too many suitors not enough brain capacity

im an aqua sun pisces venus and im guilty of being in love with the concept of being in love...
With that said ive attracted some dead beats and messed up some good guys, but id like to think now im a little more grounded. problem is i attract a lot of guys but MOST of them are boring...like its hard for me to keep interest. Sometimes i pick their brains for 2 weeks then disappear. Guys do this all the time so i think no biggie but they continue to call and harass me while i avoid the awkward 'sorry im not that into you'convo. The guys i form attachments to, there is a drama and i run, like from my cap situation. I asked him directly and he pretty much told me he's only worried about himself and i told him im not here for something that cant grow. a month later i met mr.aries and the mental attraction was so strong, which for me only solidifies the physical, but i dont feel secure with him yet, so evenhough he's my #1, i still date other ppl (not sex just conversation and dates) he makes these jokes sometimes about me not being serious about him. I wonder if its just jokes or if he knows im afraid to be all in. but either way it becomes a tug of war sometimes. He goes into his own world, i pull away and give him space, then he reaches out to me like he never left. When i say to myself he doesnt call like he used to, then the phone rings, its creepy lol
On another note now the cap is hitting me up again, playing the good guy and offering his help to me. Both these guys have venus in pisces as well. I wonder if the connection i feel towards them has more to do with our fantasy land views on love than the reality of whats there...
There is a part of me that feels guilty. The more i conversate with other guys the more i know im more interested in mr.aries. Even though we're still getting to know eachother, would it be sensible to cut them off and focus my attention on him? In all honesty because of how much i like him i cant fairly give attention to other men who want to date me..

Us Aries types can be down right skittish about such things as love. We are all in, or not at all, and this sets us up for lots and lots of pain. I have a Venus in Virgo, so I probably can't really speak for you pisces types. But, I will admit that I tend to be surprisingly reserved (not necessarily guarded)around someone I am interested in, at least at first. Once I start to feel less vulnerable, I will open up and become more my true self.

It really is a matter of trust. You will have to establish some real trust with mr. aries before you get to meet the real mr. aries. Once the real mr. aries stands up, hang on, it should be quite a ride.

im an aqua sun/pisces venus too n feel u on the need for that mentally stimulating partner. the guys ive been w/ were all losers too lol but i read pisces venus ppl tend to gravitate to those kind of guys unfortunately. n we're susceptible to getting hurt a lot which i think is true. personally, i would go w/ the aries guy! i have yet to find an aries love interest but i love aries ppl. i think u guys wud have a lot of fun 2gether. n if things dont turn out well romantically, u guys can b friends 4ever! =)

you learn not to gravitate to losers. trial and error. However, so many men and loads of them will be using their best front to make you fall for them.

My advice? Good guys are hard to find, there's a diamond in the rough somewhere there. What matters is that they are good men with good hearts. Better than any genius without a heart and soul.

btw, your title of the thread, made me LOL.

read that you have a mars in pisces too, with taurus moon.
you'll probably want someone you can depend on.
(mars and sun are the indicators of who you are usually attracted to) for women(not your venus) as the venus is for the men.http://www.astrologyzine.com/attract-women-pisces.shtml<BR> SUN or MARS in PISCES

The man who attracts you is romantic and sensitive, and either... imaginative and a dreamer / artistic or musical / spiritually oriented / in need of help / or lost and confused.

The idea of a secret love affair can excite and entice you. Mystery intriques you.

Your innate sympathetic nature makes you a sucker for a sob story. Compassion for another can create an initial interest in them. Emotional types attract you, and sharing feelings can seduce you.
Broken-hearted lovers, starving artists, and penniless poets play on your heart strings. You can be attracted to a man who needs a savior, but also to one you can see as your savior.

If you were a Princess, you would be dreaming of a romantic "knight in shining armour" to come and sweep you off your feet.

Especially if you have Mars in Pisces, you could be prone to let your passive and sympathetic nature lead you to lovers who use or abuse you. You may fantasize about being "taken", but you don't have to be taken advantage of. ??2001 by Michael Star

so never mind about the advice: every lady is different with their combo: mars/sun. Sigh.

this is mine:

You could be a "material girl" who is more concerned with financial security than sexiness or romance. You may choose the up-and-coming or established career man over penniless romantics, sexy studs, or guys with good looks but poor prospects.

You can be slow to show your affections, so you are comfortable with a man who hides his feelings, and patient with one who takes time to commit - if he is serious about commitments. And you may expect a man to be patient with you too - and committed to you!

Basically, you "play for keeps" and are only interested in "serious" contenders in your game of love. ??2001 by Michael Star

i dont like the "material girl" bs they put there. lol

Posted by lisabethur8
read that you have a mars in pisces too, with taurus moon.
you'll probably want someone you can depend on.
(mars and sun are the indicators of who you are usually attracted to) for women(not your venus) as the venus is for the men.http://www.astrologyzine.com/attract-women-pisces.shtml<BR> SUN or MARS in PISCES

The man who attracts you is romantic and sensitive, and either... imaginative and a dreamer / artistic or musical / spiritually oriented / in need of help / or lost and confused.

The idea of a secret love affair can excite and entice you. Mystery intriques you.

Your innate sympathetic nature makes you a sucker for a sob story. Compassion for another can create an initial interest in them. Emotional types attract you, and sharing feelings can seduce you.
Broken-hearted lovers, starving artists, and penniless poets play on your heart strings. You can be attracted to a man who needs a savior, but also to one you can see as your savior.

If you were a Princess, you would be dreaming of a romantic "knight in shining armour" to come and sweep you off your feet.

Especially if you have Mars in Pisces, you could be prone to let your passive and sympathetic nature lead you to lovers who use or abuse you. You may fantasize about being "taken", but you don't have to be taken advantage of. ??2001 by Michael Star

This is me in a nutshell! I always fell for ppl who needed me cause i wanted to be there so ive been focusing on breaking bad habits. Thanks for the insight 🙂

Posted by aquarius21
im an aqua sun/pisces venus too n feel u on the need for that mentally stimulating partner. the guys ive been w/ were all losers too lol but i read pisces venus ppl tend to gravitate to those kind of guys unfortunately. n we're susceptible to getting hurt a lot which i think is true. personally, i would go w/ the aries guy! i have yet to find an aries love interest but i love aries ppl. i think u guys wud have a lot of fun 2gether. n if things dont turn out well romantically, u guys can b friends 4ever! =)

aries are so cool! But in the past ive had some stalkers when it didnt work out lol. when we first started talking i thought maybe we should just be friends cause we have so much fun with him and i didnt wanna ruin it with my tendencies to get 'swept away' nonetheless, i feel it happening so i find myself tryna put on the brakes while i evaluate how he feels about me. He let me know he likes me a lot, respects me and enjoys spending time with me, but he's an entrepreneur, pretty successful for his age, and when he's focused he's got tunnel vision lol so his time and attention can be spacey sometimes. i just dont want him to think he's just another guy i give my time to. Im gonna follow my instincts and see how it plays out. If any of the other guys were worth dating i wouldnt have my focus on him.

@lisbesth i checked out that site and it also says a man is attracted to similar venus signs sexually and to similar moon signs for longterm partnership. We both have taurus moon, and yes dependability is a REQUIREMENT. i pride myself on being there when i say i will and hate to let ppl down, so i expect the same. As for the venus signs, sexual attraction is through the roof we're definitely cuddlers and kissers, which is funny since we're admitted sarcastic smartasses lol

Good luck with the aries though. It is great that he's got the same venus and moon; you need a gentle kind of warrior, if you're going for that type. I know it says that the Sun /moon sign for the woman looks for that in a man: the sun for us wants intelligence (but i believe in general, that most people want an intelligent partner) he doesn't need to be a genius but someone who is very good at picking at stuff and has excellent or good comprehension skills.
You don't want it to be like you have to explain every little thing. There are some things that we need stuff explained to us too. But even very intelligent men don't talk much, and for me, that's fine too. A man's common sense is really valued as well.