Us versus Them... Why do others not understand us?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Aquapanosh on Sunday, February 5, 2012 and has 29 replies.
I have been told by a Taurus man that I was aloof. I didn't understand it because the fact that I am in your presences to me says a lot. I call you don't I!!
I have been told by a Virgo woman that she can't figure me out. I work with you hun, I don't feel the need to be besties!! But, I am courteous, respectful and sociable. For the most part I am very DIRECT!! What is there to figure out?
I have been told by some that before they actual talk to me they thought that I would be snobbish. That is so far from the truth!! I am a natural humanitarian and social butterfly!! I don't see anything wrong with analyzing my environment before jumping into it!!!
I have been told by a Leo man I live in a fantasy world. I don't see anything wrong with wanted to make the world a better place for all to live as fantasy. Honestly, I don't understand y you are so self centered and unconcerned when the issues I speak of affects you as-well.
I have been told by a Cancer man that I don't give a freak about what he do. Well, I do but what can I do about it. Your a grown man. I don't feel the need to check on you every five minutes like your a child... There's no need to blow your phone up every 5 minutes... I'm a confident creature!!
I feel misunderstood by others alot!!!! Especially, by the opposite sex!!!
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Well aquas are just classified as aloof. I think it's because you guys are in your heads a lot analyzing everything and then doing it again before you act when others are wanting a reaction/action so to speak sooner that what you guys are willing to give (I'm not saying that a bad thing). That and containing your emotions very well so no one can decepiher them makes you guys an enigma to others. Your very complex which leaves others perplexed on how to engage you in one form or another. Non-aquas don't know how to take your words or reactions.
Aquas seem to be direct but other times you are indirectly direct... you're a mystery and sometimes leaves things for interpetation which leaves others scratching their noggins thinking which way am I supposed to take that? And then there's the romantic side of you guys. Which I'm not going to touch. lol Mmmm....yeah.
You guys are very sweet,alluring and gregarious creatures which is wonderful. You seem to go out of your way for those you hold very dear to you. You do spend time with such people but when you guys are aloof (for a lack of a better term) i.e. breaking pre-arrange plans, leave in mid-conversation, break all contact for days/weeks then you leave the person wondering if you still care (in one form or another), which I've read happens a lot. lol
The Taurus (which LOVES stability and routine which you guys loathe) he will want a set schedule of when you see each other for instance once a weekend, but to you seeing him once a month could be good enough. Which to him = you don't care or don't want to be bothered. Taurus want to see/have contact with the person they care for a lot (well a lot to aquas). I have a Taurus moon and I can TOTALLY see/relate to that.
So yep... people do classify you lovely water barriers as aloof because honestly we cannot find another word that fits you. Which really doesn't define who you are cause honestly... aquas can not be contained in any group/definition...such as air cannot be contained.
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Posted by tbird
Well aquas are just classified as aloof. I think it's because you guys are in your heads a lot analyzing everything and then doing it again before you act when others are wanting a reaction/action so to speak sooner that what you guys are willing to give (I'm not saying that a bad thing). That and containing your emotions very well so no one can decepiher them makes you guys an enigma to others. Your very complex which leaves others perplexed on how to engage you in one form or another. Non-aquas don't know how to take your words or reactions.
Aquas seem to be direct but other times you are indirectly direct... you're a mystery and sometimes leaves things for interpetation which leaves others scratching their noggins thinking which way am I supposed to take that? And then there's the romantic side of you guys. Which I'm not going to touch. lol Mmmm....yeah.
You guys are very sweet,alluring and gregarious creatures which is wonderful. You seem to go out of your way for those you hold very dear to you. You do spend time with such people but when you guys are aloof (for a lack of a better term) i.e. breaking pre-arrange plans, leave in mid-conversation, break all contact for days/weeks then you leave the person wondering if you still care (in one form or another), which I've read happens a lot. lol
The Taurus (which LOVES stability and routine which you guys loathe) he will want a set schedule of when you see each other for instance once a weekend, but to you seeing him once a month could be good enough. Which to him = you don't care or don't want to be bothered. Taurus want to see/have contact with the person they care for a lot (well a lot to aquas). I have a Taurus moon and I can TOTALLY see/relate to that.
So yep... people do classify you lovely water barriers as aloof because honestly we cannot find another word that fits you. Which really doesn't define who you are cause honestly... aquas can not be contained in any group/definition...such as air cannot be contained.


wow bird, you know a lot about us. and its so true. smile
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you know what they dont have to figure you out. you are who you are. not everyone is going to understand you and they dont have too. i work with a virgo too. she is always trying to figure me out...why??? i give you invoices and leave...hello leave me alone.
and for some reason, people think you if your stalking them means you care. you have to find that someone that knows you care no matter what. because stalking isnt our thing. i have things to do with my life, i'm not your mama i dont have time to check on you, nor call every 5 minutes.
and there is nothing wrong with being an humanitarian, i guess if you were more focused on your Leo and not trying to improve the world, he wouldnt think that way. I love Leos they are fun but I just have them as friends.
I have been called snobbish all of my life. I get the, "wow your really a cool person, i never talked to you because i thought you were snobbish." I'm like really? They think this because we be in our on worlds and we are happy there.
And taurus...well i really have nothing to say about them. the one i dated always called to see where i was. if i wasnt with him then he thought i was with another man. I will never forget he tried to accused me of that while i was getting my eyebrows arched. all i could do is laugh.
Its okay if your misunderstood, your not boring. And you will find that man that thinks all the things about you are extraordinary and want to figure out your aloofness. and love you for all you have too offer.
its coming...Big Grin
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lol thanks chemengin! Only thing that gets me is the indirectly direct references. I don't wanna read into more and get egg on my face. Sometimes you don't know when you guys are being direct or indirectly direct. lol If that's confusing to read imagine how it occurs in me head.
I can understand about the co-workers... I'm like that too. I'll be nice but I don't want you to know about my life...because I'm a conspiracist and most women as caddy as all get out. Also I don't want to go out with you after work and have drinks because I can't let my hair down because...I work with you. Dude office gossip starts that way. Mind your own and we will get along famously.
I thought I should clarify about the Taurus. If a Taurus (sun and moon) really likes you they will deal and honestly get used to the routine of you guys running hot and cold. We will start to see a pattern (shock and awe) and we will adjust to that. Of course when you alter it we will have a moment of shock and need a bit of regulation like if you're in the hot sun all day and jump into glacier cold water. You seize up... Taurus will do that to... do that deer in the headlights things and think what the hell just happened, and try to regulate ourselves to the new routine. Everyone has routines...yes even you aquas do. They might be a bit more irregular than others but they are still there.
Now I will say this if the taurus is kinda/slightly intertested and/or not too sure about where this relationship (friendship or otherwise) is heading or if they don't like the direction they will only tolerate the hot/cold mojo thingy for only so long. Then there will be a few options on the table. The bull will shake the dust off of them (since you put us into the ground) and then grunt and walk away to a greener pasture and graze, or they will turn around and give you the horns (unleash the taurus anger and whoa nelly...yikes we won't stop until one or both of us are hurt...think bullfighting to the max...we see red) or last case we will sit our bull arses into the solid earth and give it right back to you. When you want to see us we will agree and then not come (using the old aqua line I was too busy or I forgot) or say something smart arse like Oh you don't like how it feels do you? Now you know how I feel when you pull that or something like an eye for an eye water bearier... an eye for an eye.
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One last thing about Taurus (sun and moon) we KNOW what we want. We are slow movers esp when it come to relationships (likewise for aquas) so that's good. But once we get there we are stubborn and will wait... Oh boy we will wait,endure and fight for what we want, tooth and nail. We will travel the ends of the earth to get what we want and if/once we achieve it we will charish that sucker forever. Taurus don't fall for just anyone so when we do we know there is a reason for such affections and will endure almost any and everything you throw at us. Doesn't mean we will take everything lying down, but we are slow to anger as well. So it would take a lot to piss us off... seriously. lol But we will get pissy and throw it back at you and after a while we will get over it and become our cool, calm, collected and earthy selves again.
I dunno if you and the Taurus guy are in a relationship or friendship but I'll tell you what once he decides he wants you...Pfff forget-about-it. The guy is gonna stick around and even if your unsure and only want friendship at the time he will accept it but always be waiting for the time you want more. When you do.... *sigh* get ready for it. That's all I gotta say. We can be a rock.
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the ppl who think that we are snobbish are the ppl we dont wanna associate with in the 1st place due to observed behavior. Those who get more than a 'hi', are those u have gone under the microscope and excelled, if not...whatever. Men have given me a hard time too for not being like a handbag to a woman- there all the time. Whatever again, u want an ever present presence, date your shadow or a fly- i just cant be in somebody's face all the time, inside my head is where its at. And that place is better than any company in the world for me...well most of the time anyway
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what i observed with other ppl, mainly sadge, libra and aries is that they get lonely to be with other ppl. Me on the other hand get lonely to be with me, im not a socialbutterfly at all. The more ppl there are, the lonelier i get. My social days (meeting up with friends) are far apart, my friends stay hours away maybe thats the reason- very fine with me, i like it that way. Just saying
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Posted by tbird
One last thing about Taurus (sun and moon) we KNOW what we want. We are slow movers esp when it come to relationships (likewise for aquas) so that's good. But once we get there we are stubborn and will wait... Oh boy we will wait,endure and fight for what we want, tooth and nail. We will travel the ends of the earth to get what we want and if/once we achieve it we will charish that sucker forever. Taurus don't fall for just anyone so when we do we know there is a reason for such affections and will endure almost any and everything you throw at us. Doesn't mean we will take everything lying down, but we are slow to anger as well. So it would take a lot to piss us off... seriously. lol But we will get pissy and throw it back at you and after a while we will get over it and become our cool, calm, collected and earthy selves again.
I dunno if you and the Taurus guy are in a relationship or friendship but I'll tell you what once he decides he wants you...Pfff forget-about-it. The guy is gonna stick around and even if your unsure and only want friendship at the time he will accept it but always be waiting for the time you want more. When you do.... *sigh* get ready for it. That's all I gotta say. We can be a rock.


this is so true. when i broke it off. he said fine and walked away. but yet when i saw his friends or if he saw mine, according to him we were still together. ugh! eventually he got the hint. but i was about to name him stalker number 2.
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Posted by WaterCup
what i observed with other ppl, mainly sadge, libra and aries is that they get lonely to be with other ppl. Me on the other hand get lonely to be with me, im not a socialbutterfly at all. The more ppl there are, the lonelier i get. My social days (meeting up with friends) are far apart, my friends stay hours away maybe thats the reason- very fine with me, i like it that way. Just saying


i love my own company too watercup. if i dont have my time, i get grouchy for sure.
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Posted by tbird
but to you seeing him once a month could be good enough.


I know you're just giving a scenario here but uh...if I were in a relationship with someone & our only interaction with one another was once a month, yeah...I'd have a problem with that because I would believe he wasn't really interested, and/or the relationship is not that important to him. Therefore I wouldn't be bothered. I understand people are busy but it takes a minute to text/call.
Now don't get me wrong, I'd be content with not seeing him for a month but only if we ARE having interaction with each other texting/calling a few times within the month, I'd be cool. Sounds weird but as long as we are communicating with each other, I'm straight.
Some people just have conventional ways of "how a relationship should be", being with them everyday = I love you. Nah, to me that = smothering, lol. Space is EXTREMELY healthy to me in a relationship, even if you're married. But there just has to be a happy medium. Don't be too aloof & don't be too clingy. smile
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Posted by tbird
but to you seeing him once a month could be good enough.


But there just has to be a happy medium. Don't be too aloof & don't be too clingy. smile
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lol we have a scale too.
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in a way chem i think we do have a scale too or at least i do, not a crazy one though (like that of u know who). For an example, i didnt find a relationship with another aqua fulfilling- too cold emotionally and those who were too hot, overwhelmed me emotionally. I think i have a mirror too, lol. If u dont call, i dont either. I even count text words, dont wanna out do them so to speak, lol.
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but if they send a long ass text, i hope they dont mind when i reply with shorty- i hate texting
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Posted by WaterCup
but if they send a long ass text, i hope they dont mind when i reply with shorty- i hate texting


me too to be honest. everyone always complains that mine are too short. but i thought that was the point of texting. say what you gotta say and send. oh well.
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Posted by WaterCup
in a way chem i think we do have a scale too or at least i do, not a crazy one though (like that of u know who). For an example, i didnt find a relationship with another aqua fulfilling- too cold emotionally and those who were too hot, overwhelmed me emotionally. I think i have a mirror too, lol. If u dont call, i dont either. I even count text words, dont wanna out do them so to speak, lol.


Hahaha...I mirror as well. After all I am mutable! Tongue lol @ count the text words.
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Posted by chemengin

And taurus...well i really have nothing to say about them. the one i dated always called to see where i was. if i wasnt with him then he thought i was with another man. I will never forget he tried to accused me of that while i was getting my eyebrows arched. all i could do is laugh.



One of my best friends is an Aqua and she broke up late last year with a Taurus, who continued to pick her up from her social engagements, call her to check up on her everytime she was out, and even offered to take her on vacation (they went to the Dominican in January). This was after she made him move out. In her mind, they are still friends. In his mind, well, let's just say when he came over unannounced to pick up his mail and her new male friend was there (because she's dating again), his head hit the roof. I have literally never seen such a possessive man. I actually really like the guy, but like even when they were together, he would call her four times everytime we were out together and ALWAYS come pick her up. When he continued doing that even after they broke up I was just like, "...wtf??"
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damn im surprised she didnt suffocate from all of that. i felt like the walls were closing in with him. it was too much. and that insecurity thing, always wanting to know where i was that was just too much.
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i agree about taurus ppl, had an ex like u described and my bff is one too. She has a cancer moon and ppl ALWAYS suspect us of being lovers (eww!) bcoz of her possessiveness. If i dont answer calls, she blows up my phone with texts or voicemails. When we fight and i ignore her, she sends love letter like texts, lol. Creepy, but i still love her, very good person if u ignore the psycho ways.
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As far as Taurus well they take a very long time to commit to someone. So I'm thinking he had fire or air in his chart to even sleep with you. Sun and moon Taurus don't do flings honestly. Taurus are dependable as all get out. Dude that's why the guy always picked up the aqua ex. Taurus moon/sun will go out there way to make sure you are taken care of and provided for...we even do this for friends.
Taurus take VERY long because once in a relationship we take it very seriously and very dependable and committed. We rarely give up on the relationship even when all the cards are screaming get out. We will stick it out. So that's why they take so long. They want to make sure that when the attached to the one...it's the right one. Cause when were in dude were in it for the long haul.
Taurus can be very possessive and jealous...I guess what balances that out is your sun/moon/venus/mars signs. If they are mutable they are more easily to contain. If they are fixed...for-get-about-it. Possessive and jealous is their bag. Now I am possessive over my material possession. People not so much. Do what you want and get outta of my face. I'm like real talk. If we talk a few times a month and see each other 1 or 2 times out of the month I'm golden. That's the mermaid in me that needs and craves freedom and space. I can't be smoothered. I'm not your PO so don't be mine. I don't care where you were at 2:00 on Sat afternoon. Now I do care if we have plans and your a no call/no show. That's irritating and rude.
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Oh yeah Leo moon. lol I know a couple of guys who have that. Yikes...they have a stockpile of condoms...they should invest stock in Trojan.
Well if you made quite an impact on the dude when he's ready to settle down he keeps a list *see below* of ALL the girls that hit his heart. So he might do some rounds and see where they are at in their lives. Just sayin'. smile NOT that I'm not saying you and your sag shouldn't be together at all. I know you love your Sag's Winking
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tbird, you're a taurus? I had no idea lol. For some reason, I thought you were a pisces.
My taurus bf has an aqua moon. It took a while for him to even fully commit to me, and of course, I just mirrored him. He's actually one of the biggest sweethearts you could meet, but you really have to crack him down to see that side. He has this assholish/quirky humor that he projects; which often reminds me of a lot of aquarians. I'm actually pretty close to aquarius people. He is incredibly loyal and honest to a fault, but a free spirit all the same. He's an airhead and a very grounded man all in one.
So yeah, the other placements in the chart can really make or break the taurus, or people in general. I have no air in my major placements, so the air he does have kind of balances out with me. He's the extrovert, I'm the introvert (but also an extrovert). But I usually kick him into gear lol.
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Oh no I'm a mermaid dear but I have a taurus moon, venus, 11th house, chiron, ceres, vesta. Loads of taurus. So I switch between the two a lot. smile
When I first got into astrology I didn't align completely with pisces and I read up on my placements and the reason why is largly because of the taurus, but I'm not completely a taurus cause I'm mutable. Sounds strange I know. lol
My love of science and research comes from my taurus and virgo, not from my mermaid and I love me so science.
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Speaking of Taurus. My bestie is one.. She lives by a schedule everything has to be done by a certain date and a certain time. She is so funny because she is really deep with it. She like long lasting relationships too. She is kinda clingy as a friend but a very good-hearted and true friend.
But, the men I just can't get with them.. I don't understand them. Intellectually I find them interesting and I can hold an intense conversations with them for hours which draws me in.
Then out of no where comes: I need to see you at least 3x a week.. Why haven't you called me?, Your aloof.. I even was told I act like I give a f*ck when I really don't...What?!!! One asked me what did I want from him? All of this before sex!!! They seem to be snappy with me..

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Lol those bulls (yeah the 'men') are so full of bull, their name suits them
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One asked me what did I want from him? All of this before sex!!!
I'm sorry but that sentence right there made my gigglesnort. Me being a smart arse my reply would of been something stupid like, chocolate of course! What else could it be? Your body? You know sex has to be initated for that, right?!
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After that I was to afraid to give him some he may turn into a bugaboo!!
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99% of people always claim to be misunderstood. its human nature to try to understand one another and obviously not everyones going to be right in their assessment. we shouldn't even make it an issue. it should considered the norm by now.
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Posted by tbird
One asked me what did I want from him? All of this before sex!!!
I'm sorry but that sentence right there made my gigglesnort. Me being a smart arse my reply would of been something stupid like, chocolate of course! What else could it be? Your body? You know sex has to be initated for that, right?!



LOL ha ha
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Aww... well at least sags understand you mysterious creatures...or at least I mesh well with them
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