So my Aqua is a total fraud

I bet you haven't heard a story like this one! People always tell me aren;t geminis the lying two faced ones? smh. I'm beginning to think all Aquas are pathological liars. I have known 4 male aquas in my lifetime including my own father, and they are the real liars, pretenders, exaggeraters of all the zodiac signs. But my boyfriend really took the cake. Almost two amazing years with him and I didn't have the slightest clue.... I have just found out he is not in fact divorced, only separated for over 5 years. but that's not even the worst part. he has cheated on ME with his... WIFE about 5 times during our relationship. Not only did he cheat, but instead of confessing he lied about it until i forced it out of him. And his excuse? He didn't want to pay child support!!! and she would let him off without paying when he went to sleep with her, as long as he bought his child everything she needs (which is almost what the child support is ANYWAY) . :O and he usually went to her house when he and i were arguing and he didnt want to be alone, so he took advantage and I guess so did she. She has known about me all along, just didnt know my name or see my face. Yet she led him to her bedroom each time every few months, had sex with him, knowing he wouldnt come back to work on the marriage and she would ask for favors like fixing little things around the house and her car. then after a few days things would go back to "normal" he would return to me we were as happy as could be, shared everything (except this huge lie obviously) and the two of them would continue fighting through texts, she would say how she hates him and he would tell her to leave him alone and shes crazy and that he only wants to see his daughter and he was with me etc.. ive been present during many of these phone and text convos. but every few months , there he was , showing up at her house to drop off his kid and asking to be invited in and so it goes.. As if this wasnt enough for me to find out, I asked him why was his divorce never finalized. His answer:: I didnt want to pay alimony, id rather spend my money on you and our life together then give it to her. :O well before he admitted any of these things to me, i found a text on his phone where she was texting him goodnight and thaking him for a favor, along with kissy smiley face. I confronted him and wanted answers but i got none, I picked up the phone and called her myself. the voice that i heard on the other line will haunt me for a long time

"who is this? are you with my husband? put him on the phone. you know we are not divorced? are you the one he spends his money on? thats it i want my divorce and hes going to pay big time!.." After many long conversations between tears and angry episodes, he had the audacity to ask for forgiveness and promised to sign the divorce papers and end things with her once and for all. He says he wants to seek outside help for us both and im the best thing thats ever happened to him since his child, and he knows he has a problem with lying and not thinking straight and claims its because he was traumatized in military training and raised in a family of cheaters and abusers so he confuses right from wrong. He said he always felt guilty and it was just sex and he never wanted to hurt me and he couldnt confess to me because he knew after the first time it happened that if i found out i would leave him. He says i deserve better than him but cant let me go and he would at least like to be friends .. I was clear with him that i have ZERO trust in him and I don't believe a word he says anymore. I told him i thought he had no moral compass and I couldnt forgive him if i tried, even if i was to get past the cheating , i could never get passed the constant stubborn lying habit he has and the fact that he used his child support money on our dinners vacations and shopping. And he made me the other woman and humiliated me! And that his WIFE will always be around even if she does become the ex wife and theres no escaping this situation. Idk what I might have left out from the story, but the cherry on top was that i contacted his sister and asked her to call me to clarify some things for me (I was an emotional wreck and needed to hear it from someone else that he was in fact still married) But she insulted me and pretended not to know who i was at first, then she came out and said she did know who i was but i shouldnt be dating a married man even if he is separated!! after i explained to her that i didnt know and thats why i contacted her because i just learned the shocking information.. Its just a horrible situation all around. I think he and his entire family are just crazy including the... wife 😢
I never thought I would be one of those women who seemed weak and desperate to not be lonely, who took back their cheating partners. But damn it i find myself contemplating my feeling about the situation and revaluation my relationship even though i told him its done we are history

and that i dont want to remain friends (because we started off being friends first) or stay in contact. I hate him to the core when i think about the physcial cheating part, yet all i want to do is find ways to help him with the legal situation he has on his hands... I must be crazy. somehow i still love the man and i hate myself for it. Hes a total fraud! and im in love with a total fraud, who has broken me...

wow i dont know what happened to a huge part of the story and i dont remember what was left out , but he may even go to jail for the child support he hasnt paid in 3 years and maybe something related to adultry..

He cried on the phone last night for close to four hours, and so did i mostly. he tried to remind me of all the good times we've had together and our future plans , and it mostly worked, i have a big spot in my heart for him but i have lost a lottt of respect for the man. i kept turning him down bust still tryng to talk calmly and talk about what hes gonna do next. he begged for me to just keep him around even if it is just to call him whenever i need something and he would always be there for me and run to me.. at first i felt like he is doing it out of love but then i thought he jsut wants to keep me around in hopes of getting back together in the future. Or maybe he just cant let go of the past and likes doing things for the women in his life, to feel needed idk. I told him no. then he gave up and he said he wants to meet one last time to have a last goodbye in person because he never got to hug and kiss me for the last time and kept begging me not to change my number or give up on him.. i told id think about it but i didnt think so. im trying to use my head here, but damn it heart why aren;t you helping!

Are there any psychologists in here? Is there hope for such a man? Ive heard people say its next to impossible to get past cheating in a relationship, and when it does happen the hard work you have to put into it is not for everyone. Besides that, is there such a thing as recovery for habitual liars, even with counseling?

lol

He's begging and crying because he got caught and it's all blowing up in his face. How long would this have gone on for had you not found out??

Run the hell away before you ruin your life further with this man.

He basically evaded responsibility in his previous situation and he did the same with you by hiding this for so long. And the excuses for sleeping with her? Fucking hilarious. I mean really, he thinks that's a legitimate reason to do it?

I know it sucks and you're in the middle and torn up about this, but do your best to stick by your guns. Your relationship won't be the same again because that trust is broken. If you go back, you'll be returning to a miserable situation because you won't trust him. Nevermind that he may be facing jail time because of his bullshit and now you'll be one of those bitches who has a man in jail.

He dug himself in a hole and screwed you over, and he selfishly wants you to stay around so he won't have to face the consequences of his actions alone. For someone who's suddenly so adamant about keeping you around and seeing you as the "best" thing that happened to him, he sure is an unappreciative dickfence for letting this situation happen. It sure didn't stop him from sleeping with his not so ex wife and lying to you.

It sucks that he put you in this situation, and if he thought so highly of you, and not of his own selfish needs, he wouldn't have put you in this situation to begin with.

Posted by Gemsandsugar
Are there any psychologists in here? Is there hope for such a man? Ive heard people say its next to impossible to get past cheating in a relationship, and when it does happen the hard work you have to put into it is not for everyone. Besides that, is there such a thing as recovery for habitual liars, even with counseling?

This isn't for you to fix by providing him with a relationship he doesn't deserve. Relationships aren't meant to be therapy.

This is for a true blue psychologist to take on with him and he won't be able to function correctly as a decent human being until he gets his shit together. The fact that he uses it all as an excuse to pull this shit speaks volumes about him and his problems.

Honestly, it all sounds like a load of shit and he's using it all as excuses to get away with being a two timing twat. Guys weave all sorts of flawed logic when caught being an asshole.

I'm little confused, How is it that you're with someone for over 2 years and his sister doesn't know you? and ask's why are you dating a married man? Is there more to this story?

so doooont read ittttttt

I've been with him for almost two years but have never met her. she lives two hours away

Have you met the rest of his family?

Also, is he still in the service and have you meet his daughter?

How long were they separated before you came into the picture?

Well I'd have to say that you're 100% right about evading responsibility, and the excuse was pathetic. Also, that's what hurts the most; He put his selfish needs before me when I have been 100% faithful to him and have been pretty much the only supporter he has. I did ask him about when he was going to put an end to this if i hadn't found out about it and he claims he already decided not to sleep with her since 5 months ago but he had still continued to do things around the house for her just to get him off her back about the money. he said when he kissed up to her she let him spend an extra day with his child sometimes and she would stop asking for more money for a while. Then she'd ask for money again threatening him she'd take him to court and he would ignore her UNTIL he and i argued and didnt talk for a couple of days, then he did would go back to doing favors and having sex with her and going back home that night and calling me and continuing to argue with me... what a nightmare He said he planned on signing the divorce papers in september (when he will start a second job) I know about the second job in september but i dont believe that he really planned on ending things completely with her then because i feel he proably thought he'd never get caught... im such a mess right now.
ALso, i threw his car keys on top of a church roof the night i spoke to his wife on the phone because i was so angry i wanted him to be stranded there and not follow me... it was late and he couldnt find the maintenance guy so he broke into the fenced yard, built some type of ramp and climbed up to retrieve the keys. Then he fell from the roof and tore his bicep and got scratched up pretty badly. Now his mother thinks im also abusive, besides being "the other woman" because he told her everything that happened and she thinks i hit him and that he's lying about falling from a rooftop...

i have not met the rest of the family and part of it is my fault. Im not good with families especially those of different cultural backgrounds so every time he would invite me to parties and gathering i would ask him if we could wait.. that was my fault. but its also because i dont think i will like his family by what he tells me. theyre extremely judgmental and not accepting of people different then them.

I have however met the daughter and have picked her up from school with him and she has seen us kiss and call each other pet names.

Aquavita, unfortunately I think you are right which is why i said all aquas must be the liars of the zodiac. I see it in my own father. Hes not a cheater but he will lie for stupid little things or make things up and change stories to make them sound more interesting. My virgo mother hates it and always complains about it. Idk if i can live my whole life with a man who just NEEDs to lie so often

However, on your other point about both ladies being in it for the money i will disagree with you 100% because I dont benefit from his money in any way. We do normal things that couples do and he pays for them because he is the man. He doesnt shower me with anything extravagant if thats what youre thinking. This isnt a sugar daddy type relationship. Sometimes our dates include just going to the park to talk watch the water and bring a snack from home...

Also, he does buy me presents and pays for things here and there and he can be extremely thoughtful but I never asked him to or made him. He doesnt pay any of my bills or anything, he just takes care of me in little ways becuase we've been together almost two years!!


Aquadeer, he is not in the service. And they were separated after one year of marriage. That was 6 years ago. but he stopped officially paying child support three years ago. He told me and she confirmed by saying " i havent seen a penny from him in three years, is that how long youve been with him??" but i had nothing to do with him stopping child support!

Honestly, I wasn't sure how everything fit. When I first read your rant, I assumed you were the other woman, that took the place of the main woman and now is becoming the other woman again (the sister pretending not to know you).

I'm not sure how astrology will fit into his choices of what he does, because I know when I'm in a relationship, I'm loyal and honest.
I've dated men with other signs and they all had their faults.

What do you want from this? If you want it to work give him guidelines and see if he will follow through. If you can't move pass this, walk away,and take it as a lesson learned.

Ok here I am besides the signs bull crap etc. Biased much? Yes I am. Here's the deal Sorry for your hurt, stop saying hate because you are killing yourself years off your age holding on to such a ugly word that rips apart all your insides. Realize you never sat down with his parents or did you? to avoid disappointment by knowing a mans history in dating. Nevermind the parent part that's irrelevant I guess did you ask him up front about his past relationships? I don't see that part in there. It is sad you were deceived but were there not warning signs or were you blindsided by this man? It sucks his legal problems are becoming his ruin but we get what we put out. Hopefully whatever happens he evaluates himself.

Yes Aquaman didn't have any unusual patterns. Leaving at the same or similar times to sneak of and dip his cone somewhere else? Irregular vacations or something. I feel bad for you it's such a shame this happened and you were with a compulsive liar. Run for the hills as fast as you can.

I don't know what I want from this. The worst part is not knowing which way to go. I don't want to resent him forever because it will ruin me emotionally. But forgiving and forgetting right now doesn't feel like an option either. Leaving him could set me free in time but it could also solve nothing and make me drag the pain elsewhere. I don't want to be a bitter person or become jaded. And honestly i dont know what kind of lesson I would have learned from this. To never trust a man again? He is the best boyfriend I ever had. Which is why it hurts so much. How can someone so nurturing be so...cruel and deceptive? he is so loving to my niece and nephew, so wonderful to my friends, so respectful to others, You'd never think he would be capable of such a thing. Sometimes i can be cold and hard on him when we argue but I always thought he could take it because he is a grown man and I also thought because he is an Aqua that he woudnt mind a few days apart so I would ignore him for a couple of days but I never thought he would use this time to go to the person he's still legally married to but supposedly hates.
I guess besides wanting to vent somewhere, I posted here in hopes of someone reading this and knowing what Im going through and telling me if there's hope or not. I am not religious and I don't have a belief system or a support system that could help me through this. I'm afraid to tell my friends because just like I used to be, they are all "once a cheater always a cheater, kick him to the curb" mentality. But you never know what it is like to deal with something until it happens to you!

I never sat down with his parents because I was not ready to meet his family. I explained earlier that they are of a different culture than I and they are very judgmental and against him being with someone outside the culture. I am of European descent and he is mixed Asian/Hawaiian. The woman he is separated from is Latina and he has told me they gave her a hard time for years also. They only sort of accepted her after she gave them a grandchild. I didn't really want to deal with them until I had to.
Yes, of course I have asked him directly about his relationship history. He told me he had a girlfriend briefly in highschool then when he met the wife he was with her for four years before he married her. Then he claims she changed and she was not the person he wanted to spend the rest of his life with and she knew it but her religious beliefs didn't allow divorce (Jehova's witness) He told me he then moved out of her house and was alone for two years. Then he was in a off and on relationship with a woman who cheated on HIM and he dumped her then decided to forgive her but the second time around wasnt the same anymore so he dumped her and dated casually for a while. Then he met me and supposedly fell in love with me from the day he saw me. It was all honeymoon phase until 5 months after we had our first argument and it was awful. I am very opinionated so I know it shocked him how strict I was with certain things and thats when he first thought I would leave him and he cheated on me for the first time.. However I didnt know he cheated so I told him let's work it out and we did and everything was wonderful again, until the next time. I would always avoid him for two- (three max) days and I guess that's all it took for him to go and "be of service" to the "ex/ wife" i dont even know what to call her anymore..
Anyway , what he didn't mention to me until yesterday that this isn't the first time he's cheated. He had a short fling with his high school girlfriend when he was about to separate with his wife. So yes, I asked and I told my story too but he wasn't honest with me and there was no way I could know that until the truth came out the way it did. Also, he told me he divorced her shortly after being separated but I dont know why I never asked when exactly or if I could see proof. I had never dated a divorced man before...

I completely understand what you're going through. My relationship at the time was with an aries, it took almost 6 years for me to leave. Every single time it was suppose to be the last and he was good, for a few days, weeks and possible a month. He never changed but that's because he didn't want and when I finally had the common sense to leave, I felt free. He was my lesson, that I deserve better and to value myself worth. He made me more cautious / aware of behavior of other people. Now that can be a gift or a curse of sorts because I question the little things with a new relationship. I don't tolerate bullshit and refuse to settle for less.

As far as what this means for you, well that's up to. This is your life, your story. People here can give you an outside view but it's only one-sided, because there's always 3 sides to a story, your side, his side and the truth.

Now, again he may change and do everything you ask and he may not by only telling you, what you need to hear. I would take some time and reflect what you need or want from him and discuss everything.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find the answers you're seeking.

Your friends have NO room in your happiness or sorrow. This is where so many people mess up, there is comfort in hanging around them but I wouldn't deface such problems out because crabs in a barrel analogy fits well with how you just described your associates. They don't seem to be confiding friends. Never trusting a guy again is your option, but do you not trust your own father? brother? male family either? It happens people get caught up in their own selfishness, you agree you failed in some areas and he was a big screw up after or in the process. You will bounce back you cant help everyone, let him deal with this problem on his own. A mans problem is a mans problem you should not be dragged into this let alone try and financially still support him. He will figure it out, the only thing you should offer is a lending ear or motivation. But it's healthy to withdraw your heart.

Wow that's horrible sorry for the deception and the family issue thing. This is a learning experience I know how critical gems can be, their words hurt. Or at least my moms words hurt sometimes lol its like being scolded with hot coals. We live and we learn this is going to take much healing from but you have to be steady in your approach to want to heal and move past it. You have such a big heart to think of helping him after but he must deal with his legal problems its sad when women fine man on accounts such as this. However it's not fair but he had children with this woman.

Well tonight he calls me again using a family members phone because I also shattered his phone the night i threw his car keys on the roof.. He keeps asking if I would just keep him around and not change my number. He said he wants to send me a pic of the signed divorce papers as soon as he gets them and then I can decide if I want to really leave him or not. I told him that he just doesnt want to be alone and I won't be there to support him this time, but inside I was dying, wanting to still have him in my life. I haven't told him how I feel because I don't want him to have hope. He said he will let me do anything even if I would keep him as a friend, like we could have the same cell phone plan so I could check his call/text records whenever I want, and he could buy the tracker app on his phone so i can track him, and he would give me access to all his personal finances and things. ALso I could go with him to his counseling sessions. All of this just to earn my turst again even just as a friend? I think it's so bizarre , I've never been in a situation like this. The uncertainty is killing me.

Posted by Gemsandsugar
Well tonight he calls me again using a family members phone because I also shattered his phone the night i threw his car keys on the roof.. He keeps asking if I would just keep him around and not change my number. He said he wants to send me a pic of the signed divorce papers as soon as he gets them and then I can decide if I want to really leave him or not. I told him that he just doesnt want to be alone and I won't be there to support him this time, but inside I was dying, wanting to still have him in my life. I haven't told him how I feel because I don't want him to have hope. He said he will let me do anything even if I would keep him as a friend, like we could have the same cell phone plan so I could check his call/text records whenever I want, and he could buy the tracker app on his phone so i can track him, and he would give me access to all his personal finances and things. ALso I could go with him to his counseling sessions. All of this just to earn my turst again even just as a friend? I think it's so bizarre , I've never been in a situation like this. The uncertainty is killing me.

It's unfortunate that it had to come to a drastic situation for him to realize your worth. He's scared to lose you and he may do everything he's telling you, but again, there's always the possibility that he can go back to his old ways. Do you always want to be checking his phone records, bank statements, tracking his every move, to make this relationship work? I would give yourself some time and figure out of the relationship is worth it, if he's worth it.

You ladies are both right. Thank you for "listening" and giving me honest advice. We will always ask peoples for peoples opinions and end up doing what we wanted from the start..I don't know why we do that. I just haven't reached the point of decision yet.
I know as a Gemini or maybe my Cap moon influence also, I can be very analytical at times and very calculation and try to solve relationship problems with logic and not emotions but I thought Air sings are almost all the same and he would understand me. But he is weaker than I am emotionally and mentally, I can see that now. Just the same as he can be persuaded to do smth positive he can also be influenced easily in a negative way. Sigh

I'm just very confused right now but I'm trying my best to use both what the mind knows and what the heart feels to get through this. When I think about the cheating itself I'm devastated and don't think I can get passed it. The cheating and lying about it make him a monster in my eyes. But when I hear him crying on the phone telling me he has lost the love of his life and he deserves whats coming to him and he wishes he never hurt me and he doesnt know what to do to help me heal ... he seems more human to me. It is a roller coaster.

I wish astrology played a bigger part in our personalities so that I could see if an Aquarius man actually had the ability to change or not. It's a coin toss...

Posted by Gemsandsugar
I wish astrology played a bigger part in our personalities so that I could see if an Aquarius man actually had the ability to change or not. It's a coin toss...

Anyone has the ability to change, but it's up to them, not us.

Pfft, just look at his mom's reaction. Immediately siding with him and accusing you for everything.

See that? That's a good example of what kind of environment he may have been raised in. A family of liars and a mom who can see her son doing no wrong?

He cannot handle responsibility for his actions because his mom doesn't seem to enforce that. Now he's going to do the begging/empty promise approach to get his way. Why? Chances are that worked on his own mom when he was growing up.

I'd take all his bullshit talk with a grain of salt. It's funny how much guys are suddenly willing to bend over backwards when they're about to lose you.

Too bad, so sad, should have been doing it all along, not when it got real. It's so freaking pathetic.

Gemsandsugar good god girl get a grip??_??_You need to have a metal pole shoved up your backside because you are missing a spine??_.

I'm sorry but every chance you give him to open his mouth and bullshit is another second you are enabling him to use you??_.

Sweetheart you don't need a psychologist to tell you that your in a fucked up situation thats filled with drama on both sides??_??_and especially his jehovas witness family they are brainwashed you need to get the fuck out of there??_

Stop being stupid and talking to him you NEED to cut if off??_..stop being cute about it, have your cry, play the desperate housewife who got cheated on and then move the fuck on and get on with being the next thing.

So fucking what if he buys you shit here and there??_.shit aint gonna pay your bills or put food on the table.

I think you need to watch a shit load of judge judy back to back and focus on all the broken up relationship episodes to put it in perspective for you.

This kind of shit has been going on for yonks and I'm sorry that it happened to you but for fucks sake enough is enough??_??_.or perhaps you haven't had enough in which case you should definitely get back with him so he can eventually give you the complete idea of sorrow and misery.

@OP

I think your Cap Moon is not analyzing this situation to its fullest extent for you.

My dad has taught me two things and one of them is: men who lie once will always lie. Not sure he based it on himself but it has turned out to be true. You're not special enough to stop your man from lying . Nor is the next woman or the woman before you; his wife.

So true this man is a lost cause and hasn't been straight up with his women in a while. On his wife who was b4 u he cheated on her with his x from high school. Then he separates and doesn't divorce his wife. Then he cheats on you with her a few times. When you confront him he also uses his religion as an excuse. There's no hope for this dude he wasted way too much of your time. He does need a psychologist or whatever but I wouldn't be his test subject after his treatment. As we say this dude is fried.

My question is why do you see yourself so poorly that you're considering keeping this loser around? Are you that desperate to be in a relationship that you're willing to settle just because you've been together two years?

I know it's hard to wrap your head around, and those silly emotions want you to try to make it work/get it to change, but stop and look at the big picture- the guy doesn't respect you, and to stay with someone after such an insane amount of bullshit makes you look really, really bad and desperate. Guys like him pick up on that and will continue their line of bullshit seeing as how it worked on you.

If you have any ounce of respect for yourself, you'll do your best to move on. I know it's hard and it's easier said than done, but you have to start the process and not entertain his toxic person.

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/I-thought-Aquas-were-all-about-space-and-privacy-!-3662415.asp
There were initial red flags in the beginning. Guys who move that fast have problems.

...You just now stumbled across them. Hell, some of the responses predicted what he'd be like based on how immaturely fast he moved in your relationship.

Posted by backtokemet
LOL @ rockyroad being on the AQUA board and posting on a LIBRA man type of thread .. those proposal threads must have scared you away 😢

This popped up on the front page when she posted it, haha.

I have no idea what you're talking about in regard to proposal threads. :/

Posted by Gemsandsugar
I've been with him for almost two years but have never met her. she lives two hours away

yet you felt comfortable enough to call her? Unbelievable. Smh

Cut him off, zero contact. Move on. Hes a bad seed and doesn't really want help otherwise he would step up. His history shows negative actions and responsibility.

and dont call a whole sign liars based on a few people. I know a lot of good, honest aquas.

There are 7 billion people on this earth as of 2014. Out of 7 billion, over 600 million are Aquarius'. Surely you don't really believe that all 600+ million of us are the same, do you?

You've gotta tweak your expectations of people. If you expect 7 Aquas to be representative of all the other Aquas on earth, that is the 1st problem. Trust me, there are just as many folks who will swear that most of the people in YOUR sign are a bunch of bad things too. And they're basing that off of what, 5 encounters with that 1 particular sign? Sounds ridiculous right? Especially if you're reading the rants about your particular sign & see none of those 'bad traits' within yourself.

The pattern isn't that they're all Aquarians. The pattern is that for some reason or another you keep attracting F'd up people. It's important to know the difference. There's a reason for that. Who we attract says a lot about ourselves.

Luck isn't the reason some people attract great people. Bad luck isn't the reason some folks constantly attract the lowest of the low in society. There's hidden signals, body language & variables that play into who we attract. Furthermore, there's subconscious reasons why we allow those folks to penetrate our security walls.

When you shift the blame to the outsiders, you'll never recognize the pattern that 1st starts with YOU. And since you can't change what you don't acknowledge, the pattern/cycle will remain.

I'm not gonna be the typical person on here that says that you only got played a lot b/c you were in denial or overlooked red flags that just HAD to have been present when you met them. I get it. All red flags aren't noticeable to even the most cautious or observant person. Some people are masters of manipulation & deception, hence the reason even the most intelligent, 'watch you like a hawk' folks have even been played before at some point in their lives.

The lesson learned from these experiences shouldn't be, "Stay away from Aquarius'." The lesson learned should be to recognize the patterns & common denominators in all of these bad folks, & make the mental decision to run like hell if you see similar traits in future friends/partners.

Example: Narcissists and players are bad right? But guess why it's so easy for both types of men to get women to let their guard down? It's b/c they both tend to have a lot of charm & other traits that women find wildly attractive. And when you consider that society always puts pressure on women to stop looking for the bad/flaws & instead focus on the good, it's understandable sometimes why women get swept off their feet by these kinds of men.

So don't beat up on yourself. However, don't continue the blame game either. If you do, you'll keep attracting what you fear. You'll keep attracting what you haven't yet acknowledged. That is street smarts that applies to any & ALL signs.

Don't take astrology so seriously that you allow it to confuse the difference b/w "some" and "all." There's no such thing as 'all of everything' being the exact same. No such thing.

at least u wernt with sagiSuckis. that situation wuld turnd out 2000X worse

Did you go and read your old thread about this guy?

He did all these grand gestures in the beginning, he offered to give you his facebook password (like he's doing again now offering "the same cell phone plan so I could check his call/text records whenever I want, and he could buy the tracker app on his phone so i can track him, and he would give me access to all his personal finances and things") to prove his trustworthiness.

And how did that work out for you?