Why he has been pulling away

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

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Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

I know the mother in you wants to baby the shit out of him. I wouldn't until he comes to you then you can smother his ass with affection.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

My friend met him briefly yesterday. She mentioned he constantly checks me out when I walk away. She found it interesting that he acted cool and aloof but his body languange amd eyes were all over me. She also noticed he low key puts out signals to other men to stay away from me. She said he has a strong alpha male and sexual feel but is sensitive with me.

She wanted to lick him...

Not wanting to summon any demons but the fact the is trying to maintain the cool MIGHT indicate that he still has his reservations about you and/or the situation.

Is the lick thing some kind of women thing?

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

My friend met him briefly yesterday. She mentioned he constantly checks me out when I walk away. She found it interesting that he acted cool and aloof but his body languange amd eyes were all over me. She also noticed he low key puts out signals to other men to stay away from me. She said he has a strong alpha male and sexual feel but is sensitive with me.

She wanted to lick him...

Not wanting to summon any demons but the fact the is trying to maintain the cool MIGHT indicate that he still has his reservations about you and/or the situation.

Is the lick thing some kind of women thing?

He prefers to be affectionate in private and it wasnt the time or place (we had our kids who dont know we arw dating)... she just found him interesting. Total opposite as my husband was and very very very sexual...

The licking is a woman thing... she found his very attractive.

Okay, in that case everything should be good. Carry on and enjoy.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

I know the mother in you wants to baby the shit out of him. I wouldn't until he comes to you then you can smother his ass with affection.

He needs to bury his face with in my boobs and cry

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

I know the mother in you wants to baby the shit out of him. I wouldn't until he comes to you then you can smother his ass with affection.

He needs to bury his face with in my boobs and cry

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just be normal. He will talk if he wants. Not everyone feels the need to hash it out. Some like to stew on it internally. If you push him to talk, you will push him away.

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Posted by Antiochus

Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

I know the mother in you wants to baby the shit out of him. I wouldn't until he comes to you then you can smother his ass with affection.

He needs to bury his face with in my boobs and cry

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just give him space, Just let him know u be there if he needs you....

When Im overwhelmed I also need my alone time to cope with all the shit. we need to figure out things in our heads first, (well at least me) But I like knowing I have someone there to vent with if I need to.

When im like that I also disappear from everyone (including family ) as much as I can. Specially when im emotionally and mentally drained. Its hard tho. sometimes we become silence and quite, bc we think the other person is not going to fully understand what we going through. And the only way we recharge our energy is being by ourselves.

I hope you are good too... ! Dont over stress thinking why he's being this way... he'll come back to normal when he figures his shit out.

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Posted by Antiochus

Posted by Jade_Alexander

Last time work went sour he practically disappeared for a month, came back and told me all these horrible things that had been happening.

I dont want to pry, I will give him space. But it explains the distance in his words. Hes not ignoring me, just not as involved.

You okay?

I mean, it hurts that he hasnt come to me. But I know he is trying. He hasn’t disappeared just not as attentive. I can understand that if he is emotionally and mentally drained.

I know the mother in you wants to baby the shit out of him. I wouldn't until he comes to you then you can smother his ass with affection.

He needs to bury his face with in my boobs and cry

I highly doubt that you felt terrible 😂

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just give him space, Just let him know u be there if he needs you....

When Im overwhelmed I also need my alone time to cope with all the shit. we need to figure out things in our heads first, (well at least me) But I like knowing I have someone there to vent with if I need to.

When im like that I also disappear from everyone (including family ) as much as I can. Specially when im emotionally and mentally drained. Its hard tho. sometimes we become silence and quite, bc we think the other person is not going to fully understand what we going through. And the only way we recharge our energy is being by ourselves.

I hope you are good too... ! Dont over stress thinking why he's being this way... he'll come back to normal when he figures his shit out.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just give him space, Just let him know u be there if he needs you....

When Im overwhelmed I also need my alone time to cope with all the shit. we need to figure out things in our heads first, (well at least me) But I like knowing I have someone there to vent with if I need to.

When im like that I also disappear from everyone (including family ) as much as I can. Specially when im emotionally and mentally drained. Its hard tho. sometimes we become silence and quite, bc we think the other person is not going to fully understand what we going through. And the only way we recharge our energy is being by ourselves.

I hope you are good too... ! Dont over stress thinking why he's being this way... he'll come back to normal when he figures his shit out.

This is a good explanation of his behavior

Hes not avoiding me, I can tell he’s in his head and withdrawn.

I just wish he felt he could talk to me vs another friend. I hope he knows I dont less think less of him if he’s vulnerable or struggling.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just give him space, Just let him know u be there if he needs you....

When Im overwhelmed I also need my alone time to cope with all the shit. we need to figure out things in our heads first, (well at least me) But I like knowing I have someone there to vent with if I need to.

When im like that I also disappear from everyone (including family ) as much as I can. Specially when im emotionally and mentally drained. Its hard tho. sometimes we become silence and quite, bc we think the other person is not going to fully understand what we going through. And the only way we recharge our energy is being by ourselves.

I hope you are good too... ! Dont over stress thinking why he's being this way... he'll come back to normal when he figures his shit out.

This is a good explanation of his behavior

Hes not avoiding me, I can tell he’s in his head and withdrawn.

I just wish he felt he could talk to me vs another friend. I hope he knows I dont less think less of him if he’s vulnerable or struggling.

I dont think he could probably be talking to anyone at all about it.... and remember even if we cant hide that we are feeling vulnerable, we dont want ppl to notice, so we pretend to be strong in front of ppl.

Like for example: when I feel overwhelmed and stressed out and I feel like I have a lot of shit going on.... I feel so vulnerable that I just cry, cuz I have no fking idea of what I'll do and Im the only one who has to do it... But I still go and visit my friends... But I dont tell them nothing... And sometimes I rush it home, it just get craaaaazy!

We are very strong individuals, when we get like this is bc we get like tired of being strong all the time... so we go deep in our shit lol.... Now, After I already figured out things and they start getting smooth... then I can talk about it ( just like he did the first time, you said he came and tell you ).

Just let him know you are there for him, act normal but show him you care... if you guys get to text always ask him how is he feeling... instead of how are you... (works with me ) and he might tell you some bits and pieces.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just give him space, Just let him know u be there if he needs you....

When Im overwhelmed I also need my alone time to cope with all the shit. we need to figure out things in our heads first, (well at least me) But I like knowing I have someone there to vent with if I need to.

When im like that I also disappear from everyone (including family ) as much as I can. Specially when im emotionally and mentally drained. Its hard tho. sometimes we become silence and quite, bc we think the other person is not going to fully understand what we going through. And the only way we recharge our energy is being by ourselves.

I hope you are good too... ! Dont over stress thinking why he's being this way... he'll come back to normal when he figures his shit out.

This is a good explanation of his behavior

Hes not avoiding me, I can tell he’s in his head and withdrawn.

I just wish he felt he could talk to me vs another friend. I hope he knows I dont less think less of him if he’s vulnerable or struggling.

I dont think he could probably be talking to anyone at all about it.... and remember even if we cant hide that we are feeling vulnerable, we dont want ppl to notice, so we pretend to be strong in front of ppl.

Like for example: when I feel overwhelmed and stressed out and I feel like I have a lot of shit going on.... I feel so vulnerable that I just cry, cuz I have no fking idea of what I'll do and Im the only one who has to do it... But I still go and visit my friends... But I dont tell them nothing... And sometimes I rush it home, it just get craaaaazy!

We are very strong individuals, when we get like this is bc we get like tired of being strong all the time... so we go deep in our shit lol.... Now, After I already figured out things and they start getting smooth... then I can talk about it ( just like he did the first time, you said he came and tell you ).

Just let him know you are there for him, act normal but show him you care... if you guys get to text always ask him how is he feeling... instead of how are you... (works with me ) and he might tell you some bits and pieces.

He was talking to a friend about it. I think thats where it hurts, he didnt need/want to come to me. But he typically doesnt always approach me first with his struggles, I get the information once its sorted.

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

Posted by Onimusha01

Posted by Onimusha01

Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just give him space, Just let him know u be there if he needs you....

When Im overwhelmed I also need my alone time to cope with all the shit. we need to figure out things in our heads first, (well at least me) But I like knowing I have someone there to vent with if I need to.

When im like that I also disappear from everyone (including family ) as much as I can. Specially when im emotionally and mentally drained. Its hard tho. sometimes we become silence and quite, bc we think the other person is not going to fully understand what we going through. And the only way we recharge our energy is being by ourselves.

I hope you are good too... ! Dont over stress thinking why he's being this way... he'll come back to normal when he figures his shit out.

This is a good explanation of his behavior

Hes not avoiding me, I can tell he’s in his head and withdrawn.

I just wish he felt he could talk to me vs another friend. I hope he knows I dont less think less of him if he’s vulnerable or struggling.

I dont think he could probably be talking to anyone at all about it.... and remember even if we cant hide that we are feeling vulnerable, we dont want ppl to notice, so we pretend to be strong in front of ppl.

Like for example: when I feel overwhelmed and stressed out and I feel like I have a lot of shit going on.... I feel so vulnerable that I just cry, cuz I have no fking idea of what I'll do and Im the only one who has to do it... But I still go and visit my friends... But I dont tell them nothing... And sometimes I rush it home, it just get craaaaazy!

We are very strong individuals, when we get like this is bc we get like tired of being strong all the time... so we go deep in our shit lol.... Now, After I already figured out things and they start getting smooth... then I can talk about it ( just like he did the first time, you said he came and tell you ).

Just let him know you are there for him, act normal but show him you care... if you guys get to text always ask him how is he feeling... instead of how are you... (works with me ) and he might tell you some bits and pieces.

He was talking to a friend about it. I think thats where it hurts, he didnt need/want to come to me. But he typically doesnt always approach me first with his struggles, I get the information once its sorted.

I think you shouldn't worry if he tells you first or last, as long as he shares it with you at some point, he apparently feels more comfortable telling his friend a bout it. that's just that. maybe his friend caught him in a time he was willing to talk about it... u never know w aquas. next time you get to talk to him.. Ask him : how u feeling ? or you kind of quiet lately, is everything okay?... that way he knows you notice he is not doing well...and maybe he opens up and tells u. But u should relax. just bc he doesnt tell u first doesnt change anything between u guys... you will get there slowly but shortly...

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Posted by Jade_Alexander

I overheard Aqua talking about troubles with work. It explains why he has been pulling back this week. I feel terrible that he’s having a hard time. Also hurt he hasnt felt the need to talk to me. I really dont know why he hasnt.

Should I just give him space and wait to see if he brings it up? Or let him know I’m here for him?

Just be normal. He will talk if he wants. Not everyone feels the need to hash it out. Some like to stew on it internally. If you push him to talk, you will push him away.

I onow he likes to take his time to think about it. He doesnt need to hash it out with me. I just want him to know I’m here to support him.

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Posted by truecap

Always keep in mind that the distance, quietness, etc is not about you. It is not personal and is not a reflection on your relationship or where you are as a couple. It’s just his way.

When my aqua and I were dating, his dad passed away. He asked me to come hang out with the family. When I got there, he was mowing his mothers yard. I guess staying busy was his way of coping. So I hung out with the sister. He never broke down to me. He never talked about how he was feeling. The family shared stories and memories and had lots of laughs. When all the formalities were over and things were coming back to normal, he told me he was glad I was there, that it helped just having me around.