the ex factor

just out of curiousity...how many of you aquas on here (men & women) have gotten back together with an ex— and if so, why did you do it?

poo.

one word wonder.

just so that moonchild does not think her thread got murdered.

i once tried getting back with a girl when i was like 18 or something,we actually did not have a full fledged relationship,just a dating thing and after some time i did not like the idea of dating,so i just told her can we move forward an be in a relationship,because this dating was killing it,IMO.
she refused,and we went our different ways.but then again i ment her randomly at a BBQ of a friend,this time,she asked me if was still interested,well i was still single at that time,so i thought why not give it a try.because i still found that i did like her,and i wanted to know her better,and offcourse attraction was always there.
so we got back.
but,it didnt last long.as i went to grad school,and she joined some other vocational course.also,i found her too light hearted and *fun* to be around,it did not match my nature at all,i started feeling odd at times.

OK, in all seriousness.

Im currently in a similar situation to devils past.

so what phase are you in right now?
dating still?

i must say though this thing taught me something.>>that i hate dating.
haahaa

its dating... I hate dating too...but hate relationship status.
Lets just chill...

I can tell you hate dating. You got engaged quick 😛

haahaa.that is what everyone says.🙂
we never went on a date.it was always like a social stuff thing,we always went in a group,like friends.
then i took her to my home,meeting with the family and all that.
whatever i did,it was the best.

so long as your happy.
Its cool, PM's great anyway.

"we never went on a date.it was always like a social stuff thing,we always went in a group,like friends."

If possible that's the best way to go.. I went on a "date" the other night and almost got sick from boredom... BLAH.

I dont like dating...too much forced interaction...I was never good at small talk.
either I find you interesting or I dont.

i tell you ladyM,though we did not go for dates,but......
salsa dance classes was the best thing ever.
i am so glad that i gifted them to her.and the rest worked out in my favour,althouth i never thought about it at the time of gifting.
it just worked out brilliantly🙂

with the help of DXP 😉

your welcome Mr Devil. 🙂

I dont like dating...too much forced interaction...I was never good at small talk.
either I find you interesting or I dont.



exactly.
dating always looked somewhat fake to me.i was not comfortable,not in my skin.i felt like i was being choreographed for doing everything in a certain way.
and yes it is boring,no thrills,no feel.and i don't to say that i don't like putting my arm around a girl in a cinema hall.haahaa
just that,it is too in the norm,i did not like it.period.

so, DTN...you two are engaged? congratulations to you!
what made you know she was it for you?...if you don't mind me asking...

what made you know she was it for you?...if you don't mind me asking...




it something that is hard to explain.
something stirred inside me when i first saw her,i thought it must be the fact that she is pretty.
but it was somewhat of a magnetic pull,i felt very uncomfortable around her.
then the more i got to know her as a friend,the more she amazed me,everything about her was very refreshing to me.i needed someone like that in my life.it just went on like friendship,very normal one,but the undercurrents of that pull were always present.we did not acknowledge it earlier.maybe because she was with another guy at that time,maybe that me hold back,and her too.
but after her breakup,i let it grow.something about was so right,she made me feel like settling down with her.she changed a part of me.i never thought i would go for engagement so soon,but seeing gave me the confidence that is going to happen.
i know i may not have cleared it for you,for even i cannot pin point what exactly it was.but it was good enough i guess.

i ask because i felt that same way about my aqua when i first met him...i can't explain why i knew, but i just knew. however, for him it is taking a lot longer to figure it all out, which scares me.

"i felt very uncomfortable around her"

my aqua was like that around me for the longest time...and he was always really nervous around me...really nervous!!!

"she changed a part of me"

ok...this is also true with my aqua...he has told me that because of me, he has become a better person.

well, that's great that you feel that way about her and that you are settling down with someone you are so happy with!!! when it feels right, it just does.

i know how it feels when you see that the other person is taking time in realizing what you felt from the begining.
it went on like only,she took her own sweet time,where i kept on wondering for some time,that whether it is infatuation on my part,but kept it well hidden,keeping a calm exterior.
but it always hurt to see her with another man,that too my own friend,for she didn't realize that attraction between us as quickly.

thankyou moonchild,for the wishes.

i hope that your relationship works out too.and that your man realizes what you are feeling.

uc...my aqua lives across country now. and he knows that i am not only fixated on him, i have already made that clear to him!!! he wants me to move out there to be with him...and i am still contemplating my decision. however, i do not think that i need to date other me, and if i told him that i was hanging out with other guys...he would be like "see ya". it would not make him want to be with me more...trust me.

my bf is very motivated at the moment!!! the distance has already shown him what it could be like if her lost me for good...

"distance makes the heart grow fonder"
🙂

^^^ yes, this is true...but, i think it applies more to males than females!

"distance makes the heart grow fonder" but presence gets better results:-)

I would have to be the devil's advocate!!!wouldn't I:-) - devil's the name!!:-)!!

Alana x

you always be that alana.be my guest🙂