What I've noticed
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by copperhead on Tuesday, June 21, 2011 and has 6 replies.
I've been dating an Aqua for a good few months now, and things are really good. As we've been getting to know each other I've noticed a few things that really stand out for me about this particular Aqua and I was wondering if these are 'normal' Aqua traits.
He can't accept a compliment - now I don't give compliments out all the time, but if he does something, or looks super-hot etc etc, I'll tell him. But it seems like he just cannot accept it. The Aqua says he's not used to it as previous gf's have not done this and that I should bear with him. If I do give him compliments, he straight away laughs it off or starts up some banter about me being all soppy and loved up. He has also said that he thinks if I compliment him, I expect one back. I don't and I've told him so.
Banter - this man is the king of banter. I swear, if people listen in to our conversations, they must think we hate each other! It's a constant battle, but I really like it and he does too. But there have been times he's asked that the banter stops as I think he starts to believe that I don't like him ha ha!!
The unexpected soppiness - this has happened a few times. Out of nowhere, he'll tell me I'm amazing and beautiful and that he's so lucky and that I'm his favourite person. I really, really love this.
1000+ thoughts a minute - when this Aqua starts to think of a new project he wants to do, he is a motor mouth
on these occasions, he doesn't text but rings instead as he has too much to say.
Defenses, Defenses - he's scared of getting hurt again, he's said it a good few times to me. Perhaps this explains the first three points!!
Friends - for a man who is so interested in the human condition and in learning about people, he has surprisingly few friends and hardly ever sees them. He says he doesn't have the energy to invest properly in most people (I can relate to that). So by him spending so much time with me, I must have made a good impression.
Space - I cannot begin to explain how much I appreciate the fact that he is happy for me to have space away from him and that he is not constantly texting or ringing me. I know if I need him he'll be there and vice versa. I do not need an hourly text from him to tell me nothing (I have had this more than a few times and it's really annoying).
He can't accept a compliment - now I don't give compliments out all the time, but if he does something, or looks super-hot etc etc, I'll tell him. But it seems like he just cannot accept it. The Aqua says he's not used to it as previous gf's have not done this and that I should bear with him. If I do give him compliments, he straight away laughs it off or starts up some banter about me being all soppy and loved up. He has also said that he thinks if I compliment him, I expect one back. I don't and I've told him so.
Banter - this man is the king of banter. I swear, if people listen in to our conversations, they must think we hate each other! It's a constant battle, but I really like it and he does too. But there have been times he's asked that the banter stops as I think he starts to believe that I don't like him ha ha!!
The unexpected soppiness - this has happened a few times. Out of nowhere, he'll tell me I'm amazing and beautiful and that he's so lucky and that I'm his favourite person. I really, really love this.
1000+ thoughts a minute - when this Aqua starts to think of a new project he wants to do, he is a motor mouth
on these occasions, he doesn't text but rings instead as he has too much to say. Defenses, Defenses - he's scared of getting hurt again, he's said it a good few times to me. Perhaps this explains the first three points!!
Friends - for a man who is so interested in the human condition and in learning about people, he has surprisingly few friends and hardly ever sees them. He says he doesn't have the energy to invest properly in most people (I can relate to that). So by him spending so much time with me, I must have made a good impression.
Space - I cannot begin to explain how much I appreciate the fact that he is happy for me to have space away from him and that he is not constantly texting or ringing me. I know if I need him he'll be there and vice versa. I do not need an hourly text from him to tell me nothing (I have had this more than a few times and it's really annoying).
Adventure - I have been waiting for a long time to meet someone who wants to see and do more and learn more about everything (my Sag/Gem placements give me this). He is so much fun to be with. But my Taurean side has helped him appreciate the importance of also doing nothing for a day/evening occasionally and that this is also necessary.
Sexy time - it's awesome! It can be super intense one time and really fun and silly another time. He is super, super hot, so this helps
He is a constant source of fascination for me.
Sexy time - it's awesome! It can be super intense one time and really fun and silly another time. He is super, super hot, so this helps
He is a constant source of fascination for me.
Awww, reading this just reminded me of my own Aqua.
So you want to know if these are "normal" traits. Well, I can't say if they are, but my Aqua shares just about all of them!
Compliments- my guy likes to play the narcissist, haha. When I compliment him he smiles, and that lets me know he has 'accepted' it. I think that has more to do with his past gfs never complimenting him, like he said.
Banter- Hmm, my guy doesn't do this so much. We can make fun of each other and laugh, but it doesn't sound like nearly as often as you two do it. But it sounds like it's all in good fun and like you enjoy yourselves.
Unexpected soppiness- Yup. Embrace it
I also love it
1000+ thoughts a minute- YUP. Also when he is recounting a story to me, he has to ring, can't text. Too many words! I think it's endearing and I love it
Defenses, defenses- OH YES. Maybe not so much as getting hurt "again" but just getting hurt to begin with. My guy has told me that he will always find a way to blame someone else in an argument. It's his defense mechanism.
Friends- Maybe yes. I heard that Aquas are people persons. Mine does enjoy time with his friends...so...maaaaybe this is a little "unusual" for an Aqua...to hardly see his friends.
Space- Yes. Sometimes he gives me too much space and I end up bugging him too much! But yeah, the space is appreciated
He sounds like a good guy. He also sounds pretty "normal aqua" too. Hope that's a good thing in your opinion
So you want to know if these are "normal" traits. Well, I can't say if they are, but my Aqua shares just about all of them!
Compliments- my guy likes to play the narcissist, haha. When I compliment him he smiles, and that lets me know he has 'accepted' it. I think that has more to do with his past gfs never complimenting him, like he said.
Banter- Hmm, my guy doesn't do this so much. We can make fun of each other and laugh, but it doesn't sound like nearly as often as you two do it. But it sounds like it's all in good fun and like you enjoy yourselves.
Unexpected soppiness- Yup. Embrace it
I also love it1000+ thoughts a minute- YUP. Also when he is recounting a story to me, he has to ring, can't text. Too many words! I think it's endearing and I love it
Defenses, defenses- OH YES. Maybe not so much as getting hurt "again" but just getting hurt to begin with. My guy has told me that he will always find a way to blame someone else in an argument. It's his defense mechanism.
Friends- Maybe yes. I heard that Aquas are people persons. Mine does enjoy time with his friends...so...maaaaybe this is a little "unusual" for an Aqua...to hardly see his friends.
Space- Yes. Sometimes he gives me too much space and I end up bugging him too much! But yeah, the space is appreciated
He sounds like a good guy. He also sounds pretty "normal aqua" too. Hope that's a good thing in your opinion
Aqua guy here...YES,it's normal.
hahahhaahahahahaha........okay, I'm an Aqua female. it's like reading my biography.
compliments - we have low self-esteem. I know it may not seem like it but we do. part of it may be tied to the fact that we don't have an overblown ego [or try to not have an overblown ego]. everyone around us in this world is focused on themselves [yes it only seems like that on the surface and when you go deeper, there are a lot of people who are interested in other things], it's not attractive and we don't want to be like that. and we are focused on higher goals most of the time. compliments blind-side us more or less as well, even in the rare moments where we are actively trying to look good
banter - I still tease my boyfriend about his tiny girl wrists that look like they would break with just a flick. we've been together three years [he's a libra]. it's fun! really, one of the best ways to have fun in life is to playfully and jokingly tease the person you're in a relationship with. my boyfriend does it to me too, I absolutely love it. it's one of the best parts of our relationship. nearly everything else in life feels so serious to me, why should my relationship NOT have banter in it? there's no point of being in a relationship if you're unable to have that. it makes me laugh and it also makes me fall deeper in love with him.
unexpected soppiness - my boyfriend has told me a lot of times that I do this too. we are simply expressing our love for you. I express love to my friends, I express love to my boyfriend. obviously in certain aspects there is a different kind of love but nonetheless, there is boundless love in my heart for my friends and for my boyfriend. for my boyfriend it goes further because he has stuck with me through a lot of hard times, he accepts me for who I am, he makes me laugh, he sincerely loves me for who I am and not just what I look like or whatever......as for the unexpectedness, our minds are all over the place all the time
1000 thoughts - HAH! see above. we just honestly don't know how to reel it in. we can stop talking but we don't have the off switch for our minds. SO MANY TIMES I've rambled to my boyfriend endlessly [and about things that are very important or incredibly unimportant].....which is another reason for the unexpected soppiness. I can't really speak for other aquas, but I do know how annoying I can get! anyone who is willing to put up with it is special, in my eyes
compliments - we have low self-esteem. I know it may not seem like it but we do. part of it may be tied to the fact that we don't have an overblown ego [or try to not have an overblown ego]. everyone around us in this world is focused on themselves [yes it only seems like that on the surface and when you go deeper, there are a lot of people who are interested in other things], it's not attractive and we don't want to be like that. and we are focused on higher goals most of the time. compliments blind-side us more or less as well, even in the rare moments where we are actively trying to look good
banter - I still tease my boyfriend about his tiny girl wrists that look like they would break with just a flick. we've been together three years [he's a libra]. it's fun! really, one of the best ways to have fun in life is to playfully and jokingly tease the person you're in a relationship with. my boyfriend does it to me too, I absolutely love it. it's one of the best parts of our relationship. nearly everything else in life feels so serious to me, why should my relationship NOT have banter in it? there's no point of being in a relationship if you're unable to have that. it makes me laugh and it also makes me fall deeper in love with him.
unexpected soppiness - my boyfriend has told me a lot of times that I do this too. we are simply expressing our love for you. I express love to my friends, I express love to my boyfriend. obviously in certain aspects there is a different kind of love but nonetheless, there is boundless love in my heart for my friends and for my boyfriend. for my boyfriend it goes further because he has stuck with me through a lot of hard times, he accepts me for who I am, he makes me laugh, he sincerely loves me for who I am and not just what I look like or whatever......as for the unexpectedness, our minds are all over the place all the time
1000 thoughts - HAH! see above. we just honestly don't know how to reel it in. we can stop talking but we don't have the off switch for our minds. SO MANY TIMES I've rambled to my boyfriend endlessly [and about things that are very important or incredibly unimportant].....which is another reason for the unexpected soppiness. I can't really speak for other aquas, but I do know how annoying I can get! anyone who is willing to put up with it is special, in my eyes
Defenses - yeah, you pretty much have it....I read something that said Aquarius has a purity of love...we feel so incredibly fragile at our core. if someone breaks our defenses, gets to who we are, makes us fall in love, then cheat and leave, or just simply leave...........you don't want to be around a broken-hearted Aquarius. I will always remember what my life was like and how I felt after my heart was so painfully broken for the first time by someone who lied constantly to me and cheated. I laid the world to waste. Which wasn't easy to deal with considering I was in university [I'll never understand how I managed to get it together enough to graduate and get my Bachelor's degree] at the time! well..I suppose it's never easy to deal with yourself if you're laying the world to waste, hah
Friends - you described it pretty well.........I do want friends but it does take a lot of energy because so many people can be dumb or petty or shallow or trouble and it gets really incredibly frustrating at times! but at our core we do love our friends....so, that love and frustration can be hard to deal with in our minds if they are together
copperhead - what is your sun?
Friends - you described it pretty well.........I do want friends but it does take a lot of energy because so many people can be dumb or petty or shallow or trouble and it gets really incredibly frustrating at times! but at our core we do love our friends....so, that love and frustration can be hard to deal with in our minds if they are together
copperhead - what is your sun?
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