what does it mean when an aqua ex wants to stay friends?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by dari1993 on Wednesday, June 21, 2017 and has 15 replies.
I was in an on and off relationship with an aqua for 4 years... I'm a scorpio woman and we are literally a match made in hell. When we were together, he told me we should get married once we are settled with our lives and careers.... that was 2 years ago and we broke up 1.5 years ago. we kept in contact and acted like we were together without a label until 3 weeks ago when he said he doesn't wanna be with me anymore.. i was shocked and confused. he said I'm too demanding, manipulative, controlling, emotional (typical scorpio). but he said he wants to be friends and his words were "we can still be friends. i want to be there for you- i know how things are with your situation.we just can't be together. i think we can still have a good friendship with no expectations and respect" what does he mean by this?? i recently learned aquarius men want a friendship first and they take their time to get to know potential partners. i was just always focused on being official with him, always talked to him about "what are we," barely gave him space thus never really built friendship with him first... i want him back sooooo badly and now i am more knowledgable of his needs. a week ago he told me i shouldn't bet so hung up on him, i should focus on getting my CPA and my career first cause that way it will be easier for a relationship... but then he also told me i should move on cause he doesn't want to hurt me anymore and he doesn't want me waiting for him because that will only cause resentment. I am willing to accept his friendship, but I want to know if I'm already out of the question for him. he doesn't see me as the one anymore and really just wants to be friends?? or is this my second chance to rebuild our relationship?
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On and off relationships aren't emotionally healthy and don't work out. You're just hanging on here to one half a banana, if even that. You should read the "fall back girl and mister unavailable" to give you insights into what you're doing here and how you are disempowering yourself by hanging on to a man whose never gonna commit. The moral here - it doesn't matter how you feel - you're needs aren't and won't get met - cut bait and swim. You'll never find real love by hanging on to this.
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Posted by bittercupcake
...it sounds like hes tired of your games...Aquarius dont like to be emotionally toyed with...


what is it exactly that you did..?
i think that's the case... the whole time i guess i was just demanding and too obsessive about getting back with him.. i would always have "the talk" with about what we are. id get mad when he doesn't reply to my texts, id throw a fit if he doesnt want to hang out longer than i want.... but it kinda sounded like he wants to re-start our relationship as friends and see how things go?
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Posted by DiamondAce
It's over. He's trying to let you go lightly by saying you need to focus on your career. Yes, he'll be your friend but that doesn't mean he wants a relationship as he has stated. You also mentioned that this is a match made in hell. Why would you want a relationship like that?
I'm okay with being friends as well and not being in a relationship because i think i need a lot of growing up and maturing to do first. but is it really over between us? he would never consider me again as a potential partner?
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yes i am 23. and yes i realized that i have a lot of growing up and maturing to do. I don't like my manipulative and too emotional qualities and those are some things i need to work on. i know i don't want to be in a relationship right now either, I'm just not mature enough for it... especially with him.. but i see him in my future and i wonder if he feels the same way for me
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pretty much over imo.


just be friends with him and see where it goes.
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Posted by dari1993
Posted by bittercupcake
...it sounds like hes tired of your games...Aquarius dont like to be emotionally toyed with...


what is it exactly that you did..?
i think that's the case... the whole time i guess i was just demanding and too obsessive about getting back with him.. i would always have "the talk" with about what we are. id get mad when he doesn't reply to my texts, id throw a fit if he doesnt want to hang out longer than i want.... but it kinda sounded like he wants to re-start our relationship as friends and see how things go?
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.. I'm sorry but I think the friends thing means it's over for them.... this is my opinion.. you sound too much for him n there's nothing healthy about that relationships. Why do u want it? friends first for Aqua... friends n lovers all at one.. I am an airy Taurus n this is exactly what I need in my partner. If he starts to show any sign of possessive in a strong way I will b out the door within seconds.... ask aerial view though he has Scorpio wife hehe he can handle the emotion coz of his Pisces placements I thin.'
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Posted by saweetz1988
Posted by dari1993
Posted by bittercupcake
...it sounds like hes tired of your games...Aquarius dont like to be emotionally toyed with...


what is it exactly that you did..?
i think that's the case... the whole time i guess i was just demanding and too obsessive about getting back with him.. i would always have "the talk" with about what we are. id get mad when he doesn't reply to my texts, id throw a fit if he doesnt want to hang out longer than i want.... but it kinda sounded like he wants to re-start our relationship as friends and see how things go?
.. I'm sorry but I think the friends thing means it's over for them.... this is my opinion.. you sound too much for him n there's nothing healthy about that relationships. Why do u want it? friends first for Aqua... friends n lovers all at one.. I am an airy Taurus n this is exactly what I need in my partner. If he starts to show any sign of possessive in a strong way I will b out the door within seconds.... ask aerial view though he has Scorpio wife hehe he can handle the emotion coz of his Pisces placements I thin.'
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yep free counseling with me lol
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sooo what should i do? accept his friendship and see where things go while I'm working on myself or just cut him off and move on?
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Posted by AerialView
Posted by saweetz1988
Posted by dari1993
Posted by bittercupcake
...it sounds like hes tired of your games...Aquarius dont like to be emotionally toyed with...


what is it exactly that you did..?
i think that's the case... the whole time i guess i was just demanding and too obsessive about getting back with him.. i would always have "the talk" with about what we are. id get mad when he doesn't reply to my texts, id throw a fit if he doesnt want to hang out longer than i want.... but it kinda sounded like he wants to re-start our relationship as friends and see how things go?
.. I'm sorry but I think the friends thing means it's over for them.... this is my opinion.. you sound too much for him n there's nothing healthy about that relationships. Why do u want it? friends first for Aqua... friends n lovers all at one.. I am an airy Taurus n this is exactly what I need in my partner. If he starts to show any sign of possessive in a strong way I will b out the door within seconds.... ask aerial view though he has Scorpio wife hehe he can handle the emotion coz of his Pisces placements I thin.'
yep free counseling with me lol
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IMAo. hey for now no more counselling for me. It's the special party tomorrow I'm super excited lol

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Posted by dari1993
sooo what should i do? accept his friendship and see where things go while I'm working on myself or just cut him off and move on?
Whatever is healthier for u. I wud say. I would love to b friends but not right now coz I still have feelings for u. I don't think Scorpio like being friends with their exs lol. I had a few Scorpio who blocked me after I didn't talk to him for a week. They do that sort of bullcrap ... >< no offence but that's why I can never date a Scorpio... they r too intense for me....
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Posted by dari1993
sooo what should i do? accept his friendship and see where things go while I'm working on myself or just cut him off and move on?
yes be friends but don't wait for him. no need to cut off.
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Posted by saweetz1988
Posted by dari1993
sooo what should i do? accept his friendship and see where things go while I'm working on myself or just cut him off and move on?
Whatever is healthier for u. I wud say. I would love to b friends but not right now coz I still have feelings for u. I don't think Scorpio like being friends with their exs lol. I had a few Scorpio who blocked me after I didn't talk to him for a week. They do that sort of bullcrap ... >< no offence but that's why I can never date a Scorpio... they r too intense for me....
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you don't need me anymore Sad


hehe jk
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Posted by AerialView
Posted by saweetz1988
Posted by dari1993
sooo what should i do? accept his friendship and see where things go while I'm working on myself or just cut him off and move on?
Whatever is healthier for u. I wud say. I would love to b friends but not right now coz I still have feelings for u. I don't think Scorpio like being friends with their exs lol. I had a few Scorpio who blocked me after I didn't talk to him for a week. They do that sort of bullcrap ... >< no offence but that's why I can never date a Scorpio... they r too intense for me....
you don't need me anymore Sad


hehe jk
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IMAo! I can share some crazy experiences if u r interested. Stay tune! ( big eyes with love hearts) LoL
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Friendship where romantic feelings still linger are not good for the non-Aqua. It will block you from moving on and finding new love. He has detached from you. Even if you were in a relationship, you could have worked in building trust in each other, rather than being manipulative with him. This didn't happen, he eventually grew tired and stepped back. He has offered you his friendship because he cares about you, but he no longer sees you as a long term partner.
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