Was it too soon with this Aquarius man?

I'm a pisces. I met this aquarius, and after some time of chatting and everything, we met up and ended up doing more things than just watching a movie.
Before that, he had been texting me and everything, acting very interested in me, I was so happy. Afterwards, it seems as if he's slowly backing off..and I'm slightly worried because I'm not that "hook-up" type of person. I asked him if he was still interested in me as he was before, and he said "of course I am!"
So, that made me feel slightly better but we're still not talking like before.
I really like him, but I'm just not sure if he is the type to hook-up with girls all the time...it was my first time, too, so I'm really hoping that this isn't something that would just be one night; I want a relationship..but I don't know how to go about pulling him into one.

We have a LOT in common, and when we talk, I'll usually say something and he'll look at me with wide eyes and say that that was just what he was about to say/ask..and vice versa.

I was hoping you all would be able to share some of your insight with me🙂
i'm really worrying myself out about this.

And the other thing I was worried about, that I know Aquariuses love their space and freedom. I'm the type that loves to be with the person practically always, so I'm trying to work with myself to give him enough space so I won't be crowding over him.

Eee! But I want this to work so bad. I need help🙂

That's true..thanks🙂
i don't know...haha i always seem to pick the wrong guys. I was with a leo for a year. I was really into him, but he was a very dominating person, and it didn't work out so well...I was set to lose it to him and everything because I expected us to be together for a very long time, and I loved him. But yeah..it ended, and I had really wanted to lose my virginity, and when this Aquarius came along.. Everything moved kind of fast and before I knew it, yep..

Ah! As much as I know you're right, I still want to make it work 😢

oooh, well this will be a slightly harder journey. I agree with furryleo, you shouldnt have to alter yourself. It will only bring about resentment.


Did he know you were a virgin prior to the hookup?

Aqua and pisces are a decent match.

Yeah, I guess I should step back and see what he does..
See, the problem is that I always attract leos. Lol, my past 3 boyfriends were all leos. I'm not quite sure why, but yeah...what is a better match for a pisces?

I always feel like I have to change myself to make things work, but you guys are right, it doesn't work when you do that.
Well, right before the hookup, I wasn't quite sure what he wanted..we were just kissing and I remember that I was trying to figure out if that's all he wanted to do until he got a little more physical. Heh, but I had told him right before we did that I was a virgin, and he paused and said, "Oh..well, do you still want to do this?" and I said yes, so yup..

Really? One of my best friends is an Aquarius, but aside from him, this guy is the only Aquarius I've really known. So I'm not really sure about them..all I know is how my best friend acts, lol.

Hmm....well, I've always been trying to find my place with people..It kind of began with that I used to be that quiet kid who never talked, and I was sick of people calling me shy, because I wasn't really shy. I just enjoyed being alone, and quiet. But I wanted to be someone who could have fun and people would love to hang around...I guess I've changed in that way and I guess I've put that into my relationships too...I never really thought about that. It's kind of funny because before I didn't really mind being alone, and now I'm kind of afraid to be.

Do you think maybe that's why I've been a magnet to the wrong people ?

But it's weird, because I was with a pisces once. It didn't really work out at all. I thought that was strange...I like to be romantic but it turns me off when the guy is all romantic-like and clingy 😕. It was a more confusing relationship, too.

Maybe I should just back off of relationships for about 20 years :S

Ohhh, okay. Wow, thanks so much🙂
Haha, I understand a lot more now. Now I gotta get out of that ditch of grabbing those types of guys.
Man, I'm glad I came to this site 🙂 lol.

Heeh I'm turning 17 soon.

Had he known a lot earlier about it he either would have
A: Tried to cultivate something with you

B: left you alone (some guys wont mess with virgins, b/c of the whole clingy/in love stereotype women get after their first time)

In the heat of the moment I think all he was thinking about was getting some and as long as you gave the green light he had the okay to go ahead. BUT now that he's stepped back from the situation and is probably analyzing and factoring in that he was your first he may be thinking that he put himself into a situation he isnt ready for (clingy deflowered woman stereotype).

I always say the communication between pisces and aqua is rather poor. So you really have to make an effort to speak with him on how you view him and yourself, etc.

Is your aqua best friend a guy or gal? We are pretty good with friendship, but with matters of the heart thats a whole other story. How does your friend act or respond to relationships, etc?

Well you both are young so this could go either way for you; either a relationship or just a bump in the road and/or both.

Life is a learning experience. Learn from it either way it goes.

Alright, yay, lol I'm glad to hear that. And that is very true...I'm going to try to not make everything a huge deal. Actually, I will not make everything a huge deal at this age anymore. Lol, 🙂 From now on I'm going to have them do the chasing, hehe.

&Yeah, thinking about it, that's right. I probably had told him earlier, lol but it took me so long to figure out what he had on his mind until the actual moment.
I'll keep that in mind, I remember on the car ride afterwards we were both quiet..or should I say I was quiet and he kept looking at me, so I asked what was wrong, and he said he just wasn't sure what I was thinking.
I'll remember that: Communication!

My best friend is a guy, lol from all the stories he's told me, he just mainly hooks up. That's what started me getting worried in the first place, because I recalled how he never really has a relationship.
But he is an amazing friend.

Yeah, I definately will be learning from this🙂

Thank you both a bunch! I appreciate it(:

Whoops, I meant to say "I probably *should* have told him earlier"

You set the boundaries; its your life and your body. Guys will pretty much do as you say at this age.😉

I think you should make everything a big deal. You should be a big deal; your feelings should be a big deal AND especially your body should be a big deal.

Self confidence goes a long way in this world and a guy will only treat you the way YOU let him🙂

lol, I feel like Im in some form of Lifetime movie.


But seriously, I think more young woman should be able to receive this type of advise and give it to their peers.

Welcome to DXP 🙂

Lol, you guys are so great. That's awesome advice. I'm going to start thinking that way from now on🙂

Thanks for the welcome, too! 😄