Thanks .... To GeminiLover
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Mystical on Saturday, April 1, 2006 and has 4 replies.
I very much appreciate your response. Yes, it does suck when someone chooses a girlfriend over friendship. I guess it's something Aquarians (I'm also an Aquarian) can't understand as we value friendship very much indeed. I have no trouble having guy friends and a boyfriend at the same thing which is why I don't understand with this Virgo guy. It's his lose although I'm still a little sad 4 days later. I never thought the friendship would end. I just don't see why end a friendship when you get a boy/girlfriend. I dislike ending friendships. I've never done it before. I think one reason why I'm still sad 4 days later is he hasn't even attempted to take contact with me. I thought later on in the day, on Wednesday, he would have called me to find out how I was doing like before. He would either call every day or within 2 days. Nope. Nothing. Not a peep out of him. When I told him (on Wednesday) it was nice getting to know him his reply was he felt the same. I was shocked at the answer. He said he would take contact me another time but I highly doubt that. I also told him not to bother. Remember, he has a jealous girlfriend. I find that to be a lame excuse. It wasn't like I was after him at all. I am, however, surprised at how I've reacted to the situation. Me being sad a friendship has ended? That's not like me at all. I just don't get what has been going on with me. Actually, I have learnt so much in such a short amount of time. I just don't know. I never thought I'd be sad. Sometimes I feel like I've gone crazy. Friends come and go. Never bothered me before but this one did. It was a very unique friendship so maybe that is the reason.
Anyway, I appreciate you responded to me. It helped me a lot that one person responded. I've moved on and will make many more friends that I am sure of.
Anyway, I appreciate you responded to me. It helped me a lot that one person responded. I've moved on and will make many more friends that I am sure of.
I hoped you would see the posting in which I was thanking you. Doesn't matter you just saw it now, that you saw it is what matters. No, he has not contacted me and it's for the best. I have written a little more about myself under "Are Aquarians hard to figure out?" in which I have gotten some helpful hints from Primegen. At times I feel so different from everybody else and I do have a coldness about me because I don't want to get hurt (who does?). I figured I would put a post up about Aquarians wondering if we are difficult to figure out.
I don't understand Virgo males (I don't think I ever will) if I'm going to be honest. He was the first one I encountered in this way. I did learn so much from him, crazy as it might seem. Patience is something I have become very good at. I was always a patience person before but I have become better at it. It's probably better I don't hear from him again although I have a gut feeling one day I will in some shape or form. I don't know why I think this either. No, it isn' wishful thinking. He said I would hear from him again, but I'm not counting on it. Life goes on. Crazy as it may seem this experience has changed me for the better. Not that I was bad before but I never had an encounter quite like this before. It's something I will never forget and that's something for me. Things that don't mean anything I forget, but things that have been worthwhile or important I never forget. Being an Aquarian we love everything new and exciting. We also value highly friendship. I dislike it very much giving up on people. Never done that before but this time I had to.
I don't understand Virgo males (I don't think I ever will) if I'm going to be honest. He was the first one I encountered in this way. I did learn so much from him, crazy as it might seem. Patience is something I have become very good at. I was always a patience person before but I have become better at it. It's probably better I don't hear from him again although I have a gut feeling one day I will in some shape or form. I don't know why I think this either. No, it isn' wishful thinking. He said I would hear from him again, but I'm not counting on it. Life goes on. Crazy as it may seem this experience has changed me for the better. Not that I was bad before but I never had an encounter quite like this before. It's something I will never forget and that's something for me. Things that don't mean anything I forget, but things that have been worthwhile or important I never forget. Being an Aquarian we love everything new and exciting. We also value highly friendship. I dislike it very much giving up on people. Never done that before but this time I had to.
Hi GeminiLover,
I just wanted to update you since you had responded to me. I have been thinking for about a week if I should contact this Virgo guy. Mind you, I'm not in love with him or anything like that, it's only a friends thing for me. Anyway, I was talking to a guy friend of mine because I wanted to get some insight into how a guy interprets situations. I explained, in general, the situation to him about this Virgo guy. Do you know what he said? He said I should call him. I asked him what would this Virgos girlfriend think since she is the jealous type. He told me since this Virgo guy and I are friends there should be no problem. Again, I started thinking (I'm always thinking about something) maybe he was right but really nervous about the idea. Last time I talked to this Virgo guy was two weeks ago and I was a little mad at the whole situation. Anyway, I took the challenge and I called him this morning at 11 o'clock. The phone had to ring many times but suddenly he answered and I went silent for a moment. Then I said Hi, this is ...(my name) and How are you. He was surprised to hear from me but I also could tell in his voice he was sleeping. He sounded really tired. He said he would call me later. I replied "Really?". Then I asked if he promised to do that (I wasn't really sure of the situation and if he said he would call me later just to get rid of me). Anyway, to my ultimate surprise he called at 17.45. I couldn't believe it. He kept his promise. I didn't think he would though so he completely took me by surprise. Anyway, I asked how he was and he had unfortunately been sick. He has also been partying up a storm. He thinks it's better to be alone than with a girlfriend now. He says he lives his life and his girlfriend lives her life (I find that a little strange). They don't see each other so often. The girlfriend lives with her parents (I didn't ask how old she is). He doesn't seem happy. I told him I was wondering if I would ever hear from him again. He said I would. I said I didn't know if the friendship was dead. He said no it wasn't. He just hasn't been in contact with anyone lately. I asked him how can he stay in contact with people if he doesn't make an effort. He told he comes around after a while. Sooner or later he creeps up and reappears (that is a feeling I've always had with him also). This is fine by me. He's a character (I mean that positively though). I just feel so sorry for him. Thankfully, he'll be at sea for a few months starting on Sunday. He told me I would hear from him again. I told him not to let it go months and weeks on end. He told me he wouldn't do that. All I can do is trust him with that. He also wished me a Happy Easter and I wished him the same.
In a strange way I felt relieved because I got the answers to my questions. I dislike not finding answers to questions. Also in a strange way, when he called me (we talked for 22 minutes on the cell phone) he seemed happy to talk to me. I don't get it. All I know is he is a confused but nice type of person who has lost in way in life and doesn't know how to get back on. I know it's not normal for girls to call guys, but since he and I are friends (one of the answers I got today) I didn't see the harm. Sometimes I can be very bold.
I am so glad I did it. I dislike losing friends and I wasn't sure of how I acted on the phone to him two weeks ago meant that everything was lost. Seems like everything was fine all the time. I just didn't know that. Therefore I am so glad I called. He has promised he will take contact. I don't know when that will be though. He seems to keep his promises so it looks like what he says he follows through with.
Anyway, just thought I'd let you know.
Mystical
I just wanted to update you since you had responded to me. I have been thinking for about a week if I should contact this Virgo guy. Mind you, I'm not in love with him or anything like that, it's only a friends thing for me. Anyway, I was talking to a guy friend of mine because I wanted to get some insight into how a guy interprets situations. I explained, in general, the situation to him about this Virgo guy. Do you know what he said? He said I should call him. I asked him what would this Virgos girlfriend think since she is the jealous type. He told me since this Virgo guy and I are friends there should be no problem. Again, I started thinking (I'm always thinking about something) maybe he was right but really nervous about the idea. Last time I talked to this Virgo guy was two weeks ago and I was a little mad at the whole situation. Anyway, I took the challenge and I called him this morning at 11 o'clock. The phone had to ring many times but suddenly he answered and I went silent for a moment. Then I said Hi, this is ...(my name) and How are you. He was surprised to hear from me but I also could tell in his voice he was sleeping. He sounded really tired. He said he would call me later. I replied "Really?". Then I asked if he promised to do that (I wasn't really sure of the situation and if he said he would call me later just to get rid of me). Anyway, to my ultimate surprise he called at 17.45. I couldn't believe it. He kept his promise. I didn't think he would though so he completely took me by surprise. Anyway, I asked how he was and he had unfortunately been sick. He has also been partying up a storm. He thinks it's better to be alone than with a girlfriend now. He says he lives his life and his girlfriend lives her life (I find that a little strange). They don't see each other so often. The girlfriend lives with her parents (I didn't ask how old she is). He doesn't seem happy. I told him I was wondering if I would ever hear from him again. He said I would. I said I didn't know if the friendship was dead. He said no it wasn't. He just hasn't been in contact with anyone lately. I asked him how can he stay in contact with people if he doesn't make an effort. He told he comes around after a while. Sooner or later he creeps up and reappears (that is a feeling I've always had with him also). This is fine by me. He's a character (I mean that positively though). I just feel so sorry for him. Thankfully, he'll be at sea for a few months starting on Sunday. He told me I would hear from him again. I told him not to let it go months and weeks on end. He told me he wouldn't do that. All I can do is trust him with that. He also wished me a Happy Easter and I wished him the same.
In a strange way I felt relieved because I got the answers to my questions. I dislike not finding answers to questions. Also in a strange way, when he called me (we talked for 22 minutes on the cell phone) he seemed happy to talk to me. I don't get it. All I know is he is a confused but nice type of person who has lost in way in life and doesn't know how to get back on. I know it's not normal for girls to call guys, but since he and I are friends (one of the answers I got today) I didn't see the harm. Sometimes I can be very bold.
I am so glad I did it. I dislike losing friends and I wasn't sure of how I acted on the phone to him two weeks ago meant that everything was lost. Seems like everything was fine all the time. I just didn't know that. Therefore I am so glad I called. He has promised he will take contact. I don't know when that will be though. He seems to keep his promises so it looks like what he says he follows through with.
Anyway, just thought I'd let you know.
Mystical
Well, you are absolutely right, GeminiLover, about a girl shouldn't be shy calling a guy. Normally I'm not that shy. I have no trouble talking to guys but I was a little nervous calling this Virgo guy. As written before, I was not in a good mood when I talked to him 2 weeks ago when he gave me the crappy excuse about a jealous girlfriend. Therefore I thought I had blown it. Not that I was nasty or anything (not that type) but I think with the tone of my voice, it was obvious he knew I wasn't buying it. I have never dealt with a Virgo in this type of case. I have been doing a lot of reading on DXP about Virgos and boy does he fit his star sign so well. It's scary. I read somewhere on the Virgo forum that Virgos disappearance only to reappear when you least expect it, will ignore you, act aloof, very slow, but if you give Virgo anything they cherish they will be back. They always come back to the ones they have respect for. I guess I fall under that category. If a Virgo doesn't find you interesting they are very likely to drop you like a hot potato. Seems like he finds me interesting. I really did think he wouldn't call me back today. He didn't have to if he didn't want to (glad he did). A Virgo never does anything they don't want to do (as I've learned). I know people shouldn't rely on astrology to understand a person but I was completely mystified about how to handle a Virgo. The Virgo forum was very helpful in giving ideas. It's amazing how many write about the same things even though the people are different but have the same star sign. I usually don't have problems ever with guys but this is the one that stumped me. I learnt a very valuable lesson today and that is what counts.
I'm glad this mystery is solved. More than likely soon there will something new for me to figure out. This mystery has been tough I have to say and very challenging which is exactly the way I like it. I wouldn't want a similar mystery again though. Anyway, I'm glad I took the challenge.
Thanks for you advice.
I'm glad this mystery is solved. More than likely soon there will something new for me to figure out. This mystery has been tough I have to say and very challenging which is exactly the way I like it. I wouldn't want a similar mystery again though. Anyway, I'm glad I took the challenge.
Thanks for you advice.
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