Posted by aquanibPosted by rungs
Is there a chance hell leave her for me?
It's lies woman. Just leave.
I can only speak from my own perspective, but if i meet someone that goes above the threshold of casual fling and potentialy something more seriously, i immediately stop all activities that would put that potential in any sort of existential danger. For at least until i figure out if the radar was wrong, if it's wrong (doesn't happen a lot) then cheating is in the words of your buddy, fairly guiltless.
It is "eh, they'll get over it" mentality....where "they" is you and "over it" refers to you being played.
Your insecurity is the least of the problems here....imho you're just not for one another, again, anecdotal experience, my mom is taurus, i left home as soon as possible.....
If i was to judge this, i'd say both, you and the other gf are casual flings and he will be doing it as long as it goes, ie gets busted, meets someone third that's "special", or falls in love with one of you two (unlikely and you shouldn't take him anyway, there's a fair chance the relationship won't be real)
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Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Posted by GobshitePosted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Even when it involves sleeping with their best friend's wife or husband...click to expand
Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Posted by rungs
PLEASE DONT COME HERE JUST TO WRITE A HATE COMMENT, IM AN ADULT, I WILL LEARN MY OWN LESSONS.
If you've never cheated this obviously isn't for you.
But a while back I posted about this aqua guy that I slept with, we've slept together about 3 times now, but the last time he came over (two days ago) he told me that this other girl, he said he only had a crush on was actually his gf of 3 months. He went on to say he doesn't even feel guilty for cheating because I'm better than her and how and in what ways. Not to mention the sex is amazing, he makes me feel so beautiful and sexy even tho I'm insecure. After the first time we slept together I took everyone's advice not to be clingy or controlling and not to chase. After the last time he came he's starting to ignore me again, once I noticed I stopped contacting him which is usually hard for me.
Him: *530am* can I ask you something?
Me: *730am* yeah, what?
Me: *2 house later* what did you wana ask?
Should I just walk away? Or what will it mean if he comes back? I don't want to be the side girl anymore. I was happy being friends with benefits but this makes me feel uneasy. Is there a chance hell leave her for me?
Posted by rungsPosted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
I feel like this is the only Aquarian perspective and everyone else is replying because they're angry about the cheating. Is this implying, that I'm also not a good prospect as much as his gf?click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Haha! That's not an Aquarian. That's every single cheating asshole. LOL. They all cheat because even though the person they are with has a gf title, they know all too well that she's Ms. Right now, not Ms.Right.click to expand
Posted by tizianiPosted by sultrykittyPosted by aquarius09Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Haha! That's not an Aquarian. That's every single cheating asshole. LOL. They all cheat because even though the person they are with has a gf title, they know all too well that she's Ms. Right now, not Ms.Right.
That's true too. But many people think that everyone they date could be "the one" and will at least stick with it until they know that they're not. And break it off before sleeping with someone else.
I think a lot of girls who think they are an Aqua's girlfriend, aren't, from the Aqua's perspective.
I have to say, you've taken some needless shit round here for your relationship and you took it with grace. When I am remembering how to have faith in my own relationships and family I am going to remember a page out of the book of you and your Aqua.click to expand
Posted by GenniePosted by rungs
PLEASE DONT COME HERE JUST TO WRITE A HATE COMMENT, IM AN ADULT, I WILL LEARN MY OWN LESSONS.
If you've never cheated this obviously isn't for you.
But a while back I posted about this aqua guy that I slept with, we've slept together about 3 times now, but the last time he came over (two days ago) he told me that this other girl, he said he only had a crush on was actually his gf of 3 months. He went on to say he doesn't even feel guilty for cheating because I'm better than her and how and in what ways. Not to mention the sex is amazing, he makes me feel so beautiful and sexy even tho I'm insecure. After the first time we slept together I took everyone's advice not to be clingy or controlling and not to chase. After the last time he came he's starting to ignore me again, once I noticed I stopped contacting him which is usually hard for me.
Him: *530am* can I ask you something?
Me: *730am* yeah, what?
Me: *2 house later* what did you wana ask?
Should I just walk away? Or what will it mean if he comes back? I don't want to be the side girl anymore. I was happy being friends with benefits but this makes me feel uneasy. Is there a chance hell leave her for me?
Aquarians looking at this thread are all like, Why is this idiot assuming it's an Aqua thing? The only "Aqua" thing about it is how he deals with cheating, according to you he is in the "give no fucks" attitude. You came to this forum in the wrong attitude, but I will answer your basic question from an Aqua point of view.
There is another girl who gets to call herself his girlfriend. She WON. Whether he is having buyers remorse now, he picked her, not you. The man has reduced you to a booty call, he's probably at your place when his girlfriend is on her period, has a headache or they are having a fight.
Other Aquas look at your Aqua and are thinking, WTF is wrong with this person. I've known Aqua males to waffle on commitment, sleep around with no promises, and if the girl doesn't bring up the relationship portion, just assume they are ok with FWB.
What flagged this for me was him telling you that he doesn't feel guilty. That just screams "Immature Aqua". So, do you want a boy or a man? You said you don't want to be the side girl, I applaud that, it speaks to character. Do you want to deal with the drama this guy brings with him? I wouldn't, my advice is to tell him that the sex was amazing, but not so amazing that you would sell your self worth and be treated like a side bitch, and keep a man who cheats without remorse, because he found something "better".
Fuck him and the dick he is swinging.click to expand
Posted by GenniePosted by rungs
PLEASE DONT COME HERE JUST TO WRITE A HATE COMMENT, IM AN ADULT, I WILL LEARN MY OWN LESSONS.
If you've never cheated this obviously isn't for you.
But a while back I posted about this aqua guy that I slept with, we've slept together about 3 times now, but the last time he came over (two days ago) he told me that this other girl, he said he only had a crush on was actually his gf of 3 months. He went on to say he doesn't even feel guilty for cheating because I'm better than her and how and in what ways. Not to mention the sex is amazing, he makes me feel so beautiful and sexy even tho I'm insecure. After the first time we slept together I took everyone's advice not to be clingy or controlling and not to chase. After the last time he came he's starting to ignore me again, once I noticed I stopped contacting him which is usually hard for me.
Him: *530am* can I ask you something?
Me: *730am* yeah, what?
Me: *2 house later* what did you wana ask?
Should I just walk away? Or what will it mean if he comes back? I don't want to be the side girl anymore. I was happy being friends with benefits but this makes me feel uneasy. Is there a chance hell leave her for me?
Aquarians looking at this thread are all like, Why is this idiot assuming it's an Aqua thing? The only "Aqua" thing about it is how he deals with cheating, according to you he is in the "give no fucks" attitude. You came to this forum in the wrong attitude, but I will answer your basic question from an Aqua point of view.
There is another girl who gets to call herself his girlfriend. She WON. Whether he is having buyers remorse now, he picked her, not you. The man has reduced you to a booty call, he's probably at your place when his girlfriend is on her period, has a headache or they are having a fight.
Other Aquas look at your Aqua and are thinking, WTF is wrong with this person. I've known Aqua males to waffle on commitment, sleep around with no promises, and if the girl doesn't bring up the relationship portion, just assume they are ok with FWB.
What flagged this for me was him telling you that he doesn't feel guilty. That just screams "Immature Aqua". So, do you want a boy or a man? You said you don't want to be the side girl, I applaud that, it speaks to character. Do you want to deal with the drama this guy brings with him? I wouldn't, my advice is to tell him that the sex was amazing, but not so amazing that you would sell your self worth and be treated like a side bitch, and keep a man who cheats without remorse, because he found something "better".
Fuck him and the dick he is swinging.click to expand
Posted by sultrykittyPosted by aquarius09Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Haha! That's not an Aquarian. That's every single cheating asshole. LOL. They all cheat because even though the person they are with has a gf title, they know all too well that she's Ms. Right now, not Ms.Right.
That's true too. But many people think that everyone they date could be "the one" and will at least stick with it until they know that they're not. And break it off before sleeping with someone else.
I think a lot of girls who think they are an Aqua's girlfriend, aren't, from the Aqua's perspective.click to expand
Posted by rungsPosted by aquanibPosted by rungs
Is there a chance hell leave her for me?
It's lies woman. Just leave.
I can only speak from my own perspective, but if i meet someone that goes above the threshold of casual fling and potentialy something more seriously, i immediately stop all activities that would put that potential in any sort of existential danger. For at least until i figure out if the radar was wrong, if it's wrong (doesn't happen a lot) then cheating is in the words of your buddy, fairly guiltless.
It is "eh, they'll get over it" mentality....where "they" is you and "over it" refers to you being played.
Your insecurity is the least of the problems here....imho you're just not for one another, again, anecdotal experience, my mom is taurus, i left home as soon as possible.....
If i was to judge this, i'd say both, you and the other gf are casual flings and he will be doing it as long as it goes, ie gets busted, meets someone third that's "special", or falls in love with one of you two (unlikely and you shouldn't take him anyway, there's a fair chance the relationship won't be real)
You're very much jumping to conclusion and majority of what you said is an assumption. IM INSECURE ABOUT MY BODY WHEN ITS NAKED - not insecure altogether but like in the text - he made me feel beautiful and sexy so I didn't really care.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83
He was probably "seeing" both of you.
Picked her for gf, just sees you as a sexual thing.
It's now your choice to decide what you want.
Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Not the aquas I know. You don't know every Aqua so that first line is a bold face lie.click to expand
Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Posted by sultrykitty
Aquarians that I know mess around when the one they're with isn't a serious prospect, even if it's a girlfriend. Until they've found "the one" and are positive that they have, they keep their options open.
Posted by GenniePosted by bkbella86Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Not the aquas I know. You don't know every Aqua so that first line is a bold face lie.
Did you even bother to read the post or only the first couple of lines. The sign is fixed energy, which means impossible to enforce commitment until the Aqua allows it, AND that a mountain has to be moved to get them to budge from the chosen partner. That's the average, typical aqua with fixed energy. Placements and nurture make up the rest to deviate an Aqua from this cookie cutter behavior, so yes there are EXCEPTIONS. There are exceptions with every sign, hell if you look at the Ashley Madison Data, Aries is #2, should we pop over to the Aries forum with this?
Cheating has nothing to do with astrology, it has to do with power, opportunity, emotions, morality, ethics and a whole lot of other shit before we even hit astrology.click to expand
Posted by bkbella86Posted by GenniePosted by bkbella86Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Not the aquas I know. You don't know every Aqua so that first line is a bold face lie.
Did you even bother to read the post or only the first couple of lines. The sign is fixed energy, which means impossible to enforce commitment until the Aqua allows it, AND that a mountain has to be moved to get them to budge from the chosen partner. That's the average, typical aqua with fixed energy. Placements and nurture make up the rest to deviate an Aqua from this cookie cutter behavior, so yes there are EXCEPTIONS. There are exceptions with every sign, hell if you look at the Ashley Madison Data, Aries is #2, should we pop over to the Aries forum with this?
Cheating has nothing to do with astrology, it has to do with power, opportunity, emotions, morality, ethics and a whole lot of other shit before we even hit astrology.
Yup I did read and Like I said the Aquas are known cheAters. . Why you mad? And you take whatever you want to the Aries board I'm not stopping you nor do I give a shit.click to expand
Posted by bkbella86Posted by GenniePosted by bkbella86Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Not the aquas I know. You don't know every Aqua so that first line is a bold face lie.
Did you even bother to read the post or only the first couple of lines. The sign is fixed energy, which means impossible to enforce commitment until the Aqua allows it, AND that a mountain has to be moved to get them to budge from the chosen partner. That's the average, typical aqua with fixed energy. Placements and nurture make up the rest to deviate an Aqua from this cookie cutter behavior, so yes there are EXCEPTIONS. There are exceptions with every sign, hell if you look at the Ashley Madison Data, Aries is #2, should we pop over to the Aries forum with this?
Cheating has nothing to do with astrology, it has to do with power, opportunity, emotions, morality, ethics and a whole lot of other shit before we even hit astrology.
Yup I did read and Like I said the Aquas are known cheAters. . Why you mad? And you take whatever you want to the Aries board I'm not stopping you nor do I give a shit.click to expand
Posted by bkbella86Posted by GenniePosted by bkbella86Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Not the aquas I know. You don't know every Aqua so that first line is a bold face lie.
Did you even bother to read the post or only the first couple of lines. The sign is fixed energy, which means impossible to enforce commitment until the Aqua allows it, AND that a mountain has to be moved to get them to budge from the chosen partner. That's the average, typical aqua with fixed energy. Placements and nurture make up the rest to deviate an Aqua from this cookie cutter behavior, so yes there are EXCEPTIONS. There are exceptions with every sign, hell if you look at the Ashley Madison Data, Aries is #2, should we pop over to the Aries forum with this?
Cheating has nothing to do with astrology, it has to do with power, opportunity, emotions, morality, ethics and a whole lot of other shit before we even hit astrology.
Yup I did read and Like I said the Aquas are known cheAters. . Why you mad? And you take whatever you want to the Aries board I'm not stopping you nor do I give a shit.click to expand
Posted by GenniePosted by bkbella86Posted by GenniePosted by bkbella86Posted by 9waterlion9
Aquarians for the most part are very loyal once they ACTUALLY commit, but there are exceptions. I know an aqua male who cheated on his partner who he's been with for around 6 years now...he never cheated until around the 5 year mark. I know they are best friends and he considers her his "one" or life partner, I guess...but it's worth noting she wants marrige, he doesn't, and does not intend to live with her even though he loves her. The reason a committed aqua would cheat is if he felt he had a truly special connection with someone else, it would be something that started slowly and the feelings developed almost "accidentally". The aqua would be very unlikely to make the first move. In this case he felt extremely guilty for a while, but then was able to let it go...almost 2 years later, they are still together and she never found out. And for anyone feeling sensitive/defensive reading this, all signs and all good people are capable of cheating, and just because someone cheats does not mean the partner isn't loved...I do think for a commited Aquarius to cheat some really unusual circumstances would be required.
Not the aquas I know. You don't know every Aqua so that first line is a bold face lie.
Did you even bother to read the post or only the first couple of lines. The sign is fixed energy, which means impossible to enforce commitment until the Aqua allows it, AND that a mountain has to be moved to get them to budge from the chosen partner. That's the average, typical aqua with fixed energy. Placements and nurture make up the rest to deviate an Aqua from this cookie cutter behavior, so yes there are EXCEPTIONS. There are exceptions with every sign, hell if you look at the Ashley Madison Data, Aries is #2, should we pop over to the Aries forum with this?
Cheating has nothing to do with astrology, it has to do with power, opportunity, emotions, morality, ethics and a whole lot of other shit before we even hit astrology.
Yup I did read and Like I said the Aquas are known cheAters. . Why you mad? And you take whatever you want to the Aries board I'm not stopping you nor do I give a shit.
Well unless you have met at least a 65 percentile of the Aquarian population, what makes you anymore of a expert, that we should believe your word as a fact, than say, Flo or waterlion or Sultrykitty?
You are as much a clueless bold faced liar as you accuseclick to expand
Posted by lisabethur8
ugh cut off.
she was spouting a couple years ago how PISCES men were cheaters, now it's onto aqua men.
she's starting on the rate of going through all 12 zodiac signs.
EDIT i mean if people went over to the Aries board and started saying shit all the time there, they're gonna start a WAR.
Posted by rungs
Is there a chance hell leave her for me?