The Test.....

I have a few questions... I'm trying to get a handle on the Aqua I've been seeing for a couple months and I appreciate your insight.

1. What are examples of the Aqua Tests that I hear about?

2. When Aqua men go into their solidarity, do they think about us, or is it strictly political science running through their heads...lol

3. PDA's...I've heard they're not a fan...so if they display them often, with no regard for the people around us, is that a potential sign that they're diggin on you...? (Since they don't seem to verbalize it, it's nice to know the signs...)

That's good for now...

Thanks!

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here's some advice for you: you are doing really well so far with your aqua...don't screw it up by looking too much into all of this stuff. i can see it is already getting to you, and he will pick up on it soon enough...and then he WILL start distancing himself. and you will start pushing and will start pulling. you don't want that to happen. just relax.

*and he will start pulling

I am only looking into it here for information purposes...

This stuff fascinates me, and I am well versed in pretty much all signs except Aquarius.

It's not getting to me, so much as it gives me something to occupy my mind during the time apart... it's harmless...

personally, as far as tests go, i think aquarius men like to push the envelope with their partners, and see how far they can go before their signifigant other gets pissed off. unfortunately, when you get pissed off, they act all innocent. i think not getting angry, genuinely, beats them at their own game. this is easier said than done, though.

"It's not getting to me, so much as it gives me something to occupy my mind during the time apart... it's harmless..."

-ok, then...as long as it's harmless, then ask away!!! i just don't want to see another relationship with an aqua man go down the drain.

i sgree with mccamera...an aqua man will test once in a while to "push your buttons" or try to make you jealous, etc. you MUST NOT fall for it...just act nonchalant and don't show him that it gets to you!!! remember they are just tests...

"3. Typical of Aqua men not to be into PDAs. I think once you are closer and they are more secure and comfortable, they will be open to PDAs if you are gentle with them and don't overdo it."

well, this one does not apply to my aqua...he is probably more into PDA than i am now. but, in the beginning he was a little uncomfortable with it. i think he has grown to like it though...as he definitely displays it with me and initiates more often than i do!!!

now that i think about it...over the years we have been together, it's almost like i have adapted to his ways so much that i have taken some of them on and vice versa. b/c now, there are times when i act more like the aloof aqua and he acts more like the sensitive cancer! i guess we have really grown on each other 🙂

Thank you Unusualcancer.... I appreciate your insight.

Are you invloved with an Aqua? This is my first one... and I'm so intrigued.

As mentioned it's only been a two month stint thus far, and with no mention of 'what is going on between us' I am here for insight and ideas of where this may or may not be headed. I really like this guy, but I've done very well when it comes to not showing it, and only reciprocating when he comes to me.

My fingers are crossed!

yeah, it's kind of nice...and really, that's what a relationship is all about. it's a learning and growing process. and it's great to be able to balance each other out and compromise and to learn about one another.
i think with cancer/aqua combo that's what it takes for it to really work out... because we are so different

sadge - i haven't read through this whole thread, but i'd like to offer you some advice if that's ok. i firmly believe that with anyone, but especially an aquarius, you should just go with what you feel. don't over-analyze. just be yourself, and do what you want to do, and consider actions and the way you feel when you're with them.

basically just be you, and don't worry about what aqua is up to...

"sadge - i haven't read through this whole thread, but i'd like to offer you some advice if that's ok. i firmly believe that with anyone, but especially an aquarius, you should just go with what you feel. don't over-analyze. just be yourself, and do what you want to do, and consider actions and the way you feel when you're with them.

basically just be you, and don't worry about what aqua is up to..."

Thank you! I agree... My parents are both sociologists... so unfortunately I've been pre-disposed to over analyzation. I'm getting better though.

DXP has really helped though... there is a wealth of information here that has really helped my understanding.

Thanks to all.

i was trying to make it as uncomplicated as possible...but, as usual, unusualcancer offers very good advice. 🙂

very true.

"Also...for you it's been only two months...you're doing it right. Just sit back, enjoy, relax and see how he is. At some point, you will want to begin communicating your needs, but take time and don't be in a rush..."

Perfect... cause I'm not in a rush. I like things the way they are now.... In fact I don't even want to communicate my needs to him, cause I'm not even sure what they are LOL I just don't want him to go away, and I don't want our little love affair to stop...
So any communication of needs will have to come from him first... (I probably shouldn't hold my breath, huh? lol)

As long as the 'Out of sight, out of mind' Theory doesn't apply to Aqua's then I'm not worried.

UC....Thank you...

The only thing that makes me anxious/insecure is not knowing where we stand...and becuase he makes my heart jump... I can't help but wonder how he feels/doesn't. It shouldn't be a big problem, cause he's not privy to my anxiousness....lol... just you guys are! 🙂

I saw him off on Tuesday morning, and haven't talked to him since...

DON'T be sorry!! LOL I like when you're chatty!!

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That does seem like a contradiction... how do I inch my way in, while staying away.

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"That time should be for you to enjoy, not a time where you are waiting for him to return. You must get to the point where you can truly just let go of him during those times."

sadge...listen to this advice from UC!!! if you do this, you will be golden with your aqua...trust me. i wish i had done this a long time ago!

"I saw him off on Tuesday morning, and haven't talked to him since..."

oh hunny, that's totally normal for an aqua! you have nothing to worry about...

"how do I inch my way in, while staying away"

-keeping your distance with an aqua will get you closer to an aqua!

Thanks MC! 🙂 Good to know!

So should I wait and see if he makes a move now? lol

It's like CHESS... Fak!!

just go on with your life and focus on that...don't worry so much about him or when he is going to contact you...i know it's hard b/c you are in love, but stay focused on you and your life. he will come around when he is ready, don't worry.

Ok... here is the Dynamic...I'll give you the whole Break down as painlessly as possible... 🙂

We met on a weekend get-a-way through some mutual friends about two months ago...and hit it off famously. Went our seperate ways and met up again 3 weeks later at the same mutual friends place, and then thereafter for the next three weekends.... so it's not like we make plans with eachother, he'll msg me and say something like "sooo...are you coming to visit us this weekend...?" Notice it's 'us' and not 'me' lol

So anyway... back to the point, during the time I am not with him, I play sports like mad, and I have a very demanding job, so I am extremely busy... he's not so much into sports, but when ever we are together we'll throw a football around, or hike in the woods, or lay under the stars... that's kinda our thing I would say...

Did that help? lol

"...just go on with your life and focus on that...don't worry so much about him or when he is going to contact you...i know it's hard b/c you are in love, but stay focused on you and your life. he will come around when he is ready, don't worry."

Perfect... so I'll just keep doing what I'm doing! 🙂

I just my lack of contact, or pursuit to make him think I'm not interested anymore....

Sorry...

That should Read:

I JUST don't want my lack of contact or pursuit to make him think I'm not interested anymore....

Yeah....we're two hours away from eachother... so the distance can't be helped, and that's good. There are a couple more things I feel the need to mention...

I am 7 years his senior... he's young....but he's an 'old soul' if you will...Actually he's a self proclaimed 'old soul' I wouldn't have the time of day for him if he was in any way immature as I can spot a waste of time from a mile away....

When we first met, we talked about how crazy it was that we hooked up and how awesome our first weekend together was, and one thing he told me that really stuck in my mind was "I never expected to meet someone like you. You're so funny, and smart and beautiful, I've never met a girl like you before... but I guess some of the best things happen unexpectedly..."

He's not used to me, cause he's used to young girls that are all needy and messed up, I'm very independant, and self reliant...

Anyway... The other thing.. when we're with his buddies, sometimes stories come up which involve his ex GF and he always apologizes in advance to me for talking about her.. what do you say of this Aqua behaviour...?

I guess the issue here is me being convinced that just cause he doesn't contact me, doesn't mean he isn't still interested... lol

Wrapping my head around that whole concept is proving difficult, and the validation I am receiving from you and MC will keep me grounded enough to continue in my (non) pursuit of this heart stealing Aqua...

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"So you're saying that you see him on the weekend, and then he doesn't call you or email you until he is ready to see you again on the weekend?"

I see him on the weekends through mutual friends... we all kinda hang out toghether... so technically we end up together by default...

But our friends leave and go back to work, and we'll play hookie and stay in bed together all day....he never seems to want me to leave when I'm there... always looking for the next adventure to take me on...

then when I do leave him I never make plans for next time, but will say something like..."Ok I'll see you soon..." and he's say "Most definatly..."

He doesn't have a cell phone and he's never home, so phone calls are out of the question... and becuase he's never home he's rarely on the computer so I might get an IM one week, but not usually...

This weekend I made plans, so I won't be seeing him... even if he does ask... but next weekend we'll be seeing our mutual friends... (I hope)

i think it is typical of aqua guys to fall for older women...

HAHAHAHA...Speak of the Devil....

He just IM'd me....

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Thank you so much for everything!!


I'm not done with you though, I'm sure of that!

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"I'm not done with you though, I'm sure of that!"

LOL!!! i am sure of that as well! it's just the beginning...have fun with it 🙂

Hey Thanks for the Literature UC... that'll keep me busy! LOL

But I have to ask... doesn't this go against the things being said on this board?

Be sure to send him frequent e-mail to show him you are thinking about him. Meet at one of the new chat rooms, like The Palace or V-Chat, especially if you know one another well, and assume various avatars and speak to one another in a predetermined code language. Attend computer user meetings together, catch the newest 3D flick (complete with 3D glasses) or play a virtual reality game. Meet at a cyber cafe for coffee and surfing www.suck.com a deux. Is all this getting a little too wired for you? Aquarius also likes a good off-line party, so find out where one is happening and bring him along, or throw your own bash.

Thanks UC...

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sadge...how is it going with the aqua— any new updates...hope all is well!

Hey MC!! 🙂

Things are quiet on that front... I had a baseball tourney this weekend, so we didn't see eachother, but he IM'd me anytime he saw me online and the conversation was good.

He messaged me last night, but i was sleeping so I missed him...

I really wish I had more to gab about, cause I love all the insight gained from everyone here! He's always on my mind.. but I'm very good at keeping that fact on the DL.

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yeah, just don't let him know that he is always on your mind...that is key! keep on playing it cool and you will be fine.
gosh, i am missing my aqua like CRAZY right now!!! but, i will see him very soon 🙂

UC...how old is your aqua friend?