Posted by piscesmoon2Thank you for your feedback! The work part is definitely true. The aqua I know works so much he told me that he doesn't have time for his personal life.
It is aqua's in general they are very independent and sometimes if they have real feelings they question them... They like to feel in control and the bottom line is they feel weird sometime about expressing emotions.
Often once they do they will feel vonrable and can even stay in relationships for to long if they develop into something that is not healthy.
Work has been big in the Aqua scope and some maybe looking for a promotion or a lot of good contracts... Things of that nature.
I would give it some more time but eventually if they don't respond they just are avoiding a situation that may even be going well for fear of having their feelings hurt.
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Posted by lisabethur8Thanks for your feedback! You're right I was about to contact him but realized that it's best not to...
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.
I don't like UNRELIABLE men.
and you shouldn't either.
he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.
Posted by lisabethur8Yea... I was texting an Aqua X and finally just told her... We should talk in person even if it is only for 20 mins. She has told me for weeks now we would.
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.
I don't like UNRELIABLE men.
and you shouldn't either.
he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.
Posted by piscesmoon2i'm sorry dude but she doesn't sound like she cares about you. and yes it's a bad sign.Posted by lisabethur8Yea... I was texting an Aqua X and finally just told her... We should talk in person even if it is only for 20 mins. She has told me for weeks now we would.
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.
I don't like UNRELIABLE men.
and you shouldn't either.
he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.
She may not get it but I have a very demanding job as well. I know hers means the world but anyone one ca. Have tea or coffee for 20 mins. I just told her normal people I talk to have to have actual one on one conversations. She is going to do what she is going to do I guess. The thing is I am super understanding about work but again she does do things with other friends and had some time to her self. I run into her at yoga honestly i want someone that will make an effort and if someone can't sit down for 20 mins that is a bad sign. My friends even some that have demanding jobs will make time for me... They are just friends... That is why if she even wastes to be my friend she needs to find time to have a real conversation... At this point I am not holding my breath... The only thing that gives me hope is she is nice when we communicate by text. However I believe that is her way of keeping just kinda there... Don't get me wrong not super interested in other but I am getting close to trying match.com or something. I have girls show interest but normally when they find out what I do... So on... I was hoping to have something develop more naturally. I was working last weekend and a woman straight up gave me her contact info but only after she found out something from an employee. I however and working on being ok with being more open with what I do. I just hate being treated different.
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Posted by LalapefakadaPosted by lisabethur8Thanks for your feedback! You're right I was about to contact him but realized that it's best not to...
if they vanish on you, any man, he's not worth it.
I don't like UNRELIABLE men.
and you shouldn't either.
he should tell you where he's at. and then you don't have to worry. I don't like that at all.click to expand
Posted by brianafayyou're talking about an aquarius man who had hurt you in the past??
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.
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Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.
Posted by lisabethur8No, not everyone on dxp is a woman scorned lolPosted by brianafayyou're talking about an aquarius man who had hurt you in the past??
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.
you have to be fair, there are aquarius men who pursue and keep a woman (Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel)click to expand
Posted by brianafayPosted by lisabethur8No, not everyone on dxp is a woman scorned lolPosted by brianafayyou're talking about an aquarius man who had hurt you in the past??
Regardless of what any of the aquas come in here and say....it's really because they don't care if it hurts your feelings. They do what they want to do, and only what they want to do.
you have to be fair, there are aquarius men who pursue and keep a woman (Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel)
I'm speaking from experience living all my life with Aquas and understanding how they work.
I'm really not sure what you're arguing with the Justin Timberlake example? Of course they pursue what they want..doesn't everyone?
They're just not the type to do things for the sake of someone else's feelings, in my experience. They're very self centered...it's not malicious...they just want to live without having the burden of considering others feelings in regards to their personal choices and how they spend their time.
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Posted by lisabethur8Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
Posted by brianafayI agree. He seems very much into himself and focused on himself and his life:/
Yeah they don't care.
You're still assuming they care.
Posted by Lalapefakadai would never bother with this man again.Posted by lisabethur8Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.click to expand
Posted by brianafayThank you for the quote! ☺
I'll throw that generic , but relevant quote out there...
"Don't make someone a priority, that to them you are only an option"
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Lalapefakadai would never bother with this man again.Posted by lisabethur8Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.
he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.click to expand
Posted by LalapefakadaPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Lalapefakadai would never bother with this man again.Posted by lisabethur8Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.
he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.
Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by LalapefakadaPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Lalapefakadai would never bother with this man again.Posted by lisabethur8Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.
he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.
Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!
you're welcome.
I can't sleep cause i'm up worried, worrying. I have some people in my life that is going to die (Euthanization) true story. due to cancer and other events so i'm just worrying.click to expand
Posted by Lalapefakadathanks!! I hope you also find a good man who is reliable ok? don't get your hopes up over someone who won't make time for you.Posted by lisabethur8I'm very sorry to hear Sending you lots of strength and love❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤???????Posted by LalapefakadaPosted by lisabethur8Yes I have noticed the hot and cold thing and it does seem like a red flag.... Thank you so much for your advice! You're helping me realize so many things!Posted by Lalapefakadai would never bother with this man again.Posted by lisabethur8Thats very true! The thing is, this aqua has done this before where he didn't contact me for a week and I contacted him first and then he started talking to me again and asked to see me. So it's so confusing and frustrating:/
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
please do yourself a favour and don't bother with this man.
he is hot and cold and that's not a good sign.
you're welcome.
I can't sleep cause i'm up worried, worrying. I have some people in my life that is going to die (Euthanization) true story. due to cancer and other events so i'm just worrying.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Fear of confrontation does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself first and foremost.
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
Posted by LadyNeptuneyou're not thinking of the other person though.Posted by lisabethur8Fear of confrontations does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself.
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8Exactly my point...your not thinking of the other person only yourself.Posted by LadyNeptuneyou're not thinking of the other person though.Posted by lisabethur8Fear of confrontations does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself.
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
you have to sacrifice your own selfishness, to tell them that they need to live and go on with their lives.
by keeping it in and running away, you are promoting a barrage of horrible things running in someone's thoughts, worrying, worrying and wondering and your heart is going to be weeping with all that worrying and weeping.
it IS selfish.click to expand
Posted by piscesmoon2just focus on yourself, PM
lisabethur8- yea I am pretty much getting that pretty much told her if she wants to be just friends we should have a conversation. At this point I understand I guess I don't go looking for relationships normally I focus on my life and I have been working a lot but a lot of good is developing...
Again there is history... Asked her for a time if she does want to talk if not it will be hard for me really to say hi again we have even a few mutualish friends so I just kinda don't want to feel alkward either... If she does not respond it is what it is... It has only been a day and this is normal behavior for her... Although yes I am kinda not getting my hopes ups... Honestly there will be more help soon so I will have more control of my life and not have work or always teird and stressed out.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneYes! then I agree and we're on the same page.Posted by lisabethur8Exactly my point...your not thinking of the other person only yourself.Posted by LadyNeptuneyou're not thinking of the other person though.Posted by lisabethur8Fear of confrontations does not stem from not wanting to hurt the other persons feelings. You avoid confrontation to spare your own feelings, not someone else's. It's a self preserving act meant to protect yourself.
when you talk about lacking confrontation, sounds like someone who is afraid of confrontation because they don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
but by VANISHING, they are hurting someone's feelings much much deeper and longer, and this is fucked up.
at least give them the decency to tell them straight to their face NO.
you have to sacrifice your own selfishness, to tell them that they need to live and go on with their lives.
by keeping it in and running away, you are promoting a barrage of horrible things running in someone's thoughts, worrying, worrying and wondering and your heart is going to be weeping with all that worrying and weeping.
it IS selfish.
Avoiding confrontation is a self preserving act.click to expand