive eachother during stressful/tough times.

You don't know what you said so of course one would assume that what you said must've been extremely hurtful for him to cut you off like that

If I were you, I'd just let it go for now. You've done your part, you've apologized & you've tried to make ammends.

If he's not biting the bait right now, don't freak out. He's like most people in that he may need a few days of space & no contact so that he can calm down

If what you said was actually true (since we're all honest when we're drunk) perhaps you should get him to tell you what you actually said to him, that way you can address it with him, instead of him just suppressing all of this & assuming you may feel a certain way about him when you really don't

So just give him some space. He's understandably upset & you should be understanding as long as this "break" is temporary & not permanent. And hey, if he never comes back, like I said it was never a real friendship to begin with

You can't miss what you never had

If he's using this situation as an excuse to not have a girlfriend, that's bull. His reasoning(s) for not wanting a relationship go far beyond you & anything involving you. I'm sure he made that decision long before you. Of course you may have helped him confirm that he made the right decision, BUT you're def. not the blaim or reason he's like that so don't take it took personal & actually accept blaim.

NZAqua I know that I just get frustrated because I hate having unresolved business.

It's not the waiting that gets me it's the not even knowing what the hell went down!

TOC I am unbelievable. I am so getting that curfew iphone app!

KY thanks and I think that's what is bothering me, any of my other friends would have had it out with me and it would be done by now. Not saying they'd let me away lightly but they'd at least talk to me about it.

I just messaged him back saying I appreciated him being so gracious about it however I will eventually tire of waiting and being made to feel like I've committed murder or something. Hell he could probably have said worse to me and I'd be over it by now. But I have to respect that he's not me and let him deal with it however.

Still think he's being a little oversensitive though, and if it really WERE that bad then why hasn't he just bloody said?

Well I thibk your message to him was a great mixture of "I understand you're upset - but stop being an idiot" kinda deal. He'll get over it, you'll work it out 🙂

Thanks NAAqua I'm pretty sure we will.

I'm just trying to be patient for once and not push it.

Easier said that done for me but I do value his friendship so I'm trying. 🙂

True. He may be over-reacting or you might've really said some F'd up shxt!

You may have said, "I hated your outfit last week" & if he's that mad, then yeah he's being petty & probably pretending that he's more mad than he really is

But who knows, you could've said something crazy like, "I'm glad your last dog died!" or "Btw, I've been sleeping with 3 guys behind your back" lol & in that case, it'd actually be insensitive of you to expect for him to "get over it" in a day or 2

It's unfair to base whether or not he's being too sensitive right now simply b/c you don't know what you said to him that night. Once you find out, THEN you can judge whether or not his reaction is proportionate to what was actually said

And hey if he won't tell you what you said, then what else can you really do? There's no use in trying to guess what you said b/c you'll be guessing all year & chances are you'll guess the wrong answer. Just let it go

I think I have an inkling of what I said only because I know what I was pissed off with that night and it wasn't anything anywhere NEAR something what I would consider to be bad.

I honestly think I've said something that's struck a chord and hit home (i.e. the truth) and he's not happy about the fact I've brought it up in the way I did.

I do also know he's been busy these past two weeks but still, two minutes to just say hi wouldn't actually kill him.

Have heard back from my friend. Still no clearer though!

Never said what it was I said but started going on about how when he let someone in before it "bit me in the ass spectacularly" so he's not prepared to do it again and that he thinks that if I don't get my way I'm going to turn on him again and send some abusive text.

Eh WTF?

I have a feeling he's still peeved and he knows you're still hung up about the whole situation.

Personally, I think once you let go of the situation and continue life as it is then he should come back around.
Though my only Aquarius is Mars, when I get mad at a person it's grudgingly and in a weird way. I'll respond to you hen I feel the time is right - not sure how that works since it can range from hours to months.

Honestly I think he's being over sensitive I mean FFS how long has it been let it go already!

I actually can't even be bothered anymore.

He needs to man up, build a bridge and get over it.

He has to have Cancer rising or something I'm sure of it.

No way can someone with all that Aquarius be so damn sensitive.