Why act this way when you like someone?
This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Moonalisa13 on Tuesday, September 17, 2013 and has 4 replies.
I found out from a friend recently that my Aqua likes me more than a friend. At first I didn't believe it because of how he acted towards me.
We were hanging out as usual just the 2 of us a couple weeks ago while we're chatting, out of the blue he described the kind of girl he fancies (unfortunately i don't suit his description, looks wise) well I secretly liked him too and felt rejected by his comment and backed off after that as in talk to him less and continue with my hobbies and activities.
He then told my best friend that he likes me more than a friend....for real??
but Im obviously not his type....he told me....but why tell my friend otherwise but not to me?
We were hanging out as usual just the 2 of us a couple weeks ago while we're chatting, out of the blue he described the kind of girl he fancies (unfortunately i don't suit his description, looks wise) well I secretly liked him too and felt rejected by his comment and backed off after that as in talk to him less and continue with my hobbies and activities.
He then told my best friend that he likes me more than a friend....for real??
but Im obviously not his type....he told me....but why tell my friend otherwise but not to me?
I think we all have a 'type' in our heads and how we describe it usually doesn't match how others see it. Perhaps he was describing you and being genuine and you just fail to see it in yourself.
Ask him next time you see him. What's better than getting the information directly from the source.
Ask him next time you see him. What's better than getting the information directly from the source.
Hate to break it to ya honey, but most men don't actually end up with OR have the looks themselves for their dream girl
Everybody has a specific "type." That doesn't mean that everybody only seeks & likes only that type
Plenty of people go outside of the box & their comfort zone & end up with someone they least expected
And that's a GOOD thing! A person that can't ever go outside of their "type" is a close-minded individual & that would be bad news for you, even if you were his original type.
It's good that he knows that just b/c a woman isn't his dream girl doesn't mean she can't make up for it in other ways. Again, that's a GOOD thing!
And maybe he was just telling you his "type" on purpose to see if you'd respond & tell him you're "type" so he could see if you'd describe someone like him when you answered the question yourself.
Just b/c someone doesn't jump & tell you they like you the very second they realize they like you doesn't mean anything bad
If a person waits a year or forever to tell you, ok, that's probably not genuine. But if it hasn't been that long, don't judge him for it
People, all of the time, go tell their friends how much of a crush they've got on somebody long before they tell their crush that. Girls do that stuff all the time!
Maybe he wants to feel you out a little bit more and/or see if the interest is mutual before he makes his 1st move. And if you've been brushing him off & acting like you're not interested all b/c you took his comment personal (which he probably doesn't know is the reason you're being standoffish) then you're def. NOT helping him feel comfortable professing his attraction to you
Everybody has a specific "type." That doesn't mean that everybody only seeks & likes only that type
Plenty of people go outside of the box & their comfort zone & end up with someone they least expected
And that's a GOOD thing! A person that can't ever go outside of their "type" is a close-minded individual & that would be bad news for you, even if you were his original type.
It's good that he knows that just b/c a woman isn't his dream girl doesn't mean she can't make up for it in other ways. Again, that's a GOOD thing!
And maybe he was just telling you his "type" on purpose to see if you'd respond & tell him you're "type" so he could see if you'd describe someone like him when you answered the question yourself.
Just b/c someone doesn't jump & tell you they like you the very second they realize they like you doesn't mean anything bad
If a person waits a year or forever to tell you, ok, that's probably not genuine. But if it hasn't been that long, don't judge him for it
People, all of the time, go tell their friends how much of a crush they've got on somebody long before they tell their crush that. Girls do that stuff all the time!
Maybe he wants to feel you out a little bit more and/or see if the interest is mutual before he makes his 1st move. And if you've been brushing him off & acting like you're not interested all b/c you took his comment personal (which he probably doesn't know is the reason you're being standoffish) then you're def. NOT helping him feel comfortable professing his attraction to you
Posted by krysrenee7
Hate to break it to ya honey, but most men don't actually end up with OR have the looks themselves for their dream girl
Everybody has a specific "type." That doesn't mean that everybody only seeks & likes only that type
Plenty of people go outside of the box & their comfort zone & end up with someone they least expected
And that's a GOOD thing! A person that can't ever go outside of their "type" is a close-minded individual & that would be bad news for you, even if you were his original type.
It's good that he knows that just b/c a woman isn't his dream girl doesn't mean she can't make up for it in other ways. Again, that's a GOOD thing!
And maybe he was just telling you his "type" on purpose to see if you'd respond & tell him you're "type" so he could see if you'd describe someone like him when you answered the question yourself.
Just b/c someone doesn't jump & tell you they like you the very second they realize they like you doesn't mean anything bad
If a person waits a year or forever to tell you, ok, that's probably not genuine. But if it hasn't been that long, don't judge him for it
People, all of the time, go tell their friends how much of a crush they've got on somebody long before they tell their crush that. Girls do that stuff all the time!
Maybe he wants to feel you out a little bit more and/or see if the interest is mutual before he makes his 1st move. And if you've been brushing him off & acting like you're not interested all b/c you took his comment personal (which he probably doesn't know is the reason you're being standoffish) then you're def. NOT helping him feel comfortable professing his attraction to you
Yes thats what im doing taking his remarks about the type of girl he fancies personally. I did not ignore him completely just back off a little and is a little less flirty and friend compared to before.
according to my friend he was hoping That i would show my "interest" i did subtly but the. the remarks about other girls so yes im hurt because i felt rejected
hearing about his "interest" he had on me made me confuse what shall I do? if I show my feelings he would reject it, if i dont he thinks im not interested.
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