Why are Aqua men so addictive?!!

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Zetarose on Wednesday, April 22, 2015 and has 54 replies.
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Ok it's been 8 months now I still can't stop thinking about him! It's like when we were together it felt natural and real; and I thought we were like spulmatees or something cheesy like that , and I know he did too cuz he couldn't believe it and he said he loved me first the first couple weeks we were physically together. Before that it was a LDR; sexting, semi emotionally thing. After the two or three weeks I came back home and we continued a real LDR commuted one; then it got ugly with my obsessive virgo over analytical emotional traits and I guess he just couldn't take it. But I can't seem to shake him. I won't contact him anymore cuz that gets me nowhere but more hurt and confused about why he gave up on us. He doesn't even wanna go there. But why can't I get over it!!!!??? Maybe just the fact I didn't get closure? Idk.. It's just seems like I'm never gonna get past him...Sad
He also acts like it never even happened like it was nothing to him. And I meant nothing special and still am nothing special to him! How can someone you shared a deep connection with just act like you are no one!??! I don't get it
Ok.. Thx..
Zeta rose
Sometimes people are looking for specific traits. Even though many other aspects exist in the relationship if one thing is off, they feel like they can't see past that one thing. It sucks but if that person doesn't have the ability to compromise and take the good with the bad, maybe you are better off. It sucks. I know. But you have to see attachments are temporary. Be happy with yourself and look for ways to continuously improve if you feel you could've done better this last go 'round.
Thank you @ kaqual75! I totally hear Ya.. You are 100% right
I like and appreciate helpful replies like ?
I did let him go.. Obv we aren't together; I don't bother him or contact him. It's my issue I deal with- Ya I think about him and still am healing from our b/u. But damn you rly don't have to be so rude
And I wasn t clingy! We were LDR he worked most the day and I never texts him or called unless he did. And in the evening I had my family here so I was busy
I think my emotions scared him off. I'm intense in relationships esp if it's LDR I need that reassurance so I'm gonna say it was that more than clingy cuz that wasn't even possible really
Isn't even funny
Posted by flowingwater
Posted by Huldra
Just by reading your posts I can see exactly why he dumped you smh.



This exactly. Lol
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I'm logical too but know when someone is hurting to back off a bit.. But whatevs I guess all aquas harbor that same don't give a shit attitude not my cup o tea if Ya ask me.. So I will respect "your" board and stop "bombarding" all you aquas with my crazy antics... Just trying to get some insight here! Okbye
It really sux on forums when your trying to get insight about a topic or situation in your life that's important and there's always certain people that have to make it hard on people! I am not asking for any sugar coat just to be respectable as humans should be to one another ... Jeezus
lol dont listen to him hes just being nasty
but your aqua has moved on nothing u can do... the worst thing u can do now is act clingy
hell come back by himself if he thinks u guys could work again
it was something he prob didnt like about you that made him run away btw
Thank you @aquaguy3000, Ya I know he's moved on. I'm just still trying to understand it all and process jf, he meant a lot to me. Still does. But I do not contact him anymore. I will not let myself
Posted by aquaguy3000
lol dont listen to him hes just being nasty
but your aqua has moved on nothing u can do... the worst thing u can do now is act clingy
hell come back by himself if he thinks u guys could work again

Posted by Zetarose
Ok it's been 8 months now I still can't stop thinking about him! It's like when we were together it felt natural and real; and I thought we were like spulmatees or something cheesy like that , and I know he did too cuz he couldn't believe it and he said he loved me first the first couple weeks we were physically together. Before that it was a LDR; sexting, semi emotionally thing. After the two or three weeks I came back home and we continued a real LDR commuted one; then it got ugly with my obsessive virgo over analytical emotional traits and I guess he just couldn't take it. But I can't seem to shake him. I won't contact him anymore cuz that gets me nowhere but more hurt and confused about why he gave up on us. He doesn't even wanna go there. But why can't I get over it!!!!??? Maybe just the fact I didn't get closure? Idk.. It's just seems like I'm never gonna get past him...Sad

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hmmm what are your placements and his??

you said yourself that it got ugly with your obsessiveness.
how exactly did it get ugly??

If a guy really liked you, and wants to be with you, he won't care about your obsessiveness.
Unfortunately if he hasn't contacted you, it's time to just say goodbye.
this isn't sign specific, but it depends on your aqua man's placements.

if he has an aquarius venus, i'd imagine he is very detached and has a detached long distance kind of love.
I know my mother in law has that venus and she has been single FOREVER!!! damn!!!
but we loves her. And she seems to love her independence. *shrug* she also has Jupiter in aquarius.
my sister has aquarius venus, (mind you im talking only about the women), but she has alot of water and that taurus moon.
so she wants to COMMIT!! and commit she finally did. I dont think she ever was single ever cause she Always got LOTS of suitors.
also my sag sister had LOTS of suitors. She had "down" and "depressed" moments but maybe that's her Scorpio venus.
what's your venus, mercury, moon ect. and his?
yeah thats fine youre just processing it all...
we dont know why he decided it was over for u guys... we cant assume u were clingy becuz we dont know that
it could be something else but yeah
I don't know my placements or his I'm a newbie but I'm 9-19-82 don't know time of birth and his bd is 1-24-82
Posted by Zetarose
I don't know my placements or his I'm a newbie but I'm 9-19-82 don't know time of birth and his bd is 1-24-82


ok.
now use your virgo!!! work it!!
go to cafeastrology
google it.

or astro.com
or astrotheme.com
and put in the dates and where he/you were born. and country.
Posted by AquaMermaid
Go to www.cafeastrology.com and get your birth charts done. It will give more insight to his and your behaviour.


yay!! we're on it.
Tongue

This is my birth chart I got online I'll get his
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Virgo 26.24
Moon Libra 23.41
Mercury Libra 17.31 R
Venus Virgo 14.35
Mars Scorpio 29.44
Jupiter Scorpio 9.23
Saturn Libra 21.42
Uranus Sagittarius 1.18
Neptune Sagittarius 24.20
Pluto Libra 25.41
Lilith Capricorn 10.05
Asc node Cancer 9.54
This is the aquas

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Aquarius 4.24
Moon Capricorn 28.46
Mercury Aquarius 18.27 R
Venus Capricorn 29.04 R
Mars Libra 15.15
Jupiter Scorpio 8.55
Saturn Libra 22.13
Uranus Sagittarius 3.46
Neptune Sagittarius 25.59
Pluto Libra 26.56
Lilith Sagittarius 13.34
Asc node Cancer 22.32
Idk what this means!! Help Aqua peeps!
hey looking at it from the paper side, it looks great; You have alot of libra between you.
It's just like my aqua gf i know, who has a libra moon and her hubby has a libra mars. (they have alot of libra between them in outer planets, too)
oh he has a Capricorn moon. well with those cardinals in his chart. He wants to partner. I'm sure of it. And you want to pair up too, with him.
where do you think is the problem then?
i did read that virgo venus is overly critical of their partner. Astrologers are Always harping that it's in the fall.
so, well, try not to be too critical. Cap moon men have a difficult time already with Saturn on their back.

i know that's kind of hard to tell you that. Especially if that's your nature. Sad
well, i dont know what to say.
how to tell someone to not be overly obsessive and critical if that's the nature of the beast?
Sad
wahhhh.
well, your answer is, if he can't love you for who you are, then fuck him!!!
Posted by AquaMermaid
The Square Moons. Wow my husband has Cap Moon and Libra Mars as well.Now when you had conversations with him, did you argue/debate a lot with him? Capricorn Moons are very serious people.If they don't see a future with you, they won't waste a single minute with you.His time is precious and he invests his emotions very carefully.Your idea of togetherness may have been debating/talking a lot but Cap Mooners just can't do LDR.Infact same goes for Aquarians.Cap Mooners are very independent people,they need care but they don't want someone babying them. Your Venus and mercury is trine i.e compatible. I guess your Scorpio Mars is making you obsessive.


+1

very true!!

also, he's got double trouble, with that cap venus.

he wants someone who can boost his career too. Be by his side, and support him.

he has cap in personal planets. So .....he has his "eye on the PRIZE."

couldnt tell with your masculine traits
smile
Posted by AquaMermaid
OP,I was in a similar situation like you years ago with my Scorpio ex. Although, I was the one who walked out on him because of his abusive nature.I never had a proper closure with him because I left when he wasn't at home. I knew it was for my own good,I knew we couldn't make it work, I knew he was a womaniser BUT I kept missing him and felt the urge to talk to him.I kept obsessing over him.I have Scorpio in my chart as well. Every day I struggled to not go back to him.I felt pathetic that after all he had done with me,I still had strong feelings for him. I understand what you're going through.I was in a much worse condition than you.I had become insomniac and had anxiety attacks. I had to go to therapy for it. I was sooooo addicted to his presence that it was hard to deal with separation. It will get better with time. Remember that time heals every wound.You will find someone much better who will love you the way you are.


wow, AM, is that a general "water" thing? Sad not just a Scorpio thing? but it seems like i get you.
it's so pathetic. Its shameful and pathetic!!! i understand this. Sad
thank god those days are wayyy over. But the memories are so traumatic and lasting. Sad
@ZetaRose, Virgo probably has that same problem.
Or your Scorpio Mars too. Your houses probably make a huge difference.
It's hard to let go, but you have to, for your sanity and health/well being.
One day you will find someone who will make your life so much happier.
it's true. You will someday. Right now, it's hard to see it, but you gotta find ways to keep yourself sane.
go to school, work, and love yourself. smile
Lisabethur8,
The problem became when I came back home after we had developed a strong bond; I had to leave and come back to my daughters. So I told him I still wanted him and only him and he was like well then I'm all yours! But as it went on I became very obsessive and always worried something would happen and is lose him. We had started making future plans and everything to be back together. Me not being used to this sort of off and on coolness and detachment I guess being an Aquarius, I got scared. So I would I guess to him "nag" and i would basically demand reassurance all the time. There were times I was like fuck this and i said it was over then I loved how he would come back the next day after I cooled off and be there still for me; but that didn't last long, he got really sick of it and started accusing me of attacking him, and putting him down but in my eyes I wasn't trying to do that at all; I really wanted this more than anything. So I believ he created some drama that would upset me that he'd know would piss me off and I said goodbye... But this time he didn't come back to me. So a month later I said plz let's start over and he said he could never forget the cruel things Ive said and he couldn't believ how I could talk to anyone the way I did to him and that he could never be close with me again... He wouldn't tell me if he still loved me, or thought about me nothing. Just totally stone cold.... It has broken me so much I've never felt this way. Like the world feels so dark without him and he's all fine and dandy moving on with not one iota of love for me I just don't get it

Posted by lisabethur8
hey looking at it from the paper side, it looks great; You have alot of libra beltween you.
It's just like my aqua gf i know, who has a libra moon and her hubby has a libra mars. (they have alot of libra between them in outer planets, too)
oh he has a Capricorn moon. well with those cardinals in his chart. He wants to partner. I'm sure of it. And you want to pair up too, with him.
where do you think is the problem then?
i did read that virgo venus is overly critical of their partner. Astrologers are Always harping that it's in the fall.
so, well, try not to be too critical. Cap moon men have a difficult time already with Saturn on their back.



all of your posts have no real world advice
please keep your generalized views on aqua guys to yourself smile
youre also speaking on behalf of aqua men as if you would have real advice to offer?
"aqua men hate clingyness"
please sweety no1 is a full aquarian
relax and try trolling somewhere else
What!? Me? I'm confused! What'd i say_???
flowingwater is still trolling on your thread lol
I think it's great getting advice from an Aquarius guy... That's what I'm trying to figure out; get a feel for their mindset and such..@aquaguy3000
@flowingwater
Yeah I just realized what that was all about; misery loves company!
Posted by aquaguy3000
flowingwater is still trolling on your thread lol

sure does : )
Don't call me dense; I realize what it means it's just not funny I don't find dumb memes about Star Trek funny! Get off and go find something to do if you don't have a positive thing to say thanks
but zeta u must sit and wait for those 3 ppl to respond to your threads
and hope they arent pushed into the third page on aqua forum
*sarcasm*
but zeta u must sit and wait for those 3 ppl to respond to your threads
and hope they arent pushed into the third page on aqua forum
*sarcasm*
ust get off; everyone processes things differently he meant a lot to me; Ya it's been 8 months- i can't help the way I feerl tho! So you need to leave my thread plz

Posted by flowingwater
Posted by Huldra
If you want a "real aquarius male advice" I'd recommend listening to aquasnoz and NYAA more. Those members have more tact and insight then most avatarless newbies as of late.
But you already answered your own question several times. He has nothing to do with YOUR issue of putting a person on the pedestal and being stuck in an emotional rut. Stop obsessing over a guy and find something useful to do.
Desperate mass production of threads concerning the same issue will only bring you more sarcastic answers.


Thank you!
Troll? I'm an aqurius woman who is speaking the truth. 8 months is long enough for Aquarius to move on with his life and maybe look for another while you're here asking for advice. I have respect for myself and I won't still be crying about my break up. I gave it a month tops and I am now working on myself. Seeing my worth and value as a woman. You shouldn't shed tears for any man who didn't treat you with dignity and gave you the closure you deserve. When I break up with someone, I'm straightforward is over. If I don't it's because I never thought our relationship was that important anyways. I don't know what the fuck up with some of these aqua men these days.
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Posted by AquaMermaid
Yes Lisa,it is a water thing.It's hard to let go. I know that some where in the corner of my heart, I still feel like I needed the closure.But I've come too far now. Unfortunately, Cancer holds on to the memories.I still remember everything like it happened yesterday. And perhaps I will remember it until I die.It's just the way it is with us watery people. But the wounds have healed and I've a loving man who is there for me to protect me and make me strong. I hope OP finds her man too. She should take this time off to concentrate on herself rather than looking for rebound relationships. She must cleanse all the negative energy that is affecting her mind and body. She must heal spiritually to go on with life.


for me i didnt need closure for the ex's. Once i cut them off, it's cut off. I dont really want to waste my time with them anymore. But it took me a looooonggg time to get there. It wasn't just instantly like i could walk away. But once the decision was made, it's done and done. Freeze out.
My wounds took awhile to heal but they did heal, it's the memories that stay, because i cherish memories, so if i love them, i also have to take the good with the bad.It is just how it is.
I'm just happy you are with a good, loving man now. Take that and cherish it forever. smile
Haha Lol...
Posted by aquaguy3000
but zeta u must sit and wait for those 3 ppl to respond to your threads
and hope they arent pushed into the third page on aqua forum
*sarcasm*

ve my husband and cherish him lots and lots. I know what it's like to be in a rotten, terrible relationships and when you find someone who loves you back lots and gives you the world, yuo feel so Lucky and happy, and you want to give them back all the happiness in the world.
Posted by Zetarose
Lisabethur8,
The problem became when I came back home after we had developed a strong bond; I had to leave and come back to my daughters. So I told him I still wanted him and only him and he was like well then I'm all yours! But as it went on I became very obsessive and always worried something would happen and is lose him. We had started making future plans and everything to be back together. Me not being used to this sort of off and on coolness and detachment I guess being an Aquarius, I got scared. So I would I guess to him "nag" and i would basically demand reassurance all the time. There were times I was like fuck this and i said it was over then I loved how he would come back the next day after I cooled off and be there still for me; but that didn't last long, he got really sick of it and started accusing me of attacking him, and putting him down but in my eyes I wasn't trying to do that at all; I really wanted this more than anything. So I believ he created some drama that would upset me that he'd know would piss me off and I said goodbye... But this time he didn't come back to me. So a month later I said plz let's start over and he said he could never forget the cruel things Ive said and he couldn't believ how I could talk to anyone the way I did to him and that he could never be close with me again... He wouldn't tell me if he still loved me, or thought about me nothing. Just totally stone cold.... It has broken me so much I've never felt this way. Like the world feels so dark without him and he's all fine and dandy moving on with not one iota of love for me I just don't get it

Posted by lisabethur8
hey looking at it from the paper side, it looks great; You have alot of libra beltween you.
It's just like my aqua gf i know, who has a libra moon and her hubby has a libra mars. (they have alot of libra between them in outer planets, too)
oh he has a Capricorn moon. well with those cardinals in his chart. He wants to partner. I'm sure of it. And you want to pair up too, with him.
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got cut off...
well i also read that dominant cap men (because youre dealing with a personal relationship with him) will show you they LOVE You by being with you. And no one else. That their presence alone is ENOUGH. they are not much on words. So, you should have taken that as an indication. I guess you just need more words. Maybe your chart is too airy that you need words all the time, not actions that he is there by your side. If you're Always complaining to him, he's gonna take that as you don't trust him.
If you don't TRUST your man, then there's NO reason to be in any relationship.

TRUST.
<"`dbk`e.
Posted by Zetarose

Plz just get off; everyone processes things differently he meant a lot to me; Ya it's been 8 months- i can't help the way I feerl tho! So you need to leave my thread plz




YOU came onto the Aqua board. She is an aqua who is actually giving you REAL insight into the aqua mind. You don't like what she has to say so you tell her to leave your thread?
I think this is pretty telling. I have a suspiscion that your aquaman probably did give you warnings and told you he didn't like your "nagging" and you chose to ignore the warning and do it anyway.
Basically, your demanding reassurance ruined it for him. Your aqua man is grounded with all that capricorn. Also means he isn't comfortable with emotions and he's DEFINTELY not going to put his emotions into words. Capricorn shows love by actions (moon and venus). You couldn't read the actions, you wanted words that he couldn't give. He's probably sitting there like "I'm still coming around aren't I? I'm contacting you aren't I? I'm showing you how I feel and it's not good enough". An aqua doesn't give reassurance - that's up to you to find your own reassurance. I've been there, I know how it feels, but I went with the flow and was patient and gave him time to open up. I recognized all the good he was doing. I get more reassurance now that I ever thought he'd be able to give. It takes time.
The fear of losing him made you become desperate. The constant demands for reassurance became needy and clingy. He felt smothered, so he wanted out. I'm sure you're a nice person and people are just being honest with you. All you can do now is move on and please stop obsessing - you're only hurting yourself. Suck it up as a life lesson learned and move on.
You going to ask me to leave your thread, too?
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